The Mindset Mentor - Fall In Love With The Process - TAKE ACTION PT.3

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit the subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And if you've been listening and you've gotten any value from any episode I've ever done, please do me a favor and go to iTunes or Apple Podcasts and give a rating and review to this podcast. It helps more than you could know. The more reviews that we have that are great reviews, the more that this actually gets recommended organically through Apple's system so that more people can find it. So I'd greatly, greatly appreciate it if you would give us a rating review. Today, we're going to be talking about how to fall

Starting point is 00:00:43 in love with the process. And this is episode number three around how to take action. When we're talking about taking action, there's obviously a process to get us to where we want to go. One of the most important things that we can do is learn to fall in love with the process of everything that we're doing. Today, we're going to be talking about something called a dopamine reward system. I'm going to teach you how to actually use the chemicals in your brain and how to actually get your brain to release the chemicals that you need to reward yourself whenever you do something so that therefore you continue on the path of the success that you want. Before we dive into that, it's very important to know what is dopamine.

Starting point is 00:01:29 So dopamine is a chemical that's inside of your brain. It's a neurotransmitter. And most people think that dopamine is the feel-good chemical of your brain. It's actually not the feel-good chemical, although you do feel good when you have dopamine that's released in your brain. It's actually the chemical of motivation. So it takes your focus and puts it externally. Now, if you've ever seen somebody that does cocaine or heroin, what that does is it releases massive, massive, massive amounts of dopamine, something that you can't do without a drug. That's why though, when someone doesn't have the heroin that they want, or they don't have the cocaine that they want, is they have to get. Like they have this, when they're addicted to it, they have to, it's anything they can do to get their hands on that. That is the

Starting point is 00:02:10 external feeling of motivation to go get that thing no matter what. Now, obviously you'll never be able to release that amount of dopamine in your brain simply through a dopamine reward system. But what it's doing is it's showing you when dopamine is high enough, somebody will do anything that they want, anything that they can to get the end result. In that end result, we're talking about a drug, which obviously you're not going to be doing, hopefully. But in this end result, can we talk about the end result being creating the life that you want, the happiness that you want? Dopamine is a very externally focused chemical. A lot of people get dopamine and serotonin mixed up with each other. Dopamine is a very externally focused chemical. A lot of people get dopamine and serotonin mixed up with each other. Dopamine is the chemical of motivation. It's an

Starting point is 00:02:50 externally focused, like I'm going to go get this. I'm going to go achieve, achieve, achieve. Serotonin is actually pretty much the opposite. It is the here and now chemical that makes you feel gratitude, makes you feel grateful for what you have and everything that's around you. So dopamine is the chemical of more. So if we can create a dopamine reward system, just a little tiny bit of dopamine being released, we're just like, oh my gosh, this is amazing. Then it's going to motivate you to continue to work harder and to fall in love with the process, which like I said, we're going to be talking about. So it's the chemical that's released whenever you're excited or whenever you're celebrating something. So if you win something big and you're like, oh my gosh, my team just won the NBA finals or they just won the

Starting point is 00:03:34 Super Bowl, that chemical, dopamine, is released at that moment. It's the celebrating molecule. It comes out whenever you're celebrating, you're excited about something. So in this episode, I'm going to talk to you about how to use that chemical to take the action that you need to, to create the life that you want to. So when you think about some of the most successful people, like let's just take athletes as an example, right? Like the most successful basketball players that have ever existed. Like if we just say Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, right? Maybe LeBron James, we put him in there, put a few other people in there as well as like some of the best that have ever done it. But let's just talk about Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, because I at least know what they used to do in their practices and stuff,

Starting point is 00:04:10 right? What's the commonality between like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant and some of the most successful CEOs and entrepreneurs? What's the commonality? You know, you might say hard work, you might say dedication, you might say obsession with their craft, and all of those would be true. None of those are incorrect. But most of the time, what they've taught themselves to do, whether they realize it or not, is to fall in love with the process, not the end result. And so, you know, when you look at it, it was never about winning an NBA championship

Starting point is 00:04:43 for Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. They knew that if they became the best that they possibly could, they would have a better chance at then winning an NBA championship. So what happened was they fell in love with the process of it. And I'm sure they probably didn't know that they were creating a dopamine reward system in their brain. But what they would do is they would set up a dopamine reward system around the process that they had. I'm going to teach you exactly how they did that. So what is a dopamine reward system first off? It's a way to get your brain to release dopamine after you accomplish a task that is part of your process to achieving the goal.

