The Mindset Mentor - How to Break Out of The Rat Race

Episode Date: January 30, 2017

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and a mentor and a community that bring into my life lessons, thoughts, challenges, and resources that I can use to grow myself into the person that I need to be in order to fulfill my goals and dreams for myself my family and my community and what we're going to dive into today like I said is how to get out of the rat race and if you're currently working for someone right now I want you to realize this it doesn't have to always be that way and if you want to have an idea of where this idea came from, of why I wanted to talk about the rat race and how to get out of it, I was watching a video from the Joe Rogan podcast. And if you are part of my mailing list, you would have already

seen that it was sent out to you. If you're not part of my mailing list, you want to see the video, go to mwfmotivation.com slash episode 131. I'll make sure to link it up. But with your life, the way that it is, it doesn't have to be that you go into work for somebody the rest of your life. And that's how you live. And that's how you make money. The way your life is now is not the way that it has to be. And the reason why is because you are in control of your life. And it's hard to think outside of the box when you've been in the box your entire life. But you don't have to always work for somebody. Your paycheck doesn't have to come from somebody else. That's what I want you to realize. And we're brought up thinking that you go to school,

you do the stuff you're supposed to, you go to college, you graduate, you get a good job that's paying $40,000, $45,000 a year straight out of college, and you work your way up the corporate ladder. And for some reason, that's been taught to us. And I don't understand the reason why that is. Society has not always been that way. Actually, for the majority of the time that society has been around, it hasn't been that way at all. Where you just show up, you clock in, you do all of the work for some big machine, you clock out, and then you go home. And you're so tired that you can't do anything after work and you can't enjoy your life. Because what happens outside of work is your life. And if work is draining you so much that you can't

enjoy your life, then your work is absolutely pointless because you're wasting it. See, most of the times that humans have existed, it was based off of a bartering system. You give me some corn, I'll give you some fruit. That's how humans got by. And it was that you contributed to society more than anything else. Now it's not about contribution. It's about finding something to do with your time, finding somebody else to work for. And maybe you work 30% of the time that you're there. The rest of the time you waste on Facebook or Snapchat or doing whatever it is. And what you're doing is you're just trying to find a way

to fill your time. This whole thing about, you know, jobs and that the president needs to give us jobs and all of that stuff. That's crazy because it didn't always used to be that way. Instead of someone needing to, we have to have somebody to, because here's the thing. If you say the president has to bring us jobs, Congress has to bring us jobs. They have to create more jobs. It's crazy because what's happening is you're basing your life off of somebody else making some type of decision in order for you to get a job. And I don't know about you, but I don't want to rely on anybody else for me getting by.

And the thing about it is that we shouldn't have to want somebody else to give us a job or for Congress or for the government. In reality, I don't want to worry about the government. I hope they do anything for me. I want to have them as far away from me as I possibly can. The name of the game is hustle is to figure out a way to get by. I did an interview with my grandparents five years ago before they both passed away. And we were talking about their lives and how they grew up. And my grandma was talking about how when they went through the depression, and it was way worse than 2008.

Believe me, it was way worse than 2008. My grandma was telling me that there was no social support. There was no social security. There was no welfare. There was none of these things. They didn't give them anything. They didn't give us anything, is what she kept saying. My great-grandfather, her father, had a grocery store and a shoe business. And in the Great Depression, he lost his grocery store. He lost his shoe business. She actually said he lost his grocery store because he gave away food to everybody who couldn't eat and ended up going out of business in that sense. So he lost his grocery store. He lost his shoe business. And in order to feed his family, he ended up becoming a gardener. He didn't know how to garden. He just knew that there was an

empty lot somewhere in the neighborhood. And he started a garden. And in that empty lot, once he started gardening, all of the neighbors came together and they started gardening together. And they did this every single day. And then every single day for the rest of his life, he would go out and he would go fishing. And that was how he fed his family. He went on the lake, he went fishing, and then he had a garden and he was self-sufficient. He figured it out because he had to. He had nobody else to blame. He had no government that he had to wait for. Now we're all smart people. We could figure it out too if we really want to. So what happened was companies started getting larger and larger in the early 1900s. And there was the whole industrial age and more people had to be hired. They had to clock in,

they had to clock out. So more people having to be hired meant that people stopped doing things that they were interested in like painting and music and other things. And people started to work for these companies because sometimes they can make more money doing it, which meant somewhat of better lives, but it became a trap over the past hundred years. And over the past hundred years, working for somebody else has become a norm. It wasn't always that way 100, 150, 200 years ago. It wasn't always this way. And I know it sounds foreign. You're like, why the hell is he talking about this? Because I want you to realize that if you're in the box, you're in the rat race and you're thinking about why the hell am I in this? Once

you get out of it and you see from the outside looking in, it's like if you're in a bad relationship and everyone else around you sees the bad relationship, but you don't see it because you're in it. And then you get out of it and you're like, what the hell was I doing? It's the exact same way for the rat race as well. You don't always have to wake up and do something that you hate in order to buy a new car or to buy a new shiny iPhone or to buy a new house or whatever it might be. new shiny iPhone or to buy a new house or whatever it might be. We as a society got focused on buying things and consuming things in order to do, in order to, we wanted to consume things in order to, and in order to do that, we had to work for companies in order to do that. It wasn't like we went and did our passionate stuff. So what happened was over the past 100, 150 years,

