The Mindset Mentor - How to Build an Epic Life

Episode Date: April 8, 2021

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Welcome to the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And today is Thursday, which means it is the business edition of the Mindset Mentor, which also means I am joined by my best friend and business partner, Dean DeVries. Dean, what is up, buddy? It is a great day and it's great to be here. It is a beautiful day. And today we're going to be talking about how to build an epic life, how to build an epic business.

And also we're going to tell you a little bit about our business and challenges that we've come across, especially just recently. And we're going to talk about this challenge that we came across that we were actually supposed to have an event tomorrow. The day that you're listening to this, if you listen to it today, we're supposed to have an event tomorrow in Austin, a free event that we were going to have donations to charity and try to get as many people from the state of Texas, people from Dallas,

people from Houston, people from Austin, and also people from San Antonio and anywhere else they wanted to come from. And with a donation, they'd be able to come to a free event with us. But, Dean, we ran into some challenges, didn't we? We did, and I'm really appreciating the different vibes that we're bringing today. We're going to kind of pull back the curtain a little bit on some of the challenges that we had. Also, there's going to be a great reveal. So, yeah, I'm looking forward to uh to unpacking that but yeah the um you know the the the thing

that I mean you and I we've been really excited for the last several months like leading up to you know hey COVID restrictions are starting to relax people are getting their vaccinations people feel more safe and not everybody but there's you know a larger percentage of people that are you know that really want to connect in person. And so that was the vision that we had is what would it be like to just bring people from all around Texas and whoever wants to fly in as well and just bring them together for an event. And we're collecting donations that go to a cause that's really important for us, but also for the planet, in our opinion. And in doing that, yeah, we came up with some major challenges that prevented us from actually taking action on creating the event and doing the

event. But we also came up with a solution. For sure. And so the idea was we were going to have as many people as we could. We, you know, the event size was supposed to be April 9th was supposed to be the event. We were going to do like four or five hours, you know, get as many people together as possible. We planned this months ago thinking that we'd probably be able to do it. And, you know, Texas has, you know, completely gone, you know, there, there is no basic restrictions, I guess you could say in Texas and that's where I live. And, uh, that was the idea, but there was still a part of me that was like, I just feel that I want to respect people, respect their space, respect people as far as what their decisions are and what they want to do with their bodies. Cause I'm not one to tell somebody

what they should or shouldn't do. And we had to, to make a decision. Um, and you and I had a tough conversation about it, of us pushing the event, because all we want to do is just like, we just want, we just want to be in front of people, right? We just want to bring people together. We want to take this amazing community that we have and have other people be able to meet other people who are into the same type of stuff. But we had a conversation, you know, a tough conversation. And you know, what, what do we really come up with? And why do we go the route that we did? Yeah, well, you know, part of that conversation was, all right, what do we have to do in order for people to feel safe? You know,

that was like the biggest thing. And so the thing that, you know, that's really important for us that we just really had to have the tough conversation on is like, okay, what are the standards that we want to hold when we do bring people together. And the conclusion that we came together on is we want to hold the highest standards because that's what leaders do. We also are bringing people together that want better lives. And so, and we came up with a solution

and that solution was to run a virtual event and not just invite anybody in Texas or anybody that has the means to fly in, but we wanted to make it available for literally anybody in the world. And so I think the solution that we came up with was a win-win. So I'm really excited to dive into that win-win solution that we came up with that if you're listening, you are officially invited to? Yeah. So, you know, the one thing that we talked about, people really, we feel like people need right now. And the vision that we were attached to is the vision that people need. So we had our own vision of creating this event and bringing people together and having them have a transformational

event in just a few hours. And after that, to be able to connect with other people who are from the state, might live in the same area so they can make some new friends, get to meet new people. And that was our vision for it. And our vision was to help people find their own vision and to figure out who they need to be in that. And then also at the same time to figure out exactly what they need to do in order to get there. So we went from, you know, having 100 to 150 people in a room we thought we'd be able to do. We obviously are not going to be able to do it. We're going to push the event. It will happen eventually. Don't know exactly when it's going to happen, but it will happen, right? We will bring people together. That's something that we're committed to eventually when, you know, people

