The Mindset Mentor - Hearing Someone's Last Breath

Episode Date: June 3, 2016

Ep 124 - In this episode I talk about something that deeply affected me, being present while my grandfather took his last breath. I wanted to be honest and vulnerable and tell you what I learned from being there. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us however you listen to us. Also, if you have not been watching my daily videos on Facebook, you can like us at facebook.com slash MWF motivation. I've been posting daily videos on there. And I do have an apology for everybody. I announced that my group coaching was open. I gave out the website on the last episode and then went and woke up the next morning and so many people went to my website that it crashed. So it's currently in the middle of a server upgrade. So if you have gone to the website to try to join the group coaching, I apologize. I guess it's a good thing that so many people are so excited about it because I want to make a difference in all of your lives. And I think

this is going to be a really easy way to do so and really impactful way to do so. And with that being said, I want to dive into today's episode. Speaking of impact, and today's just going to be a freestyle episode and this has been a few weeks coming because I wanted to let the last couple weeks play out and see how they go and then be able to be vulnerable with you guys and be completely open and honest. So the reason why I was back in Florida, people kept asking, you know, why are you out of town? You know, were you on vacation? All of this stuff.

So I want to be open and honest with you guys. The reason why I was back in Florida was because of the fact that my grandfather was extremely ill and I had to go visit him in hospice. And I took a one-way ticket because I didn't know how long I would be there. And it was crazy because he was in great spirits. And one day, we were sitting and we were talking about business. He was excited about the fact that my podcast is growing as much as it is. And the business is going so well. And so what happened was he was in the hospice and he was in great health for... We thought he was in great health. I was in great spirits for the... It was the... What was that? May 3rd is the day that I was, the last day that I was there. And so my cousin and I spent the night with him in the hospice,

in the room. And he had, by the medicine that they'd given him, made him snore really bad. And so my cousin and I were having trouble sleeping. We were in and out of sleep. And so to give you an idea, we were in and out of sleep and he was snoring nonstop. It did not stop at all. And we were in the room. The lights were off, obviously. I was in the pull-out bed. She was in the big comfortable chair that was next to me. And out of nowhere, the snoring just stopped. And in my head, I was asleep and then I had woken up about 10 seconds before this and I had heard him snore a couple last times. And so what happened was,

in my head, I'm thinking, great, whatever was in his throat, he finally got to clear. Well, then immediately I kind of woke up from that and went, well, actually something might not be right. And so my cousin started rustling around because she had heard the same thing as well. And she decided to get up and she walked over to him to see if he was breathing and couldn't see. So she went over and turned the light on and we both went up to him and he was not breathing.

And so we called in the nurse and the nurse came in and she said, yeah, he literally just passed away. So that being said, I was able to be there for somebody's very last breath. And I think that most people don't get that opportunity. And the thing about it is it's kind of like my cousin said when we were there. It's kind of like you don't want to be there. You don't want to be anywhere else in the world, but you also... You would rather be anywhere else in the world, but you'd rather not be anywhere else in the world for that type of situation. And it kind of put life into perspective for me. Because there's so many things that we take for granted because we are privileged

to be able to live in the time that we have. And we complain about stuff like the internet not being fast enough. And we complain about stuff like traffic. And we complain about all of this first world country type stuff. But then when you hear someone take their last breath and you realize, holy crap, that's just... Our body does that for us without us even asking it. We don't have to think. Our body does it. We don't have to... Well, now we do have to worry about the fact that our air is starting to be polluted. But we don't have to worry about the fact that we breathe out carbon dioxide and that the world uses its plants and everything else around us to filter that carbon dioxide and turn it into oxygen so that we can stay alive. We're too busy complaining about all

of the things that we shouldn't be complaining about that we really should be grateful for. So when you listen to someone take their last breath and then look at them 30 seconds after they pass away, it puts the world into perspective. And for me, you guys know I love to be vulnerable. I love to be honest. And I love to take you into my mind because I think that I just work in a unique way and I try to learn from every experience. a unique way and I try to learn from every experience. Well, if that wasn't hard enough, then we had to call everybody in the family at four o'clock in the morning and tell his four daughters that he had passed away and that they would never see their father again. So sometimes there's things in life that are really hard to do. This would be one of them.

Then we had to go to my grandmother who had been with him, married to him, just under less than a month away from their 71st wedding anniversary. And they had spent 74 years together. 74. And I had to be there to watch her four daughters tell her that he had passed away. And the thing about that is that I personally don't know if there is more pain that somebody could possibly feel. And you might say it might be harder to lose a kid. It might be harder to lose a kid.

I don't know. But tell me about being 93 years old and finding out that the person you spent 74 years of your life with has passed away. So I had to be there for that. so I had to be there for that. So within six hours, I went through every possible emotion that a human could go through, not to mention two days before watching them say goodbye to each other because she was not physically fit enough to stay in the hospice with us. So she had to be bedridden at home. So to watch two people say goodbye that you pretty much knew, they knew it was the last time they'd see each other again. So I want you to think of this story and think about the fact that there's a lot of things in life that are very hard to go through. And we're too busy complaining about things that we should be grateful for. About the fact that there's slow internet or there's traffic. How about the fact that you're able to get onto the internet? How

about the fact that you have a car to be in traffic? Realize that you can switch your mindset at any point in time. And what's even crazier is to watch 17 days later, my grandmother pass away right after him. And to kind of get an idea that our brain is so powerful, way powerful than we give it any credit for, that there's complete possibility for someone to say, you know what? It's my time. I'm just going to check out. My husband of 74 years or my husband of 71 years and the life partner of 74 years has passed away. I'm just going to check out. And 17 days later, she checked out. And it's crazy to think that it's possible, but it's possible. So there was no real context, no real lesson that I wanted you to get

from this, but I wanted you to understand that you, no matter how shitty your life might be right now, can always find something to be grateful for. How about the fact that you can breathe? How about the fact that you wake up every morning because your body Beats your heart beats while you're asleep without you asking it And your breath naturally comes in and out without you asking it So if there's nothing else to be grateful for if your world is completely in shambles And if you're somehow listening to this podcast homeless on the side of the road when you're begging for money You at least have something to be grateful for. So with that, I appreciate you. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. And I hope that you have an amazing day. As an Expedia member, you can save up to 30% when you add a hotel to your flight,

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