The Mindset Mentor - Just Make a Decision

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast and you want to receive some extra mindset tips inside of your email, go ahead and go to mondayemail.com right now. Once again, mondayemail.com. Every Monday, I send out mindset tips to help you improve yourself and improve your week every single week. So if you want to

Starting point is 00:00:34 get that from me, it is absolutely free. Go ahead and go to mondayemail.com and I'll send you an email every single Monday. Today, we're going to be talking about your decisions. We're going to be talking about everything that you do, everything that you don't do, and how your life is just basically the result of all of your decisions that you've made. You know, I love a phrase that kind of brings this perfect where it says, you were born looking like your parents, but you'll die looking like your decisions. Think about that for a second. You were born looking like your parents, but you'll die looking like your decisions. Whatever it is that you do or do not have at the end of your life will be based off of your decisions. And if you're a long-term listener

Starting point is 00:01:13 of the podcast, you've heard me say this before because it's one of my favorite phrases. And if I'm honest with you, my very first coach that I hired when I was 19 years old, we worked together for two years. He was amazing. He taught me so many things. I don't remember one thing that he said to me besides this one thing in those two years of conversations. They were all great. I do remember that. But we had a really tough conversation one time and that tough conversation changed my life. And I was showing up late to calls. I wasn't hitting my assignments. I wasn't making the sales goals that I wanted to make. I wasn't doing anything. And I was giving excuses. I was a professional excuse maker is what I really was more than anything else. And I was giving him excuse after excuse after excuse. And he was super calm, super nice guy. And he just said,

Starting point is 00:01:53 hey, Rob, if a business fails, whose fault is it? And I was like, I don't know. It's the CEO's fault. And he goes, okay. If a business succeeds, whose fault is it? If the person's able to get a whole bunch of employees to move into the right direction and grow a business, whose fault is it? You know, if the person's able to get a whole bunch of employees to move into the right direction and grow a business, whose fault is that? I was like, it's the CEO's fault. And he said, okay. So if you get to the end of your life and you regret your life, you wish you would have done more. You realize you made a lot of excuses. You realize that it wasn't what you wanted to be. Whose fault would that be? I was like, that'd be my fault. And he goes, okay. And if you got to the end of your life and you realize it was everything that you wanted,

Starting point is 00:02:28 you had the love, the happiness, the success, everything that you wanted, whose fault would that be? And I was like, it'd be my fault. And he goes, okay. The problem with you, Rob, is that you're not treating your life like you're the CEO of your life. And I made the decision at that point in time of like, I'm not going to make excuses anymore. Everything that happens to me is my fault. I've somehow brought into my life where I currently am is my fault off of decisions that I've made in the past. And when you can really look at that and realize that you and the life that you build five years, 10 years, 20 years down the road, you know, if you're 35 years old and you live to 95, over the next 60 years, the life that you create is based off of the decisions that you make. You can't choose your parents, but you can choose whether or not you want your life to be similar to your parents. And your life is a big

Starting point is 00:03:17 result of your decisions. Big decisions, but most importantly, small decisions that you make on a daily basis. The moment that your life changes is when you decide to take full accountability for everything in your life. It sounds restrictive to take full accountability for everything in your life, but nothing in the world is more freeing because you realize, I'm in control. Is there going to be a lot of variables? Is there going to be a lot of uncertainty? Is there going to be other people and I don't know what they're going to do. Is there God or the universe that might be a little bit more in control of things? For sure. But it might feel restrictive to decide to take accountability for everything, but there's nothing more freeing in this world than finally deciding,

Starting point is 00:03:54 you know what? I'm going to take full accountability for every single thing in my life. So if you look at it and you say, oh yeah, but I haven't made the decision to really step up my life. I haven't made the decision to do this. Not making a decision is still a decision. You have just decided not to make a decision, but you still decided to not make the decision. So you have to realize that everything that you have in your life right now is based off of decisions that you've made in the past. If you love your life right now is based off of decisions that you've made in the past. If you love your life right now, if it is amazing, that means that you made decisions that align with the future that you wanted. You made some really good decisions in your past. If you

