The Mindset Mentor - Ep 80 - Own What You Want Now!

Episode Date: February 22, 2016

In order to get our dream house, dream car, dream job etc. we need to stop thinking of them as our dreams and something we will have a long time from now. We need to learn to own it now energetically ...in order to own it physically in the future. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Before we dive into today's episode, if you would like a free copy of our motivational ebook called Hack Your Goals, the Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Success, go to mwfmotivation.com and download it. It's already been downloaded over a thousand times, so go ahead and get your copy now. All right, I'll get you the podcast right now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, which I am proud to say has been rated the number one podcast in iTunes new and noteworthy in six different categories, including self-help and business, and is a podcast designed to help you grow into the best version of yourself in 10 to 20 minutes. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we'll take a life topic, break it down, discuss it, and leave you with thoughts to impact your life and mind. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast
Starting point is 00:00:51 starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. I am Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us, however you listen to us. And if you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us wherever you listen to us. And if you have not yet done so as well, go ahead to Facebook, facebook.com slash MWF Motivation, where I share daily motivational stuff on there, videos, pictures, quotes, whatever it is, videos of me doing certain things whenever I'm not on the actual podcast itself. So you get daily motivation every single day, sometimes multiple times a day. So in previous episodes, I have talked about figuring out exactly what it is that you want in life so that you can have clarity. In the last episode, I talked about starting and going and taking the very first step towards what it is that you want
Starting point is 00:01:45 to acquire and starting to go towards your goals. In this episode, what I'm going to talk to you about is how to think about the things that you want, how to mentally place them into your brain. And you have to stop thinking that the things that you want are big, that they're your dream house, your dream car, whatever it is, because big is a relative term. Maybe say you want to make $100,000 in a year. That could be big to you, but to somebody else, $100,000 could be chump change. They wouldn't be satisfied with that because they make $500,000 or they make a million dollars a year. So big, the word big is just a relative term. When you want a car, stop calling it your dream car. When you want a house, stop calling it your dream house. When you want a job,
Starting point is 00:02:32 stop calling it your dream job. When you want a specific income to make, stop calling it your dream income because dreams make it seem unobtainable right now, when in reality, anything that you really want is obtainable right now if you make the correct steps to get it. See, when you think things are big, your mind automatically categorizes it as hard to get. So when you think of it as big, your mind automatically categorizes it as hard to get. Not impossible, but hard to get. When it's hard to get, it means in your mind, it's going to take a long time to get there. And when something takes a long time to get there, it means it's going to require a ton of work.
Starting point is 00:03:13 And when something requires a ton of work, when you think something's going to require a ton of work to get, you will be less likely to go after it right now. So what we need to do is actually trick our brains because when we think it's going to be a lot of work, we're less likely to go after it. So our brain will back away because there's nothing that we need to do right now because that is in the future. It's going to take a long time because it's hard to get to. It could be gotten to, but it's going to take a really long time. So our brain backs away because there's nothing that we can do right now because it's so, so far in our future.
Starting point is 00:03:49 And I was at a meetup this past weekend and the presenter was talking about normalizing the feelings of whatever it is that you want. And this is something I've been doing for such a long time. And I've just realized that I have to absolutely share this with you. Normalizing means that you have the feeling of owning it, that that thing is becoming normal to you. You normalize the feeling that the money will give you when you have it. So for instance, when I wanted my dream car, my quote unquote dream car, my dream car at that time is an Audi A4. It was an Audi A4. So what I would do is I would go to
Starting point is 00:04:22 the dealership. I would test drive the Audis. I would be around them and start getting used to them and stop seeing them as such a dream car. Because when it's a dream, it seems like it's so hard to obtain. So I've put myself around it so that when I started driving the car and driven the car, I was like, this is my car. I love this car. I've driven this. I'm going to own one of these cars. This is my car. And you have to normalize the feeling of owning that car. Normalize the feeling that your quote unquote dream house is going to give you. Normalize the feeling that that car is going to give you. Normalize the feeling that the amount of money in your bank account is going to give you. And what you have to do to normalize it, you have to hang around people who make that much money.
