The Mindset Mentor - Don't Live With Regret

Episode Date: February 25, 2019

Episode 550 - "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Today, what we're going to be going over is talking about... We talked a little bit about regret a couple episodes ago. We talked about hard work. We talked about those types of things.

And I want to share a quote with you. And I want to talk about what will haunt you when you get older. And this is a quote. I'll explain it to you once I get into it. But the quote is from Mark Twain. It says, 20 years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones that you did. So throw off the bow lines, sail away from the safe

harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails, explore, dream, discover. And as you get older, the reason why I wanted to go over this is because this is something that I, this is one of the reasons why I started my group coaching was because I know that most people have dreams. They have aspirations. They have things they want to do with their life, but there's stuff holding them back. And I wanted to start the group coaching in order to help people be a little bit of the push to activate everybody into taking the first step

to their dreams, be able to be there to support them and help them and all of these things. And as you get older, you're gonna find that it's rarely the things that you did do that will come back to haunt you. More than anything else, the thing that's gonna haunt you it's rarely the things that you did do that will come back to haunt you. More than anything else, the thing that's going to haunt you the most is the things that you did not do. That's what's going to come back to haunt you. And I remember when I was contemplating back in 2012, actually back in 2011, when I first was contemplating going on

vacation for three months and backpacking Europe, I remember reading this quote and I was deciding whether or not to go. And I saw this quote and with this quote decided 100% the next summer, which was the summer of 2012, I am in. I'm going to go for three months to Europe. I'm going to backpack. I'm going to go by myself. I don't know what the hell I'm going to do, but I'm going to have the best time of my possible life. And it was this quote that made me make my final decision because I didn't want to get older. I didn't want to be 75 years old and go, you know what? I wish that I would have taken those three months and traveled to Europe. I wish that I would have been able to do that. And I made the decision at that point in time, after reading this quote, that I was going to quit my job when the summer came around

and I was going to save up as much as I possibly could before then. And I was going to travel to Europe and it was the most absolutely amazing 84 days of my life. Was it scary because I never been over there and traveled by myself? Hell yeah, it was scary. But that's part of the fun. That's what life is about. Life is about making the scary and the fun stuff, scary fun and also the unknown fun as well. And as I was preparing, I kept telling everyone, thinking, you know, I kept saying, I'm going to be going to Europe this summer. I'm going to be in Europe this summer. And everyone kept saying, what are you going to do? You're going to have to quit your job. And I kept thinking that people, some of the older people would be like, you know, that's a bad idea. You have a really good paying job. There's no reason to quit your job. This is back

in 2012. So this is only a couple of years into the recession. And I thought people would be like, that's a terrible idea, Rob. You should just stay with the good paying job that you have. And for the entire next eight months when I was planning up to it, everybody that I told, not one person said to me, that's a bad idea. You shouldn't go. And I'm talking like 30, 40 older people that I had been speaking to. I had told them and not one of them said it was a bad idea. They either said, I did it. I traveled to Europe. I did that. It was the most amazing thing that I've ever done. And I loved it. Or they said, you know what? I wish I would have done that when I was younger. So I asked you, what are you on the fence about?

If you're younger, are you contemplating going to college or maybe dropping out of college? Are you contemplating going to Europe exactly like I did? If you're older, are you contemplating leaving your job or breaking up with somebody or getting a divorce or moving to a new city that you've never been to before or maybe possibly even starting your own company or maybe you just want to ask somebody out. What is it that you're on the fence about? There's only a couple reasons why somebody would not go for something that they truly believe and they truly love it. And those things are usually fears. The fear of what others will think, being judged by other people, the fear of change, the fear of the unknown, the fear of failing, the fear of success. Those are the things that hold people back, and the problem is, here's the deal, you only get one

life, so stop waiting around for yours to change. You need to be the one that makes the changes because you're the only one to do it. You need to be the one that decides that you're going to go on the adventures. You need to be the one that's going to take control of your life because life is going to be full of change. It's going to be full of failure and successes and unknowns and judgy people. That's just the way that it goes. But you don't want to get to the end of your life and regret that you wish you would have done something because in 20 years from now, you're either going to be super excited about the fact that you did go for that change or you're going to be depressed about the fact and regret the fact that you didn't make those changes because most people don't do the things they really want

because they're afraid of all of those things. But in the long run, the only thing that you're really going to regret is not pursuing your desires, not pursuing your dreams, not going and traveling, not asking that person out, not starting your business. All of those things are the things that you're going to regret. And like the quote implies, the sea is unpredictable. Life is unpredictable. But if you stay in your safe harbor, nothing will come of your life. You must make the changes. You must deal with the unknown and successes and the failures and all of those different things. You must take the risks and do the things that scare you because those are what create the best memories. The things that scare you are always the things

that make the best memories. Nobody's ever sitting at a bar with their friends saying, hey, remember that time when we stayed at home and we did nothing? That was one of the best memories of my life. Nobody says that. It's always like, hey, do you remember that one time when this unexpected thing happened? We almost died, but we had a whole big laugh out of it. And that's what's exciting about life, not sitting at home and not doing anything and not making changes to your life. It's usually from the risky or the unknown or the scary things. And so, like I said, the reason why I started my group coaching is because I wanted to be the start of the catalyst for most people to make that change. I know some people listen to the podcast and then they don't

do anything with the information that they have. I know a lot of people do a ton of stuff. But for people who wanted a little bit extra support, I thought, hey, I'll start this group coaching. And this is something that could definitely affect people in a great way. And so for you, whatever it is, 20 years from now, you'll be more disappointed by the things that you don't do than the ones that you did do. So throw off your battle lines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails, and explore and dream and discover. And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

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