The Mindset Mentor - Does It Serve You?

Episode Date: November 25, 2016

Episode 198 -  This is a question I recommend you ask yourself when you are going through your patterns, habits, relationships, etc and trying to figure out if they are helping you become the best version of yourself and grow as a person. If they are not it is best to get rid of them ASAP. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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Thanks, Rob, for everything you do. Welcome back. What we're going to be talking about today is does something serve you? And what do I mean by does something serve you? I mean like a habit or a pattern or a relationship or a friendship or just a person. Does it serve you? And I get a lot of emails and I wanted to have this come out because especially around holidays or certain days where you come around family and a lot of people, I get

a lot of emails that say, you know, I know that your top five people that you hang out with the most. I know those people are the ones that you're going to be the most like, but what do you do when you have your family around? And I'm going to cover a couple different things with you guys. The first thing is this. I'm not saying get rid of your family. I'm not saying get rid of your friends or any of those things because when you have your top five, the five people that you spend the most time with, your net worth is your net worth. You will most likely be worth the same amount of money as somebody else that you hang out with the most, the top five people. As they say, if you hang out with the most, the top five

people. As they say, if you hang out with five alcoholics, there's a pretty good chance you will be the sixth. If you hang out with five millionaires more than anybody else, there's a pretty good chance that you will also be the sixth. The people that you hang out with, you are more than likely to be like, and you're more than likely to grow up to be exactly the same and in the same income bracket and in the same happiness bracket and all of those things. So when I say, does it serve you? What I mean by this is when you look at your relationships, whether it's a friend, whether it's a relationship with someone that you're close with, maybe it's a family member, maybe it's a significant other, does it serve you? And what I mean by that is, are you getting more positive out of it than negative?

Is that relationship pushing you to grow, to become a better person, to live out a better life, to be better every single day? And if it's not serving you and it's actually impacting you negatively, what you need to do is either completely get rid of that relationship or spend a whole lot less time with those people. And the reason why I'm bringing this up is because, like I said, when you hang out with family members or anytime around the holidays when they're around more, you get more time with these people and they can affect people that you hang out with can positively or negatively affect your mindset all day, every day when you're hanging out with them and even when you're away

from them as well, just by the things as I say, the words that they use. And so you have to ask yourself when you're thinking about relationships with people is, is this serving me? Is this relationship serving me right now? Is it pushing me to become better or is it actually holding me back in some sort of way? And you have to kind of think of it that way. And the ones that are holding you back, you need to either completely get rid of those relationships or you need to spend a whole lot less time with them. That also being said, there's habits or patterns that you have. And if you can get anything from this, it's to become more self-aware of the habits and

patterns that you have or the things that you do or the times that you come home and do stuff after work. The thing that I always used to tell my coaching clients was to think of it this way. Whenever you're thinking about something that you're doing, if you're catching yourself in the moment, ask yourself this right now. Is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? Is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? And if it's getting you closer to your goals, keep doing it. Whether that goal is happiness or success or money or progressing humans, whatever it is, is it getting you closer to your goal? If it is, keep doing it. Find more time for it. If it's not getting you closer to

your goals and it's getting you further away from your goals, immediately stop it right now and don't do it. That's the way that I think about it. Immediately stop it. And so what you have to ask yourself is, is this serving me? Is this addiction that I have serving me? Is this relationship that I have serving me? Is this habit that I have serving me? Is this pattern that I have serving me? And if it is, you continue to do it and actually find more time for it. And if it's not, stop it immediately and find something else to do. It is that simple. And that's why the power of clarity is so important. You need to be clear on exactly what it is that you want. In my group coaching, we're going to start training and going

over the next couple of months of how to set up your goals, your life plan, and your goal for the next year or so. And in order to do that, you need to become extremely clear on what it is that you want. And when you're clear on what it is that you want, you can find that clarity, then it's very easy to go, is this serving me or not? Is this getting me closer to or further from my goals? And if it's getting you closer to, continue doing it. If it's getting further away from your goals, stop it immediately. And so what I want you to take from this is those two things. Number one, you ask yourself, is this serving me? Is this habit serving me? Is this pattern serving me? Is this thing that I'm doing right now, is it serving me? Is this relationship, whether it's with a cousin or uncle

or whatever it might be, sometimes people have really negative relationships with their parents. And maybe you just spend less time because they are set in their ways and you are going towards a different path. That's not a bad thing sometimes. That's not a bad thing. Because sometimes you're going on a different path than they are.

And they're so in their path and it's so ingrained in them that it might be that they're just, they have negative tendencies, negative patterns. Doesn't mean that you just completely get them out of your life, but it does mean that you can spend less time with them and still love them in the time that you are spending time with them. And so you ask yourself, is this serving me, these things? And the second thing you ask yourself after you become extremely clear on what you want, and like I said, this is something that

we're going over as you're in the group coaching is life planning, figuring out the next year, all of these things. You ask yourself now that you know, and you're very clear on exactly what your life plan is, exactly what your next year is going to look like. What you ask yourself is, is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? And you ask yourself that 10, 20, 30 times a day, you're going to stop habits and patterns dead in their tracks that are not serving you and not getting you closer to your goals. And what you're going to do is you're going to start doing the things that you need to do in order to become the person that you want to become in order to have the success that you want to have.

So with that, once again, if there's anything I can do for you, let me know. You can email me rob at mwfmotivation.com. But with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at MWFmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because

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