The Mindset Mentor - How to Create Habits That Change Your Life

Episode Date: September 23, 2019

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Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And last but not least, this is it. This is the episode that you've been waiting for everybody. This is the announcement to join the 30 day habit mastery challenge,

which we're calling the habit mastery 30. And all of you guys who are out there and you're listening and you're like, you know what? I want to be one of the first 200 people because I want to get a 25% off discount. Here's the reason why you've been wanting to hop on this episode and listen to it. If you want to join in, you can go to habits30.com. So habits with an S at the end, so plural habits30.com. Also make sure you go to habits30.com, not www.habits30.com. It's kind of weird. It gets kind of squirrely whenever you put www. So if it's not working for you, just try whenever you put www. So if it's not working for you, just try habits30.com. Go right now. The first 200 people who sign up will get a 25% off discount to join in on the Habit Mastery Challenge. So let me tell you what you're going to be getting with the Habit Mastery Challenge. And then I'm

going to give you a full lesson right now of how to make habits, create habits, break habits, so that you can create the life that you want to. So let me go ahead and dive into it just so you guys know. The Habit Mastery Challenge is designed because I know how important it is for you to change your habits, create habits, all that stuff. So what I'm doing is inside of a private Facebook group, I'm going to be going live every single day, starting on October 8th. So on October 8th, I'm going to go live every single day for 30 days straight inside of this private Facebook group, teaching these people how to change and rewire their brains and how to change and rewire the habits in their brains so that they can create

the life that they want. Because I'm about to tell you in a minute that 45% of what you do on a daily basis is autopilot. 45% of what you do, according to Harvard, is literally habits. That means 45% of your life, almost half of your life is just not even thinking, just on autopilot. If we were to change your life and change your habits, how different would you be if you were able to change your habits? We all have bad habits. We all have good habits, all of that stuff. But what I want to do over the course of 30 days, I'm going to go live every single day and teach you every single day exactly how to create the life that you want and be able to create the habits that you want, which will then give you the outcome that you want, the bank account that you want, the

love life that you want, the relationships that you want, the body that you want, whatever it is, that's what we're going to be working on. And it's going to be customized for you. I'm going to teach you how to customize this thing specifically for you. So if you're out there and you're ready to take a sprint with us, you're ready to join a challenge, you're ready to change your life right now, what we're going to be doing from October 8th for the next 30 days after October 8th is we're going to be going hardcore into changing ourselves so that we can change our lives so that when 2020 hits, we're already light years ahead of everybody else. We hit the ground running. So this is a sprint over 30 days to create the habits you want so that by 2020, we are hitting the ground running on our New Year's resolutions. There's who you could be by 2020, January 1st, and who you probably would be if you

didn't go through this. But then there's also what if you worked really hard over the next 30 days and built yourself up with a group of hundreds of people. We had over 700 people sign up for the last challenge and have life-changing results. And if you go to habits30.com, you can start reading about their life-changing results. You can see all of their testaments. We had hundreds of people that were part of it. The first 200 people that join at habits30.com get 25% off. So if you're ready to join us, this is not for people who want to make excuses or who just want to take some magic pill. This is not for people who just think that life is going to happen and they don't need to put any effort into it. This is for people who want to

take action, who want to change their life, who want to change themselves before 2020 rolls around so that they can hit the ground running with us. So if you're down, go to habits30.com. We start on October 8th, but the first 200 people get 25% off. So that's what I got for you. I love to see you in it. It's going to be fun. It would be good to see hundreds of you in it again, which there definitely will be. And I can't wait to go through it. I will be going through the challenge with you. I'm not going to be just coaching. I'm going to be going through it with you. So go to habits30.com and join us. And last thing real quick, I got another surprise for you. To celebrate the new name of the podcast,

I'm gonna be going live. I'm gonna have an episode go up every single day for the next 14 days. So every single day for the next 14 days, I'm gonna have a brand new episode go up and I'm gonna be coaching you for the next 14 days. So I hope you're excited about that. But to celebrate the name change, the mindset mentor,

that's what we're gonna be doing. So I hope that you're gonna be part of it every single day. Join in. It's not just going to be Monday, Wednesday, Friday. After the two weeks though, I'm going to go back to Monday, Wednesday, Friday, but it's daily. So join me every single day. So let's talk about your habits.