feel safe and people feel like it's something that they can do, right? And so what we decided to do is we decided to, instead of have a one day vision, you know, personal, you know, learning about what you want your life to be. What if we were to take this, cause it's supposed to be April 9th. What if we were to take this idea and turn it into a three day virtual event? So therefore it's not a hundred or 150 people, you know, the first 50, 150 people that donate to this charity would then get a ticket. But why don't we just open it up to thousands of people across the entire world, right? Every single person who's listening right now can join in on this, right? And that was the vision that we decided. If we're going to take this vision of in-person, we can't do it. We're not going to do it at this point.

We're going to push it. Let's go ahead and take this vision and let's make sure that we do it for as many people as possible to impact as many people as possible, but also to be able to, you know, impact the people around us and also a charity as well. And so, you know, people want a really incredible life. That's the one thing that I've found over 10, 15 years of coaching people is people want an incredible life, but they have no idea exactly how to create it. And in this, it makes them procrastinate. It makes them self sabotage. It makes them feel like they're just spinning their wheels and they're not going anywhere, which probably sounds familiar. One of those sounds familiar to people in most ways. But the reasons why I find why people don't get what they want in life is because number one,

their vision is not strong enough. Number two, they don't know exactly who they need to be. And number three, they don't have a plan. They don't know exactly what it is that they need to do. Like if you can think about it and take a step back, if you can just take a step back and say, okay, I have a really clear vision. I know exactly who I need to be. And I have an action plan. There's no reason why you wouldn't hit your goal, except for that you didn't take the action that's needed. But most of the times people aren't taking the action that's needed because they're kind of iffy on where they're going. I always say that a good example is people get mad when they don't have the life that they want, but they don't even know what the life they want is. It's like your mom calling you up and saying, hey, honey, what do you want for Christmas? You're like, oh, just get me anything, mom.

And then you get there and you have Christmas and you start opening your gifts and you open your gift and you're like, the hell is this? I didn't want this. You can't get mad at your mom for not giving you the gift that you wanted when you didn't tell her what you wanted. Right. So if you don't know what you want, how in the hell are you going to ask the universe for it? You know? Yeah. Yeah. And you know, one of the things that Stephen Covey talks about in his book,

seven habits of highly effective people, one of those covenants are like, you've got to sharpen your saw. And sharpening the saw is also taking a step back and reflecting on the ways that we've been showing up, where we're actually heading and what's the consequence of continuing to show up that way. But also getting clear on what that path forward looks like because if all, and I know that there was a point in my life where I thought that the way to get to where it is that I want to go

is to just work harder and go faster. But what I realized was that there's oftentimes where just by being in the, you know, in, in, in the marathon, so to speak, uh, and not actually taking a step back to see which way I'm actually going, I'm just going fast into a place I don't want to go. And so, you know, taking some time and I know that you and I, we've been, you know, just, we've been champions of this, not champions in the sense that we're like amazing at this, although we are, but we are, you know, very committed to continuing to grow, continuing to, to reevaluate, you know, what we do. And, and this event was actually, is actually inspired by the process that you and I go through on a really regular basis,

pretty much every single week at this point where we're reflecting on, okay, how was last week? How was the last month? How was the last month? How was the last quarter? And is that a reflection of our highest potential? And if it's not, what are the ways that we can bring into the future, you know, a different way or a different way of showing up or showing up more authentically or more powerfully or more aligned with, with where it is that we want to go. And part of that also is like, okay, well, where do I want to go? Because if we're just working hard and just focused on going fast, we're not actually connecting to the place that we want to go. It's like driving a car aimlessly without a GPS. And so there's so much value here,

I think for, you know, for everybody, but, and especially us, because we do this on a really regular basis. Yeah. So, you know, this is, this is really important for your life, but it's also really important for your business. You know, we coach, we teach a lot of coaches. And one of the things that I teach them how to do is how to have a weekly meeting with themselves every single week because it is a business. And if you don't treat your business like a business, it's going to pay you like a hobby, right? And that's the thing that we always say. So basically the three aspects that we decided that people really need the most. Number one, the first day that we're going to have in this event, just so you guys know, is April 19th. And if you just want to sign up for it now, once again, it's absolutely free.