people were doing stuff they were passionate about back then. And then what happened was over the past 100, 150 years, people were doing stuff they were passionate about back then. And then what happened was advertising came out and people said, oh my gosh, I need this new thing. I don't make enough money now doing what I'm doing and what I'm passionate about, but I really want this new thing because advertisements tell me I'm a better person. I'm a better human or I'm a smarter person. If I get these things, I better go work for one of these companies so that I can afford whatever these things are. In society, we got focused on buying and consuming more stuff. And consuming more stuff is, you know, we get those things and then we're like, oh my gosh, I got a new iPhone. This is great. I got a new car. This is great. And then six months down the road, you don't care about it. You just want something new. The biggest thing that I can tell you is to start realizing that you

are able to break free of the machine and you are able to figure it out. The worst part is that you don't know how bad it is until you get out of it. And I don't want you to, and I don't think you want to sell your life to sit in a box or a cubicle to work for a machine just to buy more crap that you don't need to impress people that you don't like. It's kind of like the phrase that they say in Fight Club. You have to break free from the materialism and realize that all we're doing as a society is working jobs that we hate and selling our lives away, our one life that we get in order to buy the next new shiny object that we'll soon forget about. That's not what we're here to do. That's personally not what I'm here to do. I know that. And I don't know about you, but that's not how I want to spend the rest of my

life. And a light bulb went off for me when I made tons of money and I had a bunch of money in my bank account and started to get a bunch of money in my bank account, but I didn't feel any different. I bought a brand new Audi and I bought a house and I bought all of the cool new shiny objects and all of those things. And then one day I realized that I was freaking miserable working a job that I didn't enjoy. And I haven't even really had that bad of jobs. That's the crazy thing. I never really hated my jobs, but I never felt fulfilled more than anything else. And I wanted to feel fulfilled. This podcast, my group coaching, my one-on-one coaching, these fulfill me. These are the things

I love. So I stopped buying things. My Audi eventually crapped out three or four years down the road. I got a small SUV in 2011 and they got me from point A to point B. And I realized that I didn't have to have an Audi. And plus I hated the way that people looked at me because they thought that I was rich. So people treated me differently and I didn't want to be treated differently because I had a nicer car. So I got a Hyundai SUV because, you know, that's the that's the pimpin' wagon, of course. But obviously, I didn't care. I wanted something to get me from point A to point B where it would get me there.

It would be sufficient enough, but I wouldn't be judged or people wouldn't think differently of me because I was driving a nice car. but I wouldn't be judged or people wouldn't think differently of me because I was driving a nice car. But what I realized though, is when I started buying less, I actually became happier. That's the crazy thing. When you buy less crap, you become happier because you don't feel like you need to get the next thing. And then when I started my own companies and I started making my own money, I realized that the things I was interested in brought me more joy, which made me even happier. And people were surprised.

And this happened to me last week. Somebody was surprised to see that I still drive the small 2011, actually it's a 2007, and I bought it in 2011, the small SUV. Because I've made more money in the past few years than I have in my entire life, but I didn't upgrade the car. And people look at me like I'm crazy. Like, why are you still driving that car? I mean, it's not a piece of crap or anything. It works. But why would you not get anything better if you were making so much money? And here's the deal is, is I'm going to drive that car until the wheels fall off of it because I really don't give a crap because that car buying another

one is not going to bring me happiness. I don't put my happiness into things. I put my happiness into experiences. I won't allow myself to fall back into the trap of wanting more things again because those won't fulfill me. And when you go to that type of life, when you think back on your life, you won't think back of the cars or the houses or the new iPhones that you had when you go to that type of life, when you think back on your life, you won't think back of the cars or the houses or the new iPhones that you had when you're on your deathbed and all of those things that you bought. What you can think about is the experiences. So I didn't buy any of the cool new shiny things this year, but instead I decided that my girlfriend and I, we would take a trip to Italy. And so we're going to go to Italy for 15

days. I'm pretty sure that when I'm on my deathbed, I'll remember something like that more than I'll remember buying a new iPhone 6S or iPhone 7 or whatever the heck iPhone is coming out next. So put your money into experiences as well. Because when you look back, that's what you're going to remember. And so you have to realize that in order to break free of the rat race, you first have to break free of the feeling of wanting materialistic things. Because here's the deal. You've never bought something in your life. I'm going to guess, I'm not 100% sure, but about 99.9% sure that you bought 10 or 15 years ago that brought so much joy to you that today still to this day brings you the exact same amount

of joy that it did this. So in order to break free of the rat race, you must break free of materialism first. And then the next step that you need to do is realize, start thinking, start looking around and going, does my life have to be this way? Do I have to work for somebody? Does my life have to be like this? Does it, do I have to go and work from eight to five and nine to five or nine to six or whatever it is, and then come home and only have a couple hours to hang out with my kids? And some people say, well, I have a family to support. I can't quit my job. Well, what if you were to quit your job, start another job, start your own company, and then you would be able to have more time with your family instead of this little tiny

two, three hours that you're allotted at the end of every single day. So let me ask you this. Do you ever feel like you're just wasting away? You're just wasting time, that you're just filling time while at work? What can you do right now to start making changes in your life to make sure that you're not wasting it away? That's the question I have for you. And in the next episode, I'm actually going to teach you how to quit your job. So if it's something that you're interested in, if you hate your job, and if you love your job, this isn't for you. Good for you because most people don't like 95% of people don't like their job. So if you love your job,

this episode is not for you. But the next episode, I'm going to talk about how to quit your job because I've actually been told over the past couple weeks that a lot of people have quit their jobs since listening to my podcast, which is kind of a crazy thing to hear. Um, but with that, I'm going to leave you the same way, leave you every single episode, make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. If you liked this episode, please share it with someone else that you know, you, I'm sure that, you know, at least one other person that's trying to break free of the rat race. And if you'll share this with them, I would be greatly appreciative of it. But until the next episode, when I teach you how to quit your job, I hope that you have an absolutely

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