The Mindset Mentor - How To Be Happier Right Now

Episode Date: October 2, 2017

Episode 331 - Happiness is a choice. There is no other explanation. In this episode, I cover how to be happier right now, in this moment. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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out and see if it's for you. So today what I'm going to be talking about is I'm coming to you just so you know, I'm coming to you live from Dubai. And today what I'm going to be talking about is how to be happier. Very simple, simple thing. This shouldn't take too long this episode, but it's a quick reminder. And I wanted to, you know, I've been traveling a lot and I realized like the other day we had an 18 hour travel day where we went from, you know, we had to wake up at 4.30 and we didn't get to our destination until the next day. We got up at 4.30 AM, didn't get to our destination until like two o'clock that time zone. So it was, it took a long, long time to 2am. So it was 4.30am to 2am basically. Um, and it was like 18 hours or 20 hours. I don't even remember. I tried

to block it from my head, but with that much traveling, traveling is great. I love traveling. It's amazing. I'll never complain about it. But when you're doing all of that traveling and you're going from one place to another, to another, to another, to another, it starts to take a toll on you. And you kind of really forget to just be happy, just to be happy. And you may have heard me talk about this before, just to be happy for no reason. But one of the things that I realized that I do when I'm going through something that I'm just like, damn, I really don't want to be here right now. I really don't want to do this. I wish I was doing something else. We all have those moments where we feel that way. And one of the things that I do is I do this. It's super simple. I force myself to smile as much as I possibly can. And then I remind myself what I'm grateful for. So, excuse me.

So what I do, when I was traveling, I was like, oh my gosh, I can't believe we got to do this again. We had a four and a half hour layover. And during that four and a half hour layover, we had to switch from one airport in that city to another airport in that city. So we had to drive, you know, get out, go through customs, get out and do all of that stuff, do passport check, all of that, get into an Uber, go to the other airport, go through all of the customs, passport check, all of those things again, and then wait there for our plane. And so as this is all going on, you're just like, man, I wish I was at my destination because obviously that's the main thing that you wish. And I noticed I was starting to fall off of that cliff of, oh God, this is so ridiculous. Why am I, this is not, I wish I was

just there already, blah, blah, blah. I wish, I wish, I wish. And I wasn't being present. And in the present moment, nothing was wrong. I was just moving my, blah, blah, blah. I wish, I wish, I wish. And I wasn't being present. And in the present moment, nothing was wrong. I was just moving my body from one place to another. And so I thought to myself, okay, I need to pause for a second and make myself happy for no reason. And so what I did was I forced myself to smile. I was looking out the window of the Uber and I was forcing myself to smile just for no reason.

And this is scientifically proven that just forcing yourself to smile just for no reason. And this is scientifically proven that just forcing yourself to smile will release dopamine in your brain, which is the happy drug, the happy chemical in your brain. It will release dopamine in your brain by smiling. And so I forced myself to smile. And as I was watching all of the things pass and the billboards and wasn't in a beautiful place or anything, I asked myself, what can I be grateful for in this moment? So step one, you smile and you smile a lot. And if anybody sees you, who cares? They're going to think you're crazy,

but you'll probably never see them ever again the rest of your life. Like, that's the thing. If you're getting judged by people, you'll probably never see 99.9% of them ever again. If you're just out, you're getting judged by some random person, who cares? It doesn't matter.

So I thought to myself, I'm going to smile. I'm going to look out this window and I'm going to find everything that I possibly can be grateful for. So if you woke up today, if you're driving to work and you're like, God, I really just don't want to go to work today. It's Monday or whatever day it is. I don't want to go to work. I wish I was still sleeping. I wish, I wish, I wish, I want, I want, you know, part of the problem, part of the problem with most people is resistance that they have. The unhappiness that they have is the resistance for what actually is. The unhappiness that they have in the moment is resistance for what actually is.

What do I mean by that? If you're unhappy in this moment while you're driving to work, it's because you're resisting because of the fact that you actually have to go to work. You're resisting for what actually is. That's not gonna make you happy by doing so. So if you're having to go to work to pay the bills in this moment, if you haven't been able to follow your dreams yet, no big deal. It's okay. How can you make yourself happy while you're doing this? If you're sitting in your cubicle

listening to this and you're like, man, I just really hate my job. Force yourself to smile right now and then ask yourself what you could be grateful for. Anything, the smallest things. And force yourself to get really good at becoming grateful for little teeny tiny things. Maybe it's raining outside. Oh, I could be grateful for the rain outside because it makes it a little bit cooler. I'm grateful for the rain outside because it makes it greener so the plants can live. And if the plants live, guess what? I get oxygen because they're putting oxygen down into the air. All of the trees are taking the CO2. They're filtering it. They're giving me oxygen. I can be alive, right? That's something to be grateful for.

It's sunny outside. You could be grateful for the sun. You could be grateful for anything that you want to be grateful for. The music that's playing in your car. If you find stuff that you could be grateful for that's very, very little, believe me, your life starts to change because you start to become very, very grateful for the things that are bigger, the people believe me, your life starts to change because you start to become very, very grateful for the things that are bigger, the people that are in your life, the fact that you have food and water and shelter and clothing and people that are around you that you love, all of these things, right? So two steps to just make yourself be happier. Number one, force yourself to throw a freaking smile on your face. That's number one. And number two,

find as much that you can be grateful for. And what you'll start to notice is it's almost immediate for me, at least, because I've been doing this for so long. You just start to become happier in the moment. And what you realize is being sad or miserable or pissed off seems like an automatic response for people. And that's okay. We feel like in this, in our society, it's okay to be pissed off because, oh yeah, you have to go to work today. Yeah, I get it. You're pissed off. Of course you are. Right. That's, that's like a normal thing. People are like, oh, you having a bad day today? Why'd you have a bad day? Oh, because this happened. This happened. Oh yeah, man. Me too. I understand. I completely get it. Right. It's okay. Quote unquote, you can't see my air quotes. It's okay for you to be pissed off in our society

But that's a bunch of bs You should be happier be happy for no reason if you could be pissed off for no reason Why can't you be happy for no reason right? It requires the same amount of energy Force yourself to smile force your brain to release that dopamine Force yourself to smile and ask yourself. What can I be grateful for right now? Real quick episode just wanted to give you a secret of what can I be grateful for right now? Real quick episode, just wanted to give you a secret of what makes me happier in the moment when I force myself to be present and stop resisting what actually is. Resisting the fact that I was traveling, I had

to travel. It's just the way that it goes. My body had to move from one place to another. If I was thinking about wanting to already be there, I was resisting what actually is. And that's where unhappiness and sadness and misery comes from is from resisting what actually is in the universe. So with that, two things, like I said, force yourself to smile. Super simple. And number two, find stuff you can be grateful for. So if you liked this episode, if you know someone that you think would get value from it, please, please, please share this with them. If you're someone who's been listening for a while, you've never shared this with anybody, share it with them. If you're getting value from it, please, please share. I don't get money based on how many

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