The Mindset Mentor - Delay Your Gratification

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset and Motivation podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. Today we're going to be diving into the unsexy truth to success. What do I mean

Starting point is 00:00:47 by the unsexy truth to success? This is what I mean by it. Something that's very simple. It's the difference between delayed gratification and instant gratification. Now, I understand with technology the way that it is, we are used to instant gratification. Humans have been used to instant gratification for, man, probably the last hundred years or so. But over the past 10 to 15 years, instant gratification has gotten so insane that we can know anything that we want to, we can get anything that we want to within minutes, within seconds sometimes. There used to be a time, I don't know if you guys are as old as I am, but I used to have to go to the library if I wanted to learn something about the world. So if I was sitting around with my friends and we were sitting there when I was

Starting point is 00:01:38 younger and I would say, man, look how far away the sun is. I wonder how far away the sun is. If nobody knew around me how far away the sun was, literally what we would have to do is we would have to get up, walk to the library, go to the library and see if we could find an encyclopedia that said how far the sun is from the earth. That used to be a thing. Now, if we were unlucky, we'd get to the library

Starting point is 00:02:09 and we would not be able to find the encyclopedia that had that information in it. Now, I can literally talk to my phone. I can say, literally pull up Google right now, hit the voice command button and say, hey Google, how far is the sun from the earth? And immediately it'll pop up and it'll say 93 million miles away. That's crazy. That information at our fingertips was not something that we had. Jeez, five years ago, 10 years ago,

Starting point is 00:02:40 15 years ago. If I want something delivered to my house, for instance, this mic that I'm using right now, this cord was not working earlier today. So what did I do? I went onto Amazon and found the cord that I wanted and said, I want it delivered to my house within the next two hours. Someone came to my house and delivered me the cord. If I want food, I can have food delivered to me. If I want groceries, I can have groceries delivered to me. All of these things are new. This is new technology that we can use. Now, why am I talking about these things? Well, because everything is instant now. And the more that we have instant gratification, the harder it is for us to be able to get used to delaying our gratification, delaying what it is that we need. Now, the secret to success, the unsexy secret to success

Starting point is 00:03:33 is that you will not get success right away. Most people don't get the success that they want within the first week, first couple of weeks, first month, three months, six months, year, they don't get the success they want. And what do they do? They give up on it and they give up on their goals. They give up on what it is that they want. And as Tony Robbins says, most people overestimate what they can do in one year, but they underestimate what they can do in a decade. So the people who are the most successful are the people that are okay with putting in in a decade. So the people who are the most successful are the people that are okay with putting in the work. They're the people that are okay with working a little bit longer and harder without seeing any success. Not only do they

Starting point is 00:04:16 not see success for a while, they see only failure for a while. They only fail and fail and fail and fail and fail. But in their head, they say, I believe so much in this that I'm going to keep pushing through. So if you want to be successful, you have to get past the instant gratification and realize that success is not going to come overnight. And you have to be okay with delayed gratification. You have to be okay with knowing that what it is that you want is not going to be here in the next month. It's not going to be here in the next three months.

Starting point is 00:04:53 It might not even be here in the next year. But if you believe in it so much, you will be okay with waiting for the goal to get to you. You'll be okay with waiting for the success to get to you. You'll be okay with waiting for the success to finally get to you. So the thing about success is it takes time to get there. Here's what's interesting as well. Sometimes failure also is delayed. And this is where it gets kind of tricky. There's a really good phrase that I tell people that gets them to understand this. I say that nobody eats a hamburger and has a heart attack right away. Nobody eats a hamburger and has a heart attack right away. What does that mean?

Starting point is 00:05:35 What it means is that if somebody has a heart attack because of all of the bad food and the ways that they didn't take care of themselves over the past 20 years, those little teeny tiny decisions or lack thereof is what ends up being their demise. But it's also the little teeny tiny decisions that get you to where you want to be to be successful. So if you want to create the life that you want, you're going to have to be okay with delayed gratification. What you're going to need to do is you're going to need to think about the thing that you want so badly that you're willing to give your life up for it. When you hear people like Will Smith talk, he says, if you get on the treadmill with me, two things are going to happen. Number one,

Starting point is 00:06:26 with me, two things are going to happen. Number one, you're going to get off the treadmill first, or number two, I'm going to die on that treadmill. What that means is that he's not going to give up until he hits his goal. You have to find the thing that you are so committed to, that you believe in so much that you're willing to give your life for it. And listen, I understand you're not going to find it right away. Sometimes a lot of you guys that are listening, you're out there and you're thinking, I don't really know what it is that I'm willing to give my life for. I don't know what my purpose is. I don't know what my purpose is. And that's okay. At this moment, you don't have to know exactly what it is. But if you have a little bit of a vague idea, that's all that you need. If you have a little bit of an idea of the direction that you're going in, that's okay. And I always like to think of it as getting in your car and driving. I live in Austin, Texas.

