The Mindset Mentor - How Do You Create An Amazing Life?

Episode Date: October 20, 2022

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, do me a massive, massive favor. Take your phone out, go to however you listen to this podcast, and give us a rating and review, and let us know what you think of it. The more positive rating and reviews that we get, the more that those platforms show this podcast to people who have never listened before. I know statistically, we have hundreds of thousands of people that listen to every single episode, but we only have about 20,000 people on Spotify who have rated it, and we only have about 10,000 people on Spotify who have rated it, and we only have about

10,000 people on Apple Podcasts who have rated it. So that means that less than one out of 10 people basically is actually rating these. So if you would do me a favor, don't be one of those nine out of 10, be one of those one out of 10, give us a rating review. I'd greatly, greatly appreciate it. Today, we're going to be talking about how do you create an amazing life? Is it possible for you to create the life that you see in your mind for yourself? And I want to talk about this and start with an amazing story of something that actually happened today. So I'm going to tell you a story. This morning we did on our team huddle, our sales team huddle, we had about, I think we have 17 people that are on that call. And we run it every single morning. We've been running it every single morning for years.

And we did a visualization process today. And what we did was we did a same visualization and breathing process that we used to do a couple of years ago. So back in 2020, we used to do this visualization and breathing process every single morning. We put on the exact same song, we do the exact same breathing, and we would talk about visualizing the life that you want and visualizing what it would feel like to have that life. And so this is a few years ago, we used to do this. And so we did the exact same thing. We haven't done in probably at least a year. And we did the exact same thing, exact same song. And at the end we get done and we're about to run our sales huddle and everyone's about to talk and

give their reflections. And one of our team members who's been with us for about two and a half years now gets on. And just so you have an idea of who he is, he's a big guy. He's about six foot one, 210, 215 pounds, long beard, big old beard, long hair. And I've known him for probably 16 years, never seen him cry in 16 years. And he was like bawling this morning. And he's like, I have a reflection from the visualization process. And he's sitting there and he's bawling and telling us. And he's like, as soon as that song came on, which is the same song we used to play a couple of years ago, he goes, as soon as the song came on,

I felt myself back into where I was a couple of years ago when we used to do this. And he had left a really, really toxic job where he's making a bunch of money, but it was super toxic and he hated it. And he came over and started working with us. And he used to visualize, he was in a one bedroom apartment in Fort Lauderdale. And he used to visualize, he was in a one-bedroom apartment in Fort Lauderdale. And he used to say, you know, it was crazy because I would put one arm out, my left arm out, my right arm out, and one of them would be hitting my speaker in my living room and the other one would be hitting my couch. Like that's how small my place was.

And I remember visualizing and writing down my goals every single day with you guys and visualizing and writing down my goals every single day. single day with you guys and visualizing and writing down my goals every single day. And one of them was to have a house that was by my family and a place that had a pool and a place that had some space so I could have my own office instead of having to work from my kitchen table. And he was telling of where he was before, and he's crying because he literally realized that the place that he was in now, a couple years later, was a place that he had been visualizing and dreaming of and writing down inside of his goals for an entire year. And so it was crazy to see this and this process unfold because,

you know, over time we work on ourselves, we get better, we work on ourselves, we get better, things change and stuff. But a lot of times you don't reverse and see how far we've actually come. And it was cool to see how far he's come where he went from a one bedroom apartment in Fort Lauderdale to now living in Tampa and having a four bedroom house and this pool that's outside and all of this stuff that he wanted before. And he felt like it was possible, but he was visualizing and writing it down and visualizing and writing it down. And it was cool to see how the visualization process and the writing down process of your goals can help you manifest your goals. And I've told this story before on the podcast, but one of the things that I love most

about writing down goals is seeing them happen when you have forgotten about them. And I've told this story before, but back in 2007, I remember writing down my goals. There was a guy that came into our company and he was like, we're going to write down a hundred goals in every category. And you know, your love life and your bank account and your career and what you want to achieve and where you want to travel to and all this stuff. And it was in 2007. And I remember it said 2017 or 2007 on the left side of paper in 2017 on the left side of the paper in 2017 on the other side of the paper. And that was what I had. And then everything that I wanted. And I remember finding this, this notebook in realizing that in 2007, I wrote down that by 2017, I wanted to have a black

