The Mindset Mentor - Do You Not Feel Good Enough?

Episode Date: October 1, 2019

Episode 657 - The impostor syndrome is why most people die with regret. They feel like they are not good enough and they never take action on their dreams. In this episode, I am going to teach you how to get past the impostor syndrome.Click here to join the Habit Mastery 30 Challenge: http://bit.ly/2map8bY Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And last but not least, if you have not yet joined us in the Habit Mastery 30 Challenge, I would love, I would be honored for you to join us and to try to change your habits with us. For 30 days straight, myself and a group of hundreds of people are going to be pushing ourselves. I'm going to be part of this challenge, doing it with you, to break patterns that we need to break and to create the habits that we need to create so that we can create the life that we want to. So if you're out there, you feel like you've been spinning your wheels,

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some of your questions, you can email them rd at robdial.com. Send me a video over under 45 seconds and I'll answer your questions today we have a question let me go ahead and play it for you rob dial my name is lindsay thanks for the opportunity to um ask a question um something that i'm dealing with right now i just got a promotion i'm in a high pressure strategic financial type job and always been very confident very much a self-starter. And I have found with this promotion that I have this kind of weird feeling of I don't belong here or they're going to find me out at any second. And it's just so strange to me. Someone close to me called it

imposter syndrome. And I wondered if you could talk more about that and maybe some tips for overcoming it when you're normally like pretty good at, you know, making your own way. Anyway, thanks a lot. All right. Great question. Thank you so much for sending this in. Once again, if you guys want to send in questions, send them to rd at robdial.com. You could send them in a video so that therefore you could be featured on here. The audio will be featured here and possibly be featured in a video on my Facebook or my Instagram. So when we're dealing with the imposter syndrome, just so you know, this is common for everybody.

Before I ever started the podcast, I had the imposter syndrome of, you know, who the hell would listen to me when they can listen to Tony Robbins, you know? And that was my original thought. I almost didn't start this podcast because I thought who in the hell would listen to me? Some random

guy had no following. I had zero followers on the entire internet at that point in time. I thought to myself, who the hell is going to listen to me? So if you're out there and you feel like this, just know that it's common. Everybody feels this way at some point in time. Cool thing about this is, you know, fast forward four years now. And a lot of the times my podcast is actually ranked higher than Tony Robbins's and it's not me bragging in any sort of way, but it's just kind of cool. If you actually sit down and think about it, that, you know, I almost stopped myself because of my comparison and my imposter syndrome because of Tony Robbins. So what I'll say is this, the first thing that I think is important is we're really, really good at finding our flaws.

And what you're doing is you're focusing on the wrong thing. You're focusing on why you're not qualified enough. And if you ask yourself a question, your brain will always find the answer to it. If you ask, why am I not qualified for this position? Your brain is going to come up with every single answer as to why you're not qualified. If you're trying to change your perspective, you change your question. So you just change your question to why am I the best person for this position? Why am I going to do incredible at this? Why are they getting such a good value from me at getting me at the price that they did? Right? And so you're, you're, what you're doing is you're changing your questions because your brain's going to find the answer to whatever question you ask of it. So that's the

first thing is you need to get better at finding out what you're focusing on. The second thing is this is I would, everybody listening to me, what I would do is take out a pen and paper, put me on pause and make a list of every single thing that you've ever accomplished. Even if it was small, you know, if you got second place in the third grade spelling bee, I want you to write that down, write down everything you can think of because most of the time, what we're focusing on is the things that we screwed up in the past, the ways that we screwed up, our regrets, the things that we wish that we hadn't done. And when that's the case, we forget about how amazing we actually are. And so I like to call this the awesome list. You get a pen and paper and you write down all of the things that you've done great. And next time you feel the imposter

syndrome, next time you feel like you're not enough, next time you feel like you're not qualified, you take out this awesome list and you look at it and you read it and you say, oh yeah, that's right. I am freaking awesome. I am qualified for this. I have done a lot of really good stuff because when you're, when you're feeling the imposter syndrome, what you're doing is you're focusing on your flaws and not your accomplishments or your strengths. And so what I would say is if you feel like you're not qualified, then you have to realize that they wouldn't hire you if you weren't qualified. You wouldn't be in that position. What it might be is that people see in you what you don't see in yourself. And maybe you should do a better job at self-care and self-love

and to try to find the things in yourself that you love. Find the things in yourself that make you qualified for this position. It doesn't make you weird that you have the imposter syndrome. Everybody has it at some point in time. But what you're doing is you're focusing on the wrong thing. We're always focusing on our flaws.

We're always focusing on how we screw up. It's your job to focus on what is good about you. And then the last thing I'll give you is this, you know, when I first started the podcast, someone had, you know, I had a mentor that walked me through this and, you know, he said, well, you want to start this podcast. It's going to be personal development and mindset and all that stuff. Right. I was like, yeah, I will. And he said, okay, you know, on a scale of one to 10, what would you rate yourself in this, in, you know, this, this mindset in this category? I was like, man, probably a six. Like I've been, I've been obsessed with it for 10 years. I probably rate myself a six or maybe even a seven. He said, what are most people in this world? And I was like,

yeah, in personal development, maybe a one or two, you know, most people don't read a lot. And he said, so if you're a six or a seven and most people are a one or two, wouldn't you agree that you have more than enough value to impact most of the world? And I was like, man, I guess I do. He said, so don't focus on people that are, you know, seven, eight, nine, 10 in personal development that even exists. He said, you're making it to impact people. And if you're a seven or a six and the average person is one or two, you would be holding back your greatness from the world. And it would be a disservice to the world to not put out into the world what you can.

And so I want you guys to think that as well. If you feel the imposter syndrome, just realize the average person is nowhere near as qualified in you and the thing that you're trying to do. And you can impact the world. Nowhere near as qualified in you and the thing that you're trying to do. And you can impact the world. And for you to not put your value out into the world, you are actually being a disservice to the world than anything else.

And you're probably just afraid of being judged. So that's what I got for you. Thank you so much for sending that question in. Great question. If you want to send me a question, a video question, make it under 45 seconds. And once again, make sure that you hold your phone upright. Hold it like you normally do. Send me the video rd at robdial.com.

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