The Mindset Mentor - Episode 6 - Goals: Make a Plan & Develop Actions Steps

Episode Date: September 2, 2015

It is time to make a plan and execute that plan. In this episode we cover what you may have to give up in order to achieve your goals. We will also develop a plan on how to achieve your goals and teach you how to schedule it and how to use your planner(in the book). Lastly, we will talk about self discipline and how to overcome any procrastination that may come along yout journey. Follow me on IG here: @RobDialJr https://instagram.com/robdialjr Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast. My name is Rob Dial, occasionally joined by my co-host Dean DeVries. And this is our podcast that comes out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. We compress a massive life topic into about 10 to 20 minutes to help you take control of your life, become the best version of yourself, and follow your passion. Buckle up, because the best version of yourself, and follow your passion. Buckle up because the podcast starts now. Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast.

My name is Rob Dial. This is episode six, which if you are following along in our trusty ebook, which also has a workbook involved in it as well, it is chapter six. You can get it if you want to for free. Download our free ebook at mwfmotivation.com. Once again, mwfmotivation.com. And it will help you as we go through this last episode. And if you're just now listening, it'll probably help you to go back through some of the other episodes that we've gone through this e-book because this is the final episode that deals with the book. But just looking back, this is what we've done so far. So we've looked back into past goals and seen how your past goals went, how there might have been some past failures. So

we've done some honest reflection. We've looked forward of what your goals are going to be for the next six months or so. We've developed new goals and then we've developed the why of why your goals are what they are. You know, what is going to keep you going when it gets really hard? So what we want to do now is develop the clarity. And more than anything else, what we're going to do in this episode is make a plan for exactly how you hit your goals and then develop action steps to hit your goals. So we're going to make this plan. We're going to use a schedule. If you have our ebook, the schedule is in there. You can use it. It's time to break it down. It's time to make sure that there is no way on God's green earth that you don't hit these

goals that you guys are setting out for. So the first thing that you need to know, if you're going to go for these goals, there's going to have to be sacrifices. You're going to have to make sacrifices, you know? So you need to ask yourself, what do I need to sacrifice in order to achieve my goal? So I'll give you some examples of sacrifices. Number one, sleep. Sleep is sometimes going to have to be a sacrifice. Sometimes you're going to need to stay up a lot later to hit your goals, or you might need to wake up earlier to hit your goals. You know, if you have a day job

and your goal might, you know, if you have a day job and your goal might, you know, if you have a day job, you get off at five, get home at six o'clock, you know, you might, you know, come home, you have to eat food, you have to get the kids ready for bed, you might have to spend a couple hours hitting your goals at the end of the night. So sleep might be one of the things that you have to give up. Free time could be a really big sacrifice for you. So, you know, it's great. You definitely need weekends and you definitely need free time. But in order to hit big goals and achieve great things, you're going to have to give up some of the free time that you have. It's just absolutely necessary. That could be a sacrifice. Another sacrifice that you might come across is staying

out late and partying. You can't do those types of things as much as you used to. If, you know, some of you that are out there might be 22, 23, 28 years old, and you still like to go out and you still like to party, but you know, sometimes that's going to get in the way. If you're staying out till two, three o'clock in the morning, you know, you're probably going to be sleeping until 10, 11, 12 o'clock. That could get in the way of your goals. So, you know, these are some of the things that could get in the way and you need to make sure that you're planning ahead and knowing that these things could get in the way. Another thing that you might have to sacrifice in order to hit your goals, money. You might have to sacrifice some money. You know, it's the old saying that everybody knows it takes money to make money. So if your goal, you know, one of your goals is to start a

business, you know, there might be some is to start a business, you know, there might be some startup costs. You might have to invest some money into starting this business that you have. So, you know, what do you need to sacrifice? Money might be something you need to sacrifice. Another thing you might possibly have to sacrifice are some friends, you know, and, you know, say your goal is to become super successful and do whatever it is that you want to do. Well, you have to be completely cognizant of the friends that you're around. You know, you're, it's like the, the, the, the saying, you're the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. You're top five people.

So sometimes you just have to sacrifice some friends or at least, you know, take them out of your top five and add somebody that's going to help you to there, so it's like that everyone says, you know, if you're friends with five millionaires, your five best friends are millionaires and you're not, you're probably going to be the sixth millionaire, you know, it's just a natural thing. Another thing, though, if you take that and say, you know, your top five friends are alcoholics, guess what? You're probably going to be the sixth alcoholic. So you might have to sacrifice some friends in order to get to your goals.

