The Mindset Mentor - How to Get What You Want

Episode Date: April 13, 2022

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dion. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you live in the United States or Canada, and you want to receive motivational text messages from me directly to your cell phone, text me right now, 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be talking about how to get what you want in life. We're going to talk about, you know, we could talk about them in a very simple form. I'm going to talk about manifestation. I'm going to talk about the law of attraction, but mostly what I'm going to just talk about, what manifestation is and what the law of attraction is, is how to get what you want in life. And what I'm going to teach you, you're not going to need crystals. You're not going to need

to pray to the moon gods or whatever it is that people do, or they say is a prerequisite to getting what you want in life. Maybe crystals work. I don't know. Maybe praying to moon gods work. I don't know. But I do know that the stuff I'm going to teach you is very simple, and it is going to help you get what you want, aka manifest the life that you want, or aka the law of attraction. So this came from a conversation I was having with people that were in my mastermind, and we were talking about how you have to absolutely be certain that what you want in life is what you're going to get. And it also came from another conversation I was having last week

with my fiancee, Lauren. And I've been saying this since I was a kid. I've been saying this probably since I was in high school. And I just say, I get what I want. I just get what I want. And when I was a kid, I remember my mom always saying this. My mom would always be like, how is it that you always get whatever it is that you want? Like, she's always like, I can't believe this always happens. Like, oh my God, you guys, you got this.

Oh my God, you got this. A good example of there was one time when I had moved out to Austin. I had been in Austin for probably about five months at the time. And I went from having, you know, quite a bit of money in the bank account to, and I couldn't find a job. I couldn't find a job. I couldn't find a job. And then I was, I had a few thousand dollars left in my bank account, only a couple months left. And my mom asked me a question. She said, well, aren't you getting worried that you're not, you know, you're not going to be able to afford living out there anymore? And she's like, aren't you getting worried that you're not going to have money? And I said, no, because getting worried is not going to get money into my bank account.

I am going to get the money that I need in order to stay here. And it was like, I had to speak to her in absolute certainty because that is what I believe is the most important part of it is the absolute certainty. And this is, I swear to God, this is not a fake story. This is a true fucking story. About a week later, I'm almost running out of money, right? I have this conversation with my mom asking me if I'm worried about money. I said, no, because if I'm worried about money, that is not going to put money into my bank account. I have to know that I am going to be able to stay here and money is going to come to my bank account.

Swear to God, this is a true story. About a week later, the lady that ran HR at the company that I had quit almost a year before calls me up when I'm driving my car. And she says, hey, Rob. I'm like, hey, I can't remember her name, but I knew her back then. She's like, hey, Rob, just wanted to talk to you real quick. Do you have a minute? I was like, yes. She goes, are you driving? And I go, yeah. She goes, can you pull over real quick? You're going to want to pull over. I was like, oh shit. Okay. All right. I'm pulled over. What is it? She goes, hey, just want to let you know that last year our computer was making mistakes on commissions and we made a mistake on your commissions from last year before you left. And I left in May. So it was only the first five months of the year. And I was like, okay, so what does that mean? And she goes, it means that we owe you money. And I go, that's

cool. How much money do you owe me? She goes, just over $23,000. And I was like, I'm sorry, what? She goes, yeah, we owe you over $23,000. Can I go ahead and get your bank details and I'll get the money wired to you today? I was like, yeah, you can. And if it wasn't, I swear to you, if this wasn't a true story and it didn't happen to me, I would think that this is a fake story. But what happened was my mom was asking me and I see it personally, I see it as like almost a test from the universe where it's like, are you worried that the life that you want is not going to come? Are you focusing on the things that you don't want? Or are you just sitting there so certain that what it is that you want, what it is that you need is going to come to you? And when I had that conversation with my mom, I was like, I'm not worried because worry is not

going to get money in my bank account. I am positive that I am going to get whatever money I need to stay here. Now, I didn't mean that I was going to get a random check. What I actually meant was I'm going to get a job so I can have money in my bank account, but money came into my bank account. And so when I say, you know, you have to have absolute certainty, it means that all 40 trillion of your sales need to be absolutely certain that what you want is going to happen. So, you know, the other place this came from was this conversation with Lauren, but then also talking to my mastermind. And we were talking about this where I was saying, you know, what are your goals for the next 60 days? We were talking about goals

