The Mindset Mentor - Eat Your Dog Food

Episode Date: November 22, 2019

It's time to stop telling people do stuff that you won't do yourself. There are too many people that "preach" what others should do. In this episode, we're gonna talk about this topic and I'm gonna teach you how to raise your self worth by following through!Follow me on Instagram @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/Try out Quickbooks: https://intuit.me/dial Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode if you have not yet done so hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode and last but not least I'm going to go ahead and apologize my voice is a little bit horse I'm not sick but we were in Sedona for five weeks and now we're back in Austin for a couple days before I go to

Florida. I'm always traveling if you've never noticed but my body's getting readjusted to it so if I sound like I just woke up, I didn't. I'm sitting here drinking my coffee and joining the day and I thought maybe I should just go ahead and talk about some interesting stuff with you guys. So if my voice sounds a little bit hoarse to you, now you know why. Today we're going to be talking about eating dog food. Why are we going to talk about eating dog food? Because I'm going to tell you this. I've been in the, I guess you could say the motivational personal development space for a long, long time now. And there's one thing that I have to tell you and I've noticed it and it drives me crazy is that a lot of quote unquote speakers, motivational

speakers, a lot of coaches that coach people to do stuff, they don't eat their own dog food and it drives me crazy. And I want to talk about you eating your own dog food, whether you're a coach or whether you're not a coach, whether you're a parent, not a parent, a friend, not a friend, a human that happens to be breathing or not. We're going to talk about eating your own dog food. And it's super, super important to dive into and to learn. And that's what I want to talk about. So, you know, I noticed that there's a lot of people out there that are really good at

giving advice. You know, there's coaches out there that are really good at giving advice. You know, there's coaches out there that will say, Hey, you know, if you're a coach, I want you to listen to this. There's a lot of coaches out there. They'll say, Hey team, everybody who follows me or, you know, everybody on my Instagram or, you know, my one-on-one coaching client, Hey, you know what you should do? You should wake up early. That's what you need to do.

Waking up early is one of the number one keys to success. And then they sleep in themselves and they're like, Hey, you should go to the gym. You need to go to the gym. You need to work out. You need to have a good diet. You need to do this. You need to do this. You need to do this. And then they eat a pizza. They go to the gym once a week, but they take a picture of themselves at the gym, just so they can, you know, see, people can see on Instagram that they're at the gym. And then they say, hey, you know what you should do? You should do this and you should do this and you should do this.

And they don't do it. They don't eat their own dog food. And that's the thing that drives me crazy. You know, for me and what I do, I coach a lot of coaches. I've coached many coaches how to build six and seven figure businesses from Instagram, from Facebook, from their own following, from podcasts. I've taught people how to do this. And one thing that I've noticed, and one thing that I have to really call people out on when I'm coaching coaches on how to build these followings and to be a great coach and to get the best results out of their clients is that you have to do what

you freaking say you're going to do. Because if you don't, there's a dissonance between your brain and your body. Like your brain, you know, your body can say something, your mouth can say, hey, you should go do this. But then your brain, there's that dissonance of, yeah, but I don't, I don't even actually do this myself. Right? And then there's also a dissonance in your client's ears. And if you're not a coach, you have to realize as well, this goes for you if you have children, this goes for you if you have a partner, this goes for you if you have people working under you, right? People can hear, they don't realize that they're hearing it, but their BS meter goes off and they're like, yeah, that person doesn't even do that. I'm not going to do it. And they don't even know it consciously, but subconsciously they have this

idea of, yeah, I'm not going to do that. And the reason why they're not going to do that is because they sense that you don't do that. But once again, they don't even consciously sense this. They subconsciously sense, yeah, this doesn't feel right in my body. And the reason why it doesn't feel right is because the person who's telling them doesn't even do it themselves. So you have to eat your own dog food and actually do what you say you're going to do. If you have coaching clients, you have to do what you say you're going, you have to do what you tell them to do. If you have children, you have to do what you tell them to do. You can't be the person that says, oh no, yeah, don't yell at your sister. And then you and your husband or you and your wife get in a fricking fight every single night.

Of course, they're yelling at the sister. They're learning from you, right? You're coaching your children every single day. They can tell what's BS, whether you realize it or not, or whether they realize it or not. You have to eat your own dog food. This is one of the reasons why I love doing the challenges that I do. And also for those of you guys that have been reaching out, there's been a lot of people that have been reaching out and saying, hey, is there going to be a challenge on January 1st? Like, what if we started another challenge? You know, the Ironman 60 challenge was great. What if we did another one? I'm not going to make any announcements, but I will tell you this on Friday of the, I'm sorry, not a Friday, of Monday of this week, there's going to be a big announcement and there might be a Black Friday special coming out that I'm going to be announcing on Monday.

