The Mindset Mentor - Find Opportunities in Obstacles

Episode Date: August 15, 2016

Episode 154 -  "What benefit can come from this?" That could be the most empowering question you ever ask yourself. We all know tough times will come, but the difference between a mediocre life and a life mastered is what we do with the tough times. In this episode I dive into how to find the opportunity in any obstacle in your way. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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get linked up with you. I've had quite a few people email me already, so I'm getting my fall and winter and spring schedule all lined up. So don't be shy and I would love to meet you and come out to your event. So send me an email for any of those things, whether it's the speaking or whether it's the one-on-one or the group coaching, rob at mwfmotivation.com. So today what we're going to be talking about is life and how life is a crapshoot. That's the only thing that you can expect. The only thing that you know, the only thing that you can expect in life is that life is unexpected.

You can plan and plan and then something unexpected can happen. Here's the only guarantee in life. The only guarantee in life is there's going to be good times and there's going to be bad times. Eventually, tough times will come. It's just the seasons of life. There's just like the seasons every single year. There's the summer, and there's the fall, and the spring, and the winter. There's great times, and there's times where you go outside in the the winter and you're like, holy crap, it is way too cold right

now. Even when I grew up in Florida, there were still a couple of days a year where I was like, what the heck is going on? It is so cold outside. And that's seasons in, you know, there's fall, spring, winter, summer, all of those. Your life is the exact same way. Now, that being said, with seasons of life, if you know that there's going to be good times and you know that there's going to be bad times, why should we be floored by the bad times when they come? Why should we be like, holy crap, I wasn't expecting this? Because if you expect the unexpected, then you should know that the unexpected will eventually come up. There's no difference between, I'm sorry, the difference between somebody who lives a mediocre life and a person who lives a mastered life is this. The difference between a person who lives

a mediocre life and a person who lives a mastered life is this. Mediocre people let obstacles get in their way and debilitate them. Something happens and it puts them out of commission for a couple of days. It puts them out of commission for a few weeks. Sometimes with some people, something happens that is so big to them, which might not even be that big in the grand scheme of things. Looking at it objectively and not subjectively, you might look and be like, really? That was what happened? But sometimes people just take things so deeply. Sometimes one thing can happen and it can affect the entire rest of their life in a negative way. One event could happen and they could think that they're not good enough or not smart enough or lose all of their self-confidence and then they

never do what they wanted to do. They could be on the right track. And then it just completely kicks the legs out of their success and they're never the same again. Some people have one event happen that ruins their entire life. That's crazy. And if you eventually know that one day that crap is going to hit the fan, why are you going to let it bring you down? crap is going to hit the fan. Why are you going to let it bring you down? And it's like I told you, if you listened to me a couple months ago, I had somebody ask me, they said, what do you do when you have bad, bad days? Do you have bad days or bad weeks? And I was like, no, not really. I don't know if I've had a bad day since like 2011.

So five and a half years now. And the reason why is because, and then I looked back and said, well, I guess actually, if you look at the last three weeks, the last three weeks for somebody who wants to look at it this way could have been some of the worst weeks of somebody's life. If you really look at it that way. And what happened was in those three weeks was I lost my grandfather first week. The second week, I got a lawsuit in the mail for one of my other companies that I own. And then the third week, my grandmother passed away. So I had my grandfather pass away one week. Very next week, lawsuit come in the mail. Very next week, three weeks, one right after the other, my grandmother passes away. Some people could have that happen to them and it could completely ruin their

life. It could just completely be that one little shift that sends them down the wrong path. And they start thinking the wrong way. But you have to realize that people who are in control, people who master their lives, they know that the unexpected times will come. And I'm not saying I'm a master of my life, just so you know, I'm trying to become that, but they know that unexpected times will come and they allow themselves five minutes, 10 minutes to cope with it. I have the five minute rule. When something bad happens, I give myself five minutes to freak out, to be pissed off. And then I go, okay, what's next? Life goes on. I'm not going to let this one event do anything to my life. So give yourself the five minute rule. So what happens is the unexpected happens. Successful people, people who master

