The Mindset Mentor - How to Stop Being Mediocre

Episode Date: July 22, 2019

Episode 622 - Every person, deep down inside, has the fear of not fitting in. The problem with that is that if we want to live extraordinary lives, we must stand out. So how do we balance these two opposites so that we can stand out and create the life that we want? Well, in this episode, I will tell you how! Follow me on Instagram at https://instagram.com/robdialjr Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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into today's episode. All right. So today, what we're going to be talking about is fitting in. Ooh, this is deep. Because for some reason, we all have that natural feeling that we want to fit in. We don't want to stand out from the crowd because that would make us an outsider. Nobody wants to be an outsider. You know, naturally, I think that we want to fit in just because of the fact that thousands and thousands of years ago, when we were traveling around in tribes, if we didn't fit in, that could mean death because we would be kicked out. We depended on the tribe for everything.

We depended on the tribe for making sure that we stayed alive, for food, for shelter, for everybody watching each other and hunting and all of these things for safety. But that doesn't serve us anymore. Fitting in does not serve you if you want to have a great life. So what do you do? You stop being what society says you should be. society says you should be. You stop fitting in. You stop doing what others are doing as well. If you're trying to fit in, then you are not trying to stand out. And that is a problem. Here's why it's an actual problem. Fitting in is an actual problem. When you look at society, do you feel that most people have the life that you want or only a select few? When you look at people you admire,

do they stand out from the crowd or do they just blend in? When you talk to them, do they seem normal, Like they think like everybody else? Or do they seem like they're a little bit different? Like they think differently, they act differently. Think of people that you admire, whether that's Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Tony Robbins, Jeff Bezos, those people, do they just fit in? Do they seem just normal? Or do they stand out in some sort of way? In the way that they act, in the way that they think, in the way that they make decisions,

in the way that they go in search of education and learning more and on constant growth mode. Do they have a problem? Do they have any problem doing things or acting in a certain way or speaking in a way that's against the grain? Do they have a problem being against the grain? Do they try to fit in? If you think of the people that you look up to and you admire, some of the people that have changed the world the most, they don't fit in with society at all. They don't blend in with society at all. Can you agree that 95% of people in this world will live and die mediocre lives? They'll live with mediocre lives. They'll die having lived a mediocre life. they'll live with mediocre lives, they'll die having lived a mediocre life.

Could you agree that 95% of people, if not 99.9% of people, will not live up to 100% of their potential? Can you agree to all of this stuff? Yes? Then why do we keep trying to fit in? If we don't want to be mediocre, then we don't want to fit in because fitting in means being mediocre. Why do we care what other people think of us then? Why do we try to be the same as them and to not be ridiculed by them? If we want to be successful, if we want to live up to 100% of our potential to not live mediocre lives, then we don't want to be like everybody else. Therefore, we don't want to fit in. So then we need to change our mindset from, hey, I'm going to fit in to, hey, I almost cussed in the middle of my podcast. I almost dropped an F-bomb. Screw fitting in. That's what we have to say. I will not fit in

with these people. Whatever society is doing, I will do the exact opposite. You need to model who you want to become. Do what the people that you admire do. And I understand people have the fear of standing out, of being judged, of being different, of being, you know, looked down upon. But if you look at it in this light, wouldn't you agree that that fear is completely ridiculous? Wouldn't you agree that your number one goal should be to not fit in, to not do what everybody else is doing, to stop trying to be like everyone else. If you want to be like everyone else, you probably won't be remembered or someone who

lives a great life. Most people don't live great lives. So why would you want to be like most people? Think about that. You should not fear standing out. You should fear fitting in. Fitting in equals mediocrity. And I don't want you to live a mediocre life. And if you're listening to my voice, you don't want to live a mediocre life. And I know that. So next time, if you get nothing else from this episode, next time you feel the fear of standing out or being judged, embrace it

because that's the universe telling you, hell yes, you're doing the right thing. You're being different. You're going to make a change. I cannot think of anybody who is huge, successful, changed the world that was just like, well, I'm going to try to be like everybody else. Hell no. As bad as Steve Jobs may have been as a manager and all of those things, he's the number one person I always think of.

He tried to do everything opposite of what everyone else was doing. And he turned out to build the biggest company in the world. Think about that next time you're starting to fit in. Next time you want to fit in, change your mind to, holy crap, I'm doing what I'm supposed to do because I'm not fitting in. So with that, if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know. We're trying to grow.

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