The Mindset Mentor - Ep 22 - Stop Saying "I Wish" & Start Saying "I Will"

Episode Date: October 9, 2015

It is time to take control of your life and stop making excuses. Whatever it is you want in this life you can have, you just need to have the mental fortitude to work hard for it and not allow yourself to make excuses. In this episode we speak about how the gym is a perfect metaphor for life and how you do one thing is how you do everything. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Psst, hey, do you want a free motivational e-book called Hack Your Goals, a Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Success? Go to mwfmotivation.com and download it for free like hundreds of other people already have. Okay, now I'll get you back to the podcast. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, which I am proud to say has been rated the number one podcast in iTunes new and noteworthy in six different categories, including self-help and business, and is a

podcast designed to help you grow into the best version of yourself in 10 to 20 minutes. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we'll take a life topic, break it down, discuss it, and leave you with thoughts to impact your life and mind. My name is Rob Dial and the podcast starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. My name is Rob Dial. If you have not subscribed to us, please subscribe to us on iTunes, Stitcher, SoundCloud, however you listen to us. And if you like this episode, if it gives you value, please share it with someone. I have to admit, I'm a little bit fired up. I just got back from the gym, overheard a conversation, which has reminded me of a lot of different conversations that I've heard or things that I've heard. And I'm going to use the gym to talk about life.

or things that I've heard. And I'm going to use the gym to talk about life. And I think that it's, you know, the gym and sports are very close to being the same as life. And I have to get this off of my chest because I'm tired of excuses. And, you know, like I said, just got back from the gym and please don't take this as preaching, you know, from my soapbox or anything. It's just something that I have to get off my chest. And it's a mindset thing that I think people need to think about. You know, recently I was able to start working out again the past three months. Before then I was working out five to six times a week. I was 200 pounds. I was in the best shape of my life. And then injury set me back because I had, you know, just some injuries with shoulders, hips, those types of things. And I wasn't able to work out for a year. And in that year, I dropped 17 pounds to 183 pounds. And everyone that kept seeing me, you could ask my girlfriend, I started getting really annoyed because everyone kept saying,

oh, you look really thin. Oh, you're looking really thin. Are you running a lot more? And I kept giving the same answer and saying, no, you know, I don't work out at all. Like I just, the reason why I look really thin is because I haven't been able to go to the gym. And I got the exact same response from every single person. I want to say it was maybe 20 people. And every single person said, oh man, I wish I could lose weight by not going to the gym. And I guarantee you those people don't pay attention to their diet the way that I did in that time. I lost weight because I paid attention to my diet. I didn't let myself get off track and start eating pizza all the time and start drinking

beer all the time and doing all of these things that I know would make me gain weight. So what I want to say is stop saying that I want. And what do I mean by that? If you see someone with a really good body, stop saying, I want that body. I wish I could have that body because it always ends up with, but I want that body, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I want that. I wish I had her body, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it's usually something along the lines of, you know, I want that body, but I wasn't blessed with the genetics that they have. They must have amazing genetics, you know, and that is just allowing yourself off of the hook.

And I think that this correlates perfectly with life, but the gym is just a perfect example. You can look at someone however you want to and say, you know, I want to be like that, but, and then give yourself an excuse. You need to learn to just completely take excuses out. Stop saying, I wish. Stop saying, I want. Start saying, I will. I will, I will, I will. I will get that body. Maybe I don't have the genetics that that person has, but I will get that body because I'm going to work my freaking tail off in the gym and work my tail off in the kitchen and not let myself slip because I will get that body. You know, I overheard this conversation in the gym that made me want to get to this because I overheard the conversation and it's reminded me of other

conversations and stop saying, you know, I wish I want, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, because it is whatever it is, fill in the blank. It's just a crap excuse. Let's be honest. It's just a crap excuse. Sorry if I offend people, whatever it is, it's just something that I have to get off my chest. Start saying, I will. Stop saying that you can't do it. You know, do you have a good of genetics as someone else? Maybe you don't, but that shouldn't hold you back from what you want. You get one freaking life. Why shouldn't you have the body that you want? Maybe you don't have the genetics. It means you have to put more work in, but you can still get that body. The question is not whether you have the genetics to do so. The question is whether you have the mental fortitude and the work ethic to get that body,

the mental fortitude to go to the gym when you need to go to the gym, the mental fortitude to not eat the cookies and the cake and the pizza and drink the beer and all that stuff. So stop blaming things that are out of your control like genetics because we can't change our genetics. It's an easy out. Stop using the victim card. We all know people who came from crappy circumstances in life, way worse than you and I, but made incredible stories out of themselves. And the reason why was because they didn't use the, I wish, but, I want, but. They took the excuse out of it. So stop putting the excuse into it. It should be, I want this and

I will do whatever the F I have to do in order to get that. You know, I don't care about your genetics. I don't care about all of that. It should be, I, you know, I might have crappy genetics, but I will get this because it is my life and I will work my tail off to get there. You know, I saw a picture of a bodybuilder the other day with no legs. Are you gonna tell me that you and I are less capable

than the person with no legs of getting the body that we want? No, we're all more capable, but they have a stronger mindset and they won't let it hold them back. And we have to have that mental fortitude to get the body that we want, to get the business that we want, to get the success that we want. We have to put the work into the gym. We have to follow the diet. We need to stop letting ourselves off of the hook because the big thing is that you have to take from this is the way you do one thing in your life is the way you do everything. Maybe it's not genetics that's the problem. Maybe it's what's going on in our mind. Maybe

our mind is the problem. Maybe it's not that the genetics is a problem. Maybe it's the fact that you had a long day at work and you were planning on going to the gym at six o'clock and now you get into traffic and go, man, I had a real long day at work. This traffic looks really bad. Maybe I should just go home and hang out because I worked really hard. No, it should never be letting yourself get off the hook because if you're letting yourself get off the hook there,

you're also letting yourself get off the hook in other places, in your family, in your business, in every possible thing that you could let yourself off the hook, you're letting yourself off the hook. So stop letting yourself off the hook with the gym, with saving money, with treating people the right way, with your business, with your family. It's all correlated because it all stems from the way your mind works. So it shouldn't matter how long your day was. It shouldn't matter what traffic is like. It shouldn't matter how much sleep you got.

If you made a commitment to yourself and it's to yourself, the most important person in your life, do it because you said you were going to do it. Sorry, I had to get this off my chest. I thought it would be a pretty good episode because this is, and I'm not a perfect person. I always say this and I don't want to feel like I'm preaching from my soapbox and telling you have to do this, but we have to be aware that if we don't have the body that we want, we have to work our freaking tails off to get the body that we want. Why should we not? If this is a one life that we have, why should we not work our tails off to get the body that we want? Why should we not work our tails off to get the family that we want, to get the relationships that we want,

to get the business that we want, to get the relationships that we want, to get the business that we want, to get the success that we want. Why should we let ourselves off of the hook? The problem is never the genetics. The problem is the mental fortitude and the mindset. So the challenge I'm going to give you and what I'm going to leave you guys with is the challenge for today is to stop saying, I want, stop saying, I wish wish, start saying I will, and stop letting yourself off the hook for the little things because you're going to let yourself off the hook for the big things as well. Then the last thing I'll leave you with, I hope I didn't speak too fast because I'm super fired up about this topic, obviously. The second thing, make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I really appreciate everybody listening in.

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