The Mindset Mentor - Destroy Your Comfort Zone

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Starting point is 00:01:00 going forwards, you're going backwards. You're not staying in the same place. If you're not going forwards, you're going backwards. You're not staying in the same place. If you're not going forwards, you're not staying in the same place. You're actually going backwards. One of the things that my first mentor used to tell me is you're either green and growing or you're brown and dying. There is no staying in the same place. So what I want you to take from this episode as we continue to go into it is you need to keep moving forward

Starting point is 00:01:26 because if you're not moving forward, you're going backwards. If you're thinking, oh, I'm just in the same place that I've been for a year or two years or three years. No, no, no, no, no. You're going backwards. Let me give you an example. I'll just give you a quick example. If you've been making 50,000 a year for the past five years, you might think, well, I'm in the same place. But you're actually not. And the reason why is because of inflation, you're actually, even though it still says $50,000,

Starting point is 00:01:55 your $50,000 is worth less today than it was five years ago. So you're going backwards. And if you're at the same job, most jobs give you a raise that is lower than the inflation rate is. So even if you're at the same job and getting small raises throughout the course of each year, you're actually usually going backwards. And people don't usually talk about this.

Starting point is 00:02:19 They usually just talk about going forward and going forward. I want to talk about how stagnation and staying in the same place is actually going forward. I want to talk about how stagnation and staying in the same place is actually going backwards. Why? Because the world is changing so quickly. If you're not moving forwards, you're heading backwards. And this is, think of it this way. I'm a super, super visual person. I see everything in my head before it actually comes out of my mouth. I visualize everything. And so think of it this way. Think of yourself as a tiny stream. Okay. Think of it, visualize it. See yourself as this tiny stream. It's not a river. It's not a creek. It's a tiny stream that's just moving, just slowly going. And that's great. You want to keep that stream going. But if I were to dam up your stream

Starting point is 00:03:02 completely, so it's completely stopped, there's no more water flowing through the other side. If I dam it up completely, does it stay the same? No, of course not. What happens? Well, it becomes stagnant water. And what happens to stagnant water? Well, you know, a couple things can happen.

Starting point is 00:03:23 It could evaporate, possibly, if it gets too hot, it doesn't rain. It could evaporate and it's gone. It's gone forever. It's not going to come back. Or what happens to stagnant water sometimes? Well, when I think of the word stagnant, and this is why I never want to stay in the same places, because I think of that word stagnant. And the word stagnant, once again, it makes a visual in my head. The way I see stagnant water is it gets overtaken by bacteria. Mold starts to grow. The bacteria, the mold starts to grow, starts to get all gross, starts to smell. Mosquitoes start to take it over. It's not the same water as it was. when it's the stream and it's moving. Even if it's moving at a very slow pace, it's still a stream, but when it's damned up, it changes and it changes very, very quickly.

Starting point is 00:04:14 So think of yourself as a stream. How long has your stream been damned up? How long has your stream been damned up? Is it six months, a year, two years, five years, 10 years? How long have you been comfortable? And if you're comfortable and you want to stay there, that's fine. But I know that the people who listen to my podcast aren't the people who want to stay in their comfort zones because your comfort zone kills your ambition in this life. Your comfort zone kills your ambition. So where will you be if another year goes by and nothing changes? Where will you be if you're in, what will you think of yourself if you're in the exact same position next year as you are right now? If December 31st, 2020 comes around and you're in the exact same position, what are you going

Starting point is 00:05:19 to think of yourself? And I'm not saying this to try to make you feel bad. I'm saying this because somebody needs to say it. Somebody needs to put the spotlight on, hey, hey, it's time to make some changes. It's time to get it together. It's time to stop being comfortable. It's time to push yourself consistently for a while to start to make changes in your life because your life will not change unless you change. You know that, right? It's time to stop blaming other people. It's time to stop making excuses. It's time to stop saying, well, my parents didn't love me. It's time to stop saying,

