The Mindset Mentor - Don't Let Your Dreams Be Dreams

Episode Date: July 10, 2019

Episode 617 - What are your dreams? Have you gotten clear on them and then made a plan? In this episode I will teach you how to take your dreams, get clear on them, plan them out and bring them into reality. Follow me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/robdialjr Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And last but not least, if you want more motivation throughout

your day and you happen to be on social media, make sure to follow me on Instagram. It's Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L. I put up at least three posts a day, motivational quotes, memes, videos. And then also I have Instagram stories so you can see what's going on in my life. I do videos on Instagram stories as well. So go ahead and follow me on there if you're looking for extra motivation. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Once again, Rob Dial Jr. And today, we're just going to dive into it. Today's podcast is actually, I wanted to play a replay to you from a couple years ago. And this is when my biggest dreams that I've ever had came true. And since I know a lot of you are dreamers out there, I decided that we would take this podcast episode from a couple years ago and replay it for you so you can literally hear my breakdown of how to make your dreams come true. So without further ado,

let's dive into it. Here we go. All right, today what I'm going to be talking about is planning out your life and living your dreams. Planning out your life and living your dreams. Because here's the deal. This is, and this is not me bragging any sort of way. This is my very first podcast episode coming to you live from my new apartment in Rome. My dream has always been to live in another country, to figure out a way to make it possible. And so a couple of years ago, I realized that I was not following what I was passionate about. I was not helping others the way that I knew that I was truly able to, and that I was going to build businesses that would allow me to travel all over the world.

That was what I wanted to do. I wanted to live in another country. I honestly wanted to live in Italy. And the reason why is because Italy is amazing. It's got food, it's got culture, it's got history, it's got culture, it's got history, it's got people that are amazing. Everything about it is just completely amazing. The landscape, all of it. And so I thought to myself, I'm working for somebody else. I'm not doing what I wanna do.

I'm not passionate about what I'm doing. I'm not following what I feel is my dream or my purpose. What should I do about it? How can I make sure that I live out the dream life that I really want to? And this was just a few years ago. So if you're in that position, which I know most people are in that position where they're not where they want to be, they want something different from life. They might want to run their own business. They might want to help people or be more passionate about what it is that they want to do. They might want to travel the world. You might want to do one of those things. And so what's the key? The key is to figure out number one, what you want. And number

two, stop holding yourself back from doing it. The only reason why you and I are not where we want to be in life is because we are holding ourselves back. That's it. The only reason why we are ever not where we want to be in life is because we are holding ourselves back. Not our spouses or significant others, not your parents, not your brother or sister, the economy or the president, whoever it might be. The only reason why you're not where you want to be is because you and only you are holding yourself back from being there. And so you have to ask yourself the question, number one, what do I want? What is my dream? What do I want my life to be? And number two, what the heck do I have to do to get there? What do I have to do to get there? And you have to make that plan and do

it. It's like every time I think of it, I think of the, I think it's Dave Matthews quote, don't let your dreams be dreams. Make them as, I don know. Oh crap. I'm really screwing this up. Don't let your dreams be dreams. Something about make them as real as anything, right? Don't let your dreams be dreams. You have dreams, right? What are they and how can you make them come true? Right? As far as we know, we have one life to live. I have one life to live as far as I know. You have one life to live as far as I know as well, and probably as far as you know. So what are you doing with it? If you look back, has it been something that you've been proud of? And now let me give you the key. If you are not proud of it, or you have not been proud of it up until this point, do not judge yourself. Do not get pissed

off. Do not start putting judgment or feelings or emotions into that. You look at it objectively and say, okay, how can I change it? Don't let your dreams be dreams. Make them as real as anything. So how can you make your dreams real? And so I wanted to give you this episode, and this is me coming off the cuff because I'm in this place where I've been here now for, this is my fourth time in Italy, but this is my fourth day, my fourth full day, I think here that we've been there, you know? And, and it's, it's, it hasn't even really hit me yet, but it's starting to sink in as like, oh my gosh, this was my plan. This is my dream. This is what I wanted. I've, I love traveling. I love being in different places, experiencing different food and cultures and

doing this. And I wanted to figure out a way to make money in order to supply my, you know, my need, my habit, I guess my addiction for traveling. Right. And how could I do that? And I did. And it was, I'm nobody special, right? I breathe the same oxygen you do. I'm just a normal guy that's just figured out how to stop holding myself back as much. And so what are your dreams and how are you holding yourself back from it? Because once again, if you're not where you want to be, if you're not living your dream life, you are holding yourself back from it. If you're not where you want to be, if you're not living the dream life, if you're not traveling or doing the things that you want

to do or being with the people that you want to be with, you and only you are the reason why you're not there. And so once you can accept that, you can then make changes and realize that the only thing holding you back from having the absolute perfect life, the life that you want, is you. You holding yourself back.

