The Mindset Mentor - Ep 92 - How to Get Rid of Stress

Episode Date: March 21, 2016

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the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us, however you listen to us. And also, if you have not done so so, please subscribe to us, however you listen to us. And also, if you have not done so as well, follow us on Facebook, facebook.com slash MWF motivation. It's kind of crazy. We got 1100 people that followed us in the past seven days, 1100, which is crazy, mind blowing for me to actually see that growth and actually just double in size. But it shows there's a lot of people out there listening. And I love to see that 1,100 people followed us in the past seven days.

And I also love to see that a lot of people are responding to the early episodes. I put up episodes a little bit early sometimes. So that is one of the benefits for following us on Facebook as well. So what I'm going to talk about today, last episode, I talked about how to handle stress more of. It wasn't really how to handle stress. It was more of why we have stress, how it makes us grow, how it makes us being uncomfortable, helps us grow just like it does with a lobster. What I'm going to talk about today is how to rid yourself of stress. And stress is never going to go away. There's always going to be weeds that are going to grow in a lawn. But when it comes about, whenever those weeds do pop up, you just have to take them out.

And that's kind of the exact same thing with our minds. But the quality of your life will 100% be dictated by where you live emotionally. And what I mean by that, the quality of your life is dictated by where you live emotionally. And what I mean by that, the quality of your life is dictated by where you live emotionally, is that we all have a home. We all have an emotional home where we sit most of the time. A lot of people meet me and it gets them annoyed sometimes that nothing really seems to make me mad sometimes, or that I seem to live in a happy, emotional home. It seems to piss some people off that they get pissed off more than I do or about more things. But we all have a home. Angry

people always find a way to be angry. Happy people are always going to find a way to be happy. Sad people will always find something to be sad about. Stressed out people are always going to find a way to be stressed out. So the question is, where are you living emotionally? What is your emotional home and what is your habits that are creating that emotional home that you're living in? So the ways that we change and rid ourselves of stress, I'm going to give you five steps that are just real quick steps, something really easy, but I want you to think about. The first thing is to feed your mind. And what I mean by feed your mind is to try to learn every single day. I feel like the more that you learn about the rest of the world,

the way that everything works, about how your mind works, whatever it might be about anything, is you start to realize that sometimes your problems aren't even as big as you think they are. And when you feed your mind, sometimes I know people that get stressed out for no good reason. And I want to ask you to ask yourself, do you ever get stressed out for no reason? And then think to yourself, what the hell am I stressing out about? Well,

the thing about it is if you feed your mind, you start realizing how your mind works by maybe read something about psychology or maybe you read something about anybody. You could think about just, you could read a biography and read how someone's life went and how they were raised and how everything went. You're going to learn more about that. And sometimes you look at it and see all the stuff they've been through and think, man, my problems are not that bad. And Tony Robbins talks about how most times what we actually do is we create our own stress because we feel like we have to create stress. We don't feel right mentally sometimes and physically for everything to just be okay.

We feel like there has to be some type of problem. And part of the reason why is because it's in our DNA somewhat. It's in our fabric to constantly feel stressed out. And the reason why is because if you think 500 or a thousand years ago, we had to constantly be stressed out. And the reason why is because if you think 500 or a thousand years ago, we had to constantly be stressed out because we were. We were always on the lookout for the saber-toothed tiger or what could possibly attack us because we were constantly having to watch our back. So we were constantly stressed out. That was something that was good for us at that point in time. We needed that in our brains to be stressed out or to have that fight

or flight mechanism pop in. But now it's not really, it doesn't serve us to have that. So it's not really good to have that in our DNA. Now it's, we might make something up like, oh, Sally said this to me, or I read about this on the internet, or I watched this on TV. So sometimes what I would say is you have to take yourself out of your own body and out of your own mind and ask yourself, is this really something to be stressed out about? And I feel like the most educated people or the people who have been out the most and they feed their mind constantly are sometimes the people who are the most emotionally stable. And the reason why is because they realize that what they're going through isn't really

that big of a deal and it might be something that they can learn from. So the first step is to feed your mind because sometimes you're just stressing out for no reason at all. The second thing to do to rid yourself of stress is to do something physically. Physically move your body. And when I talk about stressed out, this could be used for a lot of different things. So you could think of fear, you could think of depression, you could think of stagnation, sadness, rage, whatever it might be. Do something physically because fear itself is physical. Depression is physical. Stress is physical. Stagnation, sadness, rage, all of those things are all physical. We can physically feel them inside of our body. Those are all things that

we can feel. So all of those things have an effect on how you feel and how you use your body. You can tell the difference by looking at somebody to tell if they're a happy person or you could tell if someone's a sad person just by the way they carry themselves because everything that we do is physical. So if you're stressed out, the easiest way to get rid of that stress, even though that you don't want to do it, is to find a way to change your body. You need to go on a run. You need to lift something heavy. You need to go on a bike ride. You have to do something and physically change your body because your mind and body are connected. So when you get those endorphins, when you start to sweat, all of those things, all of it is physical. So once you start moving your

body, it's a lot harder to be stressed out once you get a really good workout. And as much as fear and depression and stress and sadness and rage, all of those things are physical, so is courage, so is happiness. All of those things are physical. So if you change your body physically, it's a lot easier to then change your mind as well. So the second thing is to make sure that you do something very physical. Sweat, do something, whatever you can do. The third thing I would say to help you rid yourself of stress is to find a way to give back. And if you're depressed or you're stressed or you're sad, I understand it's going to be really hard for you to want to pick yourself up and to want to do