their lives, give them the five minutes to cope with whatever it is. And then they find an opportunity in the obstacle. Once again, they find an opportunity in the obstacle. In every obstacle, there's an opportunity. In every bad thing that's ever happened to you, there's an opportunity to get better, to improve, to pay attention to how you react to this and take a step back and go, huh, did I really react to that in the right way? Could I have done this better? Could I have reacted differently? An opportunity to learn and move on and become better from everything that happens to them. Anytime something bad happens to you,

you have to remember this question. What is the benefit to this? What benefit can I get from this? If you can get anything from this episode, learn that the power of your mind is in the questions that you ask. Most people, they ask all of the wrong questions in their mind. What if questions, all of those things. When something bad happens, they say, why me? Why does this always happen to me? Am I cursed? Why do I have the worst luck? Why can't I have a better life?

All of these questions, they ask themselves the wrong ones. And if you ask yourself a question, your brain has to answer it. So if you're asking yourself, if that's what your focus is on, if your focus is on those things, you're focusing on the wrong thing. Because you're going to say, why can't I have a better life? Why do I have the worst luck? Why does this always happen to me? Masters of their mind, when an obstacle comes, what they say is, what can I learn from this?

What benefit can I learn from this? What benefit can come from this? How can I take this, learn from it, and get better? And the reason why we love the Olympics, the Olympics is a perfect example of this. The reason why we love the Olympics is because it gives us a glance of human potential, potential that we all know is deep down inside of us, but we're afraid to let it out. We're afraid of the work it would take to let that come out. We're afraid of what it would look like to shine 100% in our true form at full potential. We all know that it's down deep down there inside of us. You know, if you watch some of the gymnastics stuff or the diving stuff or the running stuff

or the swimming, you're watching these and you're like, how are these people human? But they are. That's the crazy thing. They are just unlocking the potential that they have inside of them. We all have the exact same opportunity. Now, that being said, do you think that these Olympians have failed? Do you think they've fallen down? Do you think they've broken bones? Do you think they've lost games? Of course, probably 10 times more than you and I combined. But you know what the difference is? It didn't stop them

when they failed. It didn't stop them when they fell down, when they lost, when they broke a bone, all of those things. They stop when the bad thing happens, the bad event, quote unquote, I'm saying bad because with quotation marks, air quotes, because bad and good is just something that we make up in our minds. And then what happens is when these things happen, they ask themselves, what benefit can come from this? What benefit can come from this? Remember that question. If you're not driving your car and you have a pen and paper, write that down. What benefit can come from this? How can you remember that question next time something bad happens? Something bad happens, what benefit can come from this? The power is in the questions that you ask yourself.

If you can learn to ask yourself that question and ask yourself empowering questions, empowering questions, when things go wrong, you will change your perspective of what happened to you and you'll change your life. Because all of the events in our life, good, bad, indifferent, whatever they might be, all of them, if you let them be, are lessons. So the question to ask yourself is what benefit can come from this? Because every single time something happens, you choose how you react to it. Whether you decide to take control or whether you decide to relinquish control to

just let whatever's going to happen, whatever your mind wants to do, you do. And that's what you got to think about. Do you want to live a mediocre life or do you want to master your life? If you want to master your life, you need to learn what questions to ask yourself when something happens. How can you turn an obstacle or what seems like an obstacle into an opportunity? What benefit can come from this? So with that, if you like this episode, please share with somebody. We got a couple more weeks left. Once again, if you want to come to the webinar, the Mindset Mastery webinar, which has a lot to do with this, with mastering your mind, with making sure that you become successful, go to mwfmotivation.com

slash webinar. And also, if you're interested in one-on-one coaching, group coaching, or having me come speak at your events, send me an email, rob at mwfmotivation. I would love to come out and see you guys or speak to you in group coaching or one-on-one coaching, either one of those as well. But I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you all and I hope that you go out and you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at mwfmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because it's our mission to help as many people as

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