Now, as far as planning, planning is a very big thing. I recommend planning every single Sunday the week that's coming. So you get Sunday, today's Sunday for me. I will be doing all of my planning for the week and figure out what I need to do Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, in order to hit my goals. And then what I'll do every single morning when I wake up is I will look at my goals, what exactly I need to do and what I've planned. And then I will reevaluate, make sure all of that is good, see if there's anything that I need to add, anything that needs to take away. But you must know this, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Let me say that again. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. And in order to be effective in all of your goal setting, you need to give yourself a deadline of

when your goal is due. So you need to say, you know, I've been using this example a lot. You know, if your goal is to lose 10 pounds, you notice that the last episode and also last chapter if you follow along in the book, you know, I told you about one of our clients was her goal is to lose 10 pounds in five weeks. She had the deadline five weeks. She knew the exact date that she had to lose 10 pounds by. You need to give yourself a deadline. The reason why is because it puts that extra pressure on you to make sure that you don't slack.

Our goal was to get this podcast out by the 24th of August, so August 24th, which is a Monday. It puts extra pressure on us to make sure that we get everything done by this time. So we need to get our website done. We need to get the podcast done. We need to get everything done with iTunes and SoundCloud and Stitcher. We need to make sure, you know, we had our Instagram, which, you know, I've been spending the past few months on. I think we just hit 17,000 followers on Instagram the other day. You know, our Facebook, we had to get all that up. So there's a lot of stuff that goes into it. So we knew and planned when we had to

have each thing done by in order to make sure that we would be done and published and up as an actual podcast by August 24th, 2015. So you need to give yourself a deadline of exactly the date and you need to put in your schedule. So, you know, let's say your goals, let's just say your goal is six months. And let's say that today is, well, it'd be July 1st, I think it would be. And let's say your goals, let's just say your goal is six months. And let's say that today is, well, it'd be July 1st, I think it would be. And let's say your deadline is the 31st of December. You know, if you have six months to hit your goal, we need to take your goal and break it down into smaller goals. So if your goal is in six months, you need to have six individual smaller goals inside

of there. And you need to see those as checkpoints. So you can say, you know, my goal was this. By the end of this month to stay on track for my six-month goal, how is it looking? And you need to constantly reflect and think about it. So you need to make sure that you break down all of your goals. Now, you need to develop an action plan and you need to get a schedule. If you don't use a schedule,

I would absolutely recommend it. And I don't recommend just using your iPhone or your Samsung or Android. I don't recommend just using your phone for a schedule. I use mine for a schedule, but I also have a weekly planner, which has a weekly and monthly planner. And inside of it, it has every single day of my life inside of this planner broken down to every 15 minutes of exactly what I should be doing. So it's a weekly and monthly planner. You can find them. You can get them online. I get mine at Staples. If you guys want to go to Staples and get yours. So you can literally just look and go, what am I supposed to be doing at this exact second right

now? This, okay, I'm doing this. And it makes it very easy. So you need to make sure that you have your date and everything. So you need to have the look back, the look forward. So I'm gonna go into a little bit more of some steps now. So you need to, there's three steps that you need when creating your schedule.

You know, I recommend on Sunday night. So you need to look back and you need to look forward. So let's say that, you know, today is Sunday, which it is. I'm going to look back and see how my last week went. So I know last Sunday, what my goals were, what I needed to do this week. And so now it's this Sunday. I look back and see exactly how the last week went. What did I do well? What did I get done? Did I happen to miss out on anything? Was there something I was supposed to do? And I was like, oh man, I missed it. If there's something that you missed, you need to look back, see how it went, make sure that you're X-ing all of this stuff out and getting it all done. After you look back, you know, I'll look back on this past week. I'm going to look forward to next week. You know, what do I have to do?

