The Mindset Mentor - BUILD Yourself

Episode Date: November 15, 2019

I have a tattoo on my left wrist that is a symbol for the 10,000 hour rule. I have it to remind myself that I am always building myself - every day, with every action. In this episode, I am going to teach you how to build yourself into the person that you see in your dreams.Follow me on Instagram @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/Check out the best bed in the world here... https://eightsleep.com/dial Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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about to pass 2,000 ratings and reviews. So anyways, let's go ahead and dive into today's episode. I'm going to talk about building yourself. I had a conversation about a week ago or so, and somebody was saying it's interesting because so many people think that the way that they are is the way that they will always be. And I have the idea that if you're listening to this podcast, you think that you can at least do something to change yourself, right? Like you don't think that the way you are right now is the way that you will always be. Now, mind you, you might think that you might be a small percentage of my listeners that think that, or there might be certain parts of you that feel like you'll always be that, be a certain way in certain parts of your life. Maybe it's in

relationships, maybe it's in your job, maybe it's in whatever it is that you do, but there are people around you that I know for sure have that attitude. They have the attitude of being stuck in the exact same position. The cool thing is the way that I view myself, like I have a tattoo on my left wrist. And, you know, if you've ever seen my Facebook videos, if you've ever seen any of the stuff that I do on Instagram, all those things, you might've seen it before. And it is a Roman numeral 10,000. And it's a Roman numeral 10 with a line above it, which is a Roman numeral for 10,000, because I love the idea of the 10,000 hour rule. It takes 10,000 hours to master something is what they say. And I have this tattoo on my wrist because I feel like self-mastery

is something that I'm going to be doing until the moment that I die. And I see myself as something that I'm building every single day. I see it as like a monument. I'm trying to build this shrine to, not to myself. I'm just trying to build this shrine just to have a cool shrine, I guess. But I see it as building a house or building a wall. I just, I see myself as something that can be built. And the reason why I say this is because I know personally that the Rob Dial that's talking to you right now is not the same Rob Dial that I was five years ago before I started

this podcast. You know, this podcast is one of the greatest things that that's ever happened to me. And the reason why is because it made me have to push myself even harder because I put out three episodes. I'm in almost 700 episodes of this podcast. Do you know how much work I have to do on myself just to get these podcasts out? How much I have to learn, how much I have to grow, how much I have to push myself spiritually. I have to push myself mentally, physically,

all of that stuff. I see it as something that I'm building. So the person that you are right now doesn't even really matter. If I'm being honest with you. The person that you are now does not matter. The person that you were in the past does not matter. You got to completely strip yourself from your ego. The person that says, oh yeah, no, you can't do that because if you look at your past results, you weren't good at that when you did that one thing in the past, right? Who you are doesn't matter. Your past does not matter. None of that matters because today is a completely blank canvas. You build yourself. And that's the thing I love about coaching so many people. You know, I don't do too much one-on-one coaching anymore because I don't have the time to do it. But in my group coaching programs and, you know, some of my business,

my business coaching that I do and the courses that I have, like I can see what happens in somebody when they make the decision. It's just a click to kill their old self, the old egoic version of themselves and to start new, to start with the blank canvas. Because each day you wake up, you choose who you're going to be. You choose what's going to offend you. You choose what time you wake up. You choose what type of habits and traits you have. You choose how you're going to treat your loved ones and everyone around you. You choose all these things. You choose how much money you have in your bank account.

Let me say that again. The amount of money that you have in your bank account is your choice. It's because you have chosen that that is the number that you're comfortable with. And you won't grow past that number Your your bank account won't grow past that number until you personally grow as a human past that number Mentally, I always say to people that your bank account will never surpass your self-development account If you look at them and think of your self-development account and it's raising and it's raising it's raising You know if it's if it's stagnant, your bank account is going to stay stagnant.

But if your personal development account is going up, up, up, up, up, then your bank account is going to go up, up, up, up, up, but it will never be equal to or surpass your personal development account. So what you have to realize is that if you're trying to grow your bank account, you have to grow as a person, right? That's the thing that I love is that every day is a brand new canvas. A really good documentary that I would recommend that you see is Jim and Andy. It's about Jim Carrey when he plays Andy Kaufman and in the movie called Man on the Moon. It's like the behind the scenes of how they shot and how everything happened and how Jim Carrey, he was a method actor. And what a

method actor means is when the cameras stop rolling, they don't break character until the movie's completely done. So Jim Carrey became Andy Kaufman to the point that Andy Kaufman's family, they found it very cathartic to listen to him speak and to talk with him to the point where even his daughter, Andy Kaufman's daughter, took Jim Carrey into one of the rooms and had like a therapy session basically and spoke to him as if Jim Carrey was her dad, as if Andy Kaufman was actually there. What made it crazier though is that Jim Carrey actually, Andy Kaufman actually played a guy named Tony Clifton. And so Jim Carrey was, for three months, Andy Kaufman. And Andy Kaufman sometimes was Tony Clifton. So then what happened was when the movie stopped shooting

