The Mindset Mentor - Creating A Break Through

Episode Date: December 25, 2023

Are you ready for a change? Want to see massive shifts in your world? You're in the right place! We're going to explore how personal transformation is key to achieving those breakthroughs we all crave. Think of it like a seed transforming into a beautiful flower – that's you evolving into your best self!I know, change can be scary. We often resist it, but guess what? That's completely normal! We'll chat about how breaking down old parts of ourselves can lead to incredible growth and new beginnings. It's like a forest after a wildfire – fresh, new, and full of potential!In this episode, we're getting real about the psychological barriers we face when it comes to change. But don't worry, I'm here to guide you through it. We'll discuss how embracing change is vital for our growth, and how our subconscious might try to hold us back – but we won't let it!Remember, self-development is a journey, not a destination. We're constantly evolving, and that's the beauty of it! I'll share some personal stories and insights on how I've navigated my own journey of self-improvement, and I hope it inspires you to embrace your own path of growth. 📺 Watch this Episode on Youtube If you like this episode… Make sure to share it with someone that needs to hear it and help us get the message out there so that together we can help make people’s lives better and make the world a better place. And BY THE WAY:My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.Within its pages, you'll discover powerful insights and practical steps that will revolutionize the way you approach your goals, personal motivation, and mental focus.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/book Here are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robdial?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themindsetmentee/Or visit my Youtube page that is designed specifically for anyone desiring motivation, direction, and focus in life: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHl3aFKS0bY0d8JwqNysaeA Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast, the number one mindset podcast in the entire world because of you guys. If you don't want to miss another episode of this, make sure you hit subscribe so that you never miss any more episodes. And if you're out there and you love this podcast and you want to receive some inspirational text messages from me sporadically throughout the week, inspirational videos from my phone to your phone, go ahead and text me 512-580-9305. This is, sorry, only for people who live in the United States and Canada, but it is 512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be talking about how to create a breakthrough in your life.

This might be a little bit of a tough episode for some of you guys, but really what I'm going to talk about is how to create breakthroughs. Because breakthroughs can happen in your life. The universe can give you breakthroughs, enforce you through breakthroughs, or you can go out and actually search for breakthroughs to make massive changes. So it might be a little bit tough to listen to. There's parts of yourself that you're going to have to give up, but I promise you it will be worth it. And there's a quote that's from a movie, Honey Boy, with Shia LaBeouf. And I actually referenced this quote inside of my book, Level Up. And the quote that he says is something along the lines of a seed has to completely destroy itself in order for it to become a flower. And I remember watching that movie and being like,

holy shit, that is so true. Like if you think about a seed, like this little teeny tiny seed, there's so much potential. You can look at a little teeny tiny seed and it has so much potential inside of it in order for it to be a flower or a tree or a massive plant compared to a little teeny tiny tree, or I'm sorry, a little teeny tiny seed. But in order for it to become what it has the potential to become, it has to completely destroy every single bit of what it currently is. And so when you look at who you want to be, and you look at the person that you want to be in a year, or you look at the person that you want to be in five years, in order for you to become that person, you're going to have to completely destroy

parts of yourself. And you're going to have to completely destroy who you currently are. There's going to have to be aspects of yourself that are unrecognizable to you and to people around you. So to change and to become different, you literally have to become different. That's what's interesting about it is that a lot of people are like, I want change. I want a better life. I want to be better. And they're like, okay, well, then you have to change yourself. Like, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Not going to do that.

I want to stay exactly the same as I currently am. Nobody actually says this, but subconsciously this is kind of what it is. Hey, I want to stay exactly as I currently am. I don't want to change anything about myself. I don't want anything to be hard. I don't want anything to be difficult. But I want myself and everything else to be different in one year. And the problem with that is that it's not going to happen. In order for you to have a breakthrough,

usually you have to have some sort of breakdown, breakdown of yourself. And like I said, it could be the universe brings this breakdown to you, or you can go out and actually search for it. And your life cannot change unless you change. I said this a few episodes ago, but it's crazy to me how much people think that they want their life to be different, but they are completely unwilling to be different. And they think, oh my gosh, like in a year from now, everything's going to be different. And then they don't change. And they're like, I don't know why anything's different. Everything's exactly the same.

It's because you are the person that has to change to create the change. Your life will always be the same if you are always the same. Your life will always be the same if you are unwilling to break down aspects of yourself. Aspects of yourself have to completely die off and not exist anymore. And in place of that, new aspects of yourself have to be strengthened or have to grow.

