The Mindset Mentor - Ep 80 - Own What You Want Now!
Episode Date: February 22, 2016In order to get our dream house, dream car, dream job etc. we need to stop thinking of them as our dreams and something we will have a long time from now. We need to learn to own it now energetically ...in order to own it physically in the future. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube
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I have talked about figuring out exactly what it is that you want in life so that you can have
clarity. In the last episode, I talked about starting and going and taking the very first
step towards what it is that you want
to acquire and starting to go towards your goals. In this episode, what I'm going to talk to you
about is how to think about the things that you want, how to mentally place them into your brain.
And you have to stop thinking that the things that you want are big, that they're your dream house,
your dream car, whatever it is, because big is a relative term.
Maybe say you want to make $100,000 in a year. That could be big to you, but to somebody else,
$100,000 could be chump change. They wouldn't be satisfied with that because they make $500,000
or they make a million dollars a year. So big, the word big is just a relative term. When you want a car, stop calling
it your dream car. When you want a house, stop calling it your dream house. When you want a job,
stop calling it your dream job. When you want a specific income to make, stop calling it your
dream income because dreams make it seem unobtainable right now, when in reality, anything that you really want
is obtainable right now if you make the correct steps to get it.
See, when you think things are big, your mind automatically categorizes it as hard to get.
So when you think of it as big, your mind automatically categorizes it as hard to get.
Not impossible, but hard to get. When it's hard to get, it means in your mind, it's going to take a long time to get there.
And when something takes a long time to get there, it means it's going to require a ton
of work.
And when something requires a ton of work, when you think something's going to require
a ton of work to get, you will be less likely to go after it right now.
So what we need to do is actually trick our brains because when
we think it's going to be a lot of work, we're less likely to go after it. So our brain will
back away because there's nothing that we need to do right now because that is in the future.
It's going to take a long time because it's hard to get to. It could be gotten to, but it's going
to take a really long time. So our brain backs away because there's nothing that we can do right now because it's so,
so far in our future.
And I was at a meetup this past weekend and the presenter was talking about normalizing
the feelings of whatever it is that you want.
And this is something I've been doing for such a long time.
And I've just realized that I have to absolutely share this with you.
Normalizing means that you have the feeling of owning it,
that that thing is becoming normal to you. You normalize the feeling that the money will give
you when you have it. So for instance, when I wanted my dream car, my quote unquote dream car,
my dream car at that time is an Audi A4. It was an Audi A4. So what I would do is I would go to
the dealership. I would test drive the Audis. I would be around them and start getting used to them and stop seeing them as
such a dream car. Because when it's a dream, it seems like it's so hard to obtain. So I've put
myself around it so that when I started driving the car and driven the car, I was like, this is
my car. I love this car. I've driven this. I'm going to own one of these cars. This is my car.
And you have to normalize the feeling of owning that car. Normalize the feeling that your
quote unquote dream house is going to give you. Normalize the feeling that that car is going to
give you. Normalize the feeling that the amount of money in your bank account is going to give you.
And what you have to do to normalize it, you have to hang around people who make that much money.
You have to go to the car dealership as often as possible and drive that car today. You have to go to the car dealership as often as possible and drive
that car today. You have to go to the dealership. You have to test drive it as often as you possibly
can. Sit in that car. Imagine yourself owning it. Imagine yourself driving it. Imagine yourself
flying down the highway and how good you're going to feel when you own that car and give the
feelings, get those feelings stirred up inside of you versus just looking at pictures of it on the
screen. You have to go and actually normalize what that's going to feel like and normalize those feelings
so that energetically you can already own that car. Hang out with people who own the houses
that you want. If it's so impossible for you to hang out with people and you think it might be
hard for you to start finding the friends that live in these multi-million dollar houses and
stuff, go to the neighborhoods and just drive around every single day or multiple times a week and just get used to the fact of driving
down this neighborhood. If you have a quote unquote dream neighborhood, this neighborhood
that you want to live in, well then stop thinking of it as a dream neighborhood and start finding a
way to get into that neighborhood and drive around every single day. Because what you're going to do
is at first you're going to be like, holy crap, these houses are ridiculous.
These are all my dream houses. That house is crazy. This house is crazy. And the first time
you go in there, you're just going to be in love with everything you see. The 20th time you go in
there, it's going to start to feel normal for you. And when it starts to feel normal for you,
it doesn't seem that hard to obtain. And energetically, you can trick yourself into,
well, hey, maybe I could own this. Maybe I could own this sooner than I want to because it doesn't
seem so far away. It seems normal to you now. It takes away that what I like to call the holy
crap feeling. When you look at the houses, you're like, holy crap. This house is just crazy. This
is insane. But then when you see it over and over and over again, you're like, you know what?
This is insane. But then when you see it over and over and over again, you're like, you know what?
That's, it's just a house at this point. So then you can attract it easier. When you go to it 20 times, it starts to feel normal at that point. And what you do is you start to shift your mindset
and you desensitize yourself to the feeling of it. The feeling of the holy crap feeling,
you desensitize yourself from it. See, when you see someone who has the car that you want
or the house that you want or the house that you
want, the thing that you have to do is you can't be jealous of them. You can't be cursing them.
You can't be like, oh, that bastard, I really want that house. I really want that car. You can't
have those cursing feelings or those jealous feelings because when you curse them or when
you get jealous, you're actually detracting that thing from your life instead of attracting it
from your life. of attracting it from your
life. You're pushing it further away from you versus bringing it closer to you. So before you
own it physically, you must own it energetically. You must test drive the car. You must test drive
the car as often as you possibly can. Go to the dealership, hang out around the dealership,
look at the cars as much as you possibly can. Drive the neighborhoods. You have to own it energetically. It will trick your brain into owning it already and making it a normal
feeling for you. It will make you work harder right now for the money that you want, for whatever
is that you need to be buying, whatever is that you want to buy. And not put it off by working
harder later on. Work harder for it right now. So therefore you're
working harder for it right now. Envision yourself driving it. Envision yourself as owning that,
a house that's inside of that neighborhood. See, when you make your dream car, when it's your
dream car, your brain thinks that it's so far and that you're not going to be able to obtain it or
that you don't need to work for it right now. We need to trick ourselves. You have to believe that
you already own those things. You already own that house.
You just don't live in it yet.
And then you'll be committed to working towards it.
You already own that car.
You just don't drive it yet.
You already have that money.
It just hasn't been put in your bank account yet.
At that point, you will then be committed to working towards those things.
Waiting for money to show up so that you can then be committed to getting those things is the backward way of trying to acquire what you want
But it's the way that most people think that it works. You have to wait
Oh, i'll wait till I get that money and then i'll go after the stuff
I want no screw that you have to go after stuff you want and be committed right now
And then you will eventually get to them
So you must own the house in your mind. You must already make that
money. You must own the car in your mind. So whatever it is that you want, you must own it
in your mind before you actually own it in the physical sense. So what you want to do today,
what I want you to do today is to decide what it is that you want and decide what it is you need
to do in order to desensitize yourself from making that much money, from owning that car,
from owning that house so
that it doesn't feel so far away so that you can get it sooner. And that way you can attract it
into your life and decide what step you need to take today so that you can desensitize yourself.
Go test drive that car today. Go drive those neighborhoods today. Figure out how it's going
to make you feel when you own a house in the neighborhood, you own that car. So what I want you to do is to figure out what you need to do today and don't wait.
Desensitize yourself and make sure that you figure out a way to own it energetically before
you own it in the physical sense. So with that, I will leave you the same way I leave you every
single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. And I hope that you all have an absolutely amazing day.
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