Starting point is 00:07:25 I'm in Austin right now. Let's say I want to go to Houston and go visit my friend Mike in Houston. My friend Mike and Kim live in Houston. I want to go visit them. What I would do, I would get into my car. I would put their address in my GPS and I would allow my GPS to take me there. Now, will there be roadblocks along the way? There might be. Will there be detours along the way? There might be. Could things happen?

Starting point is 00:07:53 Could rain come? Could a crash happen? All of these things could happen. I don't know the entire journey of how I'm going to get to their house in Houston. But what I do know is that I'm going to get to their house in Houston. And that's all that I need to know. I know where I am. I have a pretty good idea of where I'm going. I don't need to know the entire journey. All I need to know is just the next step that I need to take. On one of my previous podcasts recently, I said the famous quote, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. You don't need to know what the next thousand miles look like. You don't even need to know what the next mile looks like. What you need to worry about is the step that you're about to take right now.

Starting point is 00:08:45 So if you're going to be successful, you're going to have to be okay with delayed gratification. You're going to have to be okay with not getting what you want to right now. You're going to have to be okay with pushing yourself even when you don't believe in yourself. One of the best parts about belief and success and the relationship between the two of them is that you don't have to believe in yourself in order to create action. Let me say that again because this is very important. action. Let me say that again, because this is very important. Most people don't believe in themselves, but I'm here to tell you that's okay. You don't have to believe in yourself in order to take action. If I want to make a hundred thousand dollars this year, and I've never made a hundred thousand dollars. If you're out there and you want to make a hundred thousand

Starting point is 00:09:42 dollars this year, and you've never made a hundred thousand dollars, you don't even have to believe that you can make a hundred thousand dollars. You just need to figure out where you're going. You know, you know where you are, you know where you're going. So you're at, let's say you made $50,000 last year. Okay. You know where you are. You know, your goal is a hundred thousand dollars. You don't know the entire journey to get there, but you make a plan to figure out how to get there. So let's say you're in sales and you want to make $100,000 this year. You think to yourself, okay, I'm in sales. I want to make $100,000 this year. I know how many sales I need to get there. I know what my average order is. I know how many phone calls I need to make, or I know how many appointments I need to have in order to make this a hundred thousand dollars. I don't need to focus

Starting point is 00:10:28 on the entire route to get there. All I need to do, let's say that you need to make, you do the math and you need to make a hundred phone calls every day in order to make a hundred thousand dollars. I don't have to believe in myself in order to make a hundred thousand dollars, right? All I have to do is to create the action. If you know that $100,000 equals 100 phone calls a day, all you have to do is pick up your phone and make those phone calls every single day. And eventually, you will get to where you need to be. We live in a world of instant gratification. You have to be okay with not getting your

Starting point is 00:11:07 gratification right away. Instant gratification is amazing with technology. We live in an incredible world where incredible things happen and we at our fingertips can absolutely change the world and make the world what we want it to be. But to get success, it takes delayed gratification. If I want to transform my body, if I want to lose weight, I'm not going to go to the gym one time and lose 20 pounds. But if I go to the gym every day or five times a week for the next six months, I might lose that 20 pounds. We know that you're not going to go to the gym and lose 20 pounds in the next day. So why do we think that we're going to work for one month at our goal and be there? We're not going to be. We have to be okay with the process. We have to be okay with the journey. We have to know that we're going to

Starting point is 00:12:05 get there eventually, that there's going to be roadblocks, that there's going to be detours, that we have to know that we want to get to that destination and we will do anything that we possibly can to get there. So the key to it is to think to yourself, what do I want? And can I develop a plan to get there? And when the failures come, because I'll tell you what, the failures will come. You will have more failures than successes in your life. But if you continue to push through, you continue to believe in yourself. Screw that. Don't believe in yourself. You continue to work at the plan. You will eventually be there. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode,

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The Mindset Mentor - Delay Your Gratification

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