You can go to epiclife2021.com, just epiclife2021.com. But day one is vision day, right? So if you're a business owner, or even if you're not a business owner, but you're just a person who happens to live a life and you want a better life, right? Day one is vision day. What's super important about this is that so many people don't have a very, very clear vision. And I'm going to say it. It's got to be very, very, very, very, very, very, very, I can't give enough varies clear on exactly what it is that they want. But most people have a little bit of an idea, but they're not very clear. And so I always use the example, if I were to take you and the number one archer in the entire world

and put you guys next to each other and say, Hey, shoot and hit that target. They're going to beat you every single time. But if I just blindfold that person and spin them around and they don't know what direction the target is, you have a better chance of hitting it. Not because you're better simply because you can see the target, which is a beautiful thing. And so when you don't have a very clear vision of exactly what it is that you want, it makes it really hard to ask the universe for it. It makes it really hard to work for it. And so day one is going to be the vision day. Hey, if you're a business owner, I don't need to tell you that running

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now. Let NetSuite show you how they'll benefit your business with a free product tour at netsuite.com slash dial. Schedule your free product tour right now at netsuite.com slash dial. That's netsuite.com slash D-I-A-L. Yeah. And you know, one thing I'll just say about vision is sometimes, especially when we're brainwashed to thinking that all we have to do is just go faster and work harder. It can sometimes feel unproductive to take a step out of that to connect to a vision. But what I realized is that, you know, realizing your vision and the probability of you actually experiencing your vision is in direct proportion to the clarity that you have of that vision and the energy that you can get from that vision. Because if your vision is to just work hard every single day, there's not a whole lot of energy there to draw from where it's like, oh, you know, that's not too exciting. But if it's like, I'm working hard every single day because I'm going after this and whatever that this is, right. That's,

that's the thing that you're drawing energy from, but the more clear that you can get about what that actually is and what that vision is, you're going to have more direction and more information on how to show up each day so that you can get closer and closer and closer. And so, you know, some aspects of the vision is what is the mission, right? What are, what are you actually trying to accomplish? What, and why is that purposeful? Why is that meaningful to you? Right? So connecting to the mission and extracting the purpose, what is the highest potential in that vision? And so connecting to all those things is really important when it comes to vision. So we're going to dive really deep on

day one around that. For sure. Yeah. And that kind of reminds me as well, you know, when you say work hard, but don't have a vision, like I can work really hard at digging a hole in my backyard, but at the end of it, I'm just going to have a hole in the backyard. That doesn't sound exciting, right? That's like, you can work really hard at something, but if it's not the something that you want or need to be doing, it's useless, right? So day one, we're going to get really clear on what the vision is for you, for your business, and also for just your life. Day two is going to be the embodiment day, right? One of the biggest issues that I find is that people think about what they need to do in order to be successful. And they, they rarely think about who they need to become in order to be successful, right? Jim Rohn, one of my favorite quotes says, success is something

that you attract by the person that you become, right? If you wanted, you know, if you see this perfect life in the, in the future, 10 years from now, if you were the person that could have that life right now, you would already have that life. So the thing about it is if you think about that, you go, okay, so what I really need to focus on is who I need to be and how I need to show up every single day. Because if you show up, if you are that person that can create that life and you show up every day as that person, guess what you're going to do? Eventually create that life. So day two is about the embodiment, who you need to be more than anything else in order to create the life that you want. Yeah. And I think this is probably like, this is the most important aspect in my opinion, because

vision, you know, you know, and you and I, we've, we've had a vision, you know, like we had a vision of bringing people together in Austin, right. It didn't fully get realized, but we became the version of us that could realize that vision, but something else even better and even more impactful came out of that. Yeah. And part of it as well as, as going back to, you know, the whole thing of having the event, like we could legally throw the event to We could legally throw the event on Friday. We could. There's nothing holding us back from it. But when we know our vision and we know who we are

