The Mindset Mentor - Do You Have Control Issues?

Episode Date: August 16, 2019

Episode 633 - I believe we all have control issues in some sort of way. Either we always want to be in control or we feel like we are not in control of anything in our lives. In this episode, I am going to teach you the happy medium between the two. Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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if you want to go ahead and follow me on Instagram, I'm going to be doing a contest. I'm going to be doing a series of contests over the next month or so, giving out free stuff to my Instagram followers to say thank you. So if you want to win some free stuff, possibly like the Beats by Dre wireless headphones that are about to go up in the next week or so, follow me. Instagram is Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. It's funny. I had a couple of people there like, I did not expect your face to look like this based on your voice. I'm like, ah, that's cool. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but thanks for saying that. I can't really say it's a compliment. So if you

want to go on there, I've been posting up videos, a couple videos a week, new stuff. Follow me on there, motivational videos, mindset videos, ways to make you rethink your life. Follow me, Rob Dial, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R on Instagram. All right, let's go ahead and dive into today's episode. So what we're going to talk about today, just so you guys know, is you are in control. This is about you being in control of your life. If you've ever been on one of my webinars, the first thing I talk about is taking control. No matter who is in your life, no matter who you're married to or you're in a relationship with, no matter who your friends are, no matter who the president is. None of these things really

matter. What matters is that you decide that I am going to take control of my life. And you might've seen it. If you follow us on Facebook, you might've seen this video that went semi-viral. I got tens of thousands of views that I put up. But if you don't follow us, you should follow us on Facebook so you can see these videos that I'm putting up. But I want you to realize this, no matter who gets elected, no matter who you voted for, whether you're happy about it, whether you're angry about it, whether you don't have the people in your life that you want to be surrounded by, no matter what happens, if you want to be happy, you are in control of that. want to be happy, you are in control of that. If you want to be successful, you are in control of that. If you want a great life, you and only you are in control of that. Therefore, no matter what

happens in the outside world, your life should not change that much because you are the person who is driving the car. You are in the driver's seat. And the perfect example of this is if you've ever read the book, I can't think of it, Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Viktor Frankl was a psychologist who was in Auschwitz in Germany and held by Nazis for years. Talk about the absolute worst case scenario that somebody can be in. And he talks about no matter what situation he's in, the one thing that the Nazis could never take from him was what was going on in his mind. He was in control of that. They could never break him down enough to change his mindset. He knew he was going to get out. He knew he was going to be able to teach people what he learned. And he wrote a book,

one of the bestselling books, Man's Search for Meaning. It's an amazing book, but this guy's in the absolute worst condition that has ever been for humans possibly. And his mindset does not change. Therefore, no matter what happens in your outside circumstances, your life should not change that much. And I want you to realize you are in control. If you allow something like this or anything else that happens to you to dictate the direction of your life, you are giving up control of your life. You are relinquishing control. You're letting go of the steering wheel and you are letting somebody else be in control of your life. Nobody, no boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, father, best friend, president, anybody is going to care about your life and your success more than you. You are in control of that. Nobody else is in your day-to-day life. Nobody else is going to

pick you up when you fail. Nobody cares about your success, your happiness, and your life more than you. You are in control of that. So no matter what happens, no matter what happened last week, no matter what happens today, no matter what happens tomorrow, you can make the decision right now that you are in control of your life and you can change the direction of where it's going. 80% of success, 80% of success in anything in life is psychology and only 20% is mechanics. Only 20% is mechanics. That means all of the things that happen to you in your life, 80% of them is what's going on in your head and how you are seeing it happen. There's tons of people right now that are relinquishing control of their lives because

either the presidency, the election went the way they wanted to, or it didn't go the way that they wanted it to. The president's never going to call you up and be like, hey, what can we do to make you more successful? That's never going to happen. So you need to realize that you are in control and you have to decide this. And this is what I would write down from this episode.

This is how it's going to be and anything less is unacceptable. And what you do is you say, this is what I'm going to get out of my life. This is how my life is going to be. This, and when I say this is how it's going to be, that's for you to decide. Making X amount of dollars. If you say, I want to make. This, and when I say this is how it's going to be, that's for you to decide. Making X amount of dollars. If you say, I want to make $100,000 this year, making $100,000

is how it's going to be this year and anything less is unacceptable. You have to think of it that way. You're in control of your mindset. You're in control of your life. No matter what happens on the outside, no matter how crazy things get, your goal is that you will stay even keel no matter what. You will hold on to the steering wheel and you will continue to push your ship and drive it to where it's supposed to go. Because we have the decision in our lives

to either take control of our lives, to grab the steering wheel of the ship, because that ship that we're on, it's going to some destination. And either to grab the steering wheel of the ship because that ship that we're on, it's going to some destination. And either you hold the steering wheel and you drive it to the destination that you want to, or you just sit back and let the tides push you to wherever it's going to go. And that's what a lot of people do is they don't realize that they're in control of their life, no outside circumstances. And then they're not happy with where their life is 10, 20, 30, 40 years down the road because they never took control

because they never knew that they could. I'm telling you right now that you are in control and you can take control of your life at this very moment and say, this is where my life is going. You grab the steering wheel and you make sure that that ship ends up there and you figure out if the tides push you one way, you're still gonna recalibrate

and go to one place where you're trying to go to. Don't relinquish control and give up control to anybody else, any outside circumstances, except for you because you are the only person that's in control of your life, your success, your happiness, all of those things. You are in control and no one will care about it more than you. in control and no one will care about it more than you. So that is my rant to give you some inspiration, to give you some encouragement in these times when people seem divided. It's not like that. It's not, guys. And I know there's a lot of people that are listening that are in other countries. No matter who your leader is, no matter what's going on around you,

know that you are in control of it and act like you're in control of it. And I promise you, your life will start to go in the direction that you want it to. So with that, but I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you all. And I hope that you have an amazing day.