for the next 60 days. And I said, no, no, no, no, no. Like you, when you talk about them, you can't say, I want this. Oh, I want this thing. I want this thing. I want this thing. No, it's I'm going to have this thing, whatever it is. I know that in 60 days, my business is going to be at XYZ. I know that in 60 days, I am going to be here. I know that I'm going to get that new house that I want, that new apartment. I'm going to be able to move to that city. It's not I want those things. I will have those things. The most important part to the law of attraction, the most important part of manifesting is absolute fucking certainty that you're going to have it. And there's not a piece of doubt in your mind that you're going to get it. That is how you

actually manifest what it is that you want. That is the key to it. And it's not about, it's about knowing it. It's about being certain. It's about focusing on that thing. I've been saying this a lot lately, but I've been hearing it a lot lately, which is why most people don't focus on what they want. They focus on what they don't want. Then they get really curious as to why they don't have what they want in life. And the reason why they don't have what they want in life is because that's what they're focusing on. And so it's really simple.

If you want something in life, don't think about anything else but that thing. The opposite of what you want cannot exist in this reality. The opposite of what you want cannot exist in your reality in any sort of way. It has to be, you have to be absolutely 100% certain that you're going to get what you want cannot exist in your reality in any sort of way. It has to be. You have to be absolutely 100% certain that you're going to get what you want in life. So you've got to stop focusing on what it is that you don't want. Because what it is that you don't want cannot even exist in your reality. And if you're focusing on it, whatever you focus on, you will get. You will create that thing. And you have to realize that. Like for instance, me starting

this podcast, it was never a reality that I was not going to turn this into a podcast that wasn't successful. Like it wasn't a reality that this wasn't going to succeed. I just had this feeling this is what I had to do. So I needed to be absolutely certain that what I wanted, that I would be able to change the world in some sort of way, that I would be able to provide for myself, that I would be able to create everything that I wanted from this. And I was so focused on it that it's 10 times better than I could have even possibly imagined. That's what's cool about it. So are you focusing on what you want or are you focusing on what you don't want? Hey, do you ever wonder where to get an amazing logo made? Well, BrainCrowd is an awesome logo maker tool that can help you make amazing logo designs online. Using high quality handcrafted

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I don't even know what the word would be that I would replace with, but I don't like using the word want because want means that the opportunity exists, that there's a possibility, even if it's 0.1% chance that it won't happen. No, I have to be absolutely certain that what I want is what I'm going to get, right? Because, you know, when you're, when you want something, you're coming from a place of lack. I don't even want to think about lack because lack does not exist in this universe. This universe is ridiculously abundant and lack and scarcity only exists in the human mind. And so what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to line myself up with the universe in some sort of way.

Because when you look at an apple tree, for instance, when an apple tree creates apples, the apples have the seeds inside of them so that it can reproduce. Does an apple tree just create one apple to try to reproduce and create another apple tree? No, it creates hundreds of them every single year, which tells me there's a ridiculous amount of abundance in this universe. Everything is so ridiculously abundant. I'm just trying to line myself up in some sort of way. And so the first piece is you have to know what it is that you want. You can't speak certain about what it is that you want if you don't know what it is that you want, right? So you have to know exactly what it is. I have to be very, very clear on what is it I want. That's the first thing.

The second thing that I need to make sure that I do is that anything that doesn't line up with that cannot exist in my reality. I have to be absolutely 100% certain that I'm going to get that. So that's step number two. Step number three is I got to get my ass up and I've got to work for it. Like for instance, if I wanted a successful podcast, but I never created a podcast episode and didn't put the work in, I would never have a successful podcast. Same thing for you. If you want a successful business, you've got to put the work in to create the business. And that's one of the things that I think is the most forgotten and left out piece of manifestation law of action, is the most forgotten and left out piece of manifestation law of action,

is the law of attraction, which is the law of action. You've got to be clear on what is it you want. You've got to be certain that it's going to happen, but you've got to work your ass off. The universe responds to people that work their ass off. That is just the way that it goes. I don't know why it works. I don't know how it works. I'm not going to pretend that I'm smart enough to understand that.

But what I have come to see for my life and my 36 years on this planet is that it absolutely responds to people who are working their ass off towards that one thing that they want. So you've got to just realize, I've got to work for this thing. And then last but not least, do not give up. Just don't stop. You have to be like a roach. There's nothing that can kill you. There's nothing that can get in your way. There's nothing that can kill you. There's nothing that can get in your way. There's nothing that can stop you in any sort of way. You've got to be a roach. You just don't give up. A lot of people are like, well, hey, I want to start a podcast. What are your secrets to starting a podcast? I always say the exact same thing.