Starting point is 00:05:22 Most people tell themselves that they won't ever celebrate until they're where they want to be. They won't celebrate until they become a millionaire. They won't celebrate until they win the championship. But that's the wrong way to do it because it's going to take a long time to become a millionaire. It's going to take a long time and a lot of hard work before you win the championship. So if you want to use the dopamine reward system, you don't attach it to the end result. You attach it to the tasks that are part of the process. So I'll give you an example of what I used to do. And I didn't know this was a thing when I was younger. I just did it because I heard somebody talk about it one time. When I was in sales and I was in sales, I would sit down

Starting point is 00:05:59 and make a hundred phone calls in a day. That's a pretty strenuous process just to sit down and make a hundred phone calls. But what I would do is after every 10 phone calls, I would give myself, I had a bag of Skittles that were out. I would give myself three Skittles after every single 10 phone calls. So I'd do 10 phone calls. I would then give myself three Skittles. I'd do the next 10, three Skittles. And then when I finished all 100 phone calls, I would let myself finish the bag of Skittles. I didn't realize what I was doing, but I was actually setting up a dopamine reward system for my brain to want to continue to keep working for what it is I was going for. Now, if I would have gone, I'm only going to be able to have Skittles after I finished the 100 phone calls, I wouldn't be rewarding the process, which is what I'm trying

Starting point is 00:06:40 to do. I'm trying to celebrate the process. I'm trying to celebrate every 10 phone calls, which then makes me want to celebrate and get more dopamine after another 10 phone calls, after another 10 phone calls, after another 10 phone calls. And then it's a big celebration, the rest of the bag of Skittles, whenever I finish all of the phone calls. Hey, did you know that you spend one third of your life on a mattress and few things to me are worse than sleeping on a crappy mattress and then waking up and being sore the entire next day. That's why I recommend that you get Birch. Birch makes organic non-toxic mattresses made right here in America and shipped straight to your door with no contact delivery, free shipping,

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Starting point is 00:08:45 at the end or they allow themselves to eat a small piece of chocolate after a workout, that dopamine reward system at the end of a workout will actually motivate them to show up the next day because their body and brain want the dopamine again. Now, I'm not saying eat an entire candy bar because that's not part of the research. It was a small piece of chocolate and you might think that's counterintuitive because it's like, well, I'm trying to work out. So why would I have candy? Because you're literally setting up a dopamine reward system for finishing the workout. Can you go even further than that and set up a dopamine reward system just for showing

Starting point is 00:09:17 up at the workout? Can you set up a dopamine reward system after every single set? And it doesn't have to be, I'm talking about Skittles and I'm talking about candy and stuff. It doesn't have to be just candy. A dopamine reward system, the best part about it is it's completely subjective. So it doesn't have to be candy. It doesn't have to be anything physical. It could be literally just celebrating yourself after you do something. One of the things that I do is after I, when I sit down to record podcasts, I'll sit down and I'll record three to four in a row. And then I changed my shirt after every single one of them. So then when you're seeing these videos, it looks like I'm in a different day. It's the

Starting point is 00:09:52 same fricking day, just different shirts. But what I do is I will then celebrate every single episode at the end of the episode with myself as I'm changing my shirt, thinking to myself about how good that episode just was and how many people it's going to impact. That alone makes me excited about the process of doing what I'm doing and makes me want to go in with more energy the next time I record. So it doesn't have to be Skittles. It doesn't have to be chocolate. It can be completely subjective of a mini celebration with myself. Just, oh, that was so good. That was amazing. You did really good with this. And building myself up, Just, oh, that was so good. That was amazing. You did really good with this. And building myself up, telling my brain when I celebrate, boop, just reuse a little bit of dopamine and get myself addicted to the process of what I'm trying to get to. So completely subjective. Doesn't have

