The Mindset Mentor - How to Control Your Brain

Episode Date: May 30, 2018

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Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to-the-point, no-BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit the subscribe button so you never miss another episode. And if you have not yet signed up for my free five-day challenge coaching group, go to coachwithrob.com. It will be starting next Monday, which is June 4th. You only have a few

more days to sign up before it closes. I will be doing Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, five different video lesson, Facebook live lessons that are geared towards your mindset, your motivation, your money, and how to get you from where you are to where you want to be so if you want to join in on that go to coach with Rob com it's absolutely free and sign up there so today we're going to be talking about how to control your brain now the reason what we're going to be talking about how to control it is because most people don't even realize they can take control of it. Most people don't ever try to take control of it. They just accept that it does whatever it does and that's it.

And it's crazy because if you really think about it, if you really think about this, if you were just standing and out of nowhere your arm starts shaking, it starts going all over and your hand's going crazy and it raises above your head and starts going nuts. If your hand started going all crazy, you would look at it and be like, what the hell is wrong with my hand? Why is it going all crazy? Why? Because that hand is part of your body, and you are in control of your body and what happens

to it. This hand freaking out would then cause you a minor freak out,. You'd be like, what the hell is going on? Right? You are in control of your hand because it is on your body. If it went crazy, you would freak out. Your brain is located in your body. You are in control of what it does. To not take control of it is just like if your hand started wiggling all over the place

and you didn't try to fix it. It drives me crazy when people say, oh yeah, I don't meditate. I've never tried it. It's too hard for me because I can't slow my mind down. Well, then you are not in control of your mind. That should be the number one thing that you focus on right now. If you're not in control of your mind, the number one thing you should focus on is your mind and controlling it.

If you were driving a car and it started going out of control, nothing else in the world would matter except for you figuring out a way to control your car. Your brain drives you in everything that you do. It is the exact same thing. Now, most of the time your brain, just so you know, is on autopilot. Well, almost most of the time. Psychology Today found out that 47% of the things that we do on a daily basis, almost half of the things that we do on a daily basis, are actually not us doing it. It is our automatic brain. We're not consciously thinking about it. We are just on autopilot as we are doing it. And so I'll give you an example. Sometimes you

can drive home and you get home and think, you know, how the hell did I just get home? I don't even remember really driving. What happened was your automatic brain clicked on and said, okay, don't worry, I'll take care of this. And the reason why is because your brain, although it only weighs about 2% of your body weight, it consumes 20% of the energy that your body uses on a daily basis. As far as one organ is concerned, it is the most energy-consuming organ in your brain. The more that you have to consciously think through something, the more energy that will be required. If you have to consciously think through something,

you have to require, it requires a lot of energy. Sometimes, you know, if you have a really hard day at work and maybe from 9 a.m. until 1 o'clock, you're in meetings, you're going, you're going, you're giving speeches, you're just literally using your brain the entire time. By 1 o'clock, you feel like you're already done because you've used so much brain power throughout the day. So what happens is your brain goes on autopilot. It tries to create patterns so that therefore it doesn't need to think, doesn't need to use energy. This is a really good thing, but it's also a really bad thing. It's a good thing because it conserves energy. It's a bad thing because you have unconsciously created patterns that you do not want sometimes. Sometimes you react to something and you think about it after and you're like,

man, I should not have reacted. I should not have said that. That was an automatic reaction that you have created. The good thing is you can change and make new automatic reactions, but you have to take control of your brain. The first thing I want to let you know is you can take control of your brain. This is something that is 100% possible. You have created patterns unconsciously. Now let's fix those patterns that you don't like and let's create new ones consciously.

And so the first thing I would ask yourself is what patterns do I have, have I created, whether that's I react to something in a certain way, I say something, I do something that I don't like, these patterns and habits that I've created that I want to change. That's the first thing you need to figure out. You can't change something if you don't identify it and find out what it is that you want to change. And so that's the thing that you need to realize is that 47% of the time, we are on autopilot. And so we need to figure out how we can get past this autopilot, rewire some of the patterns that we have so that therefore we create new habits that then are stored in the automatic brain and we automatically act that way.

