The Mindset Mentor - Ep 47 - How To Manage Your Emotions

Episode Date: December 7, 2015

In this episode I talk about how when our emotions are running high, it is never the best idea for us to talk to someone else or make a decision. I dig into the concept of what it means by when emotions are high, logic is low and how you can use it in your every day life. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. My name is Rob Dial. And if you have not yet subscribed to us on iTunes, Stitcher, SoundCloud, however crazy way you happen to be listening to my voice, please do so. And if you like this episode, I'm going to be talking about emotions. And you think someone that you know could benefit from it, just please share it with them. We're trying to change the world one person at a time by helping out as many people as we can. And today, I'm going to be talking about when emotions are high, logic is low. So, what I'm going to talk about is why you should never make a decision when you're in a bad mood. Why you should always calm down before talking to your significant other or talking to your friend about something that they've done that bothers you or something that happened that

bothers you or something that has happened that set you off. And the reason why you always want to make sure that you have calmed down is because when your emotions are high, when you're really wound up, when you're sad, when you're mad, when you're pissed off, all of these things, when your emotions are high because of something that somebody did or someone that pissed you off or something that happened in your business that's not where it needs to be, when your emotions are high with those, your logic is low. And what I mean by that is you don't need to make the best, you won't make the best decisions. You don't need to make big decisions when your emotions are high.

When your logic is low, that means that you're not thinking 100% clearly. You're mad. Your adrenaline is rushing, which means you're in fight or flight mode, which means you're not going to make the best decisions. So if you're in fight or flight mode, then it's probably not a good time to have a conversation with somebody because you're literally going to probably start a fight. So have you ever gotten really pissed off at somebody and then brought it up while you were pissed off?

How did that work out for you? Did it work out well? Probably not because probably what it did was start an argument. And when you start an argument, then their emotions start running really high. And then they start saying stuff to make you even more mad. And it's just a vicious circle. So when you have a situation, when you're mad at people, you know, you're mad at them and then you go with them and make them mad. Well, then their logic gets low and then they start getting mad at you and you start saying stuff to each other that you will both probably regret. You know, have you also ever had something go wrong at work and your immediate reaction is to do something right away? Usually that's not

the best decision. Usually if something goes wrong at work, the best thing is to do is to take some deep breaths to calm down and to actually think it out. Because usually it doesn't go too well when your logic is low. So you might not have been thinking the most logically. You reacted to it in a way that may have been, you know, less than logical. Maybe you're not your best decisions you've ever made. And it makes the situation worse in some cases. So here's the best thing to do in those situations. All you have to do is this, whenever you're extremely mad at somebody or whenever something happens at work or in your business or any time in life that sets you off, makes you mad, makes you sad, makes you really

stressed out, the best thing to do is this, to wait a little bit. To write down what are you mad about. This is after five or 10 minutes when you calm down, you take some deep breaths, you put on a calm, relaxing song, something that you like, write it down. What's, what are you mad about? Why is it making you mad? And then what are the best options to go about fixing it and give yourself some time to write it down. I always talk about journaling and how good it is to put pen to paper. Write it down. What's the problem? What options can you go about fixing it? And give yourself some time before you speak to that person and actually give some space to the person in that sense because if you go at them, it could start another fight. So here's the thing that you have

to do. Write it down, wait a little bit until you're calm, and then speak about it like adults. Because when you come at someone that you're mad at, people will either have one of two reactions. Number one, they're going to coil away, which is their flight mode. They're going to completely disconnect, and they'll take the verbal abuse that you might give to them, or you're about to lay on them. But then what that will do is then make resentment towards you from them because you yelled at them and made them coil away. So they'll either have that one, which is a flight, or they'll have the fight. They'll get mad back at you because you're mad. It's just a natural reaction when someone gets mad just to get mad back. And it turns into a

fight or an argument where things can be said and nothing gets accomplished. So what you need to do is you need to calm down, take some time to write, take the notes, whatever you wrote down and talk to that person about your feelings, what they did, how it made you feel and how possibly they can improve and actually go into an adult conversation instead of creating an argument because arguments do nothing. Conversations are what solve things. So talk about what your problem is and figure out if you can solve the problem or if some type of agreement can be made to make sure that they don't do it again later on down the road or to make sure whatever happened in business doesn't happen again later on down the road. And here's the thing. Don't not say something at all, ever. What I'm saying is make sure that you tell them later when you have calmed down.

And the reason why is because there's no way to overcome something or for them to know that they made some type of problem or made some type of rash decision or something that sets you off unless you tell them in a calm, cool, collected manner. So don't not say something. Just make sure you say something at a different time and bring it up as an adult so you can have an adult conversation to solve it. So I had to bring this up just because the fact that I had seen an argument happen and two people were mad at each other out in public and it was very obvious and immediately this just popped into my head. I thought, man, this is something that people could probably benefit from knowing that

emotions are high, logic is low, and how to use this. So if you like this episode, please subscribe to us on iTunes, Stitcher, or SoundCloud. And if you like it and think someone else could get some type of benefit from listening to it, please share with a friend. And I hope that you have an amazing day. And so that is it. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend, spread the love if you think it's something they could benefit from. If you want the show notes from today, you can get it at mwfmotivation.com, show notes from today, you can get it at mwfmotivation.com, which is also where you can download our free ebook, which is called Hack Your Goals, The Step-by-Step Process to Achieving

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