The Mindset Mentor - Be Intentional with Your Life

Episode Date: March 24, 2022

In your life, you will get what you ask for and what you focus on. In this episode, I’m gonna teach you how to be much more intentional with every single day so that you can get what you want in life. Follow me on IG for more inspiration here: https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ If you live in the US/Canada and you want to receive motivational texts from me, text me now at 1-512-580-9305 or click here https://my.community.com/robdial Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dylan. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to receive motivational text messages from me directly to your cell phone, text me right now, 512-580-9305. Once now, 512-580-9305. Once again,

512-580-9305. Sorry, this is only for people that are in America and Canada, but if you're in America and Canada and you want these text messages, go ahead and text me right now. Today, we're going to be talking about many different areas of your life and actually talking about if the things that you are doing in your life or the things that you have in your life are going to help you or hurt you towards whatever it is that you're trying to build. And first off, what this comes down to more than anything else before we dive into it is you being intentional with your life.

If you've been listening to me long enough, you know how much I talk about intention. You know how much I talk about figuring out whatever it is that you need to do and actually acting on it. Too many people are living a life where they've been asleep. It's like they've been driving a car and they've just been asleep the entire time. And being asleep means that you're unaware of most of the stuff. You're unaware of what's going on in your life and what's serving you and what's not serving you. Have you ever sat down and thought about all of the things that you do? Like everything. Have you thought about the times that you wake up, the food that you're eating,

if you work out or don't work out, the place that you work, the people that you surround yourself with, everything that you do. Have you sat down and thought to yourself, does this serve me or does this not serve me? Have you decided if it's good for you or not? And it's like an awakening process because if you really get intentional with this, you start to realize there's a lot of things that you do in your life that are good, but there's a lot of things that you do in your life and you're like, why in the hell am I still doing this?

Why in the hell am I still allowing this person to talk to me? Why in the hell am I still not taking care of myself? Part of the awakening process is realizing that you have been asleep. And then being asleep means being unaware of most of the stuff that you're doing that's not serving you. Have you been living a lot of your life asleep? Just not realizing and being unaware to many things? You know, and I want to take you

through a process that I went through years ago, like October, 2010. So we're looking at a long time ago now. I was going through like the worst time in my life. Like relationship wasn't going well. Business wasn't going well. I was broke because I had ran my company into the ground on accident by just making a couple wrong decisions. And I had to go through every aspect of my life

and be like, hey, is this what I want? Or is this not what I want? And if it is what I want, or if it's something that I can improve and get better, I'm gonna keep it. But what I want or is this not what I want? And if it is what I want or if it's something that I can improve and get better, I'm going to keep it. But if I'm realizing that this thing is not serving me anymore, it's got to go and it's got to go fast. And so we're going to go through many things today. And my goal is to help you try to wake up to the actions that you take and to see if they are actually serving you for your higher good.

You may have heard me say this before, but one of the questions that will really help you out the most as you're thinking through this is, hey, is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? You know, if you're sitting on the couch and it's the middle of the day and you're supposed to be building your business, but you're on Instagram, is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? And I'm guessing that's probably getting you further from your goals. And if it's getting you further from your goals,

it's something that you have to do, something that you have to stop doing. You have to get rid of and you have to change immediately. So does it serve me? Does it serve me for my highest good? 10 years from now, if you fast forward and you look at your dream life, the life that you want, if you look at what you have, you can say, is this thing serving me for my dream life that I'm trying to create? Or is it not? Is this something that I need to keep?

Or is this something I got to get rid of? If you look at the life that you want in 10 years, if you look at the family that you want in 10 years, if you look at the family that you want in 10 years, if you look at the business and the bank account that you want in 10 years, if you look at the house that you want in 10 years, if you look at the relationship with your children that you want in 10 years, if you look at the places that you're traveling in 10 years and the clothes and the happiness and the love and the respect, the impact that you're having on the world, and you're looking at that future. All of that stuff is fully possible.

But you've got to get out of your own way. And you've got to stop self-sabotaging yourself. So I want to go through the same process with you that I went through myself. When I look back and I'm like, all right, well, in 10 years, what do I want my life to look like? My relationships, my business, my family,

where I travel to, cars, all of these things. Like, what do I want in 10 years? I'm going to take you through the exact same process, okay? We're going to go through everything in your life, and we're going to see if it supports your future or if it holds you back, okay? We're going to see if it supports your future or if it holds you back in some sort of way, okay? So one thing that's big, and I mean, really, really big is alcohol. Oh, you didn't think we're going to talk about this today, did you? Well, we are. When you look at alcohol, alcohol stays in your system for 80 hours, up to 80 hours, it'll stay in your system. And for me, I think, you know, I've had some, I've, I've drank a lot of alcohol in my lifetime, but if you look at it and you say,

okay, there was a point in my time where I'm being honest with you, where I was building my business and I was realizing that when I went out on the weekends with my friends, Monday I would wake up and I wouldn't feel the best. I wouldn't feel bad, but I didn't feel 100% on it. And I didn't feel like my brain was cranky

