The Mindset Mentor - Are You Making Life Harder?

Episode Date: January 14, 2022

Life is hard! But there’s a pretty good chance you could be making it harder on yourself than you need to. In this episode, I’m going to talk about choosing how hard do you want your life to be. Follow me on IG for more inspiration here: https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ If you live in the US/Canada and you want to receive motivational texts from me, text me now at 1-512-580-9305 or click here https://my.community.com/robdial Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to receive motivational and inspirational text messages from me,

text me right now. If you live in the United States or Canada, 512-580-9305. and inspirational text messages from me. Text me right now. If you live in the United States or Canada, 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, we're gonna be talking about how life is hard and how you can make it easier on yourself. There's no way to go through this human experience without some scars.

Things are going to be hard in your life at some point in time. There's no one that has a perfect life. There's gonna be. Things are going to be hard in your life at some point in time. There's no one that has a perfect life. There's going to be people that are going to leave you. There's going to be people that are going to die. There's going to be people that you thought were your friend and maybe they backstabbed you. There's going to be times in your life where you don't show up for yourself. The thing about life is that life is up and it's down and it's up and it's down. And what we're trying to do is we're trying to build ourselves, especially through personal development, to when it is up, we feel really good. When it is down, we can still find a way to feel good, to feel this medium,

just line of no matter what happens, good or bad, I'm going to be stable. I'm going to be good. But as hard as life is, the question I have for you is, are you making it harder on yourself than you need to? This is one of the things that's really interesting is that life can be hard, but a lot of people make it way harder than it needs to be. And usually that doesn't come from immediate tiny decisions. It comes from long-term decisions over years and years and years.

But the best part about this life is that you get to pick your hard. You get to pick how hard you want your life to be and exactly how you want it to be today, tomorrow, and in the future. Here's the reason why. Because life can either be hard now or it can be hard later. Let me explain what I mean by that. Your life can either be hard now, which will then make sure that it will be easier later, or it can be easy now and it will be hard later. So let me explain this. Let me say it one more time. Life can be hard now and easy later or easy now and hard later. So I'll give you a couple of examples, okay? Do you want to know something that's really

hard? What's really hard is working hard. To have the self-discipline to do things, to wake up earlier, to work harder than your friends, to get shit done. That is hard. Do you know what's harder than hard work? Being broke. That's harder than hard work. But you get to choose which one you want. And you can't act like you don't have the choice because you fully do have the choice of everything that you do. You are a fully autonomous human being.

There is no one telling you what to do at all points in time in your life. So you can either work really hard right now, which will then make your life easier in the future, or you can be lazy, which will make your life harder in the future. Hard work is hard, but also being broke is really hard.

I've done both of them. I've been really broke. I've been to the point where, you know, I was five months behind in my car payment. In 2010, I was five months behind in my car payment. I lived off of pasta for two months, literally all that I ate for two months. And luckily I was young and my body could do it. I don't know how I survived off of it, but it was Walmart pasta and Walmart pasta sauce. It was 88 cents for the box of pasta.

It was $1.88 for the pasta sauce. And I lived off of that for two months, breakfast, lunch, and dinner. That's all that I ate. That sucked. That was hard. And it sucks to be worried about paying your bills and worried about how you're going to get by and if you're going to get out of it. I would much rather work really hard and not be in that situation. Both of them are hard, but you get to choose which situation you want to be in. You get to choose your heart. Being broke is hard. Hard work is hard. You get to choose which hard you want. I've done both. I'd much rather go for the hard work. It definitely is way easier now than it was back then. That's for sure.

So, you know, are you lazy sometimes? Do you procrastinate? In that moment, what you're doing is you're choosing what is easy. You're choosing the easy thing that's in front of you. It's easy now, which means it'll be hard later. If you have something that needs to be done, but you decide, hey, I'll procrastinate. I'll push it for later. Well, it's going to be harder later. It's easy now because you're procrastinating. It will be harder later. So you have a choice. Easy now or harder later. Easy now is taking the choice, taking the chance and going down the path of instant gratification. One of the biggest skills that I think somebody can build in themselves, and this is not something that's just inherently inside of somebody, is to be able to choose delayed gratification as often as you possibly can.

