The Mindset Mentor - How to Finally Feel Peace

Episode Date: August 4, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to receive motivational text messages from me directly to your cell phone and you live in the US or Canada, text me right now 1-512-580-9305. Once again, 1-512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be talking about how to finally feel at peace. We're going to dive into that and we're going to go deep. And it's hard to find peace with where you are for everybody most of the time, because we live in a society of more. We live in a society where too much is never enough. You always need the next thing, the next car, the next best thing.

And if you don't have the new iPhone, you're completely behind. If you don't have the new MacBook, you're completely behind. If you have a two-year- new iPhone, you're completely behind. If you don't have the new MacBook, you're completely behind. If you have a two-year-old car, you're completely behind. And when you live in a society of more, it's hard to be at peace simply because peace only comes when you're satisfied with where you are. We live in a society where we see hundreds and hundreds of advertisements and billboards and logos all day, every day. We see them on YouTube. We see them on Facebook. We see them on billboards. We see them when we're driving down the road. We hear them on the radio. You hear them everywhere. There's nothing wrong with advertising. I want you to understand that.

There's nothing wrong with it at all. What's wrong with it is when you start to feel like you have to have the next thing and you're not good enough until you do. A new Tesla comes out and your Tesla isn't good enough or you decide that you went over to a friend's house and they have a nicer apartment than your apartment. Now you need a new apartment because you feel like yours is trashy. We live in a society of more. Too much is never enough. You have to have more, more, more, more. Consume, consume, consume, consume. Think about that for a second. How could you possibly feel 100% at peace if you always feel like you need something more? You need something else. You need those new shoes. You need that new bag. The new Jordans came out. When you live in a society where you have to have the newest car, the newest phone, the biggest house, the nicest clothes, more toys for your children, all of that stuff,

it's hard. Oh, your neighbor got a new boat? Oh, now you're going to have to go out and buy a boat. It's constantly feeling like we have to keep up with the Joneses. But have you ever stopped to just ask yourself, why? Why do I have to keep up with the Joneses? Why do I have to buy these new things? What's wrong with this iPhone when there's a new iPhone that comes out? Why do I have to have the new thing? Why do we always want more? Why is it built into us to always feel like we have to have more? We live in a society that is built around constant consumerism. Our society works when the government is making money and the government makes money when businesses make money so that they can tax them and people

make money and things are bought. That's the way that governments work. Governments do not work if they're not making any money. Government is a giant business no matter what country you live in. And the United States is the biggest business in the entire world. So why can't we just be okay with what we currently have? It's really hard. It's hard to get to that point. And I had a book that I read probably about eight years ago now. And it was talking about retiring early. And inside of this book, in the opening chapter, they said, imagine every single thing that you've owned, every phone that you've ever had, every watch that you've ever had, every camera that you've ever had, every shirt that you've ever had, pair of shoes, socks, the toys that you had when you

were a kid, the toys that you bought your kids. Think of every single little teeny tiny thing that you bought in your entire life that you don't have anymore. Because if you look in your house, like I have many things in my house that I, I have less things in my house now than I had over my entire lifetime. If you were to add it all up, I have tons of different stuff that I've bought over my lifetime that I don't have anymore. I don't know where it is. And they said, just imagine if you were to get everything that you've ever had and put it into a pile, and you could see that pile of all of the stuff that you have gotten rid of over some point in time in your entire life, you've gotten rid of it. It's gone. What would that pile look like? How big would that

pile be? Would it be 500 feet tall, a mile wide? Would it be a size of a football field? What would it look like? Just imagine in your head that. And now what I want you to do is take that and multiply that by three or 4 billion. Because obviously there's over 7 billion people in the world, but not everybody in this world buys as much stuff as we do in the countries that you're probably hearing this from. So you think about that and you say, imagine how big the pile of my old stuff would be. How big would it be if it was multiplied by three or four billion? That's all of the waste that we've created. Not even talking about all of the plastic that I've had from to-go and every single plastic fork and knife and spoon that I've ever used. It's just a pile of stuff. And you start thinking about that and you're like, man, I do consume a lot. Even if

you're not, even if you consider yourself some form of a minimalist, you're still consuming a lot at all points in time. And I don't want you to think that having nice things is a bad thing because that's not what I'm trying to get to. What I'm saying is the feeling of always having to have something else is the bad thing. So I had my, I struggled with this for a long time as well, where I had a, I was on this mindset of I'm a minimalist. I don't need to have things. I'm going to take this car that I have, and I'm going to run it into the ground. And I had a, a 2000, a light blue, 2007 Hyundai Santa Fe. I got it when I had, you know, I got it all the way back in 2010. I got it. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to run this thing into the ground. And I took pride in being like the person who's like, I don't need a new car. I don't need

a new car. I don't need a new car. And I used it for years and years. And there were some issues that it had. And one of my friends came over and we were talking and he happens to be an extremely successful guy. And he's in his fifties. And in all honesty, he's worth about $150 million. He's not extravagant, doesn't have a massive house, doesn't drive a really nice car, doesn't wear clothes you would make you think that way. But one thing that he said to me that really stuck, and I'll always remember this for the rest of my life, he said, the reason why I like to have a nice car, and it's not even like a crazy nice car, it's like a Lexus, right? The reason why I like to have a nice car versus just a rundown beater car is because I think I just arrive better. I like driving in a nice car. I feel better about myself. I feel better about the ride. I feel better about getting into that car

and driving than I did with my old car. So I arrived better. And I was like, oh God, now I'm gonna have to go buy a different car because it hit with me. I was like, that makes sense because I hate driving in this car. I literally hate it.

