The Mindset Mentor - How to "Normalize" the Life You Want

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you want to get more motivation inside of your Instagram feed, go ahead and follow me, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. I tend to share most of my life on there so you can see behind the scenes what I'm doing, and then also just random thoughts that I have. So if you want some more inspiration, motivation, and mindset help, just follow me. But today, we're going to be talking about how to normalize the life that you want. Today, we're going to be talking about the incredible future that you want

Starting point is 00:00:45 that seems, and I get it, sometimes when you think about the life that you could have, the life that's in your dreams, the cars, the houses, the love, the spouse, the family, the traveling, the private jet, whatever it is that you want, you think, oh my gosh, it would be so nice to have this thing. But what we tend to do is by having that feeling of it would be nice. What we're actually doing is we're actually pushing that thing away from us energetically because the, the would be nice feeling actually makes it feel like, ah, never going to happen. Can you relate to that? Where you have the feeling of, man, I would love to have that house on the water. It's beautiful. It's amazing. But $3 million, I don't know if I could ever afford $3 million, right?

Starting point is 00:01:28 And what you're doing is you're actually pushing yourself further away from the life that you want, from everything that you want because of the feeling of, I just don't know if it's possible. So today we're going to talk about is how to normalize the feeling of the success that you want. And when I talk about normalizing, I'm talking about normalizing energetically inside of your body how it feels to think about those things,

Starting point is 00:01:52 how it feels to think about owning those things, and how it feels to think about you being the person that could attract all of that success, all of that happiness, all of that love, all of that life that you truly want. Because the house, the car, the family, the love, the travel, all of those things, the easiest way to get those, and this is going to be kind of a mind mess up for most of you guys, the easiest way to get all of the stuff that you want in the future

Starting point is 00:02:19 is to have them before you have them. And you're like, what the hell does that mean? To have them and to feel them energetically. And I understand for some of you guys that are analytical, you're like, this sounds like some woo-woo BS. Trust me on this. I get it. I understand this. I'm extremely analytical, but also I can dip my toes into the woo-woo stuff that's out there as well. The easiest way to have the life that you want is to have it before you have it, right? So for those of you that are like, I don't get it, you're going to get it. Just follow along with me, okay? This is the reason why people who grow up rich, it's a lot easier for them to make money, right? Because energetically, it's just normal

Starting point is 00:03:04 for them. And what I mean energetically, I'm talking about the feeling inside of your body. When I grew up and I used to look at people who had money, there was a part of me that was like, I don't know if I'll ever have it. I don't know if I'll ever get there, right? Can you relate? If you've grown up not having a whole lot of money, have you ever had the feeling of, I don't know if I can do it though, right? I've had those feelings and most people have those feelings as well. Those feelings inside of your body are what's holding you back from actually getting it, right?

Starting point is 00:03:31 It's the reason why people who grow up with money end up usually making a lot of money. Not always, but usually it's just easier for them. It's not too hard. It's not as much to struggle. And the reason why is because it's not too far down the road for them. They're already in the road. They're already on the road. They already know exactly what it is that you need to do. It's simple. It's just normal. That's what I mean by normalizing. If they grew up in a mansion, well, then it's kind of just the standard to live in a mansion, isn't it?

Starting point is 00:04:09 And so when they see other mansions, they're like, oh my God, look at those mansions. They're amazing. It's just like, oh yeah, well, yeah, we have one as well. It's normal. It doesn't feel like it's too far away. But this is also the reason why it's so hard to break free from where you currently are is because where you are feels normal. And the more normal that you feel, the more uncomfortable it can feel to look at those things that seem so far out of your grasp. They don't seem like something that you could ever get, right? And so you have to normalize the feeling. And I'll teach you how to do that today. And I'll give you an example of a feeling that is

