The Mindset Mentor - How to Become Who You Want to Become

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dyle. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you live in the United States or Canada and you want to receive motivational text messages from me, text me right now, 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be talking about how to become the type of person that you want to become, how to become the type of person that can create the life that you want. And let me make a guess.

Starting point is 00:00:41 If you're listening to this podcast, it's because you want more in life. It might not be because you hate your life. Your life might be great. But for some reason, you've got this feeling deep down inside of you that there's more that you can do. There's more potential inside of you. There's more stuff that you can do. There's more that you can give the world.

Starting point is 00:01:00 There's more potential in every single aspect of your life. Whatever it is, There's more potential in every single aspect of your life. Whatever it is, there's more. And whatever more happens to mean to you, it could be more money, could be more happiness, could be more joy, could be more peace, could be more traveling, could mean more success, whatever success means to you. It could be more quality relationships, but you don't have that more yet. Think about that for a second. You know that there's more but you don't have that more yet. Why is that? Have you ever sat and asked yourself like, okay, I know there's more that I can have in my relationships but I don't have that more yet.

Starting point is 00:01:37 I know there's more happiness that I could have but I don't have that more happiness yet. I know there's more money that I could have but I don't have that more money yet. I know there's more joy that I could have but I don't have that more joy yet. I know there's more money that I could have, but I don't have that more money yet. I know there's more joy that I could have, but I don't have that more joy yet. I know there's more peace that I could have, but I don't have that more peace yet. Why don't you have that more yet? Well, I'm going to tell you, because you are not yet the person who can get it. Because if you were, you would already have it. So if you were the type of person who could already create the life that you wanted, you would already have the life that you wanted. So it's nothing else in your life that needs to change. It's you that needs to change. And so

Starting point is 00:02:16 that's what we're going to dive into and talk about today. And so what I want you to do, grab a pen and paper if you can. If you're driving, please don't do this. But pause this episode, wait till you get to a stoplight or pull over to the side of the road if you got a few extra minutes. Grab a pen and paper and let's actually go through this. Let's talk about this, okay? What I want you to do is I want you to think about in journal. If you're driving your car, just allow your brain to just think and just daydream as I'm talking to you, okay? And what I want you to do is before anybody does anything, before you write, before you daydream, all of that stuff, I want you to pretend like you're four years old again. And what do I mean by you're four years old? When you're four years old,

Starting point is 00:02:52 remember, anything is possible when you're four years old. You wanted to be an astronaut. And then the next day you wanted to be a princess. And then the next day you wanted to own your own bake shop. And then the next day you wanted to do this and this. And some days you wanted to be an astronaut princess in the same day. And you're like, hell yeah, I could be an astronaut princess because I'm four years old and anything is possible. Right? So I want you to bring in that part of your brain. It's still there. It still exists inside of you. It's just, you've been calling yourself quote unquote realistic. So for the next few minutes, I want you to imagine yourself being able to be a princess who also happens to be an astronaut. Okay. So I want to bring that side of you and I want to bring the four-year-old side of you in before we go any

Starting point is 00:03:34 further. Okay. I want you to think about your perfect life that you want in 10 years. What does your perfect life look like in 10 years? What does it look like? Ask yourself, what does your perfect life look like in 10 years? What does it look like? Ask yourself, what does your family look like? What does it look like to you? How happy are you in 10 years? Where do you live? Do you live in the same place? Do you live in a nicer place? Do you live in a different location? You know, where is your, what's your house look like? What location do you live? Where do you live? What does your family look like? What do your relationships look like? What does your success look like? What does your bank account look like? Do you have some cool cars? Have you been traveling all over the world over the past 10 years? If you fast forward 10 years from today, this moment, what does success look like to you? Think about that for a second.

Starting point is 00:04:21 What does success look like to you? And think about it and write every single thing that pops into your head down on a piece of paper. If you're daydreaming and you're driving, allow the visualization as you're driving. When I say visualization, that doesn't mean close your eyes, so keep your eyes open. As you're visualizing this, allow yourself to get as much color into this as possible. allow the imagination to be as rich as possible. What does your perfect life look like in 10 years? What does it mean to you to be an absolute success 10 years from now? I'm not just talking about a monetary success. I'm talking about a successful life 10 years from today. What does that look like? Okay. If you need to pause me in order to write all of this down because you've got so much, go ahead, pause me. I'll be ready to start talking as soon as you want to push play again. Now, when you look at that and you think about this, think about somebody who has that perfect