Starting point is 00:05:01 You have to go to the car dealership as often as possible and drive that car today. You have to go to the car dealership as often as possible and drive that car today. You have to go to the dealership. You have to test drive it as often as you possibly can. Sit in that car. Imagine yourself owning it. Imagine yourself driving it. Imagine yourself flying down the highway and how good you're going to feel when you own that car and give the feelings, get those feelings stirred up inside of you versus just looking at pictures of it on the screen. You have to go and actually normalize what that's going to feel like and normalize those feelings so that energetically you can already own that car. Hang out with people who own the houses that you want. If it's so impossible for you to hang out with people and you think it might be
Starting point is 00:05:38 hard for you to start finding the friends that live in these multi-million dollar houses and stuff, go to the neighborhoods and just drive around every single day or multiple times a week and just get used to the fact of driving down this neighborhood. If you have a quote unquote dream neighborhood, this neighborhood that you want to live in, well then stop thinking of it as a dream neighborhood and start finding a way to get into that neighborhood and drive around every single day. Because what you're going to do is at first you're going to be like, holy crap, these houses are ridiculous. These are all my dream houses. That house is crazy. This house is crazy. And the first time you go in there, you're just going to be in love with everything you see. The 20th time you go in
Starting point is 00:06:15 there, it's going to start to feel normal for you. And when it starts to feel normal for you, it doesn't seem that hard to obtain. And energetically, you can trick yourself into, well, hey, maybe I could own this. Maybe I could own this sooner than I want to because it doesn't seem so far away. It seems normal to you now. It takes away that what I like to call the holy crap feeling. When you look at the houses, you're like, holy crap. This house is just crazy. This is insane. But then when you see it over and over and over again, you're like, you know what? This is insane. But then when you see it over and over and over again, you're like, you know what? That's, it's just a house at this point. So then you can attract it easier. When you go to it 20 times, it starts to feel normal at that point. And what you do is you start to shift your mindset
Starting point is 00:06:54 and you desensitize yourself to the feeling of it. The feeling of the holy crap feeling, you desensitize yourself from it. See, when you see someone who has the car that you want or the house that you want or the house that you want, the thing that you have to do is you can't be jealous of them. You can't be cursing them. You can't be like, oh, that bastard, I really want that house. I really want that car. You can't have those cursing feelings or those jealous feelings because when you curse them or when you get jealous, you're actually detracting that thing from your life instead of attracting it from your life. of attracting it from your
Starting point is 00:07:25 life. You're pushing it further away from you versus bringing it closer to you. So before you own it physically, you must own it energetically. You must test drive the car. You must test drive the car as often as you possibly can. Go to the dealership, hang out around the dealership, look at the cars as much as you possibly can. Drive the neighborhoods. You have to own it energetically. It will trick your brain into owning it already and making it a normal feeling for you. It will make you work harder right now for the money that you want, for whatever is that you need to be buying, whatever is that you want to buy. And not put it off by working harder later on. Work harder for it right now. So therefore you're working harder for it right now. Envision yourself driving it. Envision yourself as owning that,
Starting point is 00:08:10 a house that's inside of that neighborhood. See, when you make your dream car, when it's your dream car, your brain thinks that it's so far and that you're not going to be able to obtain it or that you don't need to work for it right now. We need to trick ourselves. You have to believe that you already own those things. You already own that house. You just don't live in it yet. And then you'll be committed to working towards it. You already own that car. You just don't drive it yet.
Starting point is 00:08:33 You already have that money. It just hasn't been put in your bank account yet. At that point, you will then be committed to working towards those things. Waiting for money to show up so that you can then be committed to getting those things is the backward way of trying to acquire what you want But it's the way that most people think that it works. You have to wait Oh, i'll wait till I get that money and then i'll go after the stuff I want no screw that you have to go after stuff you want and be committed right now And then you will eventually get to them
Starting point is 00:09:01 So you must own the house in your mind. You must already make that money. You must own the car in your mind. So whatever it is that you want, you must own it in your mind before you actually own it in the physical sense. So what you want to do today, what I want you to do today is to decide what it is that you want and decide what it is you need to do in order to desensitize yourself from making that much money, from owning that car, from owning that house so that it doesn't feel so far away so that you can get it sooner. And that way you can attract it into your life and decide what step you need to take today so that you can desensitize yourself.
Starting point is 00:09:35 Go test drive that car today. Go drive those neighborhoods today. Figure out how it's going to make you feel when you own a house in the neighborhood, you own that car. So what I want you to do is to figure out what you need to do today and don't wait. Desensitize yourself and make sure that you figure out a way to own it energetically before you own it in the physical sense. So with that, I will leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. And I hope that you all have an absolutely amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at mwfmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because
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