The Mindset Mentor - Brainwash Yourself to Be Happy

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. Today, because of obviously the crazy environment that we happen to be in, I'm going to talk about how to brainwash yourself for happiness, how to brainwash yourself to have a iron mind. As you may have noticed over the past few episodes, I've kind of had a little bit of a theme with the current situation in the world, in the United States, in the news, and everyone that you might see. And I wanted to talk about how you can make sure that you are mentally just, you're just a fort, like nothing came into it. You just have this mental barrier where you are just so, this mental fortitude is so strong that nobody can break into it.

Starting point is 00:00:55 Because, you know, I want you guys to be smart. I want you guys to be healthy. I want you guys to, you know, not spread any virus that might be out there. But I also want to, what I do care about is how you feel throughout the day. I don't want you to live your life in fear. I don't want you to live your life in worry, and I don't want you to live your life in anxiety because living in those states will bring your immune system down.

Starting point is 00:01:19 And so what I want to talk about is how to actually set a schedule. So you and I are going to set a schedule of what your daily happiness brainwashing is going to look like. You are going to be in charge over the next few weeks to literally brainwash yourself to be happy, to brainwash yourself to be positive, to brainwash yourself to be grateful, to brainwash yourself to see the beautiful things that happen to exist in your life. And as you can see, we're starting to build up to these. I talked about, you know, the virus of fear. I talked about how to build the perfect morning routine. Now let's talk about not just your morning routine. I will talk about that as well, but I also want to talk about your daily

Starting point is 00:01:58 routine and what you're doing throughout the day, because now more than ever, you need to make sure that you're building this mental fortitude. And so I want to try to help you out into having the strongest mentality that you possibly can. So the first thing that I want to talk about is as soon as you wake up in the morning, as soon as you wake up in the morning, just so you guys know, you know, when I've, I was curious about this not too long ago, when I woke up and I had this crazy anxiety and I was like, why am I so anxious when I wake up in the morning? And so I started doing research on it and people are actually the, you know, statistically the most anxious as soon as they wake up in the morning. And the reason why is because the highest levels of cortisol that are running through your

Starting point is 00:02:39 blood statistically, you know, it depends on, you know, what happens throughout your day and how, you know, the internal and external environment in your life. But usually what wakes somebody up is actually cortisol. That's usually when it's the highest in your blood is in the morning. Cortisol is the stress hormone. So if you wake up and you feel anxious and you feel anxiety, that's not something that's odd, just so you know. You're not weird. So for those of you guys that feel that way, that's not something that's odd, just so you know. You're not weird. So for those of you guys that feel that way, take a deep breath. There's nothing wrong with you. But the thing that I want to say is as soon as you wake up in the morning, do not, do not, do not look at your phone.

Starting point is 00:03:14 Do not go on social media and do not read the news, the newspaper, watch the news, turn on CNN or Fox News or any of those things. As soon as you wake up in the morning, if your stress levels are already pretty high because of the fact that you have extra cortisol in your blood, why would you want to look at your phone? And I don't mean look at just social media. Obviously, that's big. But don't look at your phone, period. Because they've actually found statistically that the addiction between a human's brain and their phone, because of the colors and the blue that happens to be in it without going too in-depth on it is extremely strong. And so what you're doing is

Starting point is 00:03:49 you're literally, if you wake up and look at your phone immediately, you're basically like a drug addict that's been off of drugs for a little while. And then you go straight back to just getting a little bit taste of the drugs and trying to stay away. You're starting that addiction again. So as soon as you wake up in the morning, how long can you stay away from your phone? This is a game that I think you should play with yourself. How long can you stay away from your phone? An hour, two hours. Could you imagine if you woke up and had a beautiful morning routine and you worked on yourself for 30 minutes, an hour, you know, an hour and a half, whatever it might be. And you don't look at your phone once you

Starting point is 00:04:24 don't get into that trap. How much better could you feel? So the first thing I want you to think about is you're waking up. Can you develop a strategy for waking up, a schedule for waking up? No phone, no social media, no news. As soon as you wake up in the morning, what would make you feel the best? This is what we want to think about now. What would make you feel the best? For some people, they love to meditate in the morning. For me, I've meditated in the morning many, many, many, many, many times, but it's usually only for 10 or 15 minutes. If I want to do a long meditation session, like an hour, 45 minutes, 30 minutes,