Starting point is 00:04:36 don't like your life right now, it is because of the decisions that you've made in the past. It's time for you to stop blaming other people. It's time for you to stop blaming your parents. It's time for you to stop blaming society or the government or where you grew up or your skin color or your gender or any of that stuff and go, you know what? I got the life that I got. Now let me see how good I can play this hand. Because the hand that you have is the hand that you have. So you've got to make the decision of I'm going to take full control and ownership for everything in my life from this moment forward, right? Look at your body, for instance. Your life is, there's results all over your life if you're looking for them. Your body. You were born with your parents' genes, but it doesn't mean that

Starting point is 00:05:14 you have to have the same body as theirs. Some people say, oh yeah, well, my entire family's overweight. It's just in my genes. No, it's not. If somebody wants to be fit, they can be fit. in my jeans. No, it's not. If somebody wants to be fit, they can be fit. Could it be harder for some people? Sure. Is it impossible? No. So you have to make the decision. Do I want my body to be fit? Do I want to be healthier? Do I want to take better care of myself? Do I want to eat better food? Do I want to work out more? Do I want to take care of my body or do I not want to take care of my body? That is a decision that you're making all the time with actions that you take. It's like the phrase that I've told you guys I love by James Clear, which is every action that you take is a vote for the person that you wish to become. So if you decide to go to the gym today, you decided to cast a vote for being the

Starting point is 00:05:59 person that is somebody who is more fit. If you decided to skip the gym today, once again, you decided to skip the gym today, once again, you decided to skip the gym today, you decided to cast a vote for the person who isn't as fit as you want to be. So you've got to start thinking about that. What does your body look like? And are you taking the right actions to therefore create the future that you want, to create the future body that you want? What if you're a business owner? Think of it, you know, as a business owner, if you have a career, think about that. If you're a business owner, you know that your business is a part of you. It's like a living, breathing part of you. For those of you that have been business owners for long enough, you know it is this moving,

Starting point is 00:06:33 shifting, breathing thing. It's got all these different, it's like a living organism. Your business is a part of you. It's a reflection of you. When you look at the state of your business, is it what you want to be? Or is it not what you want it to be? Is it going as well as you wish your business was going? Or are there some problems? It is a mirror. The beautiful thing about your business is your business is a mirror for you to see what you're doing well, what you're not doing well, what you need to improve upon. And your business and where it is, the current state of it, is based off of decisions that you've made in the past. You just need, if you want your business to be different, you need to make different decisions. Today's program is brought to you by Athletic Greens, the health and wellness company that makes comprehensive daily nutrition really, really simple.

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Starting point is 00:09:18 Your bank account is a reflection of you. It's a reflection of your spending habits. It's a reflection of your savings habits. It's a reflection of your spending habits. It's a reflection of your savings habits. It's a reflection of your investing habits. It's a reflection of your ability to make money in those habits. Your bank account is a reflection of you. You only have as much money in your bank account as you can based off the decisions that you've made. If you were born poor, that's not your fault. But if you die poor, that is your fault. Now, maybe you don't care about making money. That's cool. That's fine. But that's still your fault. Maybe you do care about money. Well, that's still your fault.

Starting point is 00:09:55 Whether it's the state of your bank account, state of your body, state of your business are all based off of decisions that you have made. Are they the decisions that you want to make in the future? Or do your decisions need to change based Are they the decisions that you want to make in the future? Or do your decisions need to change based off of the future that you want to create? So your bank account is also a reflection of you. Your family is a reflection of you. The things that you love and the things that you don't love about the way that your family is or was or is the projection that they're going into, the direction that they're going to, all of that stuff, your family is a reflection of you in some sort of way.

Starting point is 00:10:30 When you show up differently to your family, everybody in your family shows up differently. So if you do love where your family is at, there's been some great decisions on your part, but also other people's, other people in your family's part as well. They've made great decisions. people on your family's part as well. They've made great decisions. If you don't like where you are and you don't change yourself and work on yourself, your family is going to look very similar in a year. Your family is going to look very similar in six months, 12 months, a year, 10 years, five years, 15 years, whatever it is. You have to make different decisions for your life to change. And you've got to take full responsibility for it. When you look at your relationship, let's say your romantic relationship,

Starting point is 00:11:15 it might look very similar to your parents. Well, you decided to make it that way. It might look very different than your parents. Maybe you look at your parents and their relationship and you didn't like the way they communicated with each other. Well, you can make the decision to communicate differently in your relationship. Maybe you didn't feel supported in your relationship. Well, you can make the decision to make that other person feel supported. You can make a decision to make your family, your children feel more supported. Maybe you felt loved. You can make the decision to love the same way that your parents did. Maybe you felt

Starting point is 00:11:51 neglected. You can make a different decision in everything that you do with your family to make sure that they don't feel neglected as well. And so you have to realize we're born with the cards that we have. We're born with the family that we have. We're born with the body that we have, with the bank account that we have, with the business. We're born with the cars that we have. We're born with the family that we have. We're born with the body that we have, with the bank account that we have, with the business. We're born with all of these things. I guess you're not born with a business. You're not born with a bank account either. You eventually get those things though.

