The Mindset Mentor - Ep 112 - How to Overcome Jealousy

Episode Date: May 6, 2016

What is jealousy? At it's core it is desire for something for something that we do not have that someone else does. The problem with jealousy is that when we become jealous we push whatever it is that we want away from us. In this episode I speak about how to overcome jealousy and to make it work for you. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us, however you listen to us. And also, if you have not yet done so please subscribe to us however you listen to us and also if you have not yet done so go ahead and like us on facebook at facebook.com slash MWF motivation and you'll be able to follow us for all of the motivational stuff that we put up every single day but then also follow us for the Facebook live events where I've been able to answer questions for anybody who wants to get on and actually be part of the event. It's pretty cool because you can put in the comment section, you can see me, you can hear

me and we can actually have a live chat which is something that's pretty cool. So if you haven't done so, like us on Facebook as well. And what I'm going to be talking about, last episode I talked about confidence, how to build confidence when you fail. And another part of confidence is be confident in yourself enough to not be jealous of somebody when you see them and to turn jealousy into appreciation. And I want to talk about this because this is something that really holds people back from getting what they want is jealousy, I think. By putting out the wrong

vibrations, you might want to call it, of putting out the wrong energy where they look at something or someone that has something that they want and they get jealous of them versus appreciating them and appreciating what they may have had to do in order to get there. And at its core, jealousy is just desire. That's all that it is. At its core, when you're jealous of somebody, you desire to have what they have. And most people, what you have to realize more than anything else is whatever someone has that you desire, it ends up being jealousy. And see what most people do when they find someone who has something that they want is they do one of two things. They either bring them down, the person

who has what they want, or they bring themselves down. And let me give you a quick example of what I mean. They bring them down by saying, oh, they're successful or they have the nice car, but they must have screwed over a lot of people to get there. Or they have a nice house or whatever it might be, but they're probably an a-hole. And they're rich, but they probably only focus on money and screw a lot of people over to get there. They don't focus on people or doing the right thing. Whatever it might be, we in our minds try to bring that person down immediately. So we see, oh, they have the car that I want, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And that's not the way to attract something into your life. If you listen to the law of attraction episode, if you go back to

that, we make the frequency that we're at by bringing somebody else down that has something that we desire. We actually make ourselves feel better at the present moment because we are jealous of them. Uh, but it's actually going to push whatever it is that they have that we desire away from us. And that's not where you want to be. So instead of looking at somebody and thinking, oh, well, good for them, whatever, they probably screwed people over, whatever it might be, just, you know, they have that, but this, and then fill that in. Instead, what it should be is we should congratulate that person on our head. We should think, man, good for you. You must have done something right. You must have worked really hard to get to where you are. You must have really helped a lot of people out and

added a lot of value to a lot of people's lives in order to get to where you are. And you build them up in your head and stop pushing that thing away from you by getting jealous or desiring exactly what it is and pushing it away and creating that negative energy from you by getting jealous or desiring exactly what it is and pushing it away and creating that negative energy when you think about it. Be happy for that person. It's hard for a lot of people to do is to be happy for the person that has something that they desire. Even if you don't know them, find a way to be happy for them. That will help you attract it into your life. And if we don't bring them down, the natural thing is if we don't bring them down, we have the tendency to then bring ourself down. We think that, you know, I don't

have this skill set that this person has to acquire whatever it is that they have that I want. I'm not smart enough to get whatever they have. I don't have enough time to work as hard as they do. I don't have enough energy anymore because I'm too old or whatever it might be. So we either bring them down or to bring ourselves down. And that as well will not attract that into our lives. So your mindset needs to be in that case that you will eventually find a way to acquire whatever it is. That person must have acquired some type of knowledge that you also need to acquire in order to get whatever it is that they have that you desire. And if you start working towards whatever it is, then you're eventually going to get there if you work as hard as you possibly can to get there. And that's the way that you get what you

want. You don't get what you want by looking at somebody and being jealous for them and bringing them down or looking at somebody and being jealous of them and then bringing yourself down. Think about that. There's no way to attract that into your life. You have to literally normalize the feeling of having it and look at someone and go, you know what, man? Good for you. Good for you. And that's the thing that I want you to start thinking of.

And you have to realize, listen, we're never going to be perfect. You'll feel jealousy creep up sometimes. But when you stand guard to your mind and kick out that negative emotion, when that jealousy does creep up and you replace it with, you know what, good for you. That's the phrase that I want you to remember. Good for you. You must have really added a lot of value to a lot of people's lives in order to get that whatever it is that you want, whatever it is that they have that you want. So I want you to think about that. I want you to think about jealousy. And when you see someone who's jealous, if you know someone who's jealous of a lot of people and makes up a lot of excuses like that, maybe you should share this episode with them.

Or if you, if they're just the type of person who's never going to listen to it in your mind, just go, you know, it's sad that that person won't get what they want because they're pushing it away from them. And you have to normalize the feeling of getting what you want. And you have to stand guard and go, you know what? I'm going to start appreciating those people. I'm going to start appreciating what they have. I'm going to figure out a way to attract it into my life because by having jealousy and bringing that person down or by having jealousy and bringing myself down is never going to attract those things into my life. I'm never going to acquire whatever it is that I want to acquire by having those negative emotions towards it. So what I want to leave you with, the challenge I want to leave you with is anytime you

start to get jealous of someone, I want you to immediately switch and in your head think, good for you. Good for you for getting that. That's something that I want one day and that's something that I will get one day and I'm going to figure out a way to attract it as well. But you need to think. Good for you. So if you know someone that could get something from this, please share this with them. Please share it with them. We are over, we're approaching 500,000 downloads and we can't get to a million our first 12 months without you sharing. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you.

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