Starting point is 00:05:13 life. Imagine that there's somebody out there. When you look at your pen and paper, you look at everything that you wrote down, you look at that list of stuff. Imagine that there's a person out there who has that life, who has all the love that you want, who has the success that you want, who has the relationships that you want, that has the family that you want, that lives where you want to live, that has the house that you want. Every single detail. Imagine that there's a person out there who has the life that you want. Now, what I want you to do is as you're imagining that person, I want you to write down as much as you possibly can about that person. You know, what are the traits of somebody who has that created that life? Because someone's not just

Starting point is 00:05:57 given a life. Someone creates that life. Someone with a life as rich as you want, you know, rich in happiness and love and success and money and whatever it might be, travel and joy. What are the traits of that person? They have created that. What do they do on a daily basis? You know what? And think about their entire day. What time do they wake up? What time do they go to bed? What does their morning routine look like? What do they eat every day? How often do they work out? What are the types of people that they surround themselves with? How do they speak to other people? How do they speak to themselves? How do they speak inside of their head and what type of stuff do they say? Do they talk down to themselves? Do they build themselves up? Get as detailed as possible as to

Starting point is 00:06:40 what this person's day looks like, but also what their habits and traits are as well. How they speak to people, how they speak to themselves, what they eat, how often they work out, when they wake up, when they go to bed, do they have an evening routine, do they watch TV, what do they watch, do they not watch TV? Try to build out this person in as much detail as you possibly can, okay? In as much detail as you possibly can, I want you to build out the person who already has the life that you were just dreaming of. If you need to take some time and pause me, go ahead and do it. And now, here's what the important thing is for us to do. Now the important thing for us to do is to look at who you currently are and look at who that person is. And then ask yourself,

Starting point is 00:07:26 what's the difference between me and them? What's the difference between who I am right now, listening to this episode, and that person who has already created the life that I want? What's the difference between the two of you? What's the difference between who you are now and that person? And start to think about it. What do you do that that person does not? What does that person do that you do not? Now a word from our sponsor, BetterHelp. How well would you take care of your car if you had to keep the same one your entire life? That's how our brains work. So why don't we treat them that way? How we care for our mind affects how we experience life. And it's so important to invest your time and care into keeping them healthy. And as you know, I'm the mindset guy, so I think that taking

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Starting point is 00:10:13 fitbod.me slash dial. That's 25% off your subscription or try it free at fitbod.me slash dial. Maybe there's, oh man, I'm staying up late. I sleep in sometimes. You know, I eat crappy food. I talk negative to myself. I stay in contact with negative people. And I know that they don't stay up late. They don't sleep in. They wake up on time. They eat healthy food. They work out. They don't talk negatively to themselves. In fact, they build themselves up. They stay in contact. They don't stay in contact with any negative people. They've gotten all of the negative toxic people out of their life. What's the difference? What is the difference between that person and you? And here's the important part is you look at that and then

Starting point is 00:10:55 you start to use this person, this fictitious person that there's probably a person that's very similar to this person that you're thinking of in your mind that has everything that you want, but we're going to call them a fictitious person. But we're going to use that person, that perfect version of you 10 years in the future, we're going to use that as your North Star. We're going to use that as your guiding principle. We're going to use that as the person that you want to become, right? And so when you start to think about that, if you start to think about, okay, your alarm goes off in the morning and you're about to hit snooze, think to yourself, would the perfect version of me in 10 years hit the snooze button or would they get up and get it done? You know what? They would get up and get it done. Okay. It looks like I got to wake up.

Starting point is 00:11:40 And then you take the action that that person would take. And then you start to wake up and you're like, you know what? I just want to make pancakes and put some pancakes and put a bunch of honey on top of it and put some syrup on it and put a bunch of whipped cream on top of it. And you think to yourself, would the perfect version of me in 10 years eat this for breakfast? Or what would they eat for breakfast? Or would they skip breakfast and fast? I don't know. This is your perfect person. This is your perfect life. This is your person that you're trying to build yourself into. When you start to talk down to yourself, you ask yourself, would the perfect version of me talk down to myself? No, probably not. When you start to notice that you're hanging out around too many toxic people, you ask yourself, would the perfect version of me talk down to myself? No, probably not. When you start to notice that you're hanging out around too many toxic people, you ask yourself,

Starting point is 00:12:28 would the perfect version of me in 10 years hang out around these toxic people? When you start to think of the relationships that you have, would the perfect version of me react to my children the way that I'm reacting right now? Would the perfect version of me treat somebody else the way that I'm treating this person right now? Would the perfect version of me treat somebody else the way that I'm treating this person right now? Will the perfect version of me show up differently in my relationship with my wife than I currently am right now? And you start to use this person as your guiding principle, as your guiding light, as your North Star of who you are becoming. And what happens is now you have to realize that all you have to do every single day is wake up every

Starting point is 00:13:07 single morning and be that person. Be the person who you want to be in 10 years. Some people, like I love the phrase act as if, some people hate the phrase act as if, but if you wake up every single morning and you act as if you already are that person, you will start to take the actions and you act as if you already are that person, you will start to take the actions that that person would take, which gets you closer and closer and closer to the perfect life that you want. And you wake up every morning, you become that person. And you have to start realizing that most people think about what they need to do to get the life that they want, but very few people focus on who they need to become in order to get the perfect life. Now, do you still have to do the things that you need to to get there?