I'll give you an example for myself. I know that when I was younger, when I was 21, I owned my first business and it got to a multimillion dollar business by the age of 22 and that was stressful as hell for a 22-year-old. It was was very successful but I had hundreds of employees that worked under me, I had assistants that worked under me, I had receptionists that worked under me and sometimes things would go wrong. And when things would go wrong, I would get extremely stressed out and what would happen is I would react in a way that I did not want to react. And so what happened was I started realizing if I react in a certain way, I hurt people that are around me and say things that

I don't want to say. Maybe I should figure out a way to change that. And so what I started noticing is that when I started feeling this pattern of stress, it was a physical feeling I could feel come inside of my body. I would start to feel it and then try to catch myself before I would react. I would feel the feeling and then and then try to catch myself before I would react. I would feel the feeling and then I would try to catch myself before I would react in a way that I didn't want to. And I would try to change that pattern. Now when something is very stressful to me, I actually am very calm and I sit and I think

about how to process it and how to get through it. That took years to work through, but I worked through it because I wanted to not react to stress the way that I was. It's the same thing for you. You can always do that. The phrase that you need to know is this. You cannot always control your first thought, but you can control your second thought. You can't always control your first thought, but you can control your second thought.

The way you want to think of training your brain is the exact same way you want to think of training a dog. If you have a puppy and your puppy comes into the house and it poops on the floor, what you're going to do is you're going to take the puppy, show it where it just pooped on the floor, and take it outside. And then it's going to do it again. It's going to poop on the floor, you're going to take it, or it pees on the floor, wherever it messes up, you put it so it smells it, and then you put it outside.

And you do it over, and you put it outside, and you put it outside, and you put it outside, and you put it outside, and eventually the puppy goes, oh, this thing that I'm smelling is not supposed to be here. It's supposed to be outside. And eventually that's how you train a dog. It's the exact same way because their first thought is I'll just go wherever I want to because they are animals and when they're outside, they can just go wherever they want to. That doesn't work whenever you have a dog inside of your house. So its first thought is just to go inside. What happens though is it starts to change its first thought. It starts to change its automatic brain. So your brain is the exact same way. A thought might pop up or you might catch yourself doing something that you don't want to,

and that was your automatic pattern that you have created, not that's natural, that you have created, right? If you're emotional or if you're stressed out, if you yell or whatever it is, that's not an automatic thing. That is something that you have created by seeing your parents do it or because of the fact that you realized when you were younger, when you were a kid, that got the reaction that you wanted or you got what you wanted from your parents if you react that way. If you got really angry, maybe you get really angry nowadays. If you get really angry, maybe you should think about when I was a kid, did I get really angry with my parents? If I got angry, did I get what I want?

Oh, crap. Well, I developed a pattern that realized if I get angry, I get what I want from my parents. And now I'm 30 years old, 32, 35 years old, however old you are. That doesn't serve me anymore. I need to get past that and figure out a way to reprogram your brain. So you can't control your first thought because it's automatic right now, but you can always control your second thought. You can't control your first thought because it's automatic right now, but you can always control your second thought.

Your goal is to catch yourself in the middle of that first thought and change it to where you want it to. It's like the dog. You start to notice the dog that looks like he's circling around, he's about to take a poop on the floor, and before he does it, you take him and you put him outside and he will learn quicker. As you notice that you're about to go down this pattern that you don't want, you pick yourself up, you put yourself outside, and you do what you want your brain to do.

You force it to be under your control because once again, if your hand was going all crazy, you would take control of it. Your brain is the exact same way. It will learn. If a dog is pooping inside and you want it to go outside, it will learn if you just keep doing it over and over and over and over again. It might take hundreds of times but eventually it's worth it because the rest of the time that dog is alive you don't have to worry about pooping inside. It's the

exact same thing with your brain. It's gonna take time. It's gonna take hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of time to get past this automatic thought pattern that you have created. But you will be able to live the rest of your life without that thought pattern, without process, that habit that you've created if you work really hard at it right now. So control your brain because 47% of what you do is automatic pilot. So that's what I got for you today. If you like this episode, please do me a favor, share it with someone that you know and that you love. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode.

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