Starting point is 00:05:00 any of those, usually it's not in the morning because I'll start to fall back asleep. And so can you take three to four minutes and just do a quick meditation? If you want to do longer, amazing. Definitely do more. But you know, get up, wash your face, brush your teeth. You get up and you go over, you go to a little meditation station and you do some breathing. And all I want you to do is just don't focus on anything. If you don't have to just focus on the air going in and out of your nostrils. That's it. Just the, just the feeling of the nostrils going in and out. That's all you got to do. When I went to my 10 day silent meditation retreat, that was what they taught us how to do, how to focus on the,

Starting point is 00:05:43 the air going in and out of your nostrils. And if you feel like you can't stop your mind, that's okay. That's natural. That's part of being a human. You know, it's, it's what your brain does. Your brain thinks you don't want it to stop, but you would like to kind of be in control of what it's thinking about. So if you feel like your brain's going too much, think about what you're grateful for. So you have to think about it this way. I love to start my day with intention. I love to be as intentional as possible. So think about what you can be intentional about. You know, think about the people in your life. Think about the fact that you've been blessed with, you know, some good genes, that you have your health, that you have all four of your limbs, you have working

Starting point is 00:06:25 eyes, you can smell. That still works. You can feel, you can taste. The sun is out. What can you find? Can you find as many things as possible to be deeply, deeply grateful for? And then take a journal out. Take out a pen and paper, have a journal and write down your gratitude journal. What, what are you grateful for today? Write down three things to be grateful for. That's it. Nothing crazy. And they don't even have to be, I would actually prefer that they're not big things, not even your house. It could be the wind on your face. The way that when you went out to go get the morning paper, hopefully actually you didn't get the paper because you're not reading the news, right? But you went to go take your dog to go pee on the front lawn and you can feel the sun on your

Starting point is 00:07:07 face and you can be grateful for the way the sun was warming your face in the morning. And the fact that winter is starting to turn into spring, what can you be grateful for? Write that down. What are three things, three things that I'm grateful for today are these. Then you close your eyes after you do it and you just take some deep breaths and you allow the thoughts of that gratitude to sink into your body and for your thoughts of them to become feelings inside of your body. Another thing that I think is great to journal in the morning is to make a list, make a massive list of what makes you happy. What makes you happy? Write down as many things as you possibly can think of. And then what you do every single morning is you plan how to put as many of

Starting point is 00:07:51 those things into your life as possible. As many of those things into your life as possible. How do you do that? I had a good friend that, that, uh, you know, he lost a lot of money when, uh, like, you know, around $180 million and, uh, long story, don't need to tell you about it, but he said something to me that stuck with me. And he said, I realized when I was depressed after that, that I would not allow my depression or my happiness to be left up to chance. I would not allow my depression or my happiness to be left up to chance. I decided that I was going to be happy and figure out a way to be happy every single day. So he made a massive list of everything that makes

Starting point is 00:08:28 him happy. And then all he would do in the morning is just try to put as many of the, look at the list and say, how can I put as many of these things into my day as possible? Do you want to be happy? You do, right? You want to know the easy way to do it? Make a list of as many things as possible that makes you happy. And then try to do as many of those things you possibly can. It's simple. Next thing, let's talk about coffee. Guys, I love coffee. Believe me. I told you my morning routine of how I drink yerba mate instead of coffee now. But if you're naturally an anxious person or you feel like you worry too much, try to stay away from coffee for the next couple of weeks. Drink some tea instead. You can drink tea with caffeine, without caffeine. Maybe try to wean yourself off of caffeine so you feel like you don't need it. If you're anxious or you worry,

Starting point is 00:09:15 how can you move away from that? If you feel like it makes you more anxious. For me, I know that sometimes coffee does make me anxious. It makes me jittery. And if you wake up in the morning, you have lots of cortisol running through your brain and your body and you, and you immediately go to coffee. It just takes your anxiety to a whole other level. Okay. Next thing, shower. You already know what I'm going to recommend. I recommend cold showers. Why? It wakes you up. It gets, I mean, there's just, I don't even need to tell you. Just Google benefits of cold showers. You'll see all the benefits of cold shower. I just know for a fact,

Starting point is 00:09:46 it is impossible to be depressed or anxious or worry when you're sitting in a freezing cold shower. It like resets everything for you, right? And as I said, have a shower playlist. Have a playlist that gets you fired up while you're going through that in the shower, right? Have a feel good playlist for the rest of your day. If you're not listening to music, listen to podcasts, go onto YouTube and find something

