The Mindset Mentor - Ep 15 - My First Podcast Hater

Episode Date: September 23, 2015

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Psst, hey, do you want a free motivational e-book called Hack Your Goals, a Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Success? Go to mwfmotivation.com and download it for free like hundreds of other people already have. Okay, now I'll get you back to the podcast. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, which I am proud to say has been rated the number one podcast in iTunes, new and noteworthy in six different categories, including self-help and business. And as the podcast designed to help you grow into the best version of yourself in 10 to 20 minutes,

every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we'll take a life topic, break it down, discuss it, and leave you with thoughts to impact your life and mind. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. My name is Rob Dial. And today we're going to be talking about something that's very interesting to me, and that is, believe it or not, haters. And I can't believe that I'm doing an episode on this because I always thought that those Instagram quotes and all the stuff that people put out there that say, shout out to my haters and all of that stuff was kind of corny. And then something happened the other day, and I had a conversation with my girlfriend and decided that I needed to make this because we thought it would be valuable. So I recently got my first hater on iTunes.

So the reason why I started this podcast was because I believe that I, you know, I read a lot, I get a lot of information, and I like to teach that information. And I don't do this because I feel like I'm a perfect person and I need to tell everybody else how to be perfect like me. That's not even close. What that is, though, is that I like to teach people and that's it. And so I have on iTunes at this current moment, I have 88 five-star reviews and one one-star review. So let me repeat that. 88 five-star reviews and one one-star review. So if you haven't given me a rating on iTunes, whatever you want to rate

me, please do so. Just go to rating and reviews when you're on my page on iTunes. And so anyways, this review came in, this one-star review. And I was talking to my girlfriend about it. And she's like, don't pay attention to them. I think that she was kind of worried in a sense that it would get me down that this person had given me the one-star review. And we were just, I was driving and I just said, in passing, I said, when you start getting haters, you know you're doing something right. And she's like, man, that's so true. She's like, you know what, you should do an episode about that. And of course she was right. And so I decided I should do an episode about that because there's a lot of haters out there and there's a lot of people that want to

cut you down and make you feel like less of a person that you are to make themselves feel better. to make themselves feel better. So people, I believe, are conditioned not to stand out. They don't want to stand out. They don't want to be the outlier. They don't want to be out of line. Even though I know I'm doing well, I know I'm doing something right, I've read that one one-star review out of the 88 five-star reviews. And I'll admit, I had a quick second of doubt. Like, am I doing something good? Is what I'm producing, is this good? And that second of doubt, it left very quickly. And I laughed about it. But the reason why people are conditioned to fit in is if you think about, say, for instance, our caveman days, when we had to be in groups in order to survive, in order to fend off animals, in order to have people take care of the babies

and have fire and warmth and all of these things. In order to survive, cavemen had to stay in packs of people. So if you were in a pack, you would want everyone to like you and you would want to make sure that you fit in and you do everything the right way because the possibility of you getting kicked out of the group absolutely meant death. Like you were probably going to die if you were kicked out of the pack. So if you think about it that way, we're kind of conditioned as people to want to fit in and for people to want us, you know, for people to like us and for people to approve of everything that we're doing. And the fear of not fitting in and people not liking what we're doing can hold us back

sometimes. And the thing about haters that you have to realize is the reason why you know you're doing something right when you start getting haters is because haters are really just jealous. That's all that it is. They're jealous of what you're doing. You're obviously doing something right. And jealousy, all it really is, is just a combination of anger and a combination of fear. So the two of those together. So anger and fear. Anger that, you know, what you're doing is something that is great and is something better than that they are doing. They're angry, not at you, they're angry at themselves for not producing great results like you are or not having a great idea like you had. You know, if you bring up an idea of something that you think is awesome and then someone's like, that's stupid and

immediately tries to cut you down, usually the reason why that they're mad at you, excuse me, mad at the idea is because they didn't think of the idea. So the first thing, like I said, is jealousy is anger, but also it's fear if you think about it. They fear that what they are doing in life, you know, by the time they die might not be as great as something that you're doing. So they have that anger that they didn't think of that idea and that they're not, you know, producing results that you are. And they have that fear that they will never amount to what you are or what you're going to amount to. And, you know, if you think about the episode with Jake Bailey that we had, he talks about his favorite quote is The Man in the Arena by Theodore Roosevelt. And if you don't know The Man in the Arena, it goes like this.

It says, The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. But who does actually strive to do the deeds? Who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while doing greatly, so that in his place shall never be those cold, timid souls who neither know victory or defeat. So you must realize that the people, the reason why people hate on other people, the reason why people are rude, the reason why they

do those things is because it gives them a sense of power. It gives them a sense of control, you know, because they're jealous of what you're doing. They're angry at themselves for not doing something like that. They have the fear that they will never amount of what you're doing. They're angry at themselves for not doing something like that. They have the fear that they will never amount to what you're going to amount to. And they try to cut you down because cutting you down gives them a sense of a temporary sense of worth. Like they feel like for that instance, all of the great stuff you're doing doesn't even matter because at that instance, they feel like they're better than you.

And, you know, they have too many issues in their heads to work out. So they lash out at someone else who seems like they have it together to make themselves feel better. So whenever you get a hater, the next time you have someone that's a hater who says that they hate some of the stuff that you do, who's rude to you, who makes fun of you, the bullies and all of those, the people who try to cut you down. Don't get down on yourself about their opinions because it means that you're doing something right. And it means that they're jealous of you. And it means that they don't have it all together.

So in all honesty, more than anything else, what I think you should do, I think you should feel sorry for them. You know, next time someone hates on you, instead of feeling down on yourself, feel sorry for what that person has to go through in their own head. That stuff is so bad that they have to lash out at you, someone who's doing well, who's got great ideas, who's, you know, following your passion, who's working hard at what you want. You know, it's a lot easier to make fun of somebody than it is to actually go in and do that. You know, for instance, I'll give you an example. Some people might, you know, someone might be overweight out there and you might be going to the gym and you might be going

to the gym to try to get yourself in shape. And there might be haters out there. But what you have to realize is just because they're hating on you doesn't mean that you're doing something right. You're going to the gym to better yourself and you're going to the gym because you wanna be around longer, you wanna be healthier, you wanna look good. And these people could be hating on you because in their heads, their self-confidence is so low

that they see someone trying to get ahead in life like you are, that they feel like they need to cut you down. So to wrap it up, I'll give you a quote. And it's from what I found online. It says Drake. This is a Drake quote, but then I found out it was also someone else's. So it probably wasn't Drake's in the first place. And it says, haters don't really hate you. Drake's in the first place. And it says, haters don't really hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of what they wish to be. So exactly like I said throughout this whole episode, let me repeat that. Haters don't really hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of what they wish to be. So if I were to give you some, you know,

reflection of what they wish to be. So if I were to give you some closing remarks of this, the two that I'm going to give you, number one, next time someone hates on you, don't get down on yourself. Don't even take it into any consideration. If anything else, it means you're doing something really good. So if next time you get a hater, be happy that you have a hater because it means you're doing something right. And if, oh, and also at the same time, like I said, if you do want to give me a rating on iTunes, that would be awesome to make me feel better about this hater. But that person obviously has other stuff that they're working on. So the first thing is, if you get a hater, know you're doing something right. Feel sorry for that person. And the second thing, guys,

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