The Mindset Mentor - Do You Believe That You're Enough?

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dillon. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you live in the United States or Canada and you want to receive motivational text messages from me, text me right now, 1-512-580-9305. Once again, 1-512-580-9305. Today, we're going to talk about one of the things that I see that kills most people's dreams and holds them back from the life that they could get. So, today we're going to talk about this thing that's holding you back.

Starting point is 00:00:42 It could be the thing that holds you back from the life that you want, from building the business that you want, from getting the relationship that you want, from making the millions of dollars that you could make, and most importantly, from really making an impact on the world in living up to your true potential. It's the most common thing that I see among people that holds themselves back. That's what I see, that hold themselves back. This is really what comes up the most. And really what

Starting point is 00:01:11 it comes down to, before I tell you what it is, is the feeling of being on purpose versus being on self. Okay. One of my very first mentors when I was 20 years old used to always talk to me about this. When you are on purpose, nothing will me about this. When you are on purpose, nothing will slow you down. When you are on self, you won't go anywhere in life. So when I used to run a sales office, he would say, Rob, if you're worried about how much money you're making, if you're worried about how much sales are coming in and how much you're going to make off those sales, you're not going to be successful because that is on self. You're thinking about yourself. But if you're on purpose

Starting point is 00:01:46 and you know what your purpose is and your purpose is to help your sales reps and the people around you become wealthy, to become successful, to live up to their true potential, and your number one focus is on helping them become the people that they can truly be, you'll automatically succeed. Helping them become the people that they can truly be, you'll automatically succeed. And it's like Zig Ziglar always says, if you help enough people get what they want, you'll eventually get what you want. And nothing could be closer to the truth than that. And what it comes down to is the feeling of the imposter syndrome.

Starting point is 00:02:19 Maybe you've heard of the imposter syndrome. Maybe you haven't. But the imposter syndrome is, I want to go do X, whatever that thing is. I want to start a podcast. I want to start a business. I want to become a painter. I want to start going out with this girl or this guy. I want to donate a million dollars to a charity. I want to be able to become a newscaster. It's anything. I want to do this, but I don't know if I'm the right person to do it. I don't know if I'm qualified. I don't know if I'm ready yet. I don't know if this is the right thing for me. It's like, who the hell am I to do this thing? That's what the imposter syndrome is. I'm going to pause real quick. Have you ever felt that feeling before of like, who am I to do that? Who am I to think that

Starting point is 00:03:01 I could do that? Who am I to start a podcast to do that? Who am I to start a podcast to impact people? Who am I to go and want to become a great public speaker? Who am I to want to start a business that impacts the world? Who am I to think that I can do this? And really what it is, is it's the feeling of I'm not good enough. Who the hell am I to start the business, to coach other people, to become a dietician, to become the number one salesperson in the company, to get promoted to the CEO of this company, whatever it is, who am I? And I'm gonna tell you,

Starting point is 00:03:34 that feeling and listening to that feeling will crush your dreams. That feeling will absolutely crush your dreams. Let me tell you why that is. I almost didn't start this podcast that you're either listening to or watching right now because of the fact that I felt, you know, if people like Tony Robbins exist, why the hell would somebody listen to me? When I started this podcast, I had the idea at 28 and I started at 29.

Starting point is 00:04:01 Like who the hell would listen to Rob Dial, this guy who at that time had no following, had never done public speaking, who had read a whole bunch of books and coached a bunch of people, but never, I didn't have any, I didn't have any books. I didn't have any videos of me speaking on stage. I didn't have any name to who I was. Who the hell am I to go and start a podcast and think that I can make a movement and think that I could help people when someone could just go and listen to Tony Robbins. What if I would have listened to that? And I almost did listen to it. And actually, if I'm being honest with you, I listened to that for seven months before I started the podcast. I had the idea for the podcast in January. I didn't launch the podcast until August.

