The Mindset Mentor - How to Have Patience

Episode Date: July 27, 2016

Episode 146 - "Patience is bitter, but the fruit is sweet." It is hard to have patience when you look around and see all that you don't have and all that you are not. In this episode I talk about the keys to being patient and why having patience is one of the biggest key to being successful. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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And most people don't have it anymore. And we all know that you can't plant a seed, water it, go to bed and wake up the next morning and expect a massive oak tree to be in your backyard. Just like you can't work out once, go home, drink a protein shake and wake up the next morning and be fit. No matter how great of a workout it was, no matter how much you water that seed over the eight hours that you're asleep, that's impossible. It's not gonna be done. So why, why, why do people get so impatient when they're wanting something that they want in their life? Like they're wanting something amazing in their life. Things that are amazing, things that are amazing, things that take a ton of work and effort, take a ton of time. But for some reason, people are just so impatient. They give up on things before their time to be

successful comes up. They give up on things because they feel like it's not going the way they want it to. You can't just do these things for a couple months. It drives me crazy to hear entrepreneurs that try something for three months and they're not making any money at it and they you can't just do these things for a couple months. It drives me crazy to hear entrepreneurs that try something for three months and they're not making any money at it and they quit. I'm like, of course you don't make money at it. If you broke even in your first three months, you're killing it. That's just the way that it works. You're not supposed to make money as an entrepreneur for at least a while, six months, a year, whatever it might be. And so what happens is they look around and they see the people that are so much further along them, all of these people that they compare to themselves. And they

get down on themselves because they aren't where they feel they should be. And listen, I'm a very competitive person. So what I'm about to say took a very long time to be okay with. The only person that you should be competing with is the person that you were yesterday. No one else. Now, for me, that was a very hard thing to get into my head. And for most people, if you're 27 years old, you can't look at Evan Spiegel, who's the founder of Snapchat, who's a 27-year-old billionaire, and get down on yourself because you're not as far along as he is. He's an anomaly. That's not normal. What you can do is you can look at your past and you can realize how far you have come. That's what you should do.

You should look backwards and go, you know what? I've actually done pretty well for myself. Compared to the way I used to be, compared to everything that I used to do, I'm a completely better person than I was six months ago, a year ago, six years ago. So the problem though is that most people look forward at where they want to be and they know they're not there and they get down on themselves. Or they look at other people around them that are way further ahead and they get frustrated that they're not where they want to be or that they're not where those other people are. And you can't compare yourself to others or you'll just get frustrated with the

fact that you're not where they are. You have to realize you can't compare yourself to anyone else. You can't expect to have everything that you want overnight. Just like you can't expect to be fit overnight or grow a massive oak tree overnight. Remember this, great things take time. They take patience. They take trial and error. They take failing. They take a lot of failing. One of my businesses, I'll give you a perfect example. One of my businesses that I own, not my main business, but one of my businesses, my goal was to hit $5,000 in passive income by my birthday, which was March 28th. And I didn't hit that. I didn't even get close to that by March 28th. So by the end of the March, my goal was to be at $5,000 in passive income. I was nowhere near

that. I was only at about $2,000 in passive income. And I made mistakes. And I sat down after each one of them and recalibrated and started planning again and saying, well, where do I want to go? What do I need to do? And what do I need to change? And this month, July, looks like if things finish up, I'm going to be very close, if not surpassing $10,000 in income this month in that same business. Now, think about that. I could have quit. I could have gotten down on myself. I could have tried something else. I could have realized that this wasn't for me. And I'm doing air quotes. You can't see it. But what I realized was that there were some

adjustments that I needed to make. And I meditated on it. I figured out what they were. And I made the adjustments and went from $2,000 a month in March to $10,000 a month in July. That's a big jump, but the big jump only happened because I didn't give up. The big jump happened because I failed and figured out how to make changes from my failure. And you can do the exact same thing, but you have to have patience. Most people don't have patience. If you put in a lot of work and you put in a lot of passion, it's sometimes just a waiting game until it eventually finally clicks and things start happening. And that's the way it works. That's how business works. Nobody's successful right away. It takes time. It's

like the universe is testing you to see if you really want it. So for instance, I wanted to be at $5,000 in income by the end of March and I wasn't. So it's kind of like the universe saying, well, hey, do you really want it? And I was like, hell yeah, I really want it. So what did I do? I worked at it and got it to five times what it was at the end of March. So that's what you have to realize is it's the way it works. It's something, if you believe in it, then you need to know that it's going to take time and your plan won't be perfect the first time. It will never be perfect the first time. You'll have to go out, go with plan A, plan one, make some adjustments once you fail, and then you'll have plan 1B and then fail again and you'll have plan 1C and you'll just again, and you'll have plan 1C,

and you'll just get a little bit further and a little bit further and so on. So you have to keep having patience. You have to keep watering your tree every day. You have to water your tree every day. You have to work out and do fitness and do your diet every day. You have to, same thing for yourself and your business. You have to work on it every day. You can't worry about mastering the next six months.

You just have to worry about mastering today. So you have to have patience. Keep watering your tree. And I'm going to give you two steps that are going to help you along the way in having patience. Step number one is stop comparing yourself to anyone else besides yourself, which I mentioned earlier. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. The external world does not exist. The only thing that you could change is the internal world. So realize that the only person you need to compete with is a person in the mirror. That's it. So that's step number one. Step number two is recognize how far you've come. Most people look back in the past and all they see is failures. They don't look at their successes.

They forget their successes. And don't look at their successes. They forget their successes. And then they look into their future and say, man, that's really... They look at the present first off and they say, I'm not where I want to be. And then look at their future and go, man, that's really far away. So instead of doing all that, look behind you and recognize how far you've come. And here's the biggest thing that I would say. Most people, their paradigm is that they're not good enough. They're not smart enough. They're not able to have success. They're afraid of failure and all of these things. And one of the easiest ways to overcome that is to sit down and make a list of every accomplishment you've had in your life. Big accomplishment, small accomplishment. Win winning the third grade spelling bee could be on that list. Having children,

raising your children, right? All of these are buying a house, buying your first car, all of these making the basketball team in high school, all of these accomplishments. You want to write down everything that you've accomplished in your life so that when you start feeling like you're not enough, like you're not smart enough, that you're not good enough, that you're not going to get to where're not gonna get to where you wanna be, then you look at this list and go, damn, I've actually done pretty well. And that's how you start building your own confidence

is you look at the list that you've made because you have a lot more accomplishments than you realize. And some of you are out there and you're like, yeah, that's actually true. Some of you are out there going, I haven't done anything with my life. But you don't realize there are a lot of little things that you've done and accomplished.

So sit down. So number one is stop comparing yourself with anyone else but yourself. Number two is recognize and write down how far you've come. So with that, once again, there's going to be a webinar today. Go to mwfmotivation.com slash webinar to sign up for it. If you listen to this and it's past the time, there will be no replays, but there might be another one coming up, which you could join, which I would love to see you on the webinar because they have been so much fun. And I would love to have you on it. But also, if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know. We're trying to get the message out to as many people as possible.

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