Starting point is 00:12:12 You have them, but where they are going to be in 12 months is going to be dictated by the decisions that you make. And the decisions that you make are going to dictate the actions that you do. And the decisions that you make are going to dictate the actions that you do or do not take. And so when you look around at your life, you've got to ask yourself, what decisions do I need to make differently? Do I need to take more ownership of my life? Have I been trying to blame circumstances outside of me? Blame external versus blame internal? Oh, it's her fault. Oh,

Starting point is 00:12:45 the relationship is bad because she does this, because he says this. Oh, my business sucks because my employees and all of that stuff. Oh, my body sucks because it's just the genes that I have because my parents were overweight and that's just the way I was born. That's what I have. You can continue to live your life that way and put blame on the circumstances outside of you. Or you can look at your life, you can say, I'm going to take full 100% ownership for every single thing and every single person in my life to be the best that it possibly can be. And I will make decisions to change them. I will make decisions to make different actions to make my results be different in all areas of

Starting point is 00:13:25 my life. And when you make a decision, like people act like it takes forever to change your life. It doesn't take forever to change your life. It could take one second. It could take one decision, completely different. And basically, you know, when you look at the phrase decision, it comes from the Latin word decadere, as I think is how you pronounce it, which means to cut off. Like you literally, when you make a decision, you cut off anything else that is not a part of that decision, right? When you decide, I am going to be fit and I'm going to get myself in shape, you need to cut off a piece of you that thinks that you want to eat unhealthy, that thinks that you want to be lazy. You have to literally cut off a piece of you in order to do that. That's what a decision is. It's like burning the boats

Starting point is 00:14:04 and saying, this is what I'm going to do. I'm either going to get this body that I want, this relationship that I want, this life that I want, this business that I want, this family that I want, or I'm going to die trying. But there is no other plan. There's no plan B because it distracts from plan A. Plan A is this. I've made the decision that this is what I'm going to do. And you either are going to get in my way and I'm going to plow you over. You're going to get out of my way. Either way, I'm going to get to that destination. When you move with that much force, with that much certainty, with that much aggressiveness to create the life that you want to, it's amazing how the people and the places and the opportunities and everything around you start to respond to that energy, a full 100%

Starting point is 00:14:44 commitment to the decision that you made to fully cut off the old version of yourself. Let that old version of yourself die as you step into a new version of yourself and actually start making the correct decisions. Because your entire life is a reflection of your decisions. It's all about the intention that you have. So how much intention do you bring into your life? How much intention do you bring into your life how much attention do you bring into your relationship into your body into your fitness into your business into everything single thing that you do because everything around you is a mirror to what's going on inside of you your body is a mirror to what's going on inside of your relationships are a mirror to what's going on

Starting point is 00:15:20 inside of your bank account is a mirror to what's going on inside of you your business is a mirror to what's going on inside of you everything is a mirror to what's going on inside of you. Your bank account is a mirror to what's going on inside of you. Your business is a mirror to what's going on inside of you. Everything is a mirror to what's going on inside of you. And so you have to realize once you fully like 100% get this locked in your head of you are the person that's in control of your entire life and that you're going to make the decision that now is the time to change. When you make that decision and you cut off all other options, watch what happens. That's when the world starts to respond to you. That's when the universe starts to respond. That's when other people start to respond to you. That's where people, places, opportunities start to pop up where you never

Starting point is 00:15:52 thought was possible. But it all starts with you finally sitting down, making decisions, saying there is no other option except for this. And when you do that, that is how you create the life that you want to. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you'd love this episode, please do me a favor, share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. I always love to see where you guys are when you listen to this podcast. I love to see what you have to say about it. And I try to respond to as many people as possible. So if you would do that, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. And I'm going to leave the same way they do every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better.

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The Mindset Mentor - Just Make a Decision

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