The Mindset Mentor - How to Turn Your Life Around

Episode Date: March 4, 2022

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Today, we're going to be talking about how to turn your life around no matter where you are in your life. And more importantly, besides just turning your life around, we're going to talk about where you're actually going in your life. Because all too often, I find that people, they don't really have a plan. They don't know where they're going. And then also on top of that, they don't know how they're going to get there. So

we're going to talk about how to turn your life around. We're going to talk about how to figure out where it is that you want to go. And then we're going to figure out exactly how to get there and come up with a plan. And before we do that, there is something that I have to say. there and come up with a plan. And before we do that, there is something that I have to say. You know, we live in a world where everything happens right away. Everything. And it's pretty amazing how fast everything happens. Like if you think of Google, if you want to figure out something, you can literally Google it. And within a few minutes, you've got an answer as to, you know, if you're like, hey, how far is the earth from the sun? And you can Google it, 93 million miles. You know immediately how far it is.

If you have Amazon, earlier today I was looking and I was like, oh man, I'm running out of coffee. And I was like, oh, you know what I could do? I could go on Amazon and oh, I can get it delivered between 10 o'clock and three o'clock today. Literally, it can be delivered on the exact same day. You know, you have Uber Eats, food can get delivered to you. You have Uber, someone can literally pick you up and drive you anywhere that you want. You have

grocery delivery where it's like, I haven't been in a grocery store in like two years at this point, it feels like. And so we live in this world where almost everything is immediate gratification. And you have to realize that that's what technology has brought us. But for the majority of things that are important in your life, whether that's your family, whether that's your relationships, whether that's your success or your business, all of those things are never going to be immediate. All of those things are going to take time. Like, if you think about it, if it was 200 years ago and you wanted some strawberries, well, first off, you'd have to be, you'd have to have some strawberry seeds.

It would have to be the right time of year. You would have to plant the seeds at the right time of year. You'd have to water them. You'd have to take care of them. And then it would take a couple months for you to literally get those strawberries. Where literally a few months ago, you had an idea and now you're finally gonna be able able to get the fruits of your labor. And hopefully during

that time, another animal doesn't come in, eat them when they ripen. And so that's how a lot of things used to be before technology brought everything to us so immediate. Now, I could sit on my couch, decide that I want some strawberries. I can go on my phone. I don't ever have to leave my couch, order. And within a couple hours, some dude named Travis that's a student at a local university delivers them to my front door. The only thing that he really doesn't do is put them into my mouth and feed them to me.

But you could probably buy that service, probably available or going to be available soon enough where someone can feed you your food if you want to. So the things are so immediate now that we're trained to want instant gratification because everything is so immediate. But you have to realize the most important things in life are not immediate. The most important things in life take time. And so you've got to almost, in a sense, reprogram yourself from knowing most things are immediate, but knowing that the body that you want, the family that you want, the relationship that you want, the success that you want, the

bank account that you want, all of those things are all going to take time because we've been indoctrinated to believe that everything happens right away. We've been indoctrinated to think that everything is immediate gratification. So what does this have to do with today and what's going on in all of our lives and what's happening in your life? Well, most things are going to take time to work through. And we've got at least some things that still take time we don't try to hurry up. Like, ladies, imagine if you're married to a man, right? And you're pregnant. It would be really weird for him to walk up to at month three and be like, hey, Stacey, I know this whole thing is supposed to take like eight and a half,

nine months, but I was really thinking about how cool it would be if we could just get this done in like five or six. Do you think you could try to hurry up this process? Imagine that being the case. You'd be like, this guy's probably insane. You would never expect that somehow a woman could give birth four or five months early and speed up the process of birthing a child, right? Some things just take time. Your success takes time. Your learning, your growing, everything, your personal development, all of those things take time. I'm going to talk about all of those things taking time. And I'm also going to talk about the direction that you're going in is more important than the speed that you're going.

And so living in a world where everything's so immediate and we're so used to getting it now, getting it now, getting it now, it's very important to number one, understand that just things take time. And number two, more than anything else, instead of worrying so much about how much time it takes, worrying more about the direction that you're going and to make sure that you're going in the right direction. Because as long as you're going in the right direction, eventually you will get to where you want to go. And that's the important thing that you need to realize.

And I've been saying this, I said this over the past few months on a couple different episodes, but when I used to see someone i was younger when i was like 23 years old i'd see someone that was very successful i'd be like oh my god why am i not as successful as them yet why don't i have as much money as them yet and now that i've you know gotten older i'm 35 i look at those same people that are you know have success and i look at them i'm like oh he's like 55 years old he's's 20 years, he's got 20 years more into this than I do. Of course, he's further along than I am because he's just simply older. He's been on this road longer. If we're just following the path and we're taking slow steps

in the direction that we want, eventually we're going to get to where we want to go. And so what I really want you to be aware of is the time and being aware that things take time and that's okay. But more than anything else, being aware that what you really need to make sure that you're doing is that you're just heading in the right direction. Because so many people get a business idea and they start working on that business and they're so excited about it. And then they give up because three months in, they're not doing a million dollars yet. That's not how most businesses work. You know, you read articles in Forbes where it's like,

oh, this guy had an idea, and then he was a multi-billionaire six months later. Majority of businesses, that's not how it works. You know, it doesn't normally blow up like that. You know, a lot of people are like, I've got this business idea. They roll with it. They're passionate about it.

