The Mindset Mentor - Designing Your Life for Success

Episode Date: January 15, 2020

So you want your perfect life huh? Does your environment support that vision? It's important to look at your internal and external environments to see if they support you in the life that you want or if they hold you back. In this episode, I will teach you how to design your life to help support you on your journey to success.Follow me on Instagram @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. Today, we're going to be talking about how to design your perfect environment, how to design your life for success. And so I'm going to be talking about two separate things. I'm going to be talking about your internal environment, and I'm also going to be talking about your external environment. Now, I realize when most people think about designing your life for success, designing your environment, most people are going to think about the external environment, but we're going to be talking about both of them. So the first one I

want to dive into is the one that you probably didn't think of, which is your internal environment. Okay. And there's many aspects to the internal environment that I want to talk about, but if we're trying to get to a place of success, we got to think about the vehicle that we're taking there, the body. So we have the body, but then we also have the environment of everything else in the external world. And so the first thing we're going to talk about is the body, right? We're going to talk about the mindset behind everything. So if we're talking about the internal environment, first off is the mindset. And the first thing that pops into my head is the way that you talk to yourself. You know, would you say that if you're trying to

design your perfect life, that the way that you talk to yourself is conducive to get you to where you want to go. So what kind of conversations are you having with yourself? Are you having conversations like you're stupid, you're fat, you never do anything right? Why do you always screw up relationships? Why do you do this? You'll never get to where you want to go. Or do you have, you have conversations with yourself like, Hey, you know, I know you can do it. Hey, you failed, but you're going to get back up. You're going to keep going, hey, I know you can do it. Hey, you failed, but you're going to get back up. You're going to keep going. Hey, I know that you're smart enough. I know that you're pretty enough. I know that you have a good enough body. I know that whatever it is,

I know that you're going to improve. I know you're going to work at your body more. I know that you're going to work at getting better with your diet and pushing yourself and with your mindset and all of that stuff. What type of things are you actually saying to yourself inside of your head? And the question I always ask people is, would you talk to somebody that you love the way that you talk to yourself? And that one is usually the one question that makes people realize that they have an issue, if they have an issue, that they do with the way they talk to themselves. So under mindset, you got to think about the way that you talk to yourself. Also under mindset, let's think about what you're reading. How often are you reading? Do you know that you should read more? Should you read different things? Because should you not read Facebook statuses and Instagram posts? And should you start reading more books? How many books did

you read last year? How many books do you want to read this year? What are you going to do to make sure that you stay on track with reading whatever it is, a book a month, 12 books over the course of the year? What are you reading? What are you feeding your mind? The way that you're talking to yourself is feeding your mind. But what are you also putting into your mind? What are you reading?

What are you watching? Do you spend the majority of your time watching reality TV? Housewives or whatever the hell next to the place they are, you know, real spend majority of your time watching reality TV housewives or whatever the hell next to the place they are, you know, real housewives of whatever, uh, all of the places that there are now, what are you watching? Are you watching, uh, motivational stuff? Are you going onto YouTube and typing in motivational? Are you watching motivational movies?

Are you watching movies where they're constantly shooting each other up and killing each other? They're talking bad to each other. They're treating each other bad or they constantly shooting each other up and killing each other? They're talking bad to each other. They're treating each other bad or beating each other up. Also into that, do you play video games that's just all killing? Do you play video games where it's just blood and guts and all of that? You have to think about these things because every single bit of information that goes into your brain brainwashes you in some sort of way. Is your mindset, the way you talk to yourself, what you're reading, what you're watching conducive to get you from where you are right now to where you want to go? Okay. Next thing, what are you listening to? What type of

music are you listening to? This is big for me because I didn't realize, you know, I listened to all types of music and then I thought, oh my God, some of the music I listened to actually doesn't say good stuff about people. Some of these rap songs actually say some pretty crappy stuff. You know, so I can go and I can listen to motivational podcasts and I can listen to, you know, go to, go to conferences, but then I'm listening to this music and I'm like, wait, that's not the way that people should be treating each other. And you start thinking, what are you listening to? Are you listening to, you know, music where they're talking about treating each other like trash or shooting

each other up or drugs or hookers or sex and treating women badly? What is it that you're listening to? I feel like an old person talking about this because I'm like, all of this music that you're listening to is bad for you. But it's really something that you need to consider because saying something out loud in a musical sense is basically an affirmation out loud, but with a little bit of a tune. So you're affirming out loud the world that you want. Are you listening to the music and singing the music out loud that is affirming the reality that you want? What are you listening to? Are you listening to that type of music? Are you listening