Starting point is 00:04:45 normalized. Have you ever gone to a friend's house? Maybe your friend has a house. You become friends with someone who happens to have an incredible house and you walk up to their house and the first time you're in it, you're just blown away. It's beautiful. You love the pool. You love the house. You love the decorating. You love the decorating. You love the view. You love everything about it. The first time you're there, you're almost like, holy crap, this is just so incredible. And then you go to their house again and again and again and again and again. And the more that you go to it, it's not like you aren't impressed by the house anymore, but it's just like, oh yeah, I'm just going over to Stacy's house. I'm just going over to John's house. I'm going

Starting point is 00:05:22 over to Stacy and John's. And you're still like, wow, this house is beautiful, but it doesn't blow you away every single time. It blows you away the first time. And then what happens? It starts to become normal to go to Stacy and John's. That's really what it is, right? When I first moved into the house that I have now, I remember when I first walked in and I saw it, I was like, holy shit, I love this house. It's amazing. I've never lived in a house like this. I've never seen a house like this with this design. And I was just blown away by it. And then I realized about a month into being here, I was like, this just feels normal. And I was outside and I was, you know, the dogs were outside going to the bathroom. I looked back and I was like, I love this house, but it feels normal to be here

Starting point is 00:06:01 now. Like, it doesn't feel like, oh my God, it's amazing. It was just like, ah, it, you know, it's the house I live in, which is awesome. Right? I love it, but it feels normal. It's a good thing. Normalizing the feeling. So I remember when I was a kid, I was lucky enough where even though I didn't grow up with a lot of money, I was lucky enough in my opinion, to have an aunt and uncle who my uncle made great money. He had a business that was doing, you know, $20 million a year. And he had a nice house and a nice car. He lived in a gated community that was on the water on the, the, the beach in Florida, Siesta Key, Florida, which is super nice beach. And, um, and it's the nicest community, the nicest gated community that's on Siesta Key Beach. And, you know, you would go into the gated community and he used

Starting point is 00:06:45 to have a golf cart. And my cousin and I would drive the golf cart around. And I remember being a kid, consciously 13, 14 years old, 15 years old, whatever it is that we were younger. So we were driving the golf cart and we would go and look at these houses. And I was like, these houses are amazing. And I would tell myself all the time when I was a kid, I'm going to live in a house like this one day. I'm going to live in a house like this one day. I'm going to live in a house like this one day. I'm going to live in a house like this one day. And I would just drive around and I didn't realize it. I had no idea what the hell I was doing. But what I was doing is I was starting to normalize the feeling of being around houses that were massive. And houses that were on the beach with beautiful views and Ferraris

Starting point is 00:07:24 and Lamborghinis outside. I was normalizing that feeling, right? So I was lucky houses that were on the beach with beautiful views and Ferraris and Lamborghinis outside. I was just, I was normalizing that feeling, right? So I was lucky enough to be around people like that. I was also lucky enough to see that my uncle is one of the kindest people I've ever met. And so sometimes when you're, when you don't grow up with money and you don't see a whole lot of money, you can see how sometimes people with money can be demonized in the media and people can talk trash about them. But I've said it many times in my podcast, some of the kindest, best people I've ever met in my entire life have boatloads of money and they're kind and they're amazing and they're beautiful people. And that makes you realize, oh, they're not as bad as they tend

Starting point is 00:07:58 to seem in the media sometimes. Right? So I was lucky enough to be around people like that. And so I think that for me, the transition from not making much money to making a good amount of money was easier because I was around it and I was normalizing myself for years. Now, if you haven't been around somebody with money or any of that type of stuff, it doesn't mean that you can't normalize the feeling. I won't even lie to you. When I first moved to Austin, I used to, there's, there's a couple areas in Austin that are gated and I just love driving around and looking at houses. And I love, I've always thought to myself, I want to normalize the feeling of being in houses like this and being in neighborhoods like this. And so what I would do is no joke. If I saw a neighborhood that I really liked, I would park across the street and just wait for someone to