and I didn't feel like I was as motivated. I felt like I was tired. I felt like I was groggy. And then it got to the point where I was like, is alcohol serving me for my greater good and what I'm trying to do in the world? Am I using it for good? Am I using it for numbing? You know, if I'm going out, am I celebrating my success or do I not have what I want yet? And ultimately, does it serve me? Does it serve you when you look at alcohol? It might be yes. And if it is, cool. It might be no. For a lot of people, they literally don't know why

they drink alcohol. They just happen to be drinking it. And the problem with that is if you're trying to build your business, you're trying to get promoted, you're trying to get more sales or whatever it is you're trying to do in your life, and you're not 100% on it when you go into work or you go into your business, then that thing is not serving you for the life that you're trying to create. And so what if you just took 30 days off, just a month? What if you took 60 days off? And just see if not having it in your life

actually makes a positive shift. I did this for myself and I realized, oh my God, if I don't drink on the Saturday, you know, Friday and Saturday, Monday, I feel amazing. I feel so much better. And I feel like it gets so much more done on Monday than I do on the nights, on the weekends when I do drink. Made a very easy decision at that point. I was like, yeah, alcohol, it's got to go. It's not really the thing that I want. And so it's just an example of something that I went through that helps me figure out what I want and what I do want in my life, what I don't want and what I do want in my life. Okay. So think about that. Alcohol,

is it serving you or is it not serving you? Okay. What about the food that you eat? The food that you eat, does it serve you? Does it give you energy or is it so heavy that it takes energy away from you because it takes a lot of digestion? I don't know. That's for you to answer. Does the alcohol that you eat, does it serve you or does it not serve you? Okay. Think about that for a second. What about the people that you surround yourself with? Are they pushing you and encouraging you and saying that, you know, do they have, if you look at them and you're like, yeah, that person a hundred percent has my back and wants the best for me. Do these people serve me? And am I serving them in the best way possible?

Or are we just still hanging out with each other because we've been hanging out with each other for years? Maybe that's the way that some of the relationships are. You look at some of the relationships and some of them are great and some of them are not. And you look at me like, are we serving each other in this relationship? And you can either shift the relationship

or you can stop. You don't have to end the relationship, but you can stop hanging out with that person as much for the next 60 days, 90 days. and just see. The cool thing about life is that you can just make decisions and just try things out for a little while. You can try a shirt out and be like, yeah, this works. This doesn't work. I like this color. I don't like this color. And then make decisions from there. So what about the people in your life? Are those people, if you go through each one of them, are they serving you at the highest level? Are you serving

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Do they want the best for you? Are they growing with you? Do you support them? Are you guys serving each other at the highest level? One of the things that's hardest for people, and I've worked with a lot of people who have gone through this, is when they eventually wake up and realize

that the person that they've been with for years, it's kind of done. And it's kind of like the time has come. And they realize that. And that's hard. It's not easy. I get it. But it is something that's important to wake up to

for them to be able to have the future that they want and for you to be able to have the future that you want as well. And so if you look at your significant other, are you guys on the same path? Are you supporting each other in every single way? Do you support them? Do they support you?

Everything. You got to think about that. What about your morning routine? Does your morning routine serve you? Do you have a morning routine, first off? If you do, okay, does it serve you at the highest level? Can it make some changes? What time you wake up in the morning?

What time you go to bed? What you do with yourself in the morning? Do all of those things, do they support you? Do they serve you at the highest level? The way that you take care of yourself or don't take care of yourself? Are you serving yourself at the highest level with the routine that you have when you wake up in the morning to set yourself up for a day of success? Do you have a way that you set yourself up for a day of success? Okay, think about it. What serves you? What doesn't? And then make adjustments from there. What about the environment that you live in?

Does your environment serve you? The place that you live, the area that you live in, the cleanliness of the space that you surround yourself with? Does it serve you at the highest level or does it need to make some adjustments? Maybe you just need to move. Maybe you just need to change the furniture around and keep cleaner. Maybe you need to make it easier for you to take action on your goals. Maybe you want to start meditating more and just having a meditation pillow out would help you. When you look at your environment, how can you design an

environment to help serve you at the highest level? Does my environment serve me? What about the body that you have and the way you take care of yourself? If you look down at your body, what do you see? If you put your head down and you look at your gut, do you see some abs? Do you see extra weight? Do you struggle with energy? What does it do for you? What do you do for it? Can you serve your body at a higher level? What does it look like? How do you feel like? Would it be better? Would you love to have more energy throughout the day? Okay. Well, what adjustments do you need to make in order to do that? One thing that I did, I eat really healthy. I work out, all of those

things. I went and got a blood test and they did a blood, like this massive blood panel. And I realized I was just deficient in some vitamins. They gave me some vitamins, like some really high quality vitamins. I don't know if I've ever had so much energy in my life. And I was just deficient in some vitamins. They gave me some vitamins, like some really high quality vitamins. I don't know if I've ever had so much energy in my life. And I was like, holy shit, I was just missing a couple of vitamins. I thought it was food. I thought it was all of these.