Delayed gratification over instant gratification. Instant gratification would be, hey, I'm going to go ahead and eat this pizza right now. Eat this hamburger, this cheeseburger right now. That's my instant. I'm going to eat this greasy food right now. That's instant gratification. It tastes good. I'm going to have it right now. Delayed gratification is I'm going to take some time. I'm going to eat something that's healthy and it doesn't taste as good right now, but in the long run, my body will thank me for it. And so life is either easy now or hard later or hard now and easy later.

Another example, going on that, what we were just talking about a second ago, eating healthy, that's a perfect example. Saying no to delicious food, to delicious, fatty, juicy, cheesy, sugary food, it's really hard to say no to. But saying no to sugar, saying no to all of those things, that is really hard to say no to those things. Do you know what's even harder than that? Being obese the rest of your life, having complications because of your weight,

that's much harder than saying no to that food. Possibly dying earlier because of the fact that you didn't take care of yourself. That's definitely harder. Maybe because of the fact that you die earlier, you don't get to see your grandkids grow up. You don't get to see your kids walk down the aisle. And then it's not just hard on you, it's also hard on other people. So what's hard? Yeah,

it is hard to eat healthy. It's harder to eat healthy than it is to not eat healthy. But what's harder than that? Being obese, dying early, not being able to walk your daughter down the aisle because you didn't take care of yourself. All of those things are much fucking harder than just eating something that's healthy. But one of them is hard now, and one of them is hard later. The hard now is saying no and eating healthy food. The hard later is eating whatever it is that you want to, being unhealthy, not taking care of yourself, choosing the quote unquote mouth pleasure, and then possibly having complications later on down the road. But once again, you get to choose which hard you want. Another example, working out. It's hard. If you work out five days a week, it's not easy.

You know, if you push yourself, that's what, five hours over the course of a week? You know, if you work out for an hour and a half, what's that? Seven and a half hours over the course of a week? Lifting heavy weights, going for runs, forcing yourself to get off the couch is as much, it's just as hard on your body as it is on your brain. It's a mental game and it's a physical game. Do you know what else is hard? Being immobile when you get older, having complications in your muscles, in your joints, that's all really hard. Not being able to play with your grandkids and having to watch them from the front yard because you're immobile and you didn't take care of yourself when you were younger. So it's kind of like if you don't use it,

you lose it. So you've lost it over the years. Which one's harder? Making yourself go to the gym and staying mobile or sitting there and realizing that you can't do what you want to do later on in life. Maybe having complications in your muscles, in your joints, in your hips, maybe being in a wheelchair. All of those things sound really hard, but in that sense, you get to choose which hard you want. So once again, life is either hard now and easy later or easy now and hard later. Which one do you choose? Hey, do you want to be part of the wellness revolution in 2022? This year, prioritize you first with Beam's premium CBD products for sleep. I've taken this stuff and it makes me sleep like a rock. Beam is the world's most innovative functional wellness brand.

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easier later. Or you make it easy now. You don't talk about it. You push it under the rug. You act like it doesn't exist. And then it blows up two weeks, two months, two years down the road. And then it gets really hard. And maybe it's too far down the road to actually save the relationship at that point. So another example, life is either hard now or it's hard later. So do you choose the easy route where you don't have the conversation that needs to be had and then it blows up at the end? Or do you choose the route of, hey, we need to have a conversation and we need to talk about this. And that will in turn make your life easier in the long run.

And maybe it turns into the relationship not existing anymore, but it will at least be something that will make your life easier in the long run. One is hard now, one is hard later. You know what else is hard? Financial discipline. Financial discipline is really hard.

To not go out and just spend money on things. That is hard. Or to be disciplined to make money. Because there's two sides of money. There's making money and there's saving money. Both of those can be really hard. It can be really hard to make money. It can be really hard to save money.

Financial discipline is hard. Sitting down and forcing yourself to learn about money. Because there is, and I always say the thing about money is that it's like being in a game. We're all in the game of money. Your entire life, everything that you do, it's all there. But you can either decide to play the game or you can just be like, I don't want to learn.

