The Mindset Mentor - Become a Lighthouse

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Starting point is 00:02:12 I highly recommend investing in yourself. You will learn so much. I know I have. Today what we're going to be talking about is being a lighthouse instead of being a towboat. Now if you were here and you listened to my last episode I talked about getting rid of negative people in your life and then spending more time and expanded time with people who are positive in your life. So then a lot of people reach out to me and I've got a lot of emails of people saying something along the lines of I really want my kids to start reading more or to get into personal development or I want my spouse to start getting into personal development or my spouse or my mother or my brother or people that I hang out with that I can't necessarily get rid of, they're not the most positive people or they're not the most growth-orientated people. people, how do I make them start reading? How do I make them start becoming more positive? How do I make them listen to podcasts or get into motivational videos? Or how do I make them go to the gym?

Starting point is 00:03:12 People always ask these questions. How do I make them do this? One thing that I've learned over all of the time that I've been a success coach in the past 10 years is that you can try to make somebody do something, but they're not going to do it unless they actually want to. And if you've heard the old phrase, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. That is 100% true with everybody that you know and the way that they deal with their lives. And so you have to realize this, you can either be a lighthouse or you can be a towboat. A towboat is the boat that goes out and they get all of the ships that need help,

Starting point is 00:03:53 all of the ships that are broken down, and they take them and they tow them into safety. They tow them into the dock that they need to be docked at. So what they're doing is they're helping them get to where they need to be. It's a noble cause. Most people live their lives as towboats. They are towboats. They find people in their life, their kids or their spouse or their brother, sister, mother, and they try to force them to go to the gym more or to eat better or to get into personal growth or to read more and they try to force them, they try to exactly like a towboat, pull them where they want them to go. They try to tow them in to where they want them to go.

Starting point is 00:04:35 But that's not the way that the world works. Everybody can make their own decisions. So what your job to do is to be a lighthouse. A lighthouse stands firm in its spot and it's exactly what it does. It doesn't move for any of the other boats. What it does is it stands firm in its spot and it does what it is supposed to do to its very best. And in turn, by it doing its best, it still allows boats and helps boats into the harbor and to actually dock where they're supposed to dock. It does the exact same thing that a towboat does, but it doesn't

Starting point is 00:05:13 expend all of its energy and get, you know, go out and pick up the boats and pull them into the harbor. No, it stands where it's supposed to stand. It does what it's supposed to do. And in turn, still helps the boats to where they're supposed to go. How does this apply to you? You need to be the lighthouse. If you want people in your life to start being more positive, you need to be more positive. If you want people in your life to start going to the gym more, you need to go to the gym more. If you want people in your life to start reading more personal development books, you need to start reading more personal development books. And what happens is if they're watching you, not just over the next couple of weeks, but if they're watching over

Starting point is 00:05:56 the next six months or years where things actually start to change, their interests will start to perk up and they think in their heads, well, man, he went through this huge transformation by dedicating all of this time and going to the gym and eating healthy. Maybe I should ask him how he did it. Or man, she got such a huge raise or she started her own business and she's making so much money. She's so much more successful than she was two years ago. Maybe I should ask her what she did. You need to be the lighthouse. You need to stop trying to force people to do things. Because if you force people to do things, number one, they're probably going to resent you for it or go against you for it. They're going to do what you don't want them to do because you're trying to force

Starting point is 00:06:39 them. But if you focus on being the best version of yourself and working on yourself and shining as bright as you possibly can, people will start to notice and they will ask you questions of how you got there. Then you can give them advice because they'll take your advice when they ask for it. But if it's not given to them, most people don't want to take it. So with that, if you like this, please do me a favor. Please share this with someone that you love. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every episode.

Starting point is 00:07:10 Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at MWFmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because it's our mission to help as many people as we can. And to keep in touch, you can follow us on Instagram and Facebook. Both handles are at MWFmotivation with no spaces. Now you know what time it is. So go out and make your dreams a reality.

The Mindset Mentor - Become a Lighthouse

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