something for somebody else. But when you see someone or help someone whose situation might be worse than yours, it makes your problems feel a lot smaller. And a lot of times we can go and help somebody and go, damn, my problems really aren't that bad. What am I just crying over? I'm just making stuff up that I don't need to. So when you give back and you're actually going out and you're helping other people

or whatever you can do to give back, you sometimes look at your situation compared to the other people's situations that you're helping out and you just completely just get rid of all of your stress or your sadness or your depression, whatever it is, because of the fact that you realize your situation is not that bad sometimes. So that one carries into the next one. Number three is give back. But number four is to find something to be grateful for. Anything. And one tip that I'll give you, something that I've learned, is to... It's a breathing technique that I learned through

meditation. And the breathing technique really helps me. It also helps me fall asleep really quickly, sometimes within just a minute or two. And what you do, you can do this obviously when you're trying to fall asleep. But when you try to find something to be grateful for, wherever you are, as long as you're not driving your car, close your eyes, take deep breaths. And what you want to do is breathe in through your nose, four seconds, hold it for eight seconds, and then breathe out slowly for eight seconds. And then you breathe in, same thing, four seconds through your nose, hold it for eight seconds, breathe out through your mouth, eight seconds as well. So it's 488.

And what it does is physically slow your heartbeat down. And when you slow your heartbeat down, once again, this is a physical thing. It allows you to slow down everything else. It slows down your heartbeat. It allows you to concentrate and to really figure out what it is that you're grateful for. And it could be anything. One of the things that we learned at Tony Robbins was you could be grateful for the way the breeze feels on your face. You could be grateful for your family. Think of all of the things you could possibly be grateful for. It's impossible to be stressed and grateful at the same time. So if you try to make sure that you spend three or four minutes just closing your eyes, breathing that way,

slowing your heartbeat down and concentrating on something, anything that you could be grateful for. The fact that you have food to eat. I was watching a video yesterday with my girlfriend of how this, it was for some company. I can't remember what it is. I think it was cleanwater.org or something like that. And there was this video of this little girl and she had to take care of her family and they didn't have any clean water and she had to walk miles to go get water. And they had to be stressed out about the fact that there was leeches that lived inside of this place that they used to get all the water from. And sometimes they would swallow these tiny leeches that they weren't even able to see

and they would make them sick. And they'd have these leeches living inside of them. And you see this type of stuff and you're like, my problems are nothing compared to some of these people's problems that are out there. So if you find something to be grateful for, the fact that you have clean water, just even if it's something that's that basic, you could turn on your faucet and water comes out of it. You don't have anything that you can really be stressed out about if you think about those types of things. Think about the fact that you're that, you could be grateful that you could turn on water and you could drink it. Some people live off of about a gallon of water a week or a month. And some people don't have enough to even stay alive. And you could turn on your faucet right now and drink water. That's something to be

grateful for. If you need something to be grateful for, just think of that. So number four is to find something to be grateful for. Close your eyes, take the deep breaths. And number five is to ask, and you need to ask yourself, what can I learn from this? So when you're having something that's stressful, that's happening to you, or once again, if we're taking the stress out of it, we're talking about other stuff as well, the sadness, we're talking about depression, or maybe somebody broke up with you or whatever it is, ask yourself, what can I learn from this in every situation? But if we're talking about stress right now in this episode, ask what you can learn from this. Your life is like a classroom that you are in all the

time. Everything that happens to you is a learning process, whether you want to realize it or not. Whether you want to realize it or not, every single thing that happens to you is a learning process. And you can either learn from them or you can make the choice, and it is a choice, to not learn from it as well. And to just go, well, whatever, you know, it happened to me. Whatever happens to you when you're in that situation, ask yourself, you know, if you're in the situation where you're really stressed out, ask yourself, what can I learn from the situation? Why am I stressed? What did I do to get myself in this situation? What can I do to get myself out of this situation? And then once I'm out of it,

what can I do to make sure that I never get myself in that situation again? So everything is a learning process. So ask yourself, what can I learn from this stressful situation that I'm in right now? You can learn from every single thing that happens to you. I want you to realize that. Don't be ignorant to the fact or act naive to the fact that you can learn from every single situation. So those are the five things that I want to tell you that I've learned. A lot of it from the Tony Robbins stuff that we went to this past week. But these are the things that you can learn from how to rid yourself of stress. So number one is to feed your mind. Constantly try to feed your mind and try to get better and try to grow every single day because it's very easy to learn every single day. And once you start to feel like you're making progress and you start to feel like you're learning, you feel like you're getting

smarter, it's harder to get stressed out in that sense. Number two is to do something physically. Whenever you feel that stressed out fear, get up, go for a run, go lift something, do whatever you possibly can, do 15, 20, 30 pushups, whatever you can, do something physically because if you want to change your mental state, change your physical state first. And that's one of the easiest ways to change your mental state. Number three is to find a way to give back to other people because at that point in time, you will then realize that your problems are not as bad as you think. Number four is to find something to be grateful for because it is impossible to be stressed out and to be grateful at the same time.

And number five is as you're going through it, ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation? So those are the five tips. If you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know, someone that you love. We have seen massive growth. We've actually seen, it's crazy. We're going to probably be up 20% in downloads this month than we were last month. And last month was our biggest month ever. So somehow this is growing really quickly on top of the growth that it's already had. And I want to say thank you for that. I've had so many people tag their friends in my Instagram photos so they would listen to the podcast. I've had friends tag their friends in their Facebook, on LinkedIn, everything that you could possibly do. So people who are spreading the word,

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