The Mindset Mentor - Do It... Just Do It

Episode Date: November 27, 2019

Do you follow through? Do you do what you say you're going to do? If not, this episode is tailor made for you! This episode will teach you why it is so important to follow through for those around you and for yourself!Follow me on Instagram @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/Get up to 50% off Holiday Cards at VistaPrint.com promo code Dial50 https://www.vistaprint.com/ Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode if you have not yet done so hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode and last but not least for those of you guys that have been emailing me asking me a lot of you guys have we are bringing back the iron mind 60 challenge it will be starting January 1st which means on January 1st we're going to be having the iron mind 60 challenge over the Iron Mind 60 challenge. It will be starting January 1st, which means on January 1st, we're going to be having the Iron Mind 60 challenge over the course of 60 days. Myself and everybody in this group that we join in, we're going to be hitting the six pillars that we hit every single day to kick our 2020 off correctly, to have the best year that we possibly can. I will give you more details on it on Friday's episode, the next episode. But if you're somebody who wants to join in on the waitlist and be able to get notified when the Black Friday special comes out, we're going to have a Black Friday special. Go to coachwithrob.com right now. Pull out your phone, go to coachwithrob.com,

sign up for the wait list, and we will email you as soon as the Black Friday special for the Iron Mind 60 Challenge comes out. I'm not going to tell you what it is today. I will tell you what it is on the next episode, but I promise you, you will definitely want to be a part of it. So today what we're going to be talking about is following through. I had a long conversation today with one of my coaching clients. And one of the things that we talked about most extensively was following through and holding yourself accountable to what you say you are going to do. I remember when I had my office, I had trained over 2000 sales reps by the time that I turned 23. And the thing that I really, really wanted to

instill in my sales reps was the power of holding yourself accountable. And when you walked out of my bullpen, we called it, it was a big, huge training room. We had a giant sign that said, follow through that you had to walk under and following through is to follow through for other people, to be there for other people, to do what you say you're going to do with other people, but also for yourself. You know, this goes back to being on time, doing what you say you will do, not backing out of plans that you've made with other people. You know, I always like to tell people, don't confirm yourself to something before you're 100% sure. Like I'm terrible at text messages and I'm terrible at emails because I get a lot of text messages of people saying, Hey, can you come to this? Can you come to this?

And the thing is, I don't answer that. I don't say yes or no. I always give somebody a maybe. I always say maybe because maybe is better than a yes that turns into a no. Too often, we feel like if we say no, we're letting somebody down. So we say yes. And what happens is then we realize that that yes didn't work out the way that we wanted it to. And we now have to turn it into a no. So do not be afraid to say maybe because there's nothing worse than somebody who continually over and over and over and over and over again cancels their plans. You know that you have a friend that cancels on you all of the time. And think about this. They pop into your head immediately, don't they? Now, let me ask you this. Do you want to be known as that as well?

Do you want to be known as a person that doesn't follow through? No, of course not. Nobody does. Nobody wants to be known as a person that they can't rely on. So when you say yes all of the time and keep canceling, you start to break people's trust. And we all know how hard it is to build back trust after it's been broken. You know, people will stop asking you or counting on you and they'll find

someone else. Things happen. I understand. Sometimes things change and they have to be rescheduled. And you know, I realize that happens, but you have to realize that how important your word actually is. If it happens over and over and over again, then it's something that you need to work on, right? People want to hang out with people who they can be around and they can put their trust into and who they know will show up and be there for them. Because ultimately we have friends for the good times, but we also have friends because we need people that are there for the bad times that we can rely on, that we can trust. And that's the reason why we truly want to be around people who are loyal and we can trust, right? That's the thing that you have to realize is you have to know that you need

to be there when you say you're going to be there. Another thing is don't be late. Don't be late, man. One of the things I have a friend, I can think off the top of my head, he's late to every single thing that we do by 15 to 30 minutes. And everybody knows him as that guy. I would not want to be known as a person who's always late. Would you want to be known as a person who's always late? The thing about it, just plan to leave as if traffic is always horrible. Be there on time. Be there early. Showing up late is one of the biggest punches in the face to some people because time is a non-renewable resource. Money is a renewable resource and you can always make more, but time is non-renewable. I would

rather have someone steal my money from me than to steal my time because I can always make my money back, but I can never make my time back. Right? If showing up on time makes you reliable, what does showing up late make you? Think about it. Unreliable. Do you want to be known as unreliable? People don't normally think of it this way. It boils down to three things. Three things is what it boils down to. Integrity is one of them. Integrity, reliability, and respect. Integrity. People want to be around others with integrity. The ones that they know will be honest and the ones that have the right morals. People want to be treated well. Saying you will be somewhere at a certain time and then not showing up at that time or backing out shows lack of integrity. People don't want

to be around people that don't have integrity. The next thing is reliability. People want to surround themselves with people who are reliable because ultimately, like I said, we want to surround themselves with people who are reliable because ultimately we, like I said, we want to be around our friends when friends, you know, there's good times and there's good times and we're having fun. But ultimately we know that sometimes we're going to need a friend. Are you going to call your friend that's late all the time? Are you going to call your friend that's non-reliable to you? No, of course not. You're going to call the ones that's reliable. So we want to have trust in someone that's loyal and someone that will be there in someone that is reliable. No one wants

to be known as unreliable. So be there on time, do what you say you're going to do. And then number three, last but not least is respect. People want to be respected. People want friends that will show up and actually, when they say, this is my word, they take it as that. Not someone that shows up late all the time. Showing up late is a lack of respect for somebody. And once someone starts to lose respect for you, it's hard to gain it back. It's like a glass ball that's dropped over and over and over again. It will continue to chip each time. And once you disrespect someone, their trust can never be the same. Now, when I had this conversation with my client, we talked about this and he said, you know what? And here's what I said. I said, either you're not showing up and following through for someone else, or you're not showing up and following through for yourself.