I need to break down every single thing that I need to do throughout the week, list it all down, put it into what days it needs to be done. And then in the mornings when I wake up, I make sure that they're still on my schedule. I make sure that I know what I'm supposed to do for the day and get those things done. So that's the first thing. Look back and look forward. The second thing is for all of the stuff that you write down that you need to do for this week, you need to prioritize what those things are. You know, what is the most important thing that you do this week? Absolutely most important thing. That needs to be in your schedule. You need to make sure that you get it done. So you need to prioritize everything that you have. One thing that I'll recommend,

if you guys have ever read the book, Eat That Frog, eating that frog, in case you don't know what it means, it means that whatever the one thing is that you just, you know you need to do, but you just are putting off and you're procrastinating, make sure that you get it done. to do, but you just are putting off and you're procrastinating, make sure that you get it done. So I like to quote unquote, eat the frog first thing in the morning. So if my, you know, let's say, let's say my, the thing that, you know, I'm, I'm falling behind on is getting my morning writing done or my writing done for the entire day. I need to do writing. I need to do songwriting, you know, whatever it might be. If that's what I need to do, that's my main priority for this day for, you know, let's say tomorrow, my main priority is to

make sure that I write for one hour straight, 45 minutes straight, 30 minutes straight, whatever it is. I tried to do that thing very first in the morning. And the reason why is because I don't know if you guys are like me. I know most people are like me, but my willpower tends to fade as the day goes on. My willpower is really good about 30 minutes after I have 30, 45 minutes after I have a cup of coffee. My willpower is really good at that point. So that's usually like nine o'clock, nine o'clock to 12. My willpower is awesome.

So I get all of my stuff that I need done, the stuff that's the most important from 9 to 12. After 12, I have my lunch, start to feel a little bit tired. I usually have a cup of tea after that. And by the time 5 o'clock hits in the day, I'm like this, I'm done with doing everything all day. That's just kind of how I feel. So let's say your main thing is to work out on Monday. Let's say Monday comes along. Your main thing is to work out on Monday. It might be best that you actually wake up earlier and work out in the morning. Uh, that's one thing that I found out for me by the time five o'clock hits five 30, by the time I'm completely done with work, it's really hard to motivate myself to go to the

gym. So I have to wake up early. I have to chug a cup of coffee and I have to go straight to the gym and then just do it. It has to be done. I have to eat the frog first thing in the morning. So make sure you're prioritized to make sure that you get all of the most important stuff done every single day and every single week. And the last step, the third step, is to make sure that you organize. You need to organize your time. There's two different things that you're going to write into your schedule. There's stuff that's static and there's stuff that's flexible in your time. So a static activity, so you know, is one that cannot be moved around. If you have a doctor's appointment at one o'clock on

Tuesday, you know at one o'clock on Tuesday that cannot be moved around. So make sure when you sit down to plan, you're looking at your daily plan, you're saying, okay, here's Monday all the way to Sunday. I have this, this, this, this, this. These are all of my static things, the things that can absolutely not be moved. You put those all in first. You put everything in and then you look at what you need to do for the week and all of your flexible stuff should go in thereafter. But you need to make sure that even though it's a flexible thing, even though it can be moved around, once you put in your schedule, you don't want to move it around again. You don't want to move stuff around too much because then you'll find towards the end of the week, you actually

forgot to do it because you moved around too much or you have too much on your plate on Sunday because you moved all of your flexible stuff around. So you got to make sure you put all of your static stuff and then all of your flexible stuff. So to recap that real quick, look back, look forward is the first thing you do with your schedule. The second thing is to prioritize your schedule. And the third thing is to organize all of the stuff that you have that you need to get done, all of your static stuff first, all of your flexible stuff next. You put it all inside of your calendar. So great.

Now what we're going to talk about next in this episode is self-discipline. So in order to get yourself to where you want to be, there obviously needs to be willpower. There needs to be self-discipline. There needs to be self-motivation. I hope that you use this podcast and listen to all of the next 40, 50, 60, 100 episodes that we have to motivate you to hit your goals. But you need to have self-discipline and make sure that you, you know, develop this plan to make it a lot easier. So the first thing that's going to help you with self-discipline, I kind of spoke a little bit about it in the last chapter, is to have visual cues. These are things that inspire you and then are strategically placed

throughout your house, throughout your office, on your phone, on your computer background, inside of your car. You know, like me and Dean, what we like to do is have quotes up in the bathroom. Or if my goal, you know, when I was a sales rep with Cutco was to sell, you know, $1 million in a year. Well, then I would put my goal $1 million. And every single week on my, I would take a dry erase marker every single week. I'd put it on my $1 million. And every single week on my, I would take a dry erase marker every single week. I'd put it on my $1 million is up on my mirror. And what I would do is I would do minus, you know, 27,482, you know, minus this, this, this. So I knew exactly what my goal was. Every single time I went to my bathroom, I saw my goal of a million dollars. So it kept me driven and gave me