It's kind of like a forest fire. We see a forest fire and it's like, it seems like utter destruction. It seems like one of the worst things ever, right? But if you go to where the location of where a forest fire was a year or two years later, what happens is it makes way for new growth. It makes way because the trees were so big where it was before that a lot of the plants

that were down below and the smaller trees and the seeds that had been planted down below were not able to get the sun. And so it's the same thing where sometimes you have to just light a forest fire for different parts of your life and say that aspect of me, that aspect of me that loves to procrastinate and loves to sleep in and doesn't follow through with what they say they're going to do, I kind of have to burn it down and just see what new things I can have regrow. Your life and everything around you is based off of who you were in the past. So what you currently have right now in your life is based off of who you were a year ago,

two years ago, three years ago. So if you look around you and you're not really satisfied with what you have and where your life is, it is because you didn't take the necessary actions in the past to create the life that you wanted right now. And so the life that you have around you is just a lagging indicator of what you've done in the past. And so if you want things to be different, you have to do things different. And then the future that you have will be a lagging indicator of what you're going to do over the next year or two years or whatever it might be. And most times, like I said, you have

to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough. Better times usually come after a breakdown. better times usually come after a breakdown. They do. Like life cannot be terrible forever. Like when we, when, when things are bad in our life, it's hard for things to be bad in our life because we are going through shit, but then we think it's going to be bad forever. And that's just not true. Life ebbs and flows. It's like a wave. Sometimes there's good days. Sometimes there's bad days. Um, and that's just part of being a human. I don't know if it could be good forever, but it ebbs and it flows. There's peaks and there's valleys. And when you're stuck going through the shit, you'll soon be in one of the happiest moments you've ever been if you don't stop growing. It's like the phrase when you're going through hell, keep going. Don't stop when you're in hell, keep on going through it because on the other side of that hell is usually beautiful moments.

It's like, it doesn't, it doesn't rain every single day. It rains some days and then the sun's out some days. And when the sun is out after a long period of rain, you usually appreciate the sun a whole lot more. And so sometimes it's just of the way that life goes. Life is in expansion sometimes, in contraction sometimes. There's seasons. It's just the way that life is. And so if you're looking at your life, you can wait for a breakdown to happen. And whatever that might be, it might be a health issue. It might be someone that you love has a health issue. It might be losing a job. It might be, I don't know, a bunch of different things. It could be, right? You can just wait for those to happen, which is the universe coming to you and saying, Hey dude, you've got to make a change. Like the way that you are can't stay this

way. Or you can actually seek out breakdowns and break down certain aspects of yourself the way that you want to. And through that breakthroughs will come. But it's really hard for us to do. And the reason why is because psychologically, us as humans, we resist change. You will always, always, always, always subconsciously resist change. And when you look at your subconscious, your subconscious is 95% of your thoughts and your patterns. And only 5% of what you do is your conscious mind. So 5, your entire conscious mind can want change and want something to be different. But that's only five percent of what's going on in your brain. Ninety five percent of you is going to resist it. And so the reason why is because change usually means a destruction of who you currently are. And that is a threat to the human mind because there's a lot of a lot of unknowns and unknowns or threats.

You know, you won't die from deciding to go on a weight loss journey. You won't die from deciding to get better and grow yourself more. You won't die from those things, but pieces of your old self have to die off. And that's when your ego starts to come in and tries to keep you in the exact same place. Your ego, this character that you believe that you are has to be destroyed because who you think you are is not who you are. It's not. It's just someone that's a character you have just woken up and just decided to play every single day. If you're somebody who has just been, you know, oh, I'm not really a happy person. Well, you've just decided to not be a happy person.

You know, you could decide to try to start finding more gratitude in your life and decide to dance in the shower and listen to music that you like and start being more talkative and be around people who make you happier. And naturally, you're going to start to come out of your shell more. You're going to start to be happier. And, you know, my favorite example of this, and I've also wrote about this in my book, is Jim Carrey in the movie, Jim and Andy. If you haven't seen it, I don't know how many times I've recommended it on the podcast. You have to watch it. It's a documentary about Jim Carrey playing Andy Kaufman. And he is a method actor. So, you know, I won't go too deep into it. You can read my book,

you can watch the movie, all that stuff. You can go much deeper into it. But basically, he's a method actor. He has to play a person who used to live. And as a method actor, he never breaks character. So he becomes this character. And he was so deep in it, so deep in this character psychologically, that at the end of the four months of shooting, he forgot who Jim Carrey was,

which sounds nuts, right? It sounds nuts to us to be like, how did Jim shooting, he forgot who Jim Carrey was, which sounds nuts, right? It sounds nuts to us to be like, how did Jim Carrey not remember who Jim Carrey was? Like, he didn't remember what his beliefs were. He didn't remember what he liked to do, what his hobbies were, any of that stuff. And then he has a quote in the movie where he says, I realized that if I can lose Jim Carrey, then Jim Carrey is just another character that I'm playing. Just like Dumb and Dumber, just like The Mask, just like anything else that he's played. And so when you look at who you are, your ego, your character is just who you have been deciding to play. And so the ego does not like for you to destroy that character because that's a threat. If you're not that character,