Let's dive into the lesson. Who do you want to be in six months? Think about that for a second. Who do you want to be? How much money do you want in your bank account? What do you want your family to look like in six months? What do you want your house to look like in six months? Who do you want to be in six months? If we're talking 2020, we'll be in the beginning of 2020, the end of quarter one. Who do you want to be? Get a pen and paper out right now if you're not driving and write down who you want to be. Pause me. How much money do you want in your bank account? What do you want

your family goals to look like? What do you want your house to look like? What do you want your body to look like six months from right now, from you listening to my voice? The next question I have for you, what habits does that person six months from now have or not have? What habits, if you're the perfect version of yourself in six months, what habits does that person have or not have? And then the next question I have for you is what habits do you need to create? And do you need to break? Take a pen and paper, write this down. Let's start making a plan of who you want to be in six months. How much better would your life be if you focused

on yourself and put yourself as the number one priority for the next six months? Now people are going to say, hold on, I shouldn't be the number one priority though. I have kids. Yes, you should always be the number one priority because the more that you grow, the better that you become. Guess what? The better that your children's life becomes. If the plane's going down, you put oxygen on yourself first. Every morning, you should put your oxygen on yourself first with the habits, with the morning routines, with what you need to do, because then you become a better parent. You become a better spouse. You become a better brother, sister, mother, whatever it is. And you need to create new habits in order to become that person. Because like I said, 45%, according to Harvard, this is not some bootleg study. Harvard says that 45% of your life

is on autopilot. I know you've gotten in your car before you've gotten to your destination and been like, how in the hell did I just get here? Right? Our life is largely on autopilot. Almost half of our life is on autopilot. Shouldn't we focus on that autopilot because we're conscious for 55% of it, but for 45% of it, we're almost unconscious. Well, shouldn't we have the habits and the traits and the qualities that we want so that when we're on autopilot, we're doing the right things on autopilot, not the wrong things. The way to create a habit is we need to be able to drill these habits into you

like a bootcamp with daily repetition. If you guys know anybody who's been in the army, who's been in the Navy, military, whatever it is, they have to go through bootcamp. What is bootcamp made for? To break down all of their bad habits that they have, break them down to nothing, to rebuild them up the right way, to rebuild them with the right habits, to rebuild them with the habits of the body that they need to create, to wake up and work out, to get up early, to do the things that they need to do to be successful. Because that's really what bootcamp is about,

is to break down all of your bad habits to absolute nothing so they can rebuild you from that. Because our life is largely on autopilot. You need to break yourself down at some point. Otherwise, you're just going to keep doing the same things. And as Einstein says, to do the same thing over and over again, expected results is insanity. So if you're just going to keep doing the same thing every single day, and you're going to have the exact same life that you have right now, you need to focus on creating the habits that you need and breaking the habits that you don't need. Our brain naturally wants to create habits because it wants to be efficient. Why? Because your brain can then, when a habit initiates,

our brains actually powered down a little bit to save power. This is not me making this up. This is actual fact. When a habit initiates, our brain actually powers down to save power. Your brain doesn't know the difference between a good habit and a bad habit though, between a success habit and unsuccessful habit. So you need to be in control of your habits if you want to create the life that you want. This is why I'm so hardcore about habits. You can ask my girlfriend. I'm a very routine person. I'm a very habit driven person because I know that my life needs routine to have the life that I want. So take out your pen and paper right now. Pause me if you need to make a list of the habits that you want to create. Push pause, push pause. If

you're driving, don't do this, but if you're not driving, take a pen and paper out, make a list of the habits that you want to create. Okay. All right. Now press pause. All right. Now you can push play again. Make a list of the habits that you want to create. What are the habits that you want to create? Push pause if you need to. Go for it. And then you have to figure out some sort of reward, right? If you guys know me, you know I'm a geek on the brain.

I love neurology, psychology, early childhood development. I love marrying those things to success and how they work. Your brain needs a reward. There needs to be some sort of reward at the end of a habit for your brain to recognize that habit and reinforce your behavior. I don't have time to dive into it, but literally I'm going to talk about this inside of the habit mastery challenge. I know, and I could give this example going to give, I could give this example. There's a way to use chocolate, eating chocolate to create a better body, not by eating it, creating a better body, but by using chocolate as a reward for your brain to say, this is good.

This is good. This is what I need to do. And the thing is beer commercials understand this game time on a Sunday, you're surrounded by friends. You know, they they're drinking, they're having fun. They're having a great time. You know, they're drinking, they're having fun, they're having a great time. And they take that bottle because they can't legally show you, believe it or not, they can't legally show you drinking out of a water. They can't legally show somebody drinking alcohol on TV, but they can show you put down that drink and the water droplets falling off of the bottle, right? Because the beer, it condenses when it comes out of the fridge. They're trying to reinforce the way the fridge. They're trying to reinforce the way that feels. They're trying to take all of the cues that naturally occur in your

life and put them into a commercial to create a ritual or habit. The best psychologists, just so you know, work for advertising agencies. They're trying to reinforce the habit or ritual of using their product. The same time, Sunday, same place, your house, the same people, your friends, same team, same visual cues, Bud Light, whatever it is. Beer commercials understand this. They know the reward and the cue system and how to use this for you to create habits or break habits.

