The Mindset Mentor - How to Stop Your Anger

Episode Date: July 5, 2019

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Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast on Instagram. My handle on Instagram is RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. We are approaching 100,000 followers on Instagram where I put up most of my content throughout each day. You can see what I'm doing. You can see some of the motivational stuff that I'm putting up, the motivational videos,

and then also the Instagram stories as well. So go ahead and follow me on there, RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And let's go ahead and get started. Today, what I'm going to be talking about today, what I'm going to be talking about is holding on to anger. I'm also going to talk about anger because suffering can also manifest in other ways, such as anger, right? And like I said, this one's similar to the last one, but I'm gonna take it one step further. And some people have had something done to them that they don't like, where they screwed up

or they screwed someone over or something happened to them and they are angry about it, right? Somebody at some point in your life has screwed you over. There's a pretty good chance, right? What is it going to do for you? What is it going to do for you to hold on to that anger, right? Some people are angry because of, you know, what somebody did, what they didn't do, what they should have done.

Anger does nothing for you, right? If something doesn't do anything for you, there's no reason for it to exist in your life, right? If it doesn't serve you, get rid of it. Anger is only bad for you. Holding onto anger actually kills you quicker. Believe it or not, being angry, being a more angry person or holding onto anger actually kills you quicker. So some people who are more angry person or holding onto anger actually kills you quicker. So some people who are more angry than others, just so you know, chemically how it works, have higher cortisol levels in their brain. Cortisol is the stress hormone. Cortisol kills you quicker. So by holding onto anger for someone else, what they might have done or what they might have not even known that they had done or they forgot about, to hold on to that anger is actually doing nothing to them,

but it's killing you. So that's why they say that holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, right? By holding onto this anger, you are actually legitimately killing yourself. You are poisoning your own brain because you are angry, you are mad, you are pissed off, and you have higher cortisol levels in your brain because of it, which means that you are going to die sooner because of that anger, because of that frustration, because of that sadness or whatever it is that you're holding onto, right? This is not something that's natural in the brain. Just so you know, this is a learned pattern in behavior. I had this conversation with my friend the other

day where we were talking about, you know, is it all nature nurture or is it in our DNA? Anger is not in our DNA. Sadness is not in our DNA. That is a learned pattern, something that you've learned. If you are a very angry person, did you learn it from somewhere? Let me take a guess. One of your parents might happen to be a very angry person. Let me take a guess. One of their parents might be a very angry person, anger or any of those types of things are a learned pattern. Are you going to hold onto that pattern? It's not natural for you to be angry, right? If you do something to your dog, like you accidentally kick your dog, let's hope that doesn't happen because that'd be terrible. Don't go kicking dogs because I love dogs. But if you accidentally kick

your dog, right? Your dog isn't pissed off at you 30 minutes later. Why do we love dogs so much? Because it's unconditional love. They forgive, they forget, and they still love you more than anything else. We want to be, the reason why we love dogs so much is because we hope to be like that one day, right? So if you look at animals, animals do not hold onto anger. Therefore, the natural state of us as humans, anger is not a natural state. That is a learned behavior. You don't look at your dog and your dog's like, man, you kicked me 30 minutes ago. Nope, not going to do it. No, it's unconditional. They forgive, they forget, they go on about it and they just continue loving you no matter what.

That's why we love dogs so much is because of that fact. Right now. Also, what's another learned behavior? I'll just give you another example. If a dog gets smacked over, I hate talking about this because I love dogs so much, but I have to bring it up. But if a dog is hit a lot as it's younger, then if you raise your hand, what's it going to do? It's going to coil away. It's going to move its head away because it's a learned behavior. It knows that when the hand raise,'s it going to do? It's going to coil away. It's going to move its head away because it's a learned behavior. It knows that when the hand raise, it's going to come down. That's a learned behavior, right? If you go to a dog that's never been hit before and you raise your hand, it's not going to

do anything because that's not a learned behavior for it. It didn't learn that when it was younger. So if you're angry, if you're pissed off, if you're sad, if you have all of these, if you have certain traits that you don't like about yourself, step back and say, is that actually in my DNA or is that a learned behavior, a learned pattern? If I'm really pissed off and really angry at this person, did I learn this behavior? Probably. And if you learned it, guess what? You can also unlearn it or you can learn the behavior that you would prefer it to be.

So holding onto anger for something that somebody else did or didn't do or should have done is doing no good. It's killing you quicker. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die because they're not suffering from it. There's a pretty good chance, but you are suffering from it. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. So with that, I'm going to leave

you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. Once again, please share this with someone that you know and love. And if you haven't done so, go ahead and give this show a rating review on iTunes. I appreciate you, and I hope that you have an amazing day.