Starting point is 00:04:41 For seven months, I wasn't good enough. I wasn't good enough. I wasn't good enough. I wasn't good enough. Some people feel that feeling and they never start. What would happen if you just never started? What could have happened if I never started? And for my podcast, it took a little bit to grow. My first day, I got 44 downloads. Whoop-dee-doo. 44 listens. And that was 44 listens on three episodes. That means like 11 to 12 people listened to this podcast. I guess you could say three different episodes over the course of, yeah. So we're looking at, I know, I would say 15 people at 16 people, 17 people at most listened to me on the first day. I could have given up and be like, that's right. Yeah, I'm not the right person to do this. But it took time. As I tell you guys, success takes time and anything. And you just got to not stop, just stop stopping. And I just kept working towards it and kept working towards it, kept working towards it. And it went from, you know, it's first month, I think we got like a

Starting point is 00:05:39 few thousand downloads to now it's a few million downloads every single month. And it's just, what if I had never done it? You wouldn't be listening to me. Other people wouldn't have listened to me and I wouldn't have impacted a lot. And I also wouldn't have created the life that I wanted to. How many times have you listened to that imposter syndrome? You know, the feeling of I'm not ready yet. How many times you said that to yourself? I'm not ready yet. Now's not the right time. You're right. You're not ready yet. And in fact, you'll never be ready. And that's the best part about it. You're never going to have the feeling of like, hey, yeah, now's the right time to start that podcast. Now's the right time to start that business. It's

Starting point is 00:06:12 never going to feel right. You just have to go and do it anyways. It's like a lot of people who have children. They always say like, you'll never be ready for kids. You just have to have them. And then you'll figure out how to be ready for them once you have them. You'll never be ready to create the life that you want. You'll never feel like you're 100% enough. You'll never feel like you're going to accomplish every single thing. There's always going to be fear and limiting beliefs and all of those things holding you back, but you've got to just do it anyways. You just have to start. And you might be sitting out there like, okay, well, I want to start a coaching business, but I'm not perfect yet. I still have to work on myself. I still have a lot more work to work on myself. I still have a lot

Starting point is 00:06:45 more work to do on myself. So why would I go out and be a coach when there's still a whole lot of work that I have to do on myself? I still have work that I have to do on myself. I've been working on myself for 16 years. I'm still not where I want to be. Do you want to know what? I'll probably be 95 years old in my deathbed and still be like, yeah, there's still more that I could have done. So you'll never fully be where you want to be. You'll never fully be ready. And the best healers are still healing. And the best teachers are still learning. So to think that you're not ready yet, you'll never be ready, but you'll never be more ready. You never have, you have never been more ready than you are right now. And so you just have to start. And some people go, well, I got to go back to school and

Starting point is 00:07:22 I've got to go get my degree and I've got to go get an school and I've got to go get my degree and I've got to go get an MBA and I've got to go get my PhD or, you know, I want to do this, but I've got to get a certification. I've got to do this. We all know people who have degrees and certifications falling off the walls, but they can't seem to get their life together. They can't seem to have the success they want. They don't have the happiness they want. They don't have the fulfillment they want. Lack of knowledge is not the thing that's holding people back from success. It's always lack of action. I was just at an event this past weekend and you know, the event is expensive to be in this year long mastermind. And the most successful person in the event, he sold his company a few years ago for $1 billion

Starting point is 00:08:05 and was talking about how he literally has made $70 million in the past three months. And he dropped out of high school in ninth grade. He didn't even get a GED. He didn't get a high school diploma. He didn't get a degree. But that didn't hold him back from creating the life that he wanted.

Starting point is 00:08:24 He dropped out in ninth grade. His wife dropped out in 10th grade. Both of them run a massive real estate company that they've built and become billionaires from simply because they didn't worry about the fact that they weren't quote unquote educated. They didn't need another degree. They didn't need another certification. They didn't need a high school diploma. They didn't need a GED. So lack of knowledge is usually not the issue. Ladies and gentlemen, summer is here. And if you're looking for a great drink to bring to the beach or to your next pool party, but don't want all of the alcohol, you should check out Huzzah. Huzzah is a seltzer water that gives you all of the benefits of probiotics and a seltzer that tastes like summer. I'm not a big drinker. So when hanging out in the sun, Huzzah has been a perfect drink this summer. And Huzzah's non-alcoholic seltzer

