The Mindset Mentor - How to Be Happier Now

Episode Date: December 14, 2018

Episode 520 - Our ultimate goal is to be happy right? Well if you are not 100% happy with your life in this moment, we need to change something and we need to change something FAST! In this episode, I will teach you how to be happier right now! Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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Okay. Today, we're going to be talking about how to be happier right now in this second. The way to be happier and the reason why most people suffer is because they are thinking about what they don't have. They are thinking about all of the expectations that they have for themselves, for other people, for where they wish they were in their life, all of these expectations that they're not living up to. And so they feel like they have less of something. They feel like they are less than they should be, that they are not as far along in their life as they actually want to be. And so what the problem is, is that they're focusing on all the stuff that they don't have. They're focusing on the expectations that they have of themselves and they have of people

around them, which we can all agree are probably higher than people will ever meet. And we might ever meet. We like to hold ourselves to high standards. So therefore, if we're constantly gauging ourselves and our self-worth comes from our expectations of ourselves, these expectations that are higher and always raise themselves, then there's a pretty good chance that we're always going to feel like we're not enough, like we're not living up to our standards. We're not living up to our expectations. And that's a really, really easy way to get sad or to get depressed or to get pissed off about where you are. So if you want to be happier in this moment, it's very, very easy to do. Stop focusing on your expectations.

Stop focusing on all of the things that you expect from yourself and start focusing on appreciation. So you trade your expectation for appreciation. And what you do, the reason why most people have expectations that they're not living up to is because they have expectations for their life of where they want to be. They have expectations for people, other people, and what they think of them and what they're doing and what they want them to do. So they have expectations for their life, for other people, and for what they don't have. So their life, other people, and what they don't have. That's their expectations and that's why they're not happy in this moment. And if you're not happy or if you're suffering or if you're

pissed off or if you're sad or if you're depressed, the reason why is because your expectations are the problem. So instead of focusing your expectations on your life, on other people, and on what you don't have, switch your appreciation into your life. Bring appreciation into your life on what, you know, you bring appreciation on your life, on the other people that are in your life, and what you do have. So it's a very simple thing. You trade your expectations for your life, other people, and what you don't have to appreciation for your life, other people, and what you do have. So you're literally changing one little tiny thing.

The appreciation aspect and not the expectation. Everything stays the same. You're focusing on the appreciation for what you do have in your life. and you can get this through the internet in some sort of way. The fact that you have a roof over your head, that you're able to eat. The fact that if you have nothing else, you at least have a beating heart and you have breath that you're breathing into your body. You have health, you're alive, you have something to be appreciative of.

So stop thinking about all of the things you don't have and start thinking about all of the things you do have. Trade your expectation for your appreciation. That is how you start to be happy. And what you realize is if you, if you in the second, I mean, it's, it's a, such an easy, quick thing to fix in the second. And you can focus on what you do have versus what you don't have and trade for appreciation. And if you do this every day, you'll start to notice you'll be happier right now in this moment by looking at all of the things you do have, but you'll start to notice yourself become happier every single day. If you make this a habit, you think about all of the things that you do have in your life. You think about all of the

great people that you have in your life and all the people that you have had in your life and all of the people that are coming into your life. And then you think about everything that you do have that's around you. That's the simplest way to make yourself get out of the state of sad or depressed or thinking of all of the things that you don't want. And you immediately trade it for being happier, for being appreciative, for being grateful. And that's a beautiful state to live in versus a negative state to live in. So the question that you want to ask yourself right now in order to change your state, in order to change your mindset, because our brains are focusing on the question at hand. If I ask you a question, if you're watching this video on YouTube or anywhere on the internet,

if I say, what color shirt am I wearing? And then I don't tell you to answer it, but you just think in your head, you automatically know it's a gray shirt that I'm wearing because your brain has to answer the question that is asked to you. And so the way that you change your mindset quickly is not to go, oh, what do I need to think about? You just ask yourself a question that goes immediately to the point. So the question that you want to take from this, that you ask yourself as soon as this ends is what am I grateful for right now? And you ask yourself that question. Anytime you start to feel sad or depressed, or you start to feel like you're not living up to expectations, you change your set, you change your mindset immediately. You change your state and you say, ask yourself the question,

what am I grateful for right now? And you start thinking about the things that you're grateful for. You start thinking about the things that are in your life. You start thinking about all of the things you've accomplished in your life. You start thinking about the people that are in your life. You start thinking about the path that you're going down and how excited you're going to be when you get there. And that is how you change your state immediately and start focusing on all of the good versus start, you know, continuing to think about all of the bad because we can all admit we all have high expectations for ourself. And as soon as we start doing better, we raise those expectations.

So we're never going to actually meet them. So the way that you trade, so we're never going to actually feel like we're good enough if we never meet them. That's one thing. But the way that you trade and change your mindset is you start focusing on all of the things that you do have and start focusing on what you do have instead of what you don't have. Trading expectation for appreciation. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at mwfmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend

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