The Mindset Mentor - Kick The To The Curb!

Episode Date: February 5, 2018

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Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to the point, no BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please hit the subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And today, I'm going to be talking about relationships with people who are in your life.

And I'm going to be talking about chargers versus drainers. And to start off, I want to ask you a question. I want to ask you this question and I want you to think about it for a second and seriously consider it and think whether the answer is yes or the answer is no. So the question is this, are there people in your life that you need to get rid of, that you need to kick to the curb, or that you need to spend a whole lot less time with? Are there people that you need to get rid of?

Think about it. And I'm going to give you a simple, simple strategy to decide whether someone is someone that you should keep in your life or someone that you should get rid of. And it could be getting rid of, this is the way I'll put it. There's a lot of people you probably should get rid of, but there's some people you should spend a lot less time with. But there's a category that I want you to fit these people into in your life. Okay. Everyone in your life fits into one of two categories. They're either a charger or they are a drainer, a charger or a drainer. Okay. And a charger is a person that gives you more life. Being around them, you feel more energized. A drainer is a person that sucks

the life out of you. After being around them for an hour or so, you feel exhausted, your mind, your body, they're done, and you're just like, man, why do I feel like this, right? So think about your mental and your physical energy like a battery on your phone. Every single day you wake up in the morning, if you charge your phone at night, you look at it, and you're at 100%, right? That's exactly how your physical and mental energy is as well. Now you can, just so you know, your physical and mental energy is as well. Now you can, just so you know, charge your phone throughout the day as well. And you can have, you know, certain things

that you do that use a lot of bandwidth on your phone, which takes the power away from your phone and takes it down percentage points. People either give you energy in your life or they take it away from you. So once again, a charger is a person that gives you life. A drainer is a person that sucks the life out of you. A charger is someone that expands your mindset and pushes you to be a better person. A drainer is a person that keeps you in your comfort zone, holds you back, and tries to make you shrