The Mindset Mentor - How to Be More Disciplined

Episode Date: April 15, 2020

I always get asked questions like "how do I get motivated to hit my goals?" and "how do I stop procrastinating?" well it all comes down to discipline. In this episode, I am going to teach you how to be more disciplined.Follow me on Instagram at @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host Rob Dial and if you have not yet done so hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. Today we have a special question coming in to us so I'm going to go ahead and play that and then we'll dive into the answer to the question. Hey Rob, here's Alex. Thank you so much for your time. My question is my ambition is huge. I have amazing goals to change this world but unfortunately my actions, they're good but they're not as great as my ambitions. So what would be the first thing to do? Do I reduce my ambition to match my, or do I keep my ambition super high and work on my actions? Thanks for your time. All right. So thanks so much for sending this

question in Alex. It's a, it's actually something, believe it or not, that I hear all of the time. So for those of you guys that also want to happen to send me a question and have me answer it, all you have to do is send a 30 second video to rd at robdial.com. RD stands for Rob Dial, obviously. So rd at robdial.com to have your question considered to be answered. So here's the thing that we're diving into as we're talking about this is he says essentially that his action does not meet his ambition and wonders if he should lower his ambition so that is able to meet his action because he's not basically lower his ambition so that is, you know, able to meet his action because he's not basically following through on what it is. You know, he said that

he wants to change the world. And Alex, just so you know, there's a ton of people that are out there that are listening to this and like, oh my God, yes, this is a hundred percent me. And I hear this all of the time is Rob, I have these big goals for my life. I'm going to do some amazing things, but I just can't motivate myself to get off the couch. What should I do to get off the couch? What are some of the tips that you have to make me stop procrastinating? Because I want to go out and I want to change the world and I want to help people, but I spend too much time on Instagram on my couch. So let's dive into it. And let me just be blunt and honest with all of you guys.

So let's dive into it. And let me just be blunt and honest with all of you guys. If you have big goals and you're not following through, if your action does not meet the needed action to complete that goal, you just don't give a damn about that goal. Let me say that again, because that might take some of you by surprise. If you're not hitting your goals and taking action, hit your goals because it's because you truly deep down, don't give a damn. You don't care enough, right? If you say, I want to change the world, but you're sitting on your couch on Instagram and you're, you know, eating Twinkies all day. You don't care as much about changing the world as you do about sitting around and eating Twinkies. You might care about changing the world.

You might want the world to be a better place, but your actions do not show that. And your actions are the truest form. It's like when you're in a relationship with somebody. Don't trust the fact that they just say they love you. What do they need to do? They need to show it. Why? Because actions speak louder than words.

Your actions towards your goal speak louder than your thoughts about the goal or what you say to people about your ambition and what you want to create in this world. So that's the first thing I want to dive into. You simply don't care enough. And let me give you an example. I've given this to, I've done this in front of thousands of people. I've done this in front of talks that I've given. I've done this on webinars.

I've done this many, many times. You may have even heard me say this before at some point in time, but if I asked you, and I asked this to groups of people and I say, Hey, what is the chance of you making $1 million this year legally in the next 12 months? What is the chance of you making $1 million legally in the next 12 months? And be honest with yourself. So answer that question. Go ahead and answer it out loud to yourself. What is the percentage chance of you honestly making a million dollars in the next 12 months legally? Go ahead and answer it. Okay. Did you get your number? Usually what I hear is 1%, 0%, 0%, 1%, 0%, 2%, 3%, 3%, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0%. That's usually what I hear when I'm in front of groups

of people and I ask this question. Now, let me ask you the exact same question, but I'm just going to tweak it just a little bit. Okay. And the question is, what is the chance of you legally making a million dollars this year? And if you don't, every person that you love gets killed. And if you don't, every person that you love gets killed. Answer that question for me now. What is the percentage chance? Go ahead and answer it out loud. What's the percentage chance of you making a million dollars in the next 12 months?

And if you don't, every single person that you love dies. What is it? It's 100%, right? Everybody goes from zero to 100%, 100%, 100%, 1000%. Now, let me ask you a question. Did the goal change? Nope. It's still a million dollars. Did the timeframe change? Nope. It's still 12 months. What changed? Your actual giving a damn about the goal. Because you would work harder than you ever have for anything in your entire life. You would never make another excuse in those 12 months. You would wake up earlier.

You would stop being on Instagram and Facebook and all the things that kill your time. You would stop hanging out with negative people. And you would be hardcore focused on one thing and one thing only. And that's making a million dollars this year. Now, obviously, I have to go very dramatic and talk about only, and that's making a million dollars this year. Now, obviously I have to go very dramatic and talk about, you know, people dying and all that stuff. But the reason why is because I have to show you the only thing that changes is that you truly actually give a damn about that goal now. That's it. And so the question that I have for you is if you do feel

like you actually care about the goal, how can you make yourself care more about the goal? What is it that you need to do? Maybe you need to focus on how many lives you're going to impact. Maybe you need to focus on if you, you know, some people, they want to make a hundred thousand dollars this year. Great. That's a beautiful thing, but it's usually not enough of a driver just to have money there. But what if you said, you know what? I want to make a hundred thousand dollars this year. And if to make $100,000 this year. And if I make $100,000 this year, I'll donate $5,000 of it to the Boys and Girls Club. Or I'll donate it to a battered women's shelter.

And you take your goal and you take it from being just about you to now actually helping other people. Do you feel like you might be more driven towards those goals if other people were in on these goals with you? If you could see their faces and understand the lives of the people that you're impacting? Probably. So number one, the first part that I want to dive into is you just don't care enough about your goal. That's really truly what it is. And so many people deal with this. You get excited about your goal. You know, you're fired up in the first week. You're like, you know what? I'm going to do this.

I'm going to do this. Like for instance, you're fired up to lose 30 pounds. You're in a weight loss challenge. You're going to go for the next 30 days and 30 pounds. That's what you're going to go for. You get all excited. You get day one. You're like, you're kicking ass. You have the best diet ever. You're drinking all of the water. You do two workouts for the first day. Instead of one, you're like into it. Day two, you're still pretty fired up. Day three, it's starting to go down. Day four, it's starting to go down. Day five, you don't even work out. You forget about it. And you're reading Tweaky's on the couch again. That's usually the way that it works out. You get really excited in the beginning. So we're not looking for motivation. What we're looking for is drive. If you know,

the name of this podcast actually used to have the word motivation in it. It was, it was first off, it was the MWF motivation podcast because it came out Monday, Wednesday, Friday. Then it turned into the Mindset and Motivation Podcast. And then I completely stripped motivation out of it because I think that motivation is BS. Because motivation is like a match. You just start it up, it's going, and then it burns out. It gives you just a little bit of motivation. You know, if you go to a... It's like, you know, not against any of the conferences that I've been, or you've been to, but if you jump around for three days, cool,

you jumped around for three days and burned some calories. But how do you feel two weeks later when you're at your house, not jumping around, right? That motivation, quote unquote, motivation that you got there was just a spark. Drive on the other hand, is something that's like you're driven. It's like a big burning log, right? And it's just, it just continues to go. So the difference between motivation and drive is motivation will get you excited. It's just a, you know, a big spark and then it goes out. And then what you're really looking for is drive.

Like, you know, someone who's driven, you can see it in their eyes. You can hear it in their voice. And you know, you're like, damn, everyone needs to get out of this person's way because they are going to do something with themselves. You know what I'm talking about, right? You've seen someone where you're like, uh, yeah, that person's going to accomplish whatever the hell they want. It's because they're driven towards that goal. So the first thing is you don't care enough. So you need to figure out what's going to make you care more about the goal or change your goal completely. That's the things you got

to think about. The second thing that I have to say is you're not disciplined enough. And this is where it really hits home with a lot of people as well. Discipline is a habit. It is something that you do every single day. It's something that you focus on. It's something that you cultivate. Nobody is born disciplined. Back to the show right now. you cultivate. Nobody is born disciplined. Back to the show right now. Like literally discipline is cultivated. Discipline is a habit. Just like waking up at five o'clock in the morning. It's really hard to do it at first, but it eventually becomes a habit. Your body gets used to it. Same thing with discipline. So, you know, in discipline is not,

