The Mindset Mentor - Ep 35 - The Phrase to Change Your Life

Episode Date: November 9, 2015

"Can't change it" That is a phrase that can change your life. So often we let things out of our control stress us out. In this episode we talk about that phrase and how it helps us take control of our life and relax, even when times get stressful. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Psst, hey, do you want a free motivational e-book called Hack Your Goals, a Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Success? Go to mwfmotivation.com and download it for free like hundreds of other people already have. Okay, now I'll get you back to the podcast. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, which I am proud to say has been rated the number one podcast in iTunes new and noteworthy in six different categories, including self-help and business. And as the

podcast designed to help you grow into the best version of yourself in 10 to 20 minutes, every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we'll take a life topic, break it down, discuss it, and leave you with thoughts to impact your life and mind. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. My name is Rob Dial, and if you have not yet subscribed to us, please do so on iTunes, Stitcher, or SoundCloud, however you listen to us. And if you enjoy this episode, please share with a friend, spread the love. All we are trying to do here is just change the world one person at a time. And in episode 32, I talked about letting things go in your past in order to create the

future that you really desire. And in this episode, instead of talking about the past, I'm going to talk about letting go of things that you cannot change that are in the actual present moment. And I've been told many times by people that I am too calm sometimes. Things don't really seem to affect me too much. I'll give you a perfect example. A few years ago when I had my own office, I had a bunch of sales reps and we were in a meeting. And when we came out of the meeting, we were walking by and we went into another one of my offices and my TV had been stolen. When we were in the meeting, someone came in, stole my TV,

and left with it. It was like a 42 inch flat screen TV. And after I called the cops, I just continued on about my day. And they came up to me and they said, you know, why, why, why are you so calm? You seem like you should be, you just lost a TV. You should be really mad about this stuff. And I walked them through this thing called can't change it, which is something I learned from my friend, Hal Elrod. Things are out of your control. There's really no reason why it should stress you out. So what I said was, you know, this person stole my TV. They must have needed it more than I do. You know, I'll eventually get another TV, not really a big deal. And although, you know, it might've cost me four or 500 bucks to get a new

TV, which I probably did not want to spend the money. It was something that I had to do and there was nothing I could do. I called the cops, They couldn't find it. And, you know, it's something I learned from Hal Elrod. And we talked about it very briefly in the episode. I think it's episode 12 that he's on. But I want to dedicate an entire episode to this because I think that it's very important for somebody's happiness. So can't change it is a phrase that I want you to use anytime that something happens negatively to you that's completely out of your control. So for instance, traffic is a perfect example of this. Traffic happens. We all get stuck in traffic at some point in time. And most of the time, what do we do when we get stuck in traffic? We curse, we stress out about it,

we think about how late we're going to be, you know, we get so mad that we just grip the steering wheel as hard as we can and, you know, our knuckles get all white and we start to get really stressed out. We tense up our muscles. But when we do something like that, if you think about it, what is it really doing for us by, you know, getting so stressed out. It's doing nothing good. It's putting our body through unneeded stress that we really don't need. We can't move the cars that are in front of us. We can't make them move. The traffic is there. So what can we do? We can't change anything about the cars. But what we can change about that is our attitude. The great thing about attitude is that we are 100% completely in control of it. It is 100% up to us. We choose how we want to feel and we choose how we react to every single

situation that happens to us in life. So instead of putting our bodies through stress, we can put on a really calm song. We can enjoy the ride. We can look at the blue sky and pay attention to all the little details that we take for granted. You know, we might be able to, since we're going so slow, we might be able to notice all of the things that we normally miss when we drive by on the interstate at 80, 85 miles an hour. So see the ride is going to happen either way, but it's completely in our control. What type of ride it's going to be, whether it's going to be a very stressful ride or whether it's going to be a relaxing ride. My go-to relaxing song, I would recommend having a go-to relaxing song or your favorite song, whatever it might be,

that's going to be the song that changes your mood. Mine is just a super simple, relaxing song. It's the Out of Africa theme song. Out of Africa is a really old movie. Not really old, but I think it's from like the 80s. And it's just a really calm song. And to me, it's one of the most calming songs. So I always put it on whenever I happen to be stressed out or anything like that happens, and it just takes my mood down. But the key to all of this is to not let outside circumstances in our life control our moods. It's ourselves that are in control of our moods. So whether it's we're stuck in traffic or somebody stealing my TV, we're always in control of what happens internally. We're not in control of the traffic.

We're not in control of somebody stealing the TV. Always remember that. Another thing that I think helps with that is to appreciate all that you have, to have real perspective. And what I mean by perspective is whenever something's happening, you're stuck in traffic or somebody steals your TV or whatever it might be, something like that happens, ask yourself this, 10 years from now, am I going to remember this moment? to remember this moment? So 10 years from now, am I going to remember being stuck in traffic or whatever it might be? If the answer is no, you're not going to remember it and it's that small of a problem, why stress out about it? Why let your body go through stress? If you're listening to my voice, then you have access to the internet and you probably have it much better than most of the people in the world. Because according to last week, this was downloaded, this podcast was downloaded 127 countries around the world. So there's a good chance that you probably have a pretty good life interrelation of others around the world.

There's a lot of really bad stuff that's happening to other people. Know this, that your life is as great as you make it to be. And what I mean by perspective also is how bad is it to really be stuck in traffic? Just take yourself out of your own mind and look at it. How bad is it to be stuck in traffic? And I'm just using this because it's an easy example for the can't change it. Number one, if you're stuck in traffic, you have a car, you have clothing on, you have food, you have water, you have shelter, which means that you have it better than 90% of people in the world. So the best thing to do is to put it into perspective, sit back and go, oh yeah, I'm just stuck in traffic. Not really a big deal. I can't

change the traffic. So let me enjoy the ride. Turn on your favorite song, enjoy the time. Because you're going to arrive at that place no matter what, but you are in control as to whether you arrive stressed out in having your body gone through 15, 20 minutes of stress or whether you arrive calm and happy because you're going to arrive the same time no matter what, but how you arrive is up to you. And that boils down to the I can't change it phrase, which anytime something is out of your control, I hope that you remember the phrase, can't change it, and make sure that you continue on with your day and have a good one. So that's what I'm going to leave you with is the

can't change it phrase. And the second thing I'm going to leave you with, as always, please make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. If you like this podcast, please share it with a friend. Like I said, we're trying to change the world one person at a time. And if you haven't subscribed to us, please do so. iTunes, Stitcher, SoundCloud. And I hope that you have an absolute amazing day. And so that is it. Thank you so much for listening to this episode.

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