I think about it being in the garage and I hate it. And I was like, okay, I've got to get rid of it. So I went and I bought, you know, and so if you think about the 2007 Hyundai Santa Fe they used to have, and I have a new Ford Raptor now, which I love, I love driving that. And I feel like I show up better. I don't, I didn't buy that truck for anybody except for myself. I didn't want to show off. It wasn't anything like that.

I just thought, you know what, this is what I want. And this is how I want to drive. I want to have some space. I want to have something that's nicer. I want to have some leather. I want to have some cool little features and stuff. And I want to be able to off-road. Found out that was the one that I wanted and I bought it. And I noticed the difference in the way I arrive when I have a nicer car versus a car that I hated. Now, I'm not saying go and just spend all of your money to get a nicer car. But what I'm saying is, in that case, it's not bad to want nice things. I struggled with that for a long time. It's not bad to not want nice things. It's bad to feel like you have to have the next thing and you're not good enough as you

currently are, or your life isn't good enough as you currently are until you get that thing. That's where it starts to become toxic. But it's like I always say, most people, 99% of people who own a Ferrari, they don't own a Ferrari for themselves. They own a Ferrari because they're trying to prove something to other people. They're trying to impress other people. If you want a Ferrari simply because you want a Ferrari deep down inside, there's nothing wrong with it. It's just a vehicle to get you from point A to point B.

But if you're getting it because you feel like you're not good enough with it, without it, or you feel like you want people to like you more, or you want to leave a certain impression of, ooh, look at that person. He must have a lot of money. She must have a lot of money. She must be famous. All of that, then that's when it starts to become toxic. So the only thing that's bad about it is the feeling of always wanting more because you're not going to be at peace if you always want more, if you feel like you're not good enough until you have this thing. Hey, did you know that according to the American Psychological Association, chronic stress is linked to six of the leading causes of death? Stress has been implicated for the heart issues, inflammation, obesity, mental illness, and so much more. And most people think

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It's gluten-free, soy-free, lactose-free, non-GMO, free of chemicals, fillers, and made with whole, real, natural ingredients. And right now, BioOptimizers is offering my listeners 10% off your order. Just go to magbreakthrough.com slash dial. That's M-A-G breakthrough.com slash dial. And use the code dial10 to use this amazing offer. I think you'll love it as much as I do. I take it every single night. offer. I think you'll love it as much as I do. I take it every single night. The things won't bring you happiness. You've heard this before. And you're like, yeah, I understand. But I would probably still, you know, I would still like to drive around in Ferrari more than I like to drive in my beater car. Cool. Great. But the thing itself won't bring you happiness. And I think part of the problem is that, number one, we think that

happiness is what we're searching for. And we think that things are going to bring us that happiness. So therefore, we think, oh, when I do get this car, when I do get this house, when I do get this relationship, when I do buy those pair of shoes, then I'll finally be happy. And we get those things and they bring us a momentary feeling of happiness, a little bit of dopamine release inside of our brain. And then the next day, we feel exactly the same as the way we did before. Things will not make you happy. And in fact, you're not searching for happiness. You're not. You're not searching for happiness. What you're searching for,

what every person truly is searching for is fulfillment. That's what you're actually searching for. And just so you know, happiness is a byproduct of fulfillment. Happiness is a momentary feeling. It's just, it comes through. You can be happy one moment. Somebody can give you a call, give you bad news. You're taken right out of that happiness immediately. Happiness is a fleeting emotion. You're not searching for happiness. You're searching for fulfillment. Fulfillment in who you are, in where you are, in what you do. That's what you're actually searching for. And if you are in a place where you're happy where you are, in where you are, in what you do. That's what you're actually searching for. And if you are in a place where you're happy where you are,

you're grateful for the things that you have, you're happy with the job that you have, the amount of money that you make, all of those things, you'll be fulfilled. And if you're fulfilled, you'll be happy. That's what you're trying to get to. So what is it that would make you fulfilled? That's what we really want to get to. The feeling of fulfilled is the feeling of, I'm good where I am.