who are you? If I look at myself and I look at who I am now, I'm not the same person that I was five years ago. I'm not the same person was 10 years ago or 15 years ago. And when I look back to who I was 10 years ago, I would have loved, I've been on this, like this, this gratitude feeling recently where I've been trying to force gratitude. I guess you could say where I've been waking up and trying to be grateful and, and, uh, going outside and think about what I'm grateful for and, and meditating on gratitude. It's been working really, really well, but I keep thinking, man, myself 10 years ago would have absolutely been like, holy shit, this is a dream life that you currently have. And, and it's hard for us to, to be in the moment. Cause we always want more and more and more, and for us to be in the moment because we always want more and more and more and we want to be better,

but I keep thinking to myself, myself 10 years ago, myself back in 2012 when I was backpacking Europe by myself for three months and I was living off of savings and I was just trying to figure out a way to do something that I love to do, would have been like,

holy shit, dude, you have a dream life right now. And I think that to myself over and over again recently, but the person that I was in 2012 could not have the life that I currently have. There's aspects of myself that had to die off, that had to change, that had to grow, that had to evolve. And so I'm not the same person that I was five years ago or 10 years ago or 15 years ago. I've destroyed that person. And just like the seed, I had to destroy certain parts of myself. Not all of myself. There's a lot of myself that is the same or even better in certain aspects. But I had to identify certain aspects of myself that needed to change, that needed to die off. And through that, through that forest fire, I had to build a new version of

myself. You have to go on that same journey. There's parts of yourself that need to change. Life is about destroying the old version of yourself and making a new one. That's what self-development journey is really about, is realizing there's aspects of ourselves that we need to destroy in order to make way for the aspects of ourself that we want to strengthen or that we want to start or that we want to grow. It's like knocking down an old building and then building up a new building, right? And it's really, really hard because psychologically we're going to resist and we have to just understand that we're going to resist, right? Because it's our identity. Like who are we if we don't have our identity? That's what we think to our, I don't know. I don't know who I am. And if I don't know who I am, that's scary.

And this is really just the backbone of personal growth is that you have to lose yourself in order to find yourself. You have to get rid of the side of yourself that you don't want anymore, the pieces of yourself that you don't want anymore. You have to let go of who you think you are in order to build yourself into who you truly wanna become. You know, like there's a lot of people that are like,

oh, well, I just lazy, I'm lazy, I procrastinate. And when I think about before I discovered the first sales company that I was in, I was just a lazy piece of shit. I was lazy, didn't do anything. I was not motivated in any sort of way. And then I found an outlet that made me want to work hard. And then I learned how to work hard. I learned at that point in time, I was going up to 100 to 110 hours a

week. Starting from this lazy piece of shit to working 110 hours a week. Why? Because I found something that I truly wanted to do that I was passionate about. And so through this process, you might have to mourn the old version of yourself. Change is not easy. It's not. There's going to be a little bit of sadness of like, man, I missed that old version of myself. I missed that version. There's a You know, like I missed that verse. Like there's a part of me that really understands that ignorance is bliss. Because when I was ignorant to who I was, life was pretty easy. It wasn't satisfying.

It wasn't fulfilling. But before I went on a personal growth journey and started, before I started pushing myself and growing myself, it was just like, hey, this is not bad. I could do this. But then I was like, but I'm not fulfilled. This isn't who I want to be. And so there's a part of you that might mourn the old version of yourself because change isn't easy, but it is really necessary. And it's like Tony Robbins always says, progress equals happiness. Even if you don't create everything that you want to in your life, which probably you'll never get there. It's like, it's like, um, our goals are like the horizon. We're constantly pushing them a little bit further out and we'll never fully get to where we want to be most likely.

Cause if you're listening to this, you're probably an overachiever. And, but, but to know that you're progressing, to know that you're getting a little bit better, progress equals happiness. I've never seen someone who is in like real true progression and in learning and growing and becoming better that's unhappy because they're starting to see how they're changing and how they're getting better. They're starting to realize that they went from that seed to now they're starting to grow into a little bit of a flower. The version of you that is the flower is in the future. The version of you that has the stuff that you want and is happier or is more loving or that has the family that you want or has the success that you want or the business, the money, whatever it is that you might want in your future, that version of you is the

flower that's in the future. Right now, you might just be the seed. And so you have to start asking yourself, what aspects of myself need to change? If I want that life in the future, what do I have to destroy in myself? What do I have to change? How do I need to grow? Because a seed has to completely destroy itself

in order for it to become a flower. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Also, if you want 2024 to be the best year of your life, you're ready to grow, you're ready to change, and you want to challenge yourself,

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going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.