The Mindset Mentor - I Am a Failure

Episode Date: August 24, 2018

Episode 472 - I have failed way more times than I have succeeded, but it does not affect how I look at myself. In fact, I think that the more I fail, the closer I get to success. If you struggle with the fear of failure or judgement, than this episode is for you! Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to-the-point, no-BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Hello, hello, you beautiful people. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please hit the subscribe button. So today I'm going to talk about failure.

I freaking love failure. I love talking about failure because I know that failure is the greatest lesson that we could all possibly have. And here's the thing. Most people, you may have heard me say before, most people view their failures as flaws. Most people, the reason why we hate failure so much is because most people's paradigm is I am not enough. Their core, to the core of them, whether it's they're afraid of failure, they're afraid of rejection, they're afraid of success, they're afraid of being a bad parent or not having enough money or all of those things. Their core, at their core, it's I'm not enough. And so when you fail, that is putting a spotlight 100% on I am not enough. And so that's why most people hate failing. And they see their failures as flaws. Your failures

are not flaws. The intention that you put to something, the importance that you give to something is going to dictate how you feel about it and how it actually acts in your life. Most people fail and then it's like a flaw. It's like a scar. They hate that feeling of failure because they feel, boom, right there, I am not enough. And it's a spotlight right on that. I'm not enough. So people try to avoid failure. People try to not even start because they don't want to fail. Here's the thing I'm going to tell you. The most successful person that you can think of right now is the person who has failed more than anybody else that you could think of.

The most successful person that you know is the person who has failed the most. I remember seeing a video not too long ago with Oprah and she was sitting in a room and she had hundreds of people around her and she goes, the reason why I'm the most successful person around here is because I'm the person who has failed more than anybody else. There's a pretty good chance that I have failed more than every single person in this room put together. And you have to realize failures are not flaws. Failures are lessons. Your failures are your greatest teachers that you will ever get

if you allow them to be your teachers, if you listen to them. Your failures are not flaws. It's the universe saying, hey, no, no, no, try again. That just wasn't the right thing that you needed to do. That's all it is. You know, it's like if you're driving your car and you get to a road block and you have to take a detour and you're like, um, you know what? I'm just going to go home. Like that's what failure, most people see failure as they get to the road block and then they say, oh, I'm just going to give up. Right? Thomas Edison said that he didn't fail 10,000 times at creating the light

bulb. He found 10,000 ways to not create the light bulb, right? Imagine if Thomas Edison just gave up after the 10th time. The guy who created Honda, if you have not looked up the guy who created Honda story, I would say his first name, but I don't know how to pronounce it. up the guy who created Honda story. I would say his first name, but I don't know how to pronounce it. But basically what he says is success is 99% failure. All we see is just the 1% of success. And we think, oh man, that person's successful. They must have done it all. They must not have failed at all, right? The people who fail the most are the people who are the most successful. So whenever you think of failure, I want you to think about this. Do not associate fear with failure. Do not associate bad, negative thoughts with failure. What you need to start doing is when you think of failure, think, I need to fail. I need to fail. I need to continue

to fail over and over and over again. Sarah Blakely, who is the woman who founded Spanx, and it's a multi-billion dollar company, and she owns 100% of it. She got no outside investors, right? She owns 100% of her company, and it's a multi-billion dollar company. That's extremely hard to find. But when she was a little girl, every single day at the dinner table, her father would ask her and her brothers, how did you fail today? How did you fail today? And what happened was he associated good feelings with failing. And he would be, if people came in and they didn't fail for the day, he wouldn't be happy about the fact they didn't fail because he knew in order for his kids to be happy, in order for them to be successful, in order for them to make something of themselves, they would have to fail a lot.

And so when she went out and she was rejected over and over and over and over again for Spanx, it was not a big deal for her. It was not going to stop her. She kept going and kept going. And when people didn't want to invest in it, she's like, all right, well, since nobody seems to think this is a good idea, I'll just put all of my own money into it. And guess what? Now, because of all of the facts that she failed over and over again, getting people to invest in her company, she owns 100% of a multi-billion dollar company. 100% of it. Every single person that you can think of that's successful has failed many, many times. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. It's a famous story. He was cut from his high school basketball team.

He went home, he locked himself in his room and he cried. And then he realized, if I'm going to be successful as sport, I'm going to have to work at it every single day. Right? Thomas, or not Thomas Edison, Einstein wasn't able to speak until he was four years old. And when he was a little kid, his teachers actually told his parents that he wasn't going to amount to very much. Albert Einstein was seen as a stupid kid. They actually thought that he might've had down syndrome. Oprah was demoted from her job as a news anchor because they said that she wasn't fit for television. She's failed over and over and over again. Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper because they said he didn't have imagination and had no

original ideas. Right? At age 11, there was a guy who was diagnosed with growth hormone deficiency, which made him smaller than all of the other kids that were his age. Guess what? That guy's name is Messi. He's one of the greatest soccer players ever and still playing at this point in time, right? Steve Jobs was fired from Apple at 30 years old. And that was the company that he started. Then he went and started Pixar, which is a massive company, super successful. And then Apple hired him back again, right? People who are the most successful are the people who have failed more than anybody else. And that's what you have to

realize. So what I want you to think about is this, whenever you fail, think of it as, okay, I'm not going to attach a bad thought with this. I not going to attach a bad thought with this. I'm going to attach a good thought with this. I'm going to take my pen and paper out and ask myself, what can I learn from this? Because to fail from something and to not learn from it is a complete waste of a lesson. So your failures are not flaws. Your failures are your greatest lessons that you'll ever have. The greatest teachers that you will ever have in your life are all of the different ways

that you failed. The people who fail the most are the people who are the most successful. So if you like this episode, please do me a favor. Share with someone that you know, someone that you love. Because if you share it with one person and not one person likes the episode, then you have to realize that if you share it with one, one, one, one person right now, I don't mean like post it on Facebook. If you send someone an email, you send someone a text message, say, hey, I thought you might like this and send it to them

directly. The amount of people that listen to our podcast would double in one day. And that's how we start impacting the world through grassroots. So if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know, but I'm going to leave you the same way So if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know, but I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode,

they can be found at mwfmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because it's our mission to help as many people as we can. And to keep in touch, you can follow us on Instagram and Facebook. Both handles are at MWFMotivation with no spaces. Now you know what time it is. So go out and make your dreams a reality.