I don't need more. I can have more. I will attract more. I can have more and I will have more, but I'm also good where I'm at right now. That's the feeling of fulfilled. That feeling is the feeling that brings you peace of, I'm good, I'm happy, I'm great. I'm going to get more, but I'm not going to, I don't need more at this moment. But then a lot of people think this, well, Rob, I've heard this so many times. If I'm happy with where I am, if I'm fulfilled with where I am, what's going to happen? I won't have any motivation. I'll just be this lame duck that's like looking up at my ceiling like, oh my God, I feel so amazing at all moments. No, that's not the way that it works. Just because you're fulfilled doesn't mean

that your motivation disappears. And in fact, what's really crazy about it is the more fulfilled that you are with what it is that you're doing in your life, the more motivation you actually get. fulfilled that you are with what it is that you're doing in your life, the more motivation you actually get. Because you're not doing things from a place of a void in your soul and trying to throw objects at it to possibly fill this void. What you're doing is you're going, you know what? I'm super fulfilled where I am. I feel amazing. I'm going to go do some more amazing things. And you become more energetic, more motivated to do things simply because you're not trying to fill a hole in your soul that you think objects are magically going to fill. That's what's the craziest part about it. I felt this way years ago. I can't be happy with where I am. There's no possible way I could be happy with where I am. Because if I'm happy with where

I am, I'm not going to go anywhere. No, it's not about that. It's being fulfilled. It's being joyful for where you are. And it's about being grateful for every single thing that you have, everything that you've been gifted, the struggles that you've had, the challenges that you've had, everyone that's in your life, good or bad, being grateful for all of those things. Because then what happens is you're not trying to achieve from a place of lack. You're achieving from a place of, this is just a big game and I'm just having as much fun as I possibly can. Wouldn't it be fun to want to achieve from a place of, this is fun as hell. This is a game that I'm playing. Money is just a game. Success is just a game. Happiness is just a game. Joy is just a game. Versus I need, I need, I need, I need. I don't feel good if I don't get it. I don't feel

good if I don't get it. I don't feel good if I don't get it. I got to get a new car. I got to get a new house. I got to keep up with my friends. I got to get those new, you know, Louis Vuitton shoes. I've got to get that new purse. I've got to get this thing. Once again, there's nothing wrong with things. I'm not trying to say that. What I'm saying is the toxic part of it is you're not good enough until you get this thing.

What's toxic is that you're not good enough right now as you currently are until you get whatever that is. And that's what creates consumerism. That's what creates always having to have more. Can you be fulfilled where you are at this current moment with what you have and still want more? The answer is yes. It's a delicate balance, but once you get to a place of fulfillment, you're like, this is just fun. And it becomes easier to work harder because you've realized that you've been working hard from a place of

scarcity. You've been working hard from a place of, I hope that I can finally get out of this place versus I'm good where I'm at. Nothing's going to rock me. I feel amazing. I love what I'm doing in my life and I'm going to go do more cool shit. That's where you get truly motivated because when you're not motivated, it's because you're not truly in alignment with what you're supposed to be doing. And at the same time, you're not fulfilled where you currently are. You're not searching for happiness. You're searching for fulfillment. And fulfillment comes from being, you know what? Where I'm at is great. So the question that I have for you is looking around you right now, wherever you are. If you're out on a walk in nature,

if you're at the gym, if you're sitting inside of your living room, if you're inside of your car, look around you. I want you to think about this question for a second. What do you have to be grateful for? Look around you and think of all of the things that you'd be grateful for that are in your immediate environment. Look at it. Look at all the things. Think of all the challenges you've had in your life. Think of all the people that you've had in your life. Think of all the things that you've owned, the people that have been to support you. Think about all of the things that you have.

Think about the sunshine that's out there. The sun wasn't here. We wouldn't be alive. That's for damn sure. Think about the fact that the trees taking all of our carbon dioxide and give us oxygen. Think about taking your dog for a walk and how grateful you are just to have an amazing

companion. How many things are in your immediate environment that you can be grateful for? Because if you're searching for peace, peace comes from not wanting more. Peace comes from loving what you have. That's what you need to realize. What is it that you have around you that you can be grateful for? If you wake up every single morning and start with gratitude, what can I be grateful for? Look at all the blessings that I have in my life. Look at all the great things. I still want more. I'm still going to achieve more. I'm kicking ass in this world. I'm not going to stop, but I'm so blessed with where I currently am. I'm so grateful with what I have around me. That is where you become really motivated and you become a force to be reckoned with. And that's when you start doing amazing things in this world. So if you're

not peaceful right now, it's because you're actually not looking at all the things to be grateful for that are around you. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at Rob Dial Jr. And if you're out there and you want to receive a email from me every single Monday with my intentions for the week, what I'm going to be concentrating on and what you can concentrate on so that you can kind of steal a piece of information from my brain every single Monday morning, then go to mondayemail.com right now. Once again, mondayemail.com. It's absolutely free. I'll send you a really short email every single Monday. Just talk about my intentions that I'm going to have every single week. You can steal my intentions and you can

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