Rolex Submariner. It was like this watch that I wanted. And for anybody who knows watches, I love watches. I have, I don't know why I've always loved watches since I was a kid. And, um, and what's crazy about is they're really, really hard to get. Like they're just almost impossible to get near impossible to walk into a Rolex dealership and get one. And somehow, some way knew someone who knew someone who knew someone was able to get one. And I wrote down in my journal back in 2007 2007 that I wanted that watch by December of 2017, by the end of 2017. And I got that watch December 14th, 2017. And it was crazy because I forgot about the goal and then got the watch and then found the actual journal itself, you know, a 10-year-old journal at that time and realized, holy shit, I forgot about this.

But I was able to make it happen near subconsciously. And I want you to realize that the thing about it is it's not about the watch. Who gives a shit about the watch? It's not about the things. It's not about, you know, our team member's house, any of those things. It's who you need to become in order to get that thing

or who you need to become in order to achieve that life that you want or who you need to become in order to build the business that allows you to have the freedom to travel or who you need to become that allows you to build the business to be able to have more free time with your family or get the Lamborghini or whatever it is the hell that you want. Cause there's nothing wrong with wanting and having and getting materialistic stuff, but it depends on why you're getting it. Right. And one of our other team members spoke up, we were talking about this still this morning and one of our other team members spoke up and she's like, Hey, I remember you saying that Rolex story like a year ago. I remember hearing it in a podcast. And she's like, at that point in time, the one thing I wanted more than anything else, I've always wanted it since I was younger,

was a Jeep. And she's like, I remember writing down the goal, thinking about it, visualizing it, knowing it was going to happen. And now I have the Jeep that I want. And so it's really cool because it's not about the buying of the things, It's who you need to become in that process of achieving that thing and getting that thing. It could be a relationship that you want and writing down what the perfect relationship looks like and getting very clear on what that thing looks like and what it would feel like to have that relationship. It could be traveling and where you want to travel to and how soon you want to travel and how much money you'll need to make in order to be able to travel. And maybe, like I

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going through this is because number one, it was really cool, but it's easy to talk through stories and then break those stories down. And you've heard me say it so many times, almost ad nauseum. And sometimes you need to hear something over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again before it finally sticks and you actually do it. Like if you've been listening to this podcast for a long time, you've been hearing me say, you need to write down your goals. You've been hearing me say, Harvard did a study in the 1970s where they actually went to everybody who was graduating with an MBA and they found out that only 3% of them wrote down their goals. And 10 years later in the 1980s, they followed up with all of those people and found out that those 3% were 10 times more successful than the 97% combined.

You've heard me say that shit, right? So it's not like you haven't heard me say it, but then the question is, are you actually doing it? Because sometimes you need to hear it over and over and over and over again before it finally sticks in your head. You're like, all right, shit, I'm going to actually do this. And so the first thing that I want you to get from this story and what I'm talking about is that you have to write down your goals. You have to figure out what it is that you want. The thing that I know about my team member that I was telling you about who is emotional this morning is that he writes down his goals. I know this for a member that I was telling you about who is emotional this morning is that he writes down his goals. I know this for a fact because I've seen his notebooks. He writes down

his 10 most important goals, his 10 biggest goals every single night, every single night. Now, is he writing down the exact same thing every single night? Pretty much. Maybe they change around a little bit, but he's writing down pretty much the exact same thing. Why would he do that? Well, because when he's about to go to bed, he's trying to program his subconscious into focusing on achieving that. Like it was cool to see that he had found his notebook while we were talking this morning and he had his 10 things and you were able to see the things that he was able to cross off his top 10 biggest goals. He was able to cross the majority of them off. You know, one of them was be able to come a purple belt in jujitsu. He's got that now. One of them was be able to cross the majority of them off. You know, one of them was be able to come a purple belt in jujitsu.