to pause music? Are you listening to podcasts? Are you turning on the YouTube? Whenever you're, you know, when I make breakfast, I like to turn on YouTube and listen to whatever's on there. You know, I like to listen to Ram Dass. I like to listen to Alan Watts. I like to listen to Wayne Dyer. I like to listen to Tony Robbins. I like to listen to Gary Vee. I listen to all these different people whenever I'm sitting there and making my breakfast in the morning versus just listening to music, right? So what are you listening to? Who do you follow on Instagram? Are you following people that are just reality TV shows, getting into fights, beating each other up, treating each other like

trash? Who do you follow on Instagram? Are you following people on Instagram that make you feel worse about yourself or make you feel better about yourself? Think about these things. So you have your internal environment, your mindset, the way you talk to yourself, what books you're reading, what else you're reading, magazines that you might be reading. What are you watching? What games are you playing? What are you listening to? Who do you follow on Instagram? What type of podcast do you listen to? What books are you into? So that's the next thing. That's the first thing. The next thing is, is what are you feeding your body in your internal environment? What are you feeding your body?

What type of food? Is it a lot of meat? It's really heavy. Is it greasy? Is it a lot of dairy? A lot of cheese is a lot of gluten. What are you putting into your body? Do you drink a good amount of alcohol? You know, I, what I like to call alcohol is just flavored poison. And I, and I was in the car not too long ago. And I always thought that people, you know, I guess I kind of look at the world differently, but I was in the car with my girlfriend and we were driving down in Austin and it was a Friday night. People were going out and they're about to go party. And, you know, I've done quite a bit of my fair share of partying. I've drank way more alcohol than, you know, the average human should. I've gone down that road before. And I came to the realization that how weird it would be if an alien landed on earth and they were here, they were invisible and they just watched what

we did. And they noticed that every few days and every single time that they got to humans, got together to make it less awkward or whatever it is they might be, they get together and they drink flavored poison because that's all alcohol is. It's flavored poison. It really is because if you drink too much of it, guess what happens? You die. Therefore, it's poison.

You're just drinking it in a low level. And so you have to think about that. The alcohol, I'm not saying you have to completely give up drinking, but maybe be more mindful of the fact that when you drink alcohol, it stays in your body up to 80 hours. That's over three days. It stays in your body. So you're having residual slowdown of your mind in your body three days after you're drinking this alcohol. Something to think about. What about cigarettes? Do you smoke cigarettes? Do you vape? Do you drink a lot of soda? Do you drink a lot of water? What are you feeding yourself? So you got to think about the internal environment, the mindset behind it, but then also the food that you're eating, the stuff that you're drinking,

the alcohol, the cigarettes, the grease, the gluten, the dairy. And just so you know, I am in no sort of way, any perfect human, but I'll just tell you, cause a lot of people are going to be curious what my diet looks like and kind of the stuff that I like to have. Um, I don't have any gluten at all. Uh, and there's a lot of reasons behind it. Don't, I could do multiple entire episodes on the whole thing. I don't have any gluten. I don't have any dairy. I have very, very little meat. I don't drink any sodas. I drink a ton of water. Uh, have no alcohol in very little wine. I don't drink any sodas. I drink a ton of water. I have no alcohol and very little wine. I'm in the middle of the Ironman 60. So literally no alcohol, no wine, none of that stuff at this point. So it's a lot of water. It's a lot of, I don't eat anything that

didn't used to be alive. I'll put it that way. You know, so very little meat, but then greens, you know, there's all the different types of greens. There's beans. There's everything that you could think of. If you want to Google on how to be a vegan or vegetarian, you can go and check that out. But that's kind of what mine looks like. If it wasn't alive at some point in time, I don't eat it. And I try to eat very, very little animal products and then no gluten and no dairy as well. So that's kind of what mine looks like because I have this body that I want to run as efficiently as I possibly can because I know what my life's mission is.

And if my body and my mind are not running at optimal levels, then I'm not going to be able to achieve the greatness that I know that I can. So that's the way that I think about my internal environment. You know, if you want to perform at a high level, your body needs to be running at a high level. If you don't have great energy levels, well, maybe you should start thinking about what you're putting into your body. Your body's like a Ferrari. You know, Ferrari needs to have the highest quality gas that you could put in it. But if you're putting crappy food inside of your body and you're not talking to yourself the right way and you're not reading the right things and you're not paying attention to what you watch, what you listen to, and you're

watching too much reality TV and you're drinking too much alcohol and you're smoking too much. It's like having a Ferrari and then putting diesel in a tank. It's not going to run near as efficient as it possibly could. So you have to think about those types of things. You're not going to achieve the greatness that you can if your body and your mind cannot get you there. It's your vehicle. So that's your internal environment. Let's talk about your external environment, right? So what does your home look like? You don't have to be the cleanest person in the world, but is it there's some organization to it? Is there crap all over the place? What does your car look like? What does your work environment look like? What about the

people that you surround yourself with? Are they negative? Do they talk down to you? Whenever you have goals and you tell them your goals, do they bash your goals and tell you that you can't do that and it's impossible? And no one from this part of town has ever done anything like that before. And if you look at your whole family, they've never done anything. So there's a reason why you can't do this because they've never done it. Are they talking down to you whenever you share your dreams? Surrounding yourself with negative people is like having that Ferrari and then trying to drive it in the mud.