So you're going to want to listen to Monday's episode to learn more about that. But that was just a side note. But this is the reason why I love the challenges that I do is because when I have something like the Ironman 60 challenge, for instance, right? When you have all of these different pillars of take a cold shower every single day, work out every single day of, you know, stick to your specific diet every single day, meditate and visualize every single day, journal every single day, all of these different pillars that you have, you have to realize I'm not just coaching people and telling them what to do. I'm literally doing the challenge with them. I'm hitting all six pillars as well, because I know that if I'm coaching them every single day for 60 days straight, if I'm not 100%

on what I'm supposed to do, they're not going to consciously take in everything that I'm saying. They're going to notice in some sort of way and their lives are not going to change because I am not changing my life, right? And this is the thing. They don't even consciously, nobody's consciously aware of this. So I have to put myself through the challenge. I have to work out every single day. I have to stick to a diet. I have to take a cold freaking shower every single day. You know how much I want to take a cold shower? I don't. I don't want to. I never have, but I do it because I'm supposed to. I need to eat my own dog food. If I'm telling you to do it, guess what? We're going to be doing it together. I can't just tell you to do something and not do it myself. You have to do

what you say you're going to do. And here's the important thing about it. You need to do what you say you're going to do and the stuff that you say to do to others, first off. So if you're sitting there, it's really easy to give advice. It's really easy to listen to my podcast and go, oh yeah, waking up early would be good. And then one of your friends is like, yeah, you know, I've been having trouble. And then you could go, hey, maybe you should wake up early. And then you start giving them tips and like, yeah, this is great. But you don't wake up early yourself. Why would you give somebody a tip of something that you've never done yourself or you don't have as a practice, right? That's the first thing, the things that you say to others, the things that you say to your children, the things that you say to your mom,

dad, brother, sister, the things that you say to your clients. If you are a coach or consultant and you tell your clients to do something and you don't do it yourself, you're basically a scam artist. Sorry, I'm going to put it bluntly because I've been in the business a long time. I've coached a lot of people to be very successful and I have to call people out on their shit every once in a while. I'm like, your reason why you're not successful is not because, well, number one, you don't have the strategies in place, but number two is because you are not true to yourself in your business. It's like the law of the universe.

It's like the universe conspires to you when you do what you say to do to other people, like when you, what you tell other people to do. And when you don't do what you're telling everybody else to do, guess what? The universe is like, uh, no man, they're not going to, we're not, we're not going to let your business grow. Cause you're just saying a whole bunch of crap. That doesn't mean anything to you. You're just saying stuff that you've heard is supposed to be good for people. So if you have clients, man, you gotta, you gotta freaking step it up. You gotta be the type of person that's like, you know what? I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to do this and I'm going to push myself

harder than anybody else. People always send me messages and they're like, Hey Rob, how do you come up with new episodes? Like you're 700 episodes deep. And the reason why is because I tell myself, I tell everybody this. If I'm teaching you guys, if I have tens of thousands of people listening to my voice right now, if I'm teaching you guys and saying stuff to you, I need to constantly be learning more than you and pushing myself harder than you to get myself to new levels so that I can coach you better, right? You have to understand that. I can't just sit around. If I were to just stay in the same place and be the same person that I was, you know, four and a half years ago when I started this podcast, I would have run out of topics to talk about, but I'm constantly pushing myself. I'm constantly

reading. I'm constantly, you know, I've done way more plant ceremonies than, you know, I had ever thought I would do because I'm constantly learning and growing and understanding my consciousness and myself as a spiritual being and a human and another person that's connected with other people. I need to grow myself in order to teach you guys how to grow as well. So if you're a coach or a consultant, or if you're a parent, or if you're a brother, sister, mother, father, daughter, son, person who has people that work under them at work, or people that you connect with at work, which means I basically think I covered every single aspect of a human. So if you're not on that scale, you must be an alien. But if you're one of those, guess what? Don't give people advice

that you're not following through with on yourself. You have to eat your own dog food. It's very easy. You know, I had a coaching call with a guy yesterday and, you know, he's got a built a million dollar coaching business as well. And we were talking about how funny it is that there's so many quote unquote gurus nowadays, right? Like I've, I've been coaching people now for 15 years. He's been coaching people for a long time as well. And it's like, as soon as Instagram came up, it was crazy how many motivational gurus came up, how many fitness gurus came up, how many, you know, dietician gurus and nutritional gurus and all that stuff came up and there's nothing wrong with it, but there's so many people that, that don't practice what they preach. And then they're trying to figure out why their business isn't growing.