He's got that now. One of them was be able to go skydiving and to be able to get certified to go by himself. He goes skydiving like every other weekend by himself now. And so you have to write down your goals. If you keep hearing me say it, the question is, are you actually doing it? And the reason why it's important is because when you write it down, it becomes real in this world. It becomes real. And when it's on paper, it can be planned. When it's in your head,

it's really hard to plan out the steps to get something to accomplish that thing, right? And so when you actually sit down and have it on paper, now you can start to plan it out. And when you have it on paper, the other thing that it makes you do is it makes you get more detailed, which is very important because that brings us to our next step. So you write them down. The next thing is to visualize them. Visualize those goals. And the more detail that you have around those goals, the easier that it makes it for you to visualize what those goals will look like and actually the achievement of those goals, what it will look like when you get there and how you know you hit it and what it would take to get there, right? Visualize the process. Don't visualize just the achievement of the goal, but visualize the actual process and what it's going

to take from you to get there. So what you do, you visualize it. And here's the important part that I think is really left out from visualization. It's great to sit there and to see it as much you possibly can. Sometimes some people are really good at visualization. Some people don't see anything. It doesn't matter. It's about actually doing it. And the important thing that's always left out of visualization, because visualization, we automatically think, see it. Besides just seeing it, one of the most important parts is to actually feel that actual achievement of the goal inside of your body. What would it feel like to achieve that goal? What would it feel, how proud of yourself would you be to get to that goal and know what you had to overcome

and the challenges you had to get through and the mindset issues you had to get through in order to get to that goal. How proud of yourself would you be? So you write them down, you visualize it. And then here's a really, really important part. You have to release the win. What do I mean by that? You have to release when I'm going to get it. One of the biggest mistakes I think that people make is obviously, I want you to plan your goals and I want you to say, hey, by the end of this year, I want to have X, Y, Z. But you have to have a little bit of openness to, I will get it when I deserve it. Once again, I said, it's not about achieving the thing. It's about who you need to become in order to achieve that thing. And so you're not going to get that thing until you are the type of person

that can get it. And so you have to release the win and you have to just be consistent with becoming the type of person that is able to have that life. You have to be consistent with the process. You have to put in the fucking work. And this is the problem that a lot of people have. They want to think about their goals. They want to talk about it, be awesome, but they don't want to do any work. You have to do the work. Everybody wants a six pack, but how many people actually go to the gym and put in the damn work? Very few. And so you have to just release the wind, trust the process, do what you need to do, put the work in, be consistent. And just trust. Trust that if you stay on this path and you go towards this goal and you're walking this road

and you're putting in the right actions, you're in the right direction, you're taking the right actions, eventually time will work itself out. Just trust that. What you have to make sure of is that you're thinking about that goal, whatever it is that you want, whatever success means to you, whatever happiness, joy, peace, all of those things, whatever those things mean to you, you have to make sure that that's what you're focusing on. Because what do we know? We know most people focus on what they don't want more than they focus on what they do want. And then they get more of what they don't want. Why? Because you are a masterful creator. You are creating at every single moment, whether you realize it or not. And whether you're intentionally or unintentionally doing it, most people are unintentionally

creating. But you are creating the future at every single second, whether you're doing something, not doing something, deciding to lay on the couch and scroll on Instagram or just stare at the ceiling, you're creating a future with every single thing that you do. You are a masterful creator. And the more that you focus on something, the more likely you are to get it. But if you're focusing on what you don't want, I can promise you this, your future is going to be full of things that you don't want. You've got to switch your mind and focus on things that you do want.

And so you've got to be able to write down your goals, visualize them, and release the expectation of when it's going to happen, but just know that it is going to happen. You created every aspect of your life that you have right now. If that's the case, why don't you actually start to create every aspect of the future life that you want right now? Because that is how you create the life that you want. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And once again, if you love this podcast, we got about 25,000 people, I think, or maybe more that follow us on Instagram. So if you want to follow this podcast, we got about 25,000 people, I think, or maybe more that follow us on Instagram.

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