And then they give up within a month, two months, three months, six months, simply because they're not, quote unquote, where they want to be yet. And they think they should be further along. For my business, it took three years for us to hit a million dollars. What if I had given up six months into it because I was like, oh, I must have made a mistake. I must be on the wrong path. This must not have been the thing that was made for me. And not realizing that all along the way, the three years was me figuring out what works and me figuring out what doesn't work and then not doing the things that weren't

working anymore and continue doing the things that were working. It's like, you know, Tony Robbins says people overestimate what they can do in a year, but they underestimate what they can do in a decade, right? So when I look back, I'm like, oh my God, the older that I get and the more time I put into every single thing that I do, I'm at year seven in this podcast. And so people look and they're like, oh, I wish that I had a top 100 podcast in the world. It's like, well, I'm also almost 1200 episodes in

and I'm seven years into this thing. So it's like, oh my God, the longer the time goes on and the more time goes on, I'm like, that phrase could not be any more true. People overestimate they can do in a year, but they underestimate they can do in a decade. Why? Because they think that it's going to happen right away. But if you just go into the impression of, hey, this is going to take time. I don't know how long it's going to take, but as long as I'm just heading in the right direction, I'm going to get to where I want to go. Eventually, you will be successful, right?

Now that I'm seven years into that business, I finally get that phrase. I finally see it and understand it. And a lot of times when you're doing something, you don't see success right away. That might take six months, might take a year, might take a couple of years. But you just have to realize that some things take time.

Sometimes it takes six months. Sometimes it takes a year, two years, five years, 10 years. Like if you look at Andy Fursell is a good idea. He runs a hundred million dollar company now. He's got hundreds of employees and a lot of people are like, oh my God, I wish I had as much money as him. I wish I had as much success as him. I wish I had the car collection that he had. I wish I have the house that he has. But most people don't realize that he slept in his warehouse and barely made any money for two years of starting that business. Most people don't realize that he slept in his warehouse and barely made any money for two years of starting that business. Most people don't want to go through that process. Hey, today's

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Because slow and steady wins the race. We've been hearing this since we were children with the tortoise and the hare, but slow and steady wins the race. You will win as long as you just don't give up. The only time that you have failed, quote unquote failed, is when you give up. When you fuck up, that's not

a failure. That's just fucking up. We're going to do that many, many, many, many, many times. All you have to realize is that you just can't stop. You figure out where you want to go, and you decide, you know what? I don't care how long it takes. I'm going to get there no matter what. I'm going to get there. It might be in a year. It might be five years. It might be 10 years. Eventually, I'm going to get there, but as long as I just go on this path, slow and steady wins the race. So we talked about time. We talked about the speed that you're going at. Now let's talk about where you're going. And this is important because a lot of people, they don't really know where they're going. They're just kind of building a life and they're

kind of, it's like, you know, building a life and it's like putting together a, you know, you sit there and you're like hammering together some wood and some nails and some wood and some nails. You're like, okay, yeah, I'm making a ladder and I'm going up this wall. And then 10 years down the road, you realize you're building a ladder on the wrong wall. It's not the wall that you want it to.

So you have to realize that if you're going in the right direction, you just don't stop, you'll eventually get there. Well, so where is it that you want to be going? Do you know what you want to get from your life? Like, do you know what you want in all aspects of your life? Do you know where you want your life to be? Like, what's your goals for the next five years?

Like, if you were to fast forward and I were to say, okay, we got a time machine. We're going to go, we're going to fast forward five years from today. What do you want that perfect life to look like? What do you want that life to look like when you fast forward? What if I said we could go ahead and we could fast forward 10 years? What do you want that perfect life to look like? Where do you want to be in those 10 years? And so sit down with a pen

and paper and start to figure it out. If you are sitting down with a pen and paper right now, you could pause me if you want to. Sit down and write your answer to the question, what do I want? In five years, what do I want my life to be? In five years, what do I want my life to be? In 10 years, what do I want my life to be, right? How do I want people to talk about me at my funeral? How much of an impact do I want to make on the world? How much money do I want to make? You know, where do I want to live?

Who do I want to marry? How many kids do I want? Do I want kids at all? What about my family? Do I want to build a family? Do I, what do I want my family? What are kids do I want? Do I want kids at all? What about my family? Do I want to build a family? Do I, what do I want my family? What are my relationships with my mother and my father and brother, sister, everyone to look like?