Starting point is 00:08:42 drive in. And I would just follow them in. Why? Because I want, I love to be able to dream, right? I love to be able to think that this could be mine, not because I just want to own more shit, but because I want to see what it would take from me to become the type of person to get something like that. Hey, how many subscription services are you paying for every single month? Do you even know? Because subscriptions add up

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Starting point is 00:09:59 Take control of your finances and start saving at Truebill.com. That is Truebill.com slash dial. That is Truebill.com slash dial. Right? Think about that for a second. What would it take for me to be the person to be able to get that thing, that house or that, you know, car, you know, I was in a place the other day that I followed somebody in and they had a helicopter outside of their house. And I was like, that's pretty sick.

Starting point is 00:10:23 I've never just seen someone's helicopter sitting outside. I thought it was amazing. So there's, there's examples of things like this. A good friend of mine tells us amazing story of how he, he normalized the house that he wanted. So he knew what part of town he wanted to live in. And this is an Austin and it lives out in the Hills now. And there was this big, beautiful house was being built and he was driving by it one day, this big, beautiful modern house. And it wasn't finished. And you know, big houses take time to, to finish, right? They take years sometimes to finish. And he saw this big, beautiful house and he, he was like, I'm going to pull over and just see what the house looks like. And it was in the middle of construction. There was nobody there. It was like on the weekend or something like that, or night. And so literally he walked into the house

Starting point is 00:11:07 and he's like, holy crap, like I can see it's got a pool. I can see it starts to lay out of the house. I can see the view of downtown Austin through the hills. And so what he did was every day, and this is important, every day he would literally leave work. He has his own business, but he would leave work and he would tell himself, I'm driving home. I'm driving home. I'm driving home. I'm driving home every single day. He would drive to that house first and he would get out, park his car in the driveway. You know, he'd get done with work six, seven o'clock. So usually the guys aren't doing construction by that time. And he would literally walk into the house, walk into the front door and say, I'm walking into the front door of my house. He would walk in and he would literally walk into the house, walk into the front door and say, I'm walking into the front door of my house.

Starting point is 00:11:45 He would walk in and he would literally start to go through the house and say, this is my bedroom. This is my, and you know, some of you guys are like, that's kind of creepy. The guy's walking through a house. It's not his. Nah, it can't be creepy, whatever. But you know, no judgment. And then he would go to the view and he would, he would visualize himself sitting there and

Starting point is 00:12:02 drinking his cup of coffee every single morning. I'm going to drink my coffee this view, drink this coffee this view. And he would normalize it day in, day out, day in, day out, day in, day out. And it became normal. The feeling of the house went from holy crap, this view, holy crap, this house, holy crap, this layout to this is my house. I just haven't paid for it yet. I'd recommend you don't do this at anybody who actually lives in a house. This would only be for construction. Right. Don't go to someone's house and be like, this is my house when you knock on their door. But, you know, go you can go to the house and you went to the house and eventually the house is finished. And the people

Starting point is 00:12:35 who actually paid for the house moved into the house. And then one day it went on the market and he went in to go see how much it was. And it was over a million dollars for the house. And he went in to see if he could afford it. And the bank said he couldn't afford the loan, but he said, this is my house. This is my house. This is my house. And over the next 30 days, he was able to build his business to a, such a significant number. He went back into, because you know, this is before Austin's market was just insane. Like it is now. He went back into the loan officer and asked them, show them what his business was doing. It was able to make it work. He bought that house four years after normalized the feeling of that being his house. You could tell me that's a coincidence if you want to, but there's also something behind

Starting point is 00:13:22 the scenes that I think is working, right? Whether it's the universe or God, or whether it's just the normalizing of the feeling, or maybe it is coincidence. He was able to normalize the feeling of that being his house, that being the house that he was going to. Now, what does he do? He walks into his house. He parks inside of his driveway. He sleeps in the room he told himself he would sleep in. He has coffee every single morning with the view that he told himself he was going to have coffee with the view. Why? Because he freaking created his reality, right? So you got to think to yourself, which reality am I creating?