self-discipline to make sure that I stayed motivated towards my goals. So make sure that you have a goal and make sure you tell people your goals as well. So the next thing, tell people your goals. Whatever your goal is, make sure you tell people so that they hold you accountable for it. So make sure that you're just like, hey, my goal is to lose 10 pounds in five weeks. Tell your significant other, listen, honey, my goal is to lose 10 pounds in five weeks. Tell your significant other, listen, honey, my goal is to lose 10 pounds in five weeks. I need you to hold me accountable for it. Because what happens is once you tell that to somebody else, they can keep on asking you, Oh, how many pounds have you lost? You know, how's your weight loss going? Whatever your goals are, make sure that you tell people. The next thing is to make sure with your self-discipline, set reminders for

yourself. So, you know, the great thing about smartphones is that you can put a reminder in your phone anytime that you want to. So smartphones are the worst thing for productivity and they're also the best thing for productivity. So the worst thing, because you can go on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and you can, you know, be completely lost in it and lose a couple hours or you can set reminders for yourself. So if there's specific things that need to be done each day of the week, well, now that you've planned your entire schedule for the week, put those specific things in and put reminders up. So put a reminder of this is what you need to do this day. This is what you need to do at this time. reminder of this is what you need to do this day. This is what you need to do at this time.

Another thing that I would say that's going to help you is something called the five-minute rule. And I'm just kind of giving you a lightning list. This is the end of the book and the end of this episode that we have coming up. But have the five-minute rule. You're going to have bad stuff happen to you throughout the week, throughout your life. Use something called the five-minute rule. The five-minute rule is exactly what you would think it is. You know, whatever it is that might tick you off or set you off, you have five minutes to be mad about whatever it is. So let's say you get into a car accident, right? You get into a car accident. You have five minutes to be mad about that car accident. You can be as mad as you want. Don't go, you know, beating anybody up on the side of the road or, you know, taking out your tire iron and beating them with it. You can't get that mad.

You can get mad about it. You get into an accident. But after those five minutes, it's over. You can't be mad about it because you know what? If you got into a car accident, there's nothing you can do to change it at this point. You can't go back in time and, you know, hit the brakes and veer out of the way of that person who cut in front of you, right? You can't do that. So don't let circumstances affect how you're going to react and how the rest of your day is going to be. It's like I said in a couple episodes before, remember this, can't change it. If something happens and you can't change what happened in the past, you know, figure out a way to deal with it. It is what it is. So you have a five-minute rule. Another thing that will help you be successful and, you know, hit all of your goals

is to have a morning ritual. So what I mean by morning ritual, almost all successful people, whenever I read about them, they always have some type of morning ritual. I have my morning rituals. They're always the same. It's always the same when I wake up. I wake up. The first thing that I immediately do is I go downstairs. I get a glass of water. I squeeze an entire lemon into a glass of water because it is extremely hydrating. From what I've read, lemon inside of water is three times more hydrating than just water by itself. So, you know, after eight hours of sleeping, your body is extremely thirsty. You're parched. Your brain needs water. Your entire body needs water. So, I drink an entire

lemon, I drink an entire glass of water with a lemon and squeeze inside of it. And then as I'm drinking that, I make my coffee. I use a French press. So I boil the water. Then I put the French press in. And then what I'll do is I will go to my back porch. I will drink my coffee as the sun is coming up, hang out there for 15 minutes or so drink my cup of coffee. Then what I will do is I will go to a specific chair that I have and I'll spend 15 minutes meditating in the chair. And then once I'm done there, I will go do exactly what I need to do for the day. So that is my morning ritual. I do it every single day. If I have, you know, after that

meditation is done, if my goal is to, you know, I need to work out that day, I will then have all of my stuff already set out for me from the day before. So before I go to bed, I is to, you know, I need to work out that day, I will then have all of my stuff already set out for me from the day before. So before I go to bed, I set up, you know, my shirt, my shorts, underwear I'm wearing, socks, shoes, everything so that I don't even have to think when I wake up in the morning and I get done with everything. I just get it all. I get done meditation, go get all my clothes, and then I go straight to the gym and that's it. So there's no thinking involved in any of this stuff. So that's my morning ritual. You need to create a morning ritual. If you want a really, really good book for morning rituals and for waking up early, one of our friends, Hal Elrod, he's not paying us to say this. I'm just

using it as a recommendation. Hal Elrod has a book called The Miracle Morning. It is one of the most incredible books you ever read. It's got like over a thousand positive reviews on Amazon. It is extremely good. I promise you it'll help you. I hate waking up in the morning. I'm not the most organized person naturally, but I make myself wake up. I make myself become organized

and I have that morning ritual. So that is it for this episode, except for what I want to leave you guys with is something called a 21-day challenge, okay? The 21-day challenge is this. We've looked back, we've seen how everything has gone for you for your goals and your paths.