and Jim Carrey had to go back to being Jim Carrey, he realized it was hard for him to be Jim Carrey because he forgot who he was. He forgot what he loved. He forgot his hobbies. He forgot the things that offended him. He forgot his belief system, his habits, all of those things, which made him realize, oh my gosh, I was just playing a character of Andy Kaufman. I've always played the character of Jim Carrey every single day. of Andy Kaufman, I've always played the character of Jim Carrey every single day. And then he realized this character that I'm playing isn't even truly me. And the best part about what I'm saying to you is you get to decide if the character that you've been playing your

whole life is the person that you want to be from now on. You can build a new version of yourself. build a new version of yourself. You have to realize that either you build yourself or you just let life happen. I see it as I built myself. I was a kid who had problems. I had an alcoholic father. My alcoholic father passed away. And then one day it just clicked. My mentor who I was on the phone with, he put me in place. My very first, and this is why I recommend that you pay for a mentor because he completely changed my life. I was 19 years old and I paid $500 a month as a 19 year old, which is tons of money. I didn't even think I have $500 in my bank account. And I paid someone to be my mentor, to speak to me every single week, to help me with my

mindset, to help me with my sales, to help me. And he called me out one morning and I don't even remember. We worked together for two years. I don't even remember. We worked together for two years. I don't remember any other conversation. I know that we had them, but I don't remember anything else that he said in two years. But the thing that I do remember was one of the most important statements of my entire life. And, you know, I was showing up late. I wasn't hitting assignments. I wasn't doing all the things I needed to. And, you know, you may have heard me say this before, but you said, Rob, you know, I got a question for you. He said,

if a business fails, whose fault is it? And I was like, if it fails, it's, it's the business owner's fault. He goes, okay, if it's a bigger company, whose fault is it? I was like, it's the CEO's fault, I guess. He said, correct. He said, if the business succeeds, whose fault is it? I said, I don't, I guess it would be the business. It would be the business owner's, the CEO's fault if the business succeeds, right? If it's the CEO's fault, if it fails, it's also the CEO's fault if it succeeds. He said, yeah, the problem is you're living your life as if you're not the CEO. He said, you're the CEO of your life. So if you get to the end of your

life and it's a success, that's your fault. But if you get to the end of your life and you see it as a failure, you see it as things that you wish that you would have done, you regret things that you didn't do, that's also your fault. He said, you need to live your life as if you're the CEO of your life because no one else is going to care about your life more than you will. And from that day on, I was like, that's it. I'm going to build my life. You know, I'm not the same person I was five years ago, like I said, before I started this podcast. I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago. I'm not even the same person I was five months ago.

And I probably won't be the same person another five months because I'm constantly trying to push myself to grow and to get better. And that's what I want you to do as well. You know, if you want to hear growth, I'm going to embarrass myself if'll tell you this, but I guess I might as well have you do it. So go back and listen to episode one of this podcast if you want to. And it's not bad. It's just not as good as it is now. I remember I got a, I got a, you know, I asked you guys earlier for, for some good reviews on podcast on iTunes. I remember I was about three months into my podcast and I read my first negative review. I was like, Oh my God, someone gave me one out of five stars.

I've had like 105 stars. What's this person say? And the person said, uh, this guy has the most unmotivating voice. And she said, is it, she said, is this a, is this a, is this a, um, is this a motivational podcast? Because this guy has the most unmotivating voice I've ever heard. And I realized from that, that I talked a lot like this and there wasn't a whole lot that was put into my voice and I wasn't emphasizing certain things, right? I've gotten better because I've learned that you can't see my face. You can't see that my arms are moving all over the place. You have to hear the passion in my voice.

And so I learned that. I grew through the process of having this podcast. So if you go back and listen, you'll hear how I've built myself along the way. I'm constantly changing. I'm constantly trying to improve. I have this freaking tattoo on my wrist until the day that I die to remind myself that is a daily process. I built the person that's speaking to you today. I want you to build yourself. I'm not trying to sit here and preach for my soapbox and say that, you know, I'm great or anything like that. I just want you to realize I built myself and I know for a fact that you can build yourself. You can change your life right now. You could change yourself in an instant with one decision to start to build yourself, to see yourself as a blank freaking canvas and just to

go for it because every day is like a new brick, right? Just imagine that you're, you're building this big, beautiful temple. That's what your life is. It's a big, beautiful temple. That's what your life is, this big, beautiful temple. And each day you get one brick and one brick only for the day. And you can focus on making that brick the best that you possibly can. Lay it the best as you possibly can. Make it perfect. And if you do that, then you'll look back one day and you'll look at this massive, beautiful temple that you've built because that's what a life is. A life is a bunch of little teeny tiny days, a bunch of bricks put together and you build this massive temple from it. So don't focus on your future because you can't lay tomorrow's brick today. You can't lay tomorrow's brick today. Don't worry about the future or what could come from it.

Don't have stress. Don't have anxiety about what could possibly come up in the future. Don't think about the past because yesterday's brick is already laid. You can't do anything about it. The only thing that matters is this present moment today, right now, this second that you're listening to me. So what are you building? Because at the end of your life, you can look back and you can see this big, beautiful temple that you took time and you laid every single brick with intention and purpose, or you can look back and see the dilapidated little shed that you built because you weren't paying attention. But the choice is yours.

So what are you building? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. And once again, if you want to give us a rating or review, I would greatly appreciate it. I love you for it. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.