They're slowing you down. The internal could be good. You could be working on your mindset. You could be trying to grow. You could be working on your body. You could be going to the gym. You could be doing everything that you need to. And you're working on that Ferrari.

That Ferrari, you put in the right gas, all of that, but then you're not paying attention to your external environment, the people that you surround yourself with, the way that you're taking care of your house, and your car, and your work. You're not paying attention to the external environment, so you're basically driving your Ferrari in mud and wondering why it won't go 200 miles an hour like it's supposed to. Well, because you're not paying attention to the external environment. Look at your house, your car, your work, all of the environment that you surround yourself with. Is it set up for your success? Is it set up to help you be successful? What I mean by that is being very intentional with your goals. For instance, I'll give you an

idea of having a goal and how your external environment can help that. Let's say that you want to wake up early in the morning and you want to go directly to the gym. How can you make it as easy as possible for that to happen? How can you set up your external environment for that to happen? Well, number one, you can take your phone and you can put it across the room so that when it goes off, you have to get up out of the bed to turn it off. And right next to your phone, you can have your gym clothes folded, ready to go. You got your t-shirt, you got your shorts, you got your underwear, you got your socks, you got your shoes. All you got to do, you don't even have to think. You don't have to go into the closet, figure out what it is that you need to do. You can just go straight to your stuff, turn your phone off, and immediately put

your clothes on. Hell, and if you want to make it even easier, wear your gym clothes to bed. So all you have to do is literally get up, turn your alarm off, go to the bathroom, chug some water, walk out the door. How can you make your external environment support your success, your road to success? Is your external environment set up to help you be successful? If you have negative people that are around you in this external environment, you don't have to get rid of them. You know, a lot of people say, well, you know, my mom's really negative. My brother's really negative. My father is. I can't get rid of them. You don't have to get rid of anybody, but you can spend less time with somebody. If they call, you can say, Hey, I'm busy. Can I, you know, send me a text what's going on.

And if you're spending less time with some of these people and you're changing your external environment, you can now replace them with people that you want to hang out with. So what is the perfect friend look like? What is the perfect person that's going to be your mentor that'll support you? That'll say, hey, what are your goals? Your goals are this. That's amazing. Can I hold you accountable to them? Can I push you to them? Can I follow up? Hey, how about we have a meeting every single Monday at a coffee shop at 8 a.m. and we go over our goals. We go over how the last week was. How much easier would it be if you had somebody like that trying to help you be successful? how much easier would it be if you had somebody like that trying to help you be successful?

So when you're looking at your internal and external environment, you look at your goals because people are like, okay, it's 2020. I know my goals. I want to go off and I want to do this for the year. And I want to have this big year and I want to be successful and I want to have a great year. But then you realize that your internal environment, external environment are not supporting your road to success. So how can you be as, and here's the key word, how can you be as intentional as possible in planning out all areas of your life to help you be more successful? If you're trying to get the best body that you possibly can, but you know you have a problem with eating too much sugar, me, right? If I have a little bit of sugar, it's like crack. My brain turns on. I'm like, oh my God, I want to have all of it. But if I don't have any of it,

I'm not really like a crackhead for it. So if I don't have any sugar inside of the house, any Skittles or any of those types of things, then I'm not really craving it and I'm not going to go off the deep end. And so I'm trying to support, have my internal and external environment support my road to success. And so that's what I want you to think about. Take your pen and paper out and write down, what does my internal environment look like? How do I talk to myself? What am I reading? What am I watching? What am I listening to? Am I watching reality TV? Who am I following on Instagram? Am I listening to the right podcast, reading the right books? What am I feeding my body?

And what about alcohol? What about food? What about meat, grease, gluten, dairy? Am I smoking cigarettes? Am I drinking too much soda? Am I not drinking enough water? You start thinking about those things. You think about your external environment. How can I set up my home, my car, my work to set myself up for success? How can I get rid of the negative people and spend less time with them?

How can I get the people that are going to support me on my road to success and help me along the way and bring them into my life and help them mentor me and help them hold me accountable to my goals. That is what living your life with intention looks like. So get out a pen and paper and start planning it out and think these are my goals for the year. How can I have my internal and external environment support that? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone you know and love. I have absolutely loved you guys sharing these on Instagram. So once again, you know, over the past couple of days, we've had a couple hundred people that have shared this podcast on Instagram. They've taken screenshots, they've put it on their Instagram stories and then tagged me in it. It's if you want to tag me in it, it's Rob

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