And he goes, oh damn. Yeah, that's me. I was like, tell me more about it. He said, I show up all the time for other people, but I don't show up for myself. And this is the most common form that I come across is that people don't show up for themselves. Right? Think about that. The most important relationship that you have is not the relationship that you have with your spouse, is not the relationship that you have with your children, is not the relationship that you have with your best friend or your parents or your brother or sister, cousins. The best relationship, the number one relationship that you have is the relationship that you have with

yourself. And most people don't think about that. So they'll show up on time. They'll follow through for all of their friends, but they won't follow through on the goals that they set for themselves. Because ultimately, here's what most people do. I've coached thousands of people over the years. And what I found is that the average person, so if you're, if you feel like you're this type of person that I'm about to say, you could join the club because pretty much everyone's in this. And this is what they do. They get really excited when they start doing something, right? They set their goal. They make a plan. They think about how amazing it's going to be to hit that goal. They get all excited about it. They get fired up about it. Day one comes, hell yeah, I'm going to work my

fricking tail off. And they're all excited about it. They're like, you it. Day one comes. Hell yeah. I'm going to work my fricking tail off. And they're all excited about it. They're like, you know what? Today's a new day. It's a new me. We're going to go out and we're going to do it. And then they go out and they crush that day. Then they wake up the next day and they're like, you know what? Still going strong. Crushed yesterday. Going to go ahead and crush today. And they go through and they crush today. And then four or five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10 days later, they start to fall off. They're not as excited. Things aren't as fresh as they were before. And they start to slowly but surely fall off, right? They set their goals and then they slowly but surely start to forget their goals, start to go away from their goals, stop paying attention to their goals. And if you're one of these people, you have to realize that if you can, if you like literally

always make a goal and then not follow through on hitting your goal, it's like breaking your friend's loyalty, breaking your friend's trust. But you're breaking the trust that you have with yourself. the trust that you have with yourself. And that is what ultimately leads to low self-respect, low self-worth, self-hatred, or AKA lack of self-love. What you're doing ultimately is you're breaking your own trust. So if you feel like, oh man, I don't feel like I trust myself to do this. I don't feel like I trust myself to hit those goals. I so badly want to make $100,000 this year, but I don't know if I can do it. And the reason why is because your self-worth is so low because all you're doing is breaking trust with yourself. You're breaking trust with yourself.

you're breaking trust with yourself. The most important relationship that you have is the relationship with your own self, with the voice that's inside of your head. So next time you sit down and you make this goal and you make this plan and you get all excited about it, you have to ask yourself, what's going to happen? How am I going to feel about myself if I don't follow through? And put yourself through that. Put yourself into the future and go, oh my God, I would feel terrible. And don't let that demotivate you. We're going, oh, well, I'm not even going to start because I don't want to let myself down. Let it motivate you to stick to your guns every single day and say, you know what? I did sign up for 60 days. I did sign up to do these six pillars every single day for the next 60 days. I am going to freaking do it.

And the reason why is because I love myself enough to follow through on everything that I say I'm going to do for myself. I love myself enough that I am going to do what I say I'm going to do for myself. Even if I tell nobody else in the world, if my goal is to do this over the next 60 days or 30 days or whatever it is for you, that you are going to freaking show up, that you're going to stop hitting your snooze, that you're going to stop making excuses why you shouldn't go to the gym, that you're going to stop eating hamburgers when you know you should be eating a salad, that you're going to stop treating people the way that you said you didn't want to treat them, that you're going to show up the way that you want to show up because you need to follow through for yourself more than you need to follow

through for everyone else around you. And why? Because you've heard me say it before. You've heard me say it before. You've heard me say it before. The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. And if you're not following through for yourself, I guarantee that you are not following through for those around you. And do you want your spouse to think of you as a person that doesn't follow through? Do you want your children to think of you as a person that doesn't follow through? Do you want your friends to think of you as someone that doesn't follow through? Do you want your family to think of you as someone doesn't follow through? No, but it starts internal, not external. Because the most important relationship that you'll ever

have is the relationship that you have with yourself. And if you're not following through with yourself, you're breaking your trust every freaking time. So follow through on what you say you're going to do. Whenever you do set a goal, if it's a goal or say a new year's resolution, figure out what your new year's resolutions are and set those freaking goals high. Don't set them low because you don't want to not follow through, set them high and then show up every damn day to hit that goal. Because ultimately what matters is following through with yourself first and then following through with those around you. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you liked this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. And once again, if you want

to sign up and join the wait list for the Black Friday special that's about to come out for the Iron Mind 60 Challenge, all you have to do is just go to coachwithrob.com. Last time we did the Ironman 60 challenge, guys, we had 750 people sign up for that damn thing. And people crushed it. People lost 20 pounds and 30 pounds and 40 pounds, and they changed their life. And some people had some very, very traumatic things happen around that time. And they followed through and they saw that their life was completely different at the end. So if you are ready to change your life starting January 1st, and you want to go ahead and get yourself a Black Friday special, sign up for the waitlist, go to coachwithrob.com. I can't wait to

make the announcement to you guys, because not only is the announcement on the Black Friday special going to be exciting, but there is going to be a grand prize that is going to be exciting. And people are going to be able to win cash inside of the Ironman 60 Challenge as well, which has never been done before. So it's going to be fun. So go to coachwithrob.com. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.