And you get really clear on where you're going because we talked about time, but if you're just slowly walking in a direction, you will eventually get somewhere, but is it the where that you want to get, right? So it's like for me, if I just walk, I'm in Austin, Texas. If I were just to go, okay, you know what? I'm going to take out a compass and I'm just going to start walking north. Eventually, I'm going to get to Dallas because Dallas is north of Austin. Eventually, I'm going

to end up there. But if I were to just walk outside of my house and say, okay, now I'm just going to walk. Well, there's a chance I could end up in Dallas, but there's a chance I could end up in San Antonio, but there's a chance I could end up in El Paso. In Houston, I could end up in all areas. So you have to know where you're going. And this is one place where I see so many people hung up because they don't know exactly what it is that they want. So you have to figure it out. Get a pen and paper out, write all the things out. What are my family, my kids? Who do I want to marry? Where do I want to live? How much money do I want to make? Who do I want to be? What do I want to live? How much money do I want to make? You know, who do I want to be? What do I want to create? Okay, so now that we know what it is that you want, we've got the time idea. It's going to

take time. We just got to let that pass. Time's going to pass either way. I just have to be heading in the right direction. So where is it that I want to be going? All right, now what do we need to do? We need to come up with a plan. You have to have a plan as to how you're going to get there. And this is, I always love this example because it makes so much sense for people whenever I explain it. Let's say you and I are in Miami. We're going to go over the Bahamas. A lot of people don't know you can drive a boat from Miami over to the Bahamas. And we wake up and it's a beautiful morning. We walk over and we go up to the captain. I'm like, hey, captain, you know, what's the plan? He's like, oh, we're going to go to the Bahamas. Okay, cool. What's that going to look like? He's like, well, we're going to basically head over in kind of in that direction. And you're like,

okay, how long is it going to take? He's like, oh, probably about two and a half to four hours-ish, you know? And okay, cool. What's the seas look like? He's like, oh man, you know what? I didn't check it today. I'm not really even sure how to check it. If you got onto a boat and the captain said this to you, you would get off of that boat. Why? Because you want to get onto a boat where you get on there and you say, captain, what's the plan? He says, okay, we're going to go ahead. We're going to head west. It's going to be about 97 minutes. The seas look like they're pretty good. You guys can crack open some beers. It should be sunny.

It should be pretty good. You know, waves shouldn't be too crazy. We'll be there. Let's see. We'll be there about 1.30. That's who you want to get onto the boat with. You want a captain that knows where they're going. Now, that's funny because you're like,

oh yeah, just that direction. But how many people listening to me right now, that's how you've been living your life. You're like, I'm going in that direction. And you don't even know where the fuck you're going, right? It's funny, but how many are people living their lives that way? Just like, you know, living their life

as if it's just a ship that's just floating around at sea. No direction, just we'll go with the wind. We'll go with the tides. And we'll just open our eyes one day and we'll see where we are. You have to realize at some point in time that you've been on a boat that's just going somewhere, but nobody's in control of that boat. And you've had the opportunity to step up and to hop into the driver's seat the entire time.

You just haven't been doing it. So where is it that you want to go? It's time for you to step into the driver's seat and actually figure it out. Okay, where do you want to go? And what is the plan of exactly how you're going to get there? You have to have a plan. You have to know where you're going and you have to have a plan of exactly what you're going to do. And then, you know, after this, you're going to start to have weekly and monthly check-ins with yourself. And if you can, daily check-ins with yourself to see how you're progressing towards the direction that you want to go. You have to see where you're progressing to get to where it is that you want to be. And you have to realize this. This is a super important thing. As you're growing your business, as you're growing your life, as you're growing

your family, as you're growing everything that you do, you're going to mess up. You're going to have times that are really hard. You're going to have times where you think of quitting. You're going to have times where you think to yourself, maybe this isn't what I'm supposed to be doing. It's okay. Just keep going. Because as long as you just keep heading in that direction, it's like if I were to go, okay, I'm going to walk to Dallas. Maybe it's going to rain on the way. Maybe it's going to be real crappy weather. But eventually, if I just keep walking, I'm going to get there. And so you have to realize there's going to be some good weather. There's going to be some bad weather. You will mess up. Things are going to happen. But as long as you just keep going, eventually you're going to get there. And so you have to realize there's going to be some good weather. There's going to be some bad weather. You will mess up. Things are going to happen. But as long as you just keep going, eventually you're going to get there. It's not about being perfect. It's

about getting more tally marks in the win category than the loss category. You know, if you're saying, you know what? One of the things I need to do, part of my plan is I need to wake up early. You're not going to wake up early every single day. There's going to be days where you sleep in. There's going to be days where you screw up. There's going to be days where you screw up. There's going to be days where you forget to set your alarm. That's okay. You don't beat yourself up. You say, okay, noted.

I made a mistake. Now this is how I'm going to prove and make sure that I don't do it next time. So what you need is you need to figure out the time. You need to figure out exactly, you know, where it is that you're going. And you also need to figure out the plan that you need to get there.

But most importantly, you need to remember this. The direction that you're heading is way, way, way more important than the speed that you're heading at. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R.

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