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Starting point is 00:09:47 at drinkhazah, H-U-Z-Z-A-H.com. Lack of action is usually the issue. So if you're listening to your imposter syndrome saying, I'm not ready yet, there's nothing that's going to make you more ready than you are right now. You've got to go for it anyways, because another degree or certification is not the thing that you need. That's not going to make you more ready than you are right now. You've got to go for it anyways, because another degree or certification is not the thing that you need. That's not going to make you more ready than you currently are. Because once you do get that degree, you're going to go, oh my gosh, now I get to get another one. Now I get to get a certification. Now I've got to find a mentor. Now I've got to figure out exactly what I got to go to this conference. I got to read another book. There's always more. In reality, it's just a piece of paper that hopefully makes you feel like you're good enough.

Starting point is 00:10:27 Because the only thing that's holding people back is the deep rooted issue of I'm not enough in some sort of way. I'm not smart enough. I'm not pretty enough. I'm not funny enough. I'm not rich enough. I'm not good looking enough. I'm not a good enough parent. I don't know much about saving money. I'm not good enough. It fits in all of those pieces. It's just the deep seated fear and feeling of I'm not good enough. And we think, oh, when I get that certification, when I get that degree, I'll finally be good enough. No, no, no. You've just got to take action because the thing that's holding you back is not the degree. The thing that's holding you back is the lack of action. So I'm not against going to college. If you want to go to college, go for it.

Starting point is 00:11:05 That's completely up to you. But I do know that it's not a prerequisite to success. And in fact, if you spend four years going in to get a degree, that's four years that you could have been working at building the business or creating the life that you wanted to. And most people are just afraid that they're not good enough. And they feel like getting a piece of paper will finally show them that they're enough. And they get a piece of paper and they still don't feel different. And they feel like, oh, if I just have this piece of paper to show people this certification or this degree, then they will think that I'm good enough. The piece of paper has never made anybody think somebody else is good enough. And what holds people back is this

Starting point is 00:11:40 feeling. It really holds them back. And another way that it holds them back, that I really see it hold people back is in the space of making money. Who am I to make a million dollars? Everybody wants to make a million dollars. And if you don't want to make a million dollars, if I walked up to you right now and said, Hey, here's a million dollars, would you be like, Oh no, I don't need it. Everybody would take it, which means that everybody wants it in some sort of way. And the life is not all about money, but it's just an easy thing to look at and go, okay, so everybody would take a million dollars if it was given to them, which means that somewhere down the road, everybody wants a million dollars. But a lot of people have the deep seated feeling of who am I to get a million

Starting point is 00:12:17 dollars? Who am I to have a really ridiculous business? Who am I to have the house I want and to have a plan and have the relationship that I want? Who am I to have somebody that loves me deeply and not someone who's trying to use me? Like we all have those feelings of not enough in some place. And we think to ourselves like deep, deep, deep in our heads, you know, I was raised poor. I don't know what it's like to have money. And if I make too much money, well, then maybe the people that I love will leave my side and maybe they'll try to use me for all of my money. And really what it comes down to is I'm not good enough. And I know people who have millions of dollars and they still feel like they're not good enough. So the, the, the, the acquisition of knowledge doesn't make you feel better. The acquisition of money doesn't make you feel better. The only thing

Starting point is 00:13:01 that makes you feel better is you just taking the action that you need to and working on yourself, knowing that there's nothing that's going to get rid of your limiting beliefs by thinking about it. I once had somebody one time tell me, oh yeah, I'll join. I had a program that they wanted to join. I'll join it. I'll join the program and pay for it after I start. What I need to do is I need to think about my limiting beliefs some more and work through those. You don't work through your limiting beliefs by thinking about your limiting beliefs. That's just going to make your limiting beliefs even stronger and probably create new limiting beliefs and deeper limiting beliefs and stronger limiting beliefs. You don't think about them. No, you take action. And when you take action, you get results. And when your results are better