Starting point is 00:13:50 Yeah, absolutely. But when you become the person who is the perfect person that has created that life, you will automatically take the actions that you're supposed to take in order to get you where you want to go. So your new goal every single day is not to worry about action. You will still do the action. You will still do the action. Yes, you're not going to just like become this perfect person by sitting on your couch all day long. Your new goal, this person is the new goal that you shoot for every single day. That life that you want 10 years from now is a byproduct of what this person does every single day. So then you ask yourself every single day, what would this person do? What would this person does every single day. So then you ask yourself every single day, what would this

Starting point is 00:14:26 person do? What would this person do? What would this person do? You don't need to worry about all of those things more than anything else. What you really need to worry about more than anything else is who you need to become and you will automatically start to do those things. And it's very simple. It's really not a hard thing to get the, you know, if you understand in your head, it's not really hard to understand, but to go out and do it is hard because what happens is it requires you to break off and kill off parts of yourself that are no longer serving you. That kill off habits and traits and qualities that are no longer serving you in becoming the person that you need to become to step into this life that you want to create. And what happens is you slowly but surely start to let go of what's not serving you and

Starting point is 00:15:10 create the life that you want and create or strengthen within yourself the things that you need to in order to create the life that you want to. You know, would the best version of myself do this in 10 years? If you notice yourself sitting on the couch when you're supposed to be working out, you said to yourself, you're going to work out this evening, but you're sitting on your couch. Ask yourself, would the best version of myself in 10 years be doing what I'm doing right now? If the answer is yes, keep doing it. But if you are sitting on the couch and you're not taking the actions you wanted to, and you're not working out like you're supposed to, and you're like, well, the perfect version of me to be doing this right now? No. If not, ask yourself what they would do. Well, what they would probably do, I can't, you know, I can go to

Starting point is 00:15:55 the gym right now, but it's a 20-minute ride. What would they probably do? They'd probably go into YouTube, and they'd pull up a 30-minute at-home high-intensity workout, and they would do that high-intensity workout. And then you stop doing what you were doing and you start doing what that person would do. And slowly, but surely, slowly, but surely, because 10 years is a long time. It's 3,650 days. That's a lot of days. Ton, ton, ton, ton, ton, bunch of days, right? And you're like, you know what? What I'm starting to realize is that slowly, but surely over the past year, over the bunch of days, right? And you're like, you know what? What I'm starting to realize is that slowly but surely over the past year, over the past two years, over the past three years, five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10 years, you slowly but surely let go of who you've always been

Starting point is 00:16:36 and start stepping into who you need to become, right? Is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals? And this is a practice to make you more aware of when you fall off of the path. And when you fall off of the path, don't guilt yourself. Don't shame yourself. Don't get pissed off. Don't start talking shit to yourself. When you notice yourself fall off the path of being who you want to be, immediately just get back on the path. Don't shame yourself. Don't be crappy to yourself. Any of those things. Just go, oh, I'm off the path. Let me get back on. Oh, I'm off the path. Let me get back on. Like if you're walking on the sidewalk and you look to the side and you see somebody and you say something, you notice, you look down, you notice you're a little bit to the side of the sidewalk and you're on the grass. You're not

Starting point is 00:17:14 going to be like, oh my God, stupid me. I'm so stupid. I'm such a piece of shit. I'm on the grass again. No, you're just, you've, you're off the path. Get back on the path, dude. Just get back on the path. When you fall off, get back on the path. When you fall off, get back on the path. If you do this over and over and over and over again, what you'll realize is that you will have closed the gap from who you are now to who you need to be. And going back to what I first said at the beginning, the reason why you don't have the life that you want, the relationship that you want, the body that you want, the bank account you want, all those things is because you're not yet the person that can create all of those. But if you just focus on creating yourself into the person who can create those,

Starting point is 00:17:49 eventually you're going to wake up, you're going to look around and go, holy shit, I actually created the life that I was visioning. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - How to Become Who You Want to Become

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