If you decide you don't want to learn, it's going to be pretty hard. So financial discipline, not spending your money, that can be hard. You know, sitting down and taking time to put a budget together, that can be really hard. Sticking to the budget can be really hard. All of those things can be hard, but you know what else can be really hard? Not being able to retire because you didn't do that when you were younger. You know, being 75 years old and having continued to work when you wish that you were retired and you could just hang out with your children and your grandkids, that's really hard. Imagine if you

were to, this is a crazy thing, 80% of people who are millionaires never made more than $100,000 in a year. So if you're out there and you're like, well, I'm not rich. I don't make a ton of money. 80% of millionaires, people who are millionaires in the United States, were not people who made over $100,000 a year ever. What does that mean? They had to learn this game of money. They had to learn the system. They had to take time and make it harder on themselves versus being like, oh, whatever. I don't care. I don't want to figure it out. They actually took the time and actually figured out what they needed to do to get themselves to where they need to be. And they had to cut spending. And maybe they didn't go on a vacation or maybe they didn't do something that they wanted to. And maybe they

didn't upgrade the car after having it for two years. But what happened is they turned themselves into a millionaire because they decided to make the hard choices earlier in life, which ended up making their life easier. They can then retire. They can spend time doing what they want. They can travel versus being 75, 77, 80 years old and still having to work. Otherwise your bills are not paid. That is a good example of life is either hard now or it's easy later.

I'm sorry, it's either hard now and easy later or it's easy now and hard later. You get to choose. Do you want your life to be hard now or do you want it to be hard later? I don't know about you, but I know that I'll never be as young as I am right now. I am as young as I will be the rest of my life.

So I might as well go for the harder things now to set my old ass up later on in life whenever I get to my 60s, 70s, 80s, so that I can enjoy that. And I still enjoy my life like crazy right now. But that's the other thing people don't talk about often as well is when you do decide to sit down

and be more disciplined and make it harder is your life in the short term also becomes way better. And so it's like this, a little bit of delayed gratification of pushing off the gratification for just a little while will change your life completely within a few years, massively. Sometimes, and I see this happen with a lot of people,

you get to 45, 50, 55 years old and it becomes harder and harder as you get older and older and older to make massive changes in your life. Now is the time for you to make change. You will never be younger than you are right now. And so you've got to make the decision and ask yourself, what is it that I need to be harder on myself? What is it that I need to have more discipline on? What is it that I need to have more delayed gratification? What would make

my life, what hard action can I take right now and over the next few months that will make my life easier in the future? Because ultimately, as I said, life is hard. You're going to get beat up. You're going to get some scars. You're going to get some bumps. You're going to get some bruises. Life is hard at some point, but you get to choose which hard that you want. And you have to make sure that you take a step back and consciously think about the actions that you're taking in your life because they affect you, but they also affect everyone around you. And so when I'm talking about something as hard now and easy later or easy now and hard later, think about how the actions that you take, if you're taking the easy actions right now, will change your children's life of what it could be later on in

life. Think about how it'll change your spouse's life. Think about how it'll change your family's life, your parents, your brothers, your sisters, everyone around you. Think about how if you decided to step up and stop backing away and stop being afraid of your fears and stop being lazy, if you decided to step up your life and build that business or build that discipline or work hard, how that would change the entire trajectory of not only your life, but also your family's life, your spouse's wife, your children's life. How much better could your children's life be if you decided to step up and actually start working your ass off towards what it is that you want? How much better would their life be if you decided to step up? Because all too often when we're looking at our goals, we think about how we will benefit and we tend not to look at how everyone around

us will benefit as well. Because when you decide to step up your life, everyone around you benefits. When you decide to take the easy route in your life, everyone around you also has that hard later on in life. So you can either share the fruits of your labor, or you can share the hardness that comes on later in life. The beautiful thing about it is that as a human, there is nobody telling you what to do. Once again, you are a fully autonomous human being. You can do whatever you want.

You can choose whatever you want. You can act however you want. You can't blame anybody else but yourself. So you've got to decide which route you want to take. Do you want life to be easy now and hard later? Or do you want life to be hard now so that it ultimately can be so much easier later? So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

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