cue system and how to use this for you to create habits or break habits. Now, you know that it's very hard to, you know, completely eradicate a habit. It's actually near impossible to eradicate a habit once it's encoded into your brain. It's easy to get rid of it almost, but it's still kind of sitting under the surface. This is why it's so hard to stop being an alcoholic. Even when you stop being an alcoholic, it when you stop being an alcoholic, because it's still there. The neural pathways in your brain have already been made. And once they're made, they cannot disappear. They can only strengthen or weaken. Neurons can only get larger or smaller as they are exposed to more or less neurotransmitters. So if we want to create a habit, we need to focus on creating the neural pathways that we want to so that we continue to do the things that we need to do. And if we have habits we want to break, we need to be able to stop doing those so that they can,

because they won't disappear. But if they're exposed to less neurotransmitters, the neurons will then, you know, the neurotransmitters will shrink as will then, you know, they will get the neurotransmitters will shrink as they're exposed to less neurons. So once that cue is started, it creates an insane desire to finish the loop. Once you have some sort of, you know, you think about a beer and you can feel that condensation or hand, then people who are watching the Bud Light video go, Oh, I want Bud Light. I want that condensation. Yeah, my friends, it's a cue and you have an insane desire to finish that loop. That loop. Oh yeah, that's the Bud Light going into your face, right? This is how addiction works. Most people think

that they're addicted to cigarettes, but they're not addicted to cigarettes. You're only chemically addicted to cigarettes for a hundred hours. That's it. That's four days. But why is it so hard? Because we have cues all around us. That's why we have cues all around us. You're not addicted for that long. You're addicted to the cue and then the reward. That's what it is. Another fact of habits is it's easy to create. This is literally studies have been done. It's easy to create a habit or break a habit is literally studies have been done. It's easy to create a habit or break a habit if you're surrounded by a group of people because they know what you're going for and they can make a change and help you make a change, but they can look and they can help you

become more inspired when you see everybody else is doing that. And you want to keep up with the Joneses. You want to be like everybody else. So if everybody else is changing their habits, well, you want to change your habits as well. Psychologists at West Point actually found this out. They found that the most successful students at West Point were actually the ones that developed a community to hold them accountable. They made an accountability group and they met every single week or every single morning. The most successful ones met every single morning. This is the reason why I have the habit mastery challenge is literally because of this reason is because not only will you get the lessons, but at the same time, you will also have a group of hundreds of people that

you're surrounding yourself with that have the same goal as you to break habits and create habits and go really hard at it for 30 days to change your life. This is how the brain works though. So let me explain to you how the brain works. Just so you guys know, there's a part of the brain called the basal ganglia, which is super old structure of the brain. I'm going to geek out with you for just a second, but let me explain to you how I can actually, you can actually understand this. The basal ganglia is a very old structure of the brain and within it, it has patterns that form and execute automatically. When a behavior comes a habit, it becomes ritualized in your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain where you make decisions.

So when a behavior becomes a habit, it becomes ritualized in your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain where you make decisions. It hands over control now to the basal ganglia. And the basal ganglia doesn't make decisions. It just follows patterns and habits. So instead of having to make a decision in your prefrontal cortex, when it becomes a habit, the prefrontal cortex hands over all of the information and now they control to the basal ganglia. And the basal ganglia does not make decisions. It only follows patterns and executes. But there's two special times when the prefrontal

cortex is active. And that's during the start of a habit, in the cue of the habit, the visual cue, the smell, the sight, the thought of it, because it's looking for something to tell it. It's looking for something to tell the habit when it should apply it. And that needs to be right now. And at the end, there needs to be that reward because your brain is saying, I just did this routine. Was it worth it for me? And should I do it again? That's where the chocolate comes in. And that's what I'm going to teach everybody, how chocolate helps you work out. And that is why you influence yourself, your brain, and you give it a reward is because

if you give it a reward, what happens? Literally, you change your brain by going, this is good for me. You need to do this again. So it's a feedback loop is what it is. Your brain, a habit creates a feedback loop. The prefrontal cortex hands over the reins, the basal ganglia, the basal ganglia goes, yeah, this is what I'm supposed to do. So it's looking for a cue. It gets that cue. And guess what? After the cue, it needs a reward. And after that reward, why does it need a reward? So that your brain goes, yeah, we need to continue doing this. Yeah, this is a good idea. We should do this more often.

That's how your brain works. So if you're looking to change your life, even if you don't understand how the brain works, it doesn't matter. If you're looking to change your life, take a pen and paper out right now and ask yourself, what habits do I need to create? And then take that pen and paper and say, what habits do I need to break? And start focusing on creating those. Think about your perfect life six months from now. Figure out what habits you need to break to get there. Figure out what habits you need to create to get there and start working at them today. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. If you're interested in learning more about habits and getting more coaching for me and helping me coach you every single day for 30 days straight and have an accountability system of hundreds of people who are there to support you, hold you accountable, to hold, to create the life that they want to, to create themselves into the person they want to be before 2020 starts,

go to habits30.com. Join us. I would love to see you in there. I would love to see your face, your icon, whatever we start talking on Facebook Live. You can ask me questions. There's full question and answer sessions. I'm going to be live every single day and the first 200 people get 25% off. So if you want to join, go to habits30.com. Also make sure you don't go to www.habits30.com. You have to go to habits30.com. For some reason, the www gets kind of squirrely, but if it doesn't work for you, go to habits30.com, habits with an S. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode, make it your mission, make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.