Starting point is 00:10:34 to be candy or any of that stuff. And notice this is attached to the process, not the end result. So Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, they won tons of championships. What is it? 11 championships between the two of them, right? But they were notorious for working harder than anybody else. Kobe Bryant was known for being at the gym every single morning at 4 a.m. since he was in high school. Since he was in high school. And he's notorious for being known that what brought him the most joy was not winning the championships. It was that he knew at 4 a.m. in the morning, he was the only competitor out there that was waking up and working out at that time. His dopamine reward system was he would celebrate himself for being at the gym, knowing that all of his competitors were sleeping and he was out

Starting point is 00:11:20 working them. So of course, he wanted to show up the next day and feel that way again and show up the next day and feel that way again and show up the next day and feel that way again. This is why you see people and you realize it's not about winning. Winning is just a byproduct of all of the hard work they put into it. It was about becoming the absolute best at their craft that they possibly could. And then winning was just the byproduct of it. It was just, I want to live up to my full potential. I want to be the best basketball player in the entire world. And so waking up at that time, knowing that they were the only person up, knowing that they were outworking all of their competitors brought them joy. And so that joy is a little dopamine reward system that they probably didn't even know that they set up, but they were excited about it.

Starting point is 00:12:04 And they knew that they were outworking everybody. So it set up, but they were excited about it. And they knew that they were outworking everybody. So it wasn't about winning. It was about becoming the best they could. And winning was the byproduct of it. So when you think about this for you, for your success, for your growth, for the business that you want to grow, whatever it is, can you attach a dopamine reward system, a mini celebration, a getting excited about it and building yourself up and talking positive to yourself to make yourself feel good along the process. Not going, well, when I'm finally successful, when I'm finally a millionaire, then I'll be proud of myself. Then I'll be happy. Then I'll be bringing the joy and everything that I want to in my life.

Starting point is 00:12:38 If you're doing that, you probably won't get there. You won't be able to force yourself for 10 or 15 years most of the time. You can, but it's gonna to be a struggle on the way. But if you celebrate showing up and putting in the work and showing up and putting in the work, and if you're trying to work on your body, don't only be happy whenever you get on the scale and it's finally the weight that you want it to be. Be happy that you showed up. Be happy when you get done. Be happy after every single set and celebrate yourself and build yourself up because that will actually make you addicted to the process, which is what you want. To become addicted to becoming better in every single way that you possibly could. Attach your reward system to the process and the effort that you put into something,

Starting point is 00:13:17 not the actual end result. So attach them to making the phone calls, not getting the appointment set. Attach them to finishing the workout or finishing each set, not getting on the scale and it being what you want it to be. Attach it to reading five pages of a book, not finishing the book. Attach it to eating a healthy meal, not the way you look in the mirror. That's the important thing that you need to realize is to fall in love with the process is the most important part. This is why you always hear, you always hear, we always hear it all the time, the most successful people saying,

Starting point is 00:13:48 it's about the journey. It's about the journey. It's about the journey. It's about the journey. It's always been about the journey. This is why you see CEOs and people are always like, oh my God, he's so rich. Why doesn't he just retire? It was never about the money. If you're going for something just for the money, there's a pretty good chance you won't get there. What it was about for them is building the business, the work, seeing this amazing thing being built around them that was only in their mind two years ago, five years ago, 10 years ago. And so the reason why they look like they're addicted to their business is because the thing that brings them the most joy is bringing out the highest potential of themselves and building this amazing thing. And they have probably, without realizing it, built a dopamine reward system to the process, not the end result. That's why you see so many people that sometimes

Starting point is 00:14:34 are working for money and working for money and working for money. They're trying to build this business just so they can make money. And eventually they give up or they burn themselves out is because their entire life was attached to the end result. It was never attached to the process and bringing out their true potential. So the questions that I have for you is this, what do you want? Okay. What do you want?

Starting point is 00:14:54 And what actions do you need to take to get there? What's the process of you getting whatever it is that you want? What is it? And then how can you build a dopamine reward system to get you to fall in love with the process? Because if you fall in love with the process, you're going to keep showing up. And if you just keep showing up, eventually the byproduct will be whatever it is, the success that you want in your life. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. Tag me in your

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The Mindset Mentor - Fall In Love With The Process - TAKE ACTION PT.3

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