The Mindset Mentor - Ep 39 - How Reliable Are You?

Episode Date: November 18, 2015

Integrity, trust and reliability. Those are all qualities that we want others to see in us. The problem is that we drop the ball in some places of our life, which makes us seem less reliable and trustworthy. In this episode we dive in to how to improve those key areas in order to be seen as an individual that can be counted on and trusted. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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And today what I'm going to be talking about is something I am very passionate about. And the reason why is because it is one of my pet peeves with people. And that is following through. I cannot think of anyone off the top of my head that has ever existed that's a successful person that was really bad at following through on what they said they were going to do. At least someone that was, you know, successful and stayed successful for a while. So we're gonna be talking about holding yourself accountable to, you know, doing what you say you will do, to not backing out of plans to being on time, which is a big thing for a lot of people, you know, and like I said, with not backing out of

plans, like don't confirm yourself to go to something if you're not sure. I know a lot of people, they get excited about something coming up or, you know, their friend's going out of town and they say, yeah, I'm in it for sure. I'm definitely gonna go. And then it comes closer and they say, no, I'm sorry, I can't go to it. And what I wanna tell you is that in that case, a maybe is better than a yes that turns into a no. So don't be afraid in that case to say maybe to somebody about their plans.

There's a lot of Facebook events that come through. If you're not sure that you're gonna be there, put it as a maybe. The reason why is because when you say yes and then continually cancel, it starts to break people's trust. And the last thing that you want to do is break people's trust, especially people who you really care about or want to foster a friendship or relationship or a business relationship with. And we all know that once that trust is broken and they start to view you as someone that they can't trust in that sense or rely on to show up or they can't take your word for it, that once that trust is broken, it's really hard to build back after it's broken.

And people will stop asking you to do stuff with them. They will stop counting on you and they'll find somebody else. And obviously I understand things happen and sometimes things have to be rescheduled. That's fine. But there's people that we all know in our lives. You might be one of them, but you might have friends that might be one of them. They just continually say they're going to do something and they're going to be somewhere and then cancel last minute or they have something come up or they can't do it. We all know stuff happens sometimes, but we do know that there's those habitual people that do that all the time.

You don't want to be one of those people. People want to hang out with and be around people who they can put their trust into, someone that they can put their trust into, someone that they can trust. We all know that that's probably one of the biggest things for a relationship or a friendship is trust. They trust someone who they know will be there and they know will show up and not cancel on them or be late. This is a huge, huge thing. Never, never, never be late. It is one of my biggest pet peeves. But besides that, you know, you should never be late. It is one of my biggest pet peeves. But besides that, you should never be late to something. Plan to leave as if traffic is always horrible. Here in

Austin, traffic is almost always horrible. So you have to leave early. For instance, this morning, I had coffee with somebody and it takes about 15, probably takes about 20 minutes to get to this place. I left 45 minutes before just in case traffic would be horrible. Guess what? It rained this morning. Traffic was complete crap. I didn't want to be late to that because you don't want to be late to those types of things. So plan to leave your house as if traffic is always horrible. Showing up late is one of the biggest punches in the face to people.

And people don't really think about it as in-depth as they should. Time is a non-renewable resource. So you showing up late, 10 minutes late to something is taking 10 minutes that that person will never get back in their entire life. Money, for instance, is a renewable resource. You can always make more money. I would rather have somebody steal money from me than to steal time from me because I will never get that time back. I can always make more money. So make sure that if you're gonna be saying

you're showing up at a certain time, make sure you get there at least on time. Try to get there a few minutes before because if showing up on time, think of it this way, if showing up on time. Try to get there a few minutes before. Because if showing up on time, think of it this way, if showing up on time makes you reliable, if people can rely on you to show up on time, if that makes you reliable, what does showing up late make you? It makes you unreliable. And people don't normally think of it that way, but you have to realize that people don't want to go to

something and then have their time wasted because you're showing up late to something. So what it boils down to more than anything else is three different things. By following through, by doing what you say you're going to do, by showing up on time, by not canceling on people, by showing up to events when you say you're going to, it boils down to three things, integrity, reliability, and respect. So number one, integrity. People want to be around other people with integrity. The ones that they know are honest, the ones that they know are good people, the ones that they know they have the right morals, and people want to be treated well. Showing up on time and showing up when you're supposed to and showing up and not canceling or having somebody rely on you

is treating somebody is, you know, all of those things is not treating somebody well. People want to be treated well. So saying that you'll be somewhere at a certain time or saying that you're going to do something and backing out shows a lack of integrity on your side. So always remember that. The second thing, reliability. People want to be around other people that are reliable. They want to be around reliable people. Like I said before, time is a non-renewable resource. So you don't want to break that trust with somebody by showing up late or not showing up to something because you're breaking that trust. If you think of this trust as a glass ball, it's not completely breakable, but it can chip and all of that. So every time that you show up late or you don't show up to

something or you're not trustworthy in some sort of way, think of it as dropping the ball. And every single time a chip comes off of that ball, it will never be the same after that. That's exactly how trust is. No one wants to be known as unreliable. So you want to make sure that you're doing what you say you're going to do, that you're following up on your word, that somebody can trust and put their, you know, think of you as reliable in someone with integrity. And the last thing, number three, is respect. People want to be respected. And when you go back on your word or you show up late to something, it shows a lack of respect for somebody. And once someone starts losing respect for you,

it's hard to gain it back because it's like I said, the respect, the trust, it's just like the ball. You drop it, there's gonna be chips out of it. Once you disrespect someone by showing up late or by canceling late or by them relying on you, their trust can never be the same and the respect for you can never be the same. So to run down through this one more time, do what you say you're gonna do.

Show up on time, follow through. When you're asked to do something, do it. Make sure that you're living your life with integrity, with reliability, with respect, because you want to be seen as somebody that people can trust and people can rely on you. And once people can trust you and rely on you, your business and your relationships will start to grow and deepen and get even better from there. So remember those three things, the integrity, the reliability, and the respect are those three things when you show up on time and when you do what you say you're going to do. And the last

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