I was like, maybe I need more coffee, all of this. Maybe you just go to a doctor and see if you're deficient in anything. So when you're looking at your body, realizing like, am I getting the optimum amount of energy out of everything that I do? Or could it be a little better? Could I serve my body at a higher level? And could my body serve me at a higher

level as well? What about your workout routine? Do you have a workout routine first off? Do you need to work out more? Do you need to work out less? Sometimes people are working out too hard. And you look at your workout routine, you see how you're taking care of your body on a fitness level, is that serving you at the highest level possible? Something to think about. What do you want to change about it? Does it serve you?

Does it not serve you anymore? Do you need to get rid of some things? What about your mindset? Do you have a positive mindset? Is your mindset serving you at the highest level? Do you have a negative mindset? Is that mindset serving you at the highest level? What about your career? Your job, the way you make money?

Is the way you're making money, is that serving you at the highest level? Are you working a job that you love? Are you passionate about what you do? Do you at least enjoy spending time there? One of the things that people get as a misconception is they have to love their job. You don't have to love it, but do you enjoy existing in the space where

you make money? Do you enjoy existing in the space with the people that are also at the same place where you're making money? And you look at it and it's like, well, you spend the majority of your waking hours at a job. So why would you not do something that you actually enjoy? I would rather enjoy myself than not. And I find a lot of people, they just kind of, their life is okay, their job is okay. And it's kind of just like slight agitation throughout their life. Does your job serve you? What about the music that you listen to?

Does that serve you at the highest level? What do you think? You know, I've gone through and changed a lot of the music that I listen to because I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm saying these things. And I would never actually say these to another person. Like, wow, this is probably music I should stop listening to then. Right? So think about the music that you listen to. What about like Netflix? You watching TV, whatever it is that you do. Watching the evening news. Please

don't be doing that. Does watching Netflix serve you at the highest level? Now there's some good things on Netflix. There's some good things on Netflix. There's some bad things on Netflix. There's some great documentaries. You could learn, you could grow, you could become a better person. Does watching it serve you at the highest level? Or is there something that you could be doing that's better with your time?

Something to think about. What about your evening routine? Do you have an evening routine? Does it serve you at the highest level? And if you go through each one of these things and they do serve you, well, then you should keep them. And you should try to deepen whatever that practice is. And if it doesn't serve you, you look at it and you say, okay, this is not serving me.

The way that I take care of my body is not serving me. I need to stop doing whatever it is that I'm doing and the way I'm taking care of my body. Or I guess you could say not taking care of my body. Right? If it doesn't serve you at the highest level to help you in accomplishing the dream life that you want, you need to change it and you need to change it fast. People underestimate how much weight they carry and how much they're held down by things that just don't serve them. I had a real good friend. I still have a really good friend. He didn't die.

But I had a really good friend who called me one time and he was working one business and he was also helping his parents run their business. And he was putting most of his time into helping his parents run their business, but he still had this old business. And he's like, I'm talking to him and I can hear in his voice that the old business is kind of slightly agitating him, right? And I was like, well, how much time do you spend in the old business? And he's like, oh, not much, man. Like maybe 5% of my time throughout a week is spent there. And I was like, well, how much time do you spend in the old business? And he's like, oh, not much, man. Like maybe 5% of my time throughout a week is spent there. And I said, okay, how much mental time is spent there? And he's like, oh, yeah.

Yeah, I'm constantly worried about it all the time. He's like, when I'm helping my parents run their business, I'm constantly thinking about the other one. So he wasn't putting much time into the old business, but he was constantly thinking about it. And you can't underestimate how much weight you carry by doing things that you don't want to do, how much you're held down by doing things that don't serve you anymore that you don't want to be doing. This is your life. I talked about it last week. You can design your life, whether you realize it or not. You can design how you want it to look,

what you want it to feel like, how you want every single day to be. This isn't just something that you were just given and you just plopped here one day and you're like, well, this is the life that I have. No, you designed this life. You just didn't actually do it intentionally. So what if you were to actually start to intentionally design your life?

You can either make it happen or you can let it happen. It's up to you. But if I were you, I would think that you want to make it happen. You can step up and you can plan it out and you can decide what you want. You can start making it happen. Will everything happen right away? No. There's going to be some transition times, but you get a pen and paper and you get intentional and you start making things happen. That is the way that you change your life. And so you go through every aspect of your life and

you find out, does it serve me for my greater good? Is it me closer to or further from my goals? And then from there, you start making adjustments and you make adjustments, you make adjustments. And then one day you realize that you're not doing that shit that you don't want to do anymore. You actually enjoy what it is that you do. You enjoy the people that you surround yourself with. You enjoy the way that you take care of yourself. You enjoy the way that you make money. That is a full opportunity that's in front of every single person. You just have to take some time, some energy, and some intention to build that life that you want. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R.

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