And the reason why is because they're not practicing any of it. They're just preaching from a soapbox, repeating stuff that they've heard. Same thing. If you have children, you're a coach. You're more of a coach than an actual coach, right? You have to, if you tell your children, like I said, don't yell at You have to, if you tell your, your children, like I said, don't yell at your sister. And then you have a temper tantrum because you haven't healed wounds from your past, from your parents. And you, you know, obviously when you're in a relationship with somebody, you see that person as a proxy for your parents, the same place that your parents occupy in your brain. This is the same place that your people that you're in close, you know, relationships with, well, romantic relationships with, they become

a proxy for your parents. And so if you haven't healed emotional wounds from your past with your parents, of course, those wounds are still going to be open. And guess what? Those, whatever happened with your parents is going to continue happening with your spouse or with whoever you're close to. So you can't say to your children, don't yell at your sister when you're constantly getting in fights or arguments or being super passive aggressive to the person that you're in a relationship with. And your children are seeing it every single day, right? They have to see it. They have to, they have to understand exactly how to do it. And if you tell somebody to do something, even a child, which we don't think children are smart, but children are emotionally smarter than we are. We lose it over time. If you tell a child to go do something and you're not

doing it yourself, there's a dissonance between them and they go, well, I know I'm supposed to do this, but it doesn't, it doesn't feel right. And the reason why it doesn't feel right is because there's a energetic disconnect between what you're saying and what you're actually doing. And they're picking up on it. So you need to do what you say you're going to do. You need to do what you say to do to others. You need to do what you say to do to your clients. You need to do what you say you're supposed to do to yourself. Right? I think this is why a lot of people have a lack of self-worth and they talk negatively to themselves because they know in their head what they're supposed to do, but they're not actually doing it. They're not following through on what they know they're supposed to do.

You know what you've told people to do, but in the back of your head, you're subconsciously going, dude, you don't even do that shit yourself. What are you talking about? And so you have a lack of self-worth because you're like, I'm telling people what I know they should do, but I'm not even taking my own advice. And so it's like every single time that you tell someone to do something that you're not personally doing, it's like getting another little cut. And you have all of these cuts all up and down your arms. And you're like, what is wrong with me? What's wrong with you is that you're not healing your cuts. You're telling people to do things that you're not doing on your own. You're being a fraud. And I don't mean to bring you down. I'm trying to actually bring light to

a situation that I see with a lot of people is you're telling people to do stuff that you aren't actually doing yourself, but you know you should be doing. And in doing so, you now have a lack of self-worth because of the fact that you know that you're not even following through on the things that you know you should be doing. Does that make sense? And so what I want you to do is I want you to practice over this week, following through on everything that you say you should do. I want you to take a pen and paper out right now and ask yourself the question, what do I need to start following through on? If I'm a coach or consultant, what do I need to follow through on? Right? I see so many coaches

or consultants that are just like, I've coached so many of them. They're just making no money. And the reason why they're making no money is because of who they are and how they're growing. And they can't, you can only help somebody grow to the capacity that you are growing yourself. I'm not talking about listening to podcasts. I'm talking about listening to podcasts and then putting it into practice, right? A lot of times we like to be like, oh yeah, I'm growing because I'm reading books. Oh yeah, I'm growing because I'm going to conferences. Oh yeah, I'm growing because I'm listening to podcasts. No, you're growing when you take all of the crap that you learn, all of the knowledge and you put it into your actual life. And so what I want you to do is I want you to grab a pen and paper and ask yourself the question, what do I need to start following through on? What is my dog food that I need to

be eating? If I'm telling people that they need to wake up early, am I waking up early? If I'm telling people they need to eat better, am I eating better? If I'm telling people that they need to meditate, when was the last time I meditated? So think about that. Eat your own dog food. Watch your, you know, your relationships around you grow from doing it. And then watch your business, if you're a coach or consultant, grow from that as well. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. If you like this, please share it with someone that you know and love. Once again, check back on Monday, because I might have a little bit of an announcement about some Black Friday stuff coming up,

maybe some sort of challenge coming up for 2020 to make it the best of your life. And maybe, just maybe, a big cash prize might be part of it. So check back on Monday. I appreciate you for listening. Please share with a friend. I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better.

I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.