Starting point is 00:10:10 really good. Listen to and watch only what will raise you up. Listen to and watch only what will raise you up, what will make you feel better. Have a feel good playlist where it's like, like, and have a song. There's songs for me. Like I know that I have a stressful song that I don't even know how it became my song, but it's so calming and it's so peaceful. And anytime I used to get super stressed out, um, I used to put it on. And when I ran my, my office for, for Cutco, I used to listen to the song. I used to have very stressful moments in my And my receptionists and my assistant managers that worked under me, they knew when my door was shut, give me five

Starting point is 00:10:50 minutes. And what I would do is I would go into that room. I put my headphones on in my office and I would listen to this song. It's called Out of Africa theme song. A lot of you guys are probably like, oh yes, I know that song. I love it. Some of you guys have never heard of it before. It's called the Out of Africa theme song. It's just so calming. It's literally like the calmest song in the world for me. Uh, so it's just what works for me, you know, it might not be where it works for you, but, uh, I do know that there is a, there's quite a few songs that have been made that are, you know, if you Google the, um, what are they, the, the, the calmest songs in the world. Uh, the most relaxing song in the world. If you want to listen to it, uh, I don't know how they found this out, but there was many,

Starting point is 00:11:30 many articles written about this song. It's called weightless part one, weightless part one by Marconi union, M A R C O N I space union. And it's called weightless part one, super calming song. Whenever I'm on a plane, I'm trying to fall asleep. I usually put that on repeat, but just start thinking about this. If you notice, I'm just saying, be very intentional with every moment of your day, with everything that's coming into your brain, to the way that you wake up, to the way that you meditate, the way that you journal, to the way you figure out what makes you happy, to what you drink, to the music you listen to, and the podcast you listen to, and the YouTube you listen to, and all of those

Starting point is 00:12:07 things. Think about them so that you can go, does this serve me or does this not serve me? If it doesn't serve you anymore or it makes you more anxious, well then it's probably a good idea to get rid of that thing. Wouldn't you agree? 100%. Yeah, so let's try to get rid of the things that don't serve you. Another thing that might not serve you is what about the people that you surround yourself with? Are there people that are not serving you? Are there people that are just like, ah, yeah, this is not the person that's bringing me up. This person's bringing me down. What about your house, your external environment?

Starting point is 00:12:39 You have the people around you, but also your house. You know, is it dirty? Is it messy? What would make you like your house more? Is it have stale? You know, sometimes a room just feels stale. What if you just open up all the windows and let a draft come through? Is it too dirty? Do you need to have somebody come and clean it? Is it set up for your happiness? Should you organize a little bit more? What would make you happier? Just be more intentional with your internal environment and with your external

Starting point is 00:13:03 environment. And what you'll notice is that naturally you'll start being happier and people are going to come up to you and say what are you doing and you're just going to be like i'm being intentional i'm just doing the things that i love you know if going outside and being in nature makes you happy then go outside and be in nature and people like oh i don't have time to go outside and be in nature though rob yes you do because you do. Because if it makes you happy, it makes you more productive. It makes you work better. It makes you more creative. So taking an hour out of your day to go on a walk out in nature, maybe go through a park or whatever it is, and just sit there with no phone and just breathe deeply and just look at the animals or look at nature and put your feet in the grass or whatever

Starting point is 00:13:43 it is that you need to do. If that brings you peace, then naturally it will help you in all other areas of life. It might seem like you're being unproductive, which is what us in the Western world, we can't deal with not being productive, but it's just like a bow and arrow. If you have a bow and arrow, in order for it to shoot forward, what do you have to do? You have to pull it back. And the harder you pull it back, the further it's going to go forward. So sometimes the more that you disconnect and go out and do absolutely nothing, that doing absolutely nothing actually makes you more productive in the long run. So if you're trying to be happy in these crazy times and live in a beautiful state, these are the keys to do it. Take out a pen and paper and start to be very, very diligent on how you spend every single moment of your life.

Starting point is 00:14:27 What you're thinking, what you're listening to, all of the environment that you surround yourself with. If you meditate, if you journal, what you drink, the shower that you take, the music that you listen to, the playlist, all of these things, the people that you surround yourself with and the house you live in as well. So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

Starting point is 00:14:44 If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and someone that live in as well. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and someone that you love as well. And if you want to get some motivational text messages from me so I can try to brighten up your day a little bit with all these crazy things that are happening, text me at 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305.

Starting point is 00:15:02 I will send you motivational text messages and help you become happier throughout the day as well. But I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - Brainwash Yourself to Be Happy

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