Starting point is 00:13:54 What feelings am I normalizing? Am I normalizing the feelings of being broke because I'm hanging out with broke people all of the time, right? And they're talking about how, you know, the, it's the government's fault. It's the president's fault. It's my boss's fault. It's the local authority's fault. So whatever it is that's going on around them and they're like, they're blaming, they're taking all of the blame and externally putting on someone else. Or are you hanging out with people who make, you know, making a decent amount of money normal to you to feel that way,

Starting point is 00:14:26 making a decent amount of money normal to you to feel that way, right? What car do you want? Why don't you go test drive it? Guess how much it costs to test drive a car? Nothing. So if you have a car and it's on the background of your computer, like when I was younger, you used to have cars in the background of my computer, the background of my phone, all of that stuff. I want to see it. I wanted to normalize it. Why don't you, instead of having it be on a computer, which seems out of reach because you can't physically touch that car through your computer, why don't you go to the Audi dealership or whatever it is and test drive that car? Even if you can't afford it right now and as you're driving the car, say, this is my car. I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car. And then go a month later and do it again.

Starting point is 00:15:09 And then go a month later and do it again. And just keep test driving the cars and go to different places and start to normalize the feeling. If you have a Toyota right now, there's nothing wrong with it. But if you're looking and you're like, I want an Audi, well then as you're actually going to the Audi dealership, say, I'm going to pick up my car. I'm going to pick up my car. I'm going to pick up my car. And then you test drive it. And when you get back into your Toyota, you're going to go, damn, I am grateful that I do have this car that can drive me around. But that Audi was amazing. It's going to give you internal drive to work harder towards that thing that you saw, towards that thing that you want. It's going to normalize the feelings inside of you of actually having that. What if you want a great relationship? Are there people around you that have incredible relationships?

Starting point is 00:15:49 And you know, maybe you grew up in a house that didn't, your parents didn't have a great relationship. Maybe they fought a lot. Maybe they got divorced and all you've ever seen was turmoil in a relationship. Is there someone that you know are people that you can get around that have an incredible relationship so that you can denormalize the feeling of turmoil in a relationship and normalize the feeling of what an abundant, beautiful, loving relationship looks like. If you want to be a great parent, maybe you have your first kid on the way. Do you know anybody that's an incredible parent that you can normalize the feelings of being an incredible parent? Anything that you want in this world is within reach. But if you look at something and you think to yourself, I don't know, like energetically,

Starting point is 00:16:29 it feels too much to me. It feels like it's impossible. That is something that needs to be normalized because if you feel like it's impossible, it is a hundred percent impossible. If it feels like it's out of reach, it is always going to be out of reach. The way to bring it into reach is to be able to start to live that life, to normalize the feeling of that house, to normalize the feeling of that car, to normalize the feeling of that relationship, to normalize the feeling of being a great parent, to normalize whatever it is that you want, because everything that you want is fully 100% within your reach. But if you think to yourself that it is out of reach, I promise you, you've already taken

Starting point is 00:17:03 yourself out of the race before you've even stepped up to the line. The way to win in life is to figure out what is it you want and to normalize those feelings. Because the life that you want is within reach. That 10 years from now, that perfect life, that beautiful family that travels all over the place and has the abundance of money to do whatever they want and to give it away and give it to charity, all of that is within reach. But you have to normalize the feeling internally first before you actually get it externally. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. The only way that we grow is from you guys sharing this and we're consistently in the top 150 podcasts in the

Starting point is 00:17:44 entire world out of 1.75 million. So I greatly appreciate you guys for always sharing it. And I'm gonna leave it the same way I leave you every single episode, make it your mission, make someone else's day better. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - How to "Normalize" the Life You Want

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