and what standards we hold ourselves to, what standards we want to hold other people to, and then also how we want other people to feel about us, about our business, and about just their safety in general, it just didn't hit the standards at this point. And that's what happens sometimes. And sometimes you have to pivot. And so this is just an example of pivoting. Yeah. And that's just what life is all about, right? There's, there's always obstacles. There's always challenges and the challenges don't slow down. In fact, they probably

speed up, but it's not that life gets easier. It's because we get better, but it's all, it's, it's about us that creates that, right? So the purpose of vision is not only to get energy from your vision and go after something that's purposeful and mission driven, but it's really to become the version of you that can create that vision. And even if you don't fully realize that vision, there's probably something else, maybe even better than the vision that you, that you had initially went after after maybe there's something better that's available for that version of yourself and that's that's what I found to be the case too like this is the perfect example of how that that unfolds and like who we have

to become speaks to our mindset right how what do we think about most often because we're always moving towards the things that we're thinking about most often how do we think of ourselves right, and how we think of ourselves is actually what materializes, you know, what are our habits? What are the things that we do every single day? What are the things that we do on a frequent basis that actually create the results that we want in our life? And what are the beliefs and the values where it's like, even if we don't know exactly what to do or, you know, how to, to, to do something, if we can really connect to the version of us that is rooted in these habits, these beliefs,

this, this mindset and the values that are most important to us, we're going to make a decision that's always going to be in alignment with our highest potential. For sure. Yep. And so that's the important thing about figuring out who you need to be in order to create the life that you want to create. So that's day two. Day three is now that we know we have a very clear vision of exactly where you're going. Number two, we have a very clear vision of exactly who you need to be in order to create that life. Day three is action. It's the action plan day. You know, it's the idea of we need to figure out exactly what it is that you need to do in order to create that life. Our goal is by the end of day three, every single person who goes through with us. Once again, this is absolutely free, which is amazing. Every single person that goes through with us at the end of it, you'll know exactly what it is that you need to do to hit the ground running at the end of this event. You're going to know exactly what you, you know, what clear vision you're going to know exactly who you need to be. And you're also going to have a clear action plan of exactly what it is that you need to do to become that person, to create that life that you

want. Yeah. Yeah. And when it comes to just how to, not just how to be that person, but how to continually step into that, because it's not like a light switch where you know hey spoiler alert after three days your life isn't going to magically change right we're just we're going to give you the road map where we're going to we're going to take the time to really identify who you have to be and where you have to go and then from there it's your decision and so that's really what day three is about is like what are the specific decisions that i have to make how am i how do i have to set up my day how do i have to set up my day? How do I have to set up my environment? How can I influence my environment?

How can I set up my circle of influence and the people around me and have the right conversations so that we can continually move in the direction of that North Star, which is really who we, you know, the highest potential version of us that could create the vision that we're really connected to. For sure, absolutely.

So if you're out there and you're like damn this sounds pretty good i want to join once again it's absolutely free that's the cool thing about it so what's going to happen is is if you want to join us and you want to be a part of this epic life live event which is what we're calling it all you have to do is just go to epiclife2021.com right now you might have have to put www in front. I'm not really sure, but give it a shot. Epiclife2021.com right now. And what you'll do is you'll put in your information. And then after you put in your information,

you'll get the link to go to the private Facebook group. And the cool thing about it is because we're so committed to making this the best that we possibly can. Starting next week, depending on when you listen to this, but next week for us, we're actually going to do five to 10 minute pre-lessons every single day live inside of the group to help you deepen your knowledge before the event actually even starts. So the event starts on April 19th. So it's going to be the 19th to 20th and the 21st, as I said, but starting April

12th, I'm going to be going live for five to seven, 10 minutes inside of the group every single day to give you pre-training lessons to help you get even more clear before the event even starts. So it's kind of like getting a headstart into the actual event. So if you want to join us, please do. If you want to upgrade for some bonuses and stuff, you can do that while you're on the page. But once again, it's absolutely free. All you have to do is go to EpicLife2021.com. Dean and I will see you inside of the Facebook group. We'll be there to impact you, to help you as much as we possibly can. And the beautiful thing is we're going to do it together. So I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode, making sure mission makes someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you

have an amazing day.