Starting point is 00:13:43 than you thought they were going to be Your limiting beliefs get a little bit smaller. Your limiting beliefs get a little bit smaller You let me just get a little bit smaller That's how confidence is built confidence is built from getting results and getting results and getting results and eventually You go you wake up one day years down the road and you're like, holy crap. Look at how good I am I'm way better than I thought I was and then you go. Oh I'm better than I thought i'm actually pretty good you go, oh, I'm better than I thought. I'm actually pretty good at this. And then you get confidence from that. You get confidence, but you don't get

Starting point is 00:14:08 confidence from thinking about your limiting beliefs and trying to work through your limiting beliefs as if it's the Pythagorean theorem and it's a mathematical equation. And I'm sorry to say this. There is no secret sauce to get you past this feeling of the imposter syndrome. You just have to get up and you have to start. So if you have the feeling of like, who am I to start this business? Who am I to ask that person out? Who am I to deserve a million dollars? Who am I to deserve a relationship where somebody loves me deeply? If you have those feelings, there's no way to really get past them mentally. The only way to get past them is you've got to get up. You've got to take action. You've just got to start. You've got to start because if you start, you'll get results. That's it. You'll eventually get results. And when you get results,

Starting point is 00:14:49 it'll build your confidence. And each time you get confidence, it's like a little, I like to think confidence is like a little Jenga piece of wood, like the little, you know, you'd stack those little Jengas, right? Each time you get more confidence, you stack it and you get better results and you stack and get better results and you stack and get better results and you stack it. You'll never be ready ever. So this is what I want to leave you with. When you think about what it is that you want to do, I want you to rate yourself on a scale of one to 10. And let's just take, let's say you want to be a coach. This just makes it easy, right? Let's say you're a coach and you want to be a life coach or you want to be a finance coach. You want to be a fitness coach. You want to be a nutrition coach.

Starting point is 00:15:28 Let's say that you want to be a life coach as an example, right? And you can use anything in this example. On a scale of one to 10, one being you don't know anything, you've never heard anything in your entire life. 10 being like you're the best personal development guru that's ever existed in the land. On a scale of one to 10, what would you rate your knowledge in self-development? Rate yourself. And you could use this in self-development? Rate yourself. And you could use this in anything, whatever it is that you're thinking through and you have limiting beliefs around and you have the imposter syndrome around. One to 10, what would you rate your knowledge? What would you rate where you are right now?

Starting point is 00:15:58 Okay. Most people, when I ask them this question, because I ask them this all the time, it's usually like a six, a seven, sometimes it's an eight, right? Let's say it's a five. If you rate yourself a five, and let's just keep using personal development, if you rate yourself a five in personal development, how many people in the world do you think are a one, a two, a three, or a four? Like 7 billion people? Like 90% of people that exist on this earth are probably a one, two, three, or four in whatever it is that you just rated yourself. That means that with whatever knowledge you currently have in your life that you want to step into doing whatever this thing is that you

Starting point is 00:16:35 want to do, you have more knowledge than 90% of people in the world, which means that you can impact 90% of people in the world. And this is what really helped me when I thought to myself, somebody asked me this question when I was thinking about starting the podcast, he said on a scale of one to 10, what would you rate yourself in personal development? I was like, well, I've coached a lot of people. I've read hundreds of books. I've, I had been working myself for years and years and years. I was like, I don't know, man, maybe like a 7.5. He goes, do you know how many people are between a one and a 7.4? The majority of the earth. So to think that your podcast would not impact lives is absolutely ridiculous. There are people out there that are

Starting point is 00:17:12 waiting for your information. There are people out there waiting for whatever it is you're trying to do. You've just got to get off your ass and actually start working towards it. So if you have the imposter syndrome, rate yourself on a scale of one to 10, figure out where you are and realize there's millions, if not billions of people that need your service, that could use you, that you could help, that you could impact. The only thing that is holding you back from doing it is that you're thinking too much about how you're not worth it versus showing yourself all of the ways that you are qualified to do it. So that's what you need to do in order to get past your imposter syndrome is to figure that out and then just start. Stop thinking, start doing, that's it. So that's what

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The Mindset Mentor - Do You Believe That You're Enough?

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