We've looked forward to figure out what your goals are. We've developed your why. We've developed a plan. We've developed a schedule. We've done everything that we possibly need to in order to set you up to be successful for goals in the future. So what I want to leave you is this, a 21-day challenge. Statistically, they say that it takes about 21 days for someone to start a habit or 21

days for someone to break a habit. So what is your habits that we need to start? We went over that in one of the, I think it was the first episode. We went over what habits you need to stop, start. We went over all of that. So the 21 day habit challenge is this. Step one, I want you to pick a habit

that you will commit to for 21 days. Whatever it is, go back to episode one, go back to chapter one, pick a habit that you will commit to for 21 days, whatever it is, go back to episode one, go back to chapter one, pick a habit that you will commit to for 21 days, 21 days every single day. You know, like for instance, I had to do this for myself to wake up at 6 a.m. every single morning. And I am not a morning person and I love to sleep. You know, I can sleep for 12 or 13 hours if there was no alarm clock. It's easy for me to do that. But mine was to wake up at 6 a.m. So I made myself wake up at 6 a.m. And the first few times I started doing it, it was so

hard to do. So hard to get up at 6 o'clock in the morning for me. But then your body starts to get used to it and starts to wake you up. And then around 9.30, 10, 10.30, my body was naturally going like, hey, it's time to go to bed. Let's, let's fall asleep. So let's say that's your goal is to wake up at 6am, you know, or, uh, it could be, let's say, you know, reading 10 pages of a book every single day for the next 21 days. You know, that's about a whole book in three weeks, which is, you know, good. Most people don't, some people don't read books ever at all. Right? So let's say the habit that you want is to read 10 pages every single day. Well, then once again, like I said, it's easiest to eat that frog in the morning, wake up a few minutes

early, drink your coffee, read just 10 pages before you go to work. It'll make you feel a lot better to read before because it'll get your creative mind going. So step one, pick a habit, commit to it for 21 days. Number two, schedule that action step or habit with a partner. So try to find somebody else that you can have an accountability partner. Someone you could say, hey, this is what my goal is for the next 21 days. Do you want to join me with it? Do you want to, you know, let's say that the 10 pages is somebody, you know, you get a book that both you guys like and you say, hey, we're going to read 10 pages every single day. Well, then talk to each other every single day at the end of the day of, hey, what did you think of the 10 pages? So that's step number two.

Step number three is to write the habit down and create visual cues in your living quarters. So write down that you want to read 10 pages every single day. And then what you need to do is give yourself visual cues, put them in your living quarters, put them in different places, you know, get a dry erase marker and write on your mirror right in front of you. Did you read your 10 pages today? You know, take a picture with your phone and put the screenshot as the book. So you remember that you need to do this every single day. Oops, excuse me. I dropped my phone. And number four, if you really want to go this far, we completely hope for you to do so.

Share your goal on the post on our website, or excuse me, on our Facebook with everybody else in the MWF community to keep yourself accountable on that. It's facebook.com backslash MWF motivation. Or if you go to Facebook and just search MWF motivation, tell us what your goal is. And then every single day, give us an update.

It's cool for people to say, Hey, you're doing really well. We like what you're doing. So we would love for you to do that. And like I said, with everything that we did, we took all of this time to write this book, all this time to start this podcast. Our only goal in everything that we're doing is to somehow try to help you make your life better. I truly believe that there's a lot of people out there that live their lives and they die by 25, but they aren't buried until 75, as Benjamin Franklin says it, because they don't push themselves. They don't live their life with passion. I want to impact you. I want to help you out. I want to share all of the experiences. I don't claim to know everything. I don't claim to know anything. I just know that I've been doing

this for a long time. I want to help you. I want to share my experiences with you because I'm going through all the exact same challenges you are all the time. I want to share my experiences with you. I want you to share your experiences with me. I want to get vulnerable with you guys, tell you what's going on, tell you the problems I'm having. And I want you guys to do the same. You can do that at MWF Motivation on our Facebook. We have a community. We want to help you guys out. Thank you so much. I appreciate you. Have a great one. And so that is it. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend. Spread the love if you think it's something they could benefit from. If you want the show notes from today, you can get it at mwfmotivation.com,

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