Just start and then don't stop. Why? Because you'll figure it out. You'll figure it out. Just work your ass off. So when people see the podcast, like, oh my God, I want a successful podcast. I'm like, cool, we'll do 1,200 episodes like I did. And eventually you probably will have a successful podcast. It requires putting in the work. And it's developing the mindset of a winner. You know, you've got to develop the mindset of a winner. If you look at people that are some of the most successful people, like the biggest winners that have ever been in sports, if we take that as an example, they win.

Winners just win. When you look at the mindset of Michael Jordan, for instance, there was never a thought in his mind when he was taking a shot if he was going to miss it. It was always going in. Did it go in every single time? No, but in his mind, it was going to miss it. It was always going in. Did it go in every single time? No, but in his mind, it was going in every single time. And if he missed the game-winning shot tonight, he would

still take the game-winning shot tomorrow, and he would know that he's going to make it. Winners win. When you look at someone like Tom Brady, who just wins, he's won more than anybody else. He's won more Super Bowls than any team has ever won in the actual NFL. Winners win, but he knows he's going to win every single game. Does he? Not necessarily, but there's no doubt in his mind that he's going to win. Why? Because the opposite of what Michael Jordan wants, the opposite of what Tom Brady wants, literally does not exist in their reality. They just don't give up. They're absolutely ruthless. And sometimes you have to be ruthless for what you want. And if you focus on the thing that you want and you work your ass off towards it, you will eventually create that

reality because we are all creators. We are all reality creators. At every single moment, we're creating a new reality. Whether you think that you are, you're not. Whatever you focus on, you will get. Whatever you work towards, you will get. But you have to realize most people are not focusing on what it is that you want. You're not focusing on what it is that you want. You're creating the reality in your mind. That's what's crazy. It's like the example of, you know, there's an example I know of a girl and she's dating her boyfriend, right? And her last boyfriend cheated on her. And so what happens is because of the fact that she doesn't want to be cheated on again, she doesn't want to be heartbroken again. She ends up calling her boyfriend every hour when he's not out and says, hey, you need to check in

with me when you go out with your friends. And she basically just like micromanaged him every single moment. And then what happens is he ends up leaving her because he feels like he's too stuck. And so what happened was she didn't want to be heartbroken again. So she acted differently. And by doing so, then created a heartbreak again from this other person. We're always doing that in every single way. We're trying not to get something. We're trying not to get something. We're trying not to get something. We think if we focus on trying not to get that thing, we won't get it. But because we're focusing so hard on it, we actually create it. What if instead of focusing on what you don't want, you just

focus on what you do want and you gave yourself example after example after example of why you're going to succeed? You know, it's like I've told this example so many times, but it was just so big in my mind as to how the brain works, how the mind works. As it was years ago, I was at a friend's birthday party and we were doing go-karts. We were like these go-karts that go like 45 miles an hour, super fun. And the guy who was teaching us, who owned the place, was an ex-F1 racer, like professional racer, big-time racer. And he was all fun. He was goofy and he was French. He was making a bunch of jokes. And then he got really serious, like extremely serious with us. And he said, if there's a crash, don't look at the crash. And I was like, okay, cool. And he's like, no, listen to me.

If there is a crash, which there will be at some point in time, do not look at the crash because you will hit the person who has just crashed. You have to look past it to where you want to go. And I was like, shit, that's a perfect example of how the world needs to be as well. We need to focus on what it is that we want. Energy is everything behind what we do. If you're a coach or you're a salesperson and you're like, I hope this person doesn't say no. I hope this person doesn't say no. I hope this person doesn't say no. I hope this person doesn't say no. They are more likely to say no versus if you get on, you're like, this person's saying yes. This person's going to buy. This person's going to buy. This person's going to buy. Your energy is going to shift based off of what you are focusing on. Think about that

energy. Think about the energy of, I hope they don't say no, to the energy of, I know they will buy. Completely different energy. And when you go in and think differently, your energy will be different, which means the person is going to sense a difference between you. You will get what you focus on. The problem is that most people focus on what they don't want. It takes time to get used to. I've been working on the law of attraction manifestation for a really long time. I have so much proof that I could give you as to how it works and why it works. But the thing that you have to realize is the opposite of what you want cannot exist in reality. It cannot. And you have to be absolutely freaking certain that what

you want in this life is what you are going to get. And if you are absolutely certain that what you want is what you're going to get, you will eventually get what you want to in life. And that is the actual key to manifesting. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And once again, we don't have any big company pushing this out there. The only way this podcast grows is from you guys sharing it and through grassroots. So I greatly appreciate it every single time that you share it from the bottom of my heart. And once again, tag me at Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And I'm going to leave the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day

better. I appreciate you, and I hope that you have an amazing day.