Starting point is 00:05:55 oh yeah, but this president did this and the government's doing this to me and my boss is an asshole and all of these things. It's time to stop saying that because all of that, all of it is BS and you know it is. So how long have you been comfortable and what will you do? What will you feel like? What will you think of yourself? What will your family think of you if another year goes by and nothing changes? What are you missing out on in this life? One thing that we always think of is like, oh, there's that dream life that I want, but yeah, you know, maybe, maybe I won't get it. It's okay. I probably, I probably don't need that dream life anyways. But what are you missing out on? I'm not saying you need to have a massive house, mansion and Ferraris and Lamborghinis and

Starting point is 00:06:46 Rolexes and traveling around the world. But what are you missing out on by not living your true life, your true self? Do you have children? What is your family missing out on? Here's the thing. People always say, well, you know what? I got to work. I can't, I can't follow my dream because I have children. Really? That's a cop out. And the reason why is because you weren't following your dream most likely before children. So you can't blame it on them. It's not their fault that they were brought into this world. But you know what would be worse? Because every time I meet someone who has a child, the first thing they think about is their child, of course. Love it. Incredible.

Starting point is 00:07:28 So selfless. But you can't say that the reason why you're staying at your job that you hate or doing what you don't want to do is because you're trying to put food on the table. Because here's the one thing that I do know. If you followed your dream, you'd still figure out a way to put food on the table. But wouldn't you rather raise children that watch their mother or their father follow their dreams and do something that makes them truly happy and come alive inside? Because here's one thing that I do know is if you hate what

Starting point is 00:07:57 you're doing and you hate where your life currently is, you're not going to be the best parents you possibly can be. And your children are going to follow in your footsteps. So if you say you want to just feed your children and just make sure that you support them and put food on the table, that's a beautiful thing, but they're going to follow in your footsteps. So if you don't like where you currently are, guess what? There's a good chance that your children are going to grow up and not like where they are. that your children are going to grow up and not like where they are. That's just the way that the world goes. Most of the time we end up a lot like our parents. There's so many times that I do something or I say something, I'm like, oh my God, that's like exactly what my mom would do. That's

Starting point is 00:08:37 exactly what my mom would say, right? Like I have a, I have a strong disdain towards, towards authority and not giving a damn about it. And then I look at my mom and I go hang out with her when I go back home and I'm like, oh, well, that's where it came from. She's the same way. She didn't care anything about authority, what people think of her, any of those things.

Starting point is 00:08:57 I'm like, oh, that's where I got it from. Okay, now I get it. But what is your family missing out on? What are your children missing out on if you don't live to your true potential? What are your family missing out on? What are your children missing out on if you don't live to your true potential? What are your children missing out on? Are they missing out on some travels? Are they missing out on you having more money so that therefore you can have a better education?

Starting point is 00:09:17 Because here's the thing that a lot of people don't realize. They think, oh my gosh, well, if I were to follow my dreams, I would make a whole lot less money and I would be poor. And then my children want to get the education they want. But here's what normally happens. You make less money for a year or two. And then what happens? You're three, four, and five. Your money spikes massively. And the reason why is because you're doing something that you're passionate about. When you're passionate about doing something, you put more passionate work into it. So if you made more money, would your children have a better education?

Starting point is 00:09:46 Would you be able to put them in a better college? Would they be able to follow their dreams? Here's the thing. You don't have to move fast. You don't have to be in a hurry, but you need to keep moving. You need to keep going. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, but are you still sitting on the lazy boy and not taking that step? Because comfort kills ambition. And you know what kills comfort? Movement. Movement. Just a tiny break in that dam is what kills the comfort. Just a little bit of movement. Getting up and saying, I don't know, I just got to put one foot in front of the other.

Starting point is 00:10:31 Just a little bit of movement in the right direction. You don't need to see the whole path of where you're going. You just need to start taking the first step. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, I'm going to go ahead and say this. Share it with someone that you know and love. There's someone out there that needs to hear this that you know.

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The Mindset Mentor - Destroy Your Comfort Zone

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