And in the next episode, I'm going to be talking about comfort zones and how to break yourself out of comfort zones. But you have comfort zones just to keep you in the exact same spot. And some of you have been in the same comfort zone for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years, or a year, two years, three years. Like you don't want to look back and be in the exact same position that you are now. And I understand that. And so you can't look at your dreams. You can't look at someone like me, who's just a normal person. I'm no different than you. You can't look at somebody and say, man, I wish I had that life, right? You

need to look at somebody and say, I'm going to have that life. They're just a normal person, right? They, they had struggles and everything. They everything. They breathe the same air that you do. They poop just like you do. I promise you they do. Every person does. They're not a special person. They're just an average person that's living their life and they're doing what they want to do. They're not holding themselves back as much as the average person does. And so you have to ask yourself, how am I holding myself back from my dream life? And what do I need to do? What are the steps that I need to take in order to get myself there? And once again, this is something that I did in January of 2015. And it is now, you know,

mid 2017. And I've been able to get here. And so I said to myself, how am I holding myself back? And at that point in time, people will look at me and say, wow, Rob's making over $150,000 a year. He's, you know, at that time I was like 27, 28 years old, 29 years old, whatever it was, everything looked great. I had a house. I was doing, I was killing it in other people's minds, but I still wasn't living my dream life. And so what I did was I said, okay, I'm still holding myself back from my dream life. What is my dream? What do I want to do? I want to travel. I want to have my own business. I want to be able to have a business that inspires, motivates people, makes them better. How can I do that? And also how can I have my first business was an Amazon business. How can I get into understanding

this online thing? That was what I wanted to do. And so what I do is I worked and worked for somebody else for a little while and I was doing, you know, sales training and consulting and all of those things. And I just, whenever I had my free time, when I wasn't working, I was thinking, how can I learn how to make money online? If I want to travel, I need to make money online. Right. And so I thought, all right, Amazon's the first way to get into it. So that was my first step into it. And then it developed and I was able to build another business from there and just keep going. And so for you, you might not have any knowledge of online business. I didn't two and a half years ago either.

But I said, I'm not going to allow my lack of knowledge to hold me back from the dream life that I want. What am I going to do? I'm going to get the knowledge that I need to start making money online. And then what I'm going to do is execute on the plan that I need to make. So for you, what is the dream life that you want? Maybe it's just spending more time with your family, having a job, maybe creating a job that would give you more freedom to spend more time with your family, to raise your kids, to be the mother or father that you truly want to be,

not the mother or father that can't make the baseball game because of the fact that they have work that they have to go to. Right? You have to think about that. So what is it? Maybe you want to be that parent. Okay, well then what do you need to do? You need to have some sort of business that allows you to have freedom. You could pay the bills. And once you pay the bills, you don't have to make more money. That's just a, you know, cherry on top of it. But something that could just pay the bills and allow you to have freedom. I mean, that sounds like the dream life to a lot of people. Maybe you're able to pay the bills or make just a little bit more. You don't have to become a multimillionaire in your business and have a thousand employees. Maybe you are just a one man, one woman business that's making,

you know, $50,000 a year in profit. And you're able to pay your bills and you're able to spend all of the time that you want to with your kids without it getting, without business, without making money, without this, you know, being just a person who is part of the rat race, getting in the way of you spending more time with your family. You're going out to travel or doing the things that you want to do. And so you have to ask yourself, if you have a pen and paper, if you're driving, please don't do this. But if you have a pen and paper and listen to this, you ask yourself, what do I want? What do I want in my life? what do I want? What do I want in my life? What is my dream? And what do I need to do or learn in order to get there within the next two or three years? And you start making a plan and then you execute on that plan and you push yourself out of your comfort zone. And once again, next episode,

I'm going to talk about comfort zones and how to push past them. But you figure out your plan and you execute on that plan. Because here's the deal. Do not let your dreams be dreams. We only know from the best of our knowledge that you get one of these lives to live. Do not let your dreams be dreams. Do what you need to do in order to make the life that you want. Don't get to 85 years old and wish that you would have done more. You ever notice, I'll give you a perfect example. This is me going off, you know, going off on a tangent. You ever notice how older people don't give a crap what anybody thinks about them?

It's an interesting thing. Like we were, we were in a pizza shop two days ago. It was a freaking amazing pizza. My goodness. The pizza shop that's right down the street from us, right? And this older guy just walks back into the kitchen and he's like sir sir sir sir you you can't be in here and he goes she goes are you looking for the bathroom he goes no no i just i just wanted to watch this guy make pizzas is that okay i just want to see how he's doing it she's like oh uh yeah i guess and me and my girlfriend talking i was like that guy does not care what anybody thinks about him. He wants to watch how the pizza is made and he's going to watch how that pizza is made if he's allowed to. So he just walks in the back and he starts talking to the guy and they have a conversation. He's back

there. And I was saying to her, older people don't care what other people think of them. One of the main ways that people hold themselves back is by caring what other people think of them. And then somebody gets to a certain age and they're like, oh, John's senile. No, John's not senile. He just doesn't give a crap what you think about him anymore. That's where everyone should be. Not giving a crap what you think about them and living the life that you want to. He wanted to see how that pizza was made and gosh darn it, he was going to watch how that freaking pizza was made no matter what. And so that's how you should live your life. Live your life like the old guy that's walking into the back to watch how pizza is made. He knows he's

going to be judged. He does not care. He's at the age where he's been judged enough in his life and realize that makes no difference on his, you know, the judgment of people changes his life of people on him changes his life in no sort of way. He's going to do what he wants to do. And that's how you should be. If you're 20, if you're 40, if you're 30 years old, 50 years old and you're listening to this, the judgment of people, people's judgment on you in your life should not change your quality of life at all. It will not if you don't allow it to. And so how can you push past it and do what you want to do anyways?

What is your dream? What do you need to do to get there? And can you start executing on that plan that's what you need to take from this episode do not let your dreams be dreams do not let your dreams be dreams so with that I'm gonna leave you the same way leave you every single episode make it your mission make somebody else's day better I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day