I always say the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Discipline is in all areas of your life. It's not just, Hey, I need to be disciplined with my goals. And then the rest of my life is in shambles. No, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. I'll give you an example of, of what I I'm actually thinking of. And this really clicked into my head. The very first time was like five, four or five years ago. And I did a podcast on this, like really towards the beginning of this podcast. And I was at the gym and I was, you know, I had the, I was doing a 10 minute warmup on a incline, 15% incline, three miles per hour. And I was on the treadmill and I was doing a 10 minute warmup, right? Nothing crazy. Just wanted to get my heart rate up. I got to nine minutes and 50 seconds and I was about to hit the button to stop and get off. And I realized that I was coming up just,

if I allowed myself to stop at nine minutes and 50 seconds, even though not another soul on this earth would know that I stopped early, what happens is I'm allowing myself to come up a little bit short of my goal. And if I allow myself to come up a little bit short in that, I'm going to allow myself to come up a little bit short in everything. I'll give you another example of exactly where this pops up. Yesterday, we're still out in Sedona and we're switching from one Airbnb to another Airbnb. And we were unloading all of our stuff. And instead of working out at the gym when we travel, I use these things called steel mace. They're literally steel mace and steel clubs. And they're these, you know, these workouts with these, you know, it's a long steel pole.

And then it's got a ball at the end of the one. So it's like really lopsided. And I got up to two, you know, I got my 25 pound out. I got my 10 pound out. I walked him upstairs. Good to go. And then I was about to close the tailgate of my truck. And the last thing that was in my truck was two steel clubs, 10 pounds each.

And I was about to close it and be like, you know what? I don't need to get them. I can just get them tomorrow. Not a big deal. And it was the very last thing to get out of my truck. And I thought to myself, literally, this was yesterday. If I don't finish this right now, I'm not going to finish other things in my life. Like that's how disciplined I have to tell myself to be that I have to watch myself do certain things in like, for instance, I, I used to be very real. Like we've all been really good at this. You drop something. You're like, okay, well, no worries. I'll get that in just a little while. Like you take your shirt off it, you put it on the bed and you're changing your shirt. You put it on the bed and then you're like, you know what? I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to go out now.

I'll put my shirt away later. Right? Like that, that I'll do it later is all over in your life. And so I think to myself, okay, it's going to take me about 30 seconds to put that shirt away. It's going to require discipline and it's going to require me finishing and following through and completing this task of changing my clothes, whatever it is. And so I'll go, you know what? Oh, damn it. Okay. All right. Let me drop all of my stuff that I have in my hands. Let me go ahead and take my shirt, put it on the hanger and put it back to where it was. Now, am I the cleanest person in the world? Absolutely not. There's a ton of stuff that I miss. But if my mind notices that I miss something, I will not allow myself to leave and do the other thing until the current task that I'm on is completed. So those are the two things I really

want you to think about. If you have a lot of ambition, but your action is not matching up to it, a couple of things are happening. Either number one, you really just don't give a damn and you need to figure out a way to care more. Or number two, and or probably both though, you have no follow through. Your discipline is lacking. You have to cultivate your discipline and you have to realize this is in every little tiny thing that you do every single day. It's not just the big things, because I promise you, if you lack discipline in the big things, like changing the world, you also lack discipline in a lot of other things. If you're coming up short in changing your goals for changing the world, I guarantee you're coming up short in your bank account. You're coming up short in your career. You're

coming up short in your relationships. You're coming up short as being a parent. It's all over. And it's like, it's, it's like your life is infested with all of these little teeny tiny ticks and you got to pick up every single tick and throw it out the window, every tick and throw out the window until you start to realize that all the ticks are gone. And if you notice another little tick come in, you stop everything that you're doing. You go to that take, you pick it up and throw it outside. And that's the way that I think about it. So number one, you have to care more. You have to figure out a way to make yourself care more. And number two is you have to cultivate discipline in your life.

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So if you like this episode, please do me a favor. I would greatly, greatly appreciate it if you would share this on your Instagram stories with your friends, with your family members, all that stuff, tag me in it. I'll try to reshare as many of them as I possibly can so you guys can get some new followers as well. You know, I've got like 170 something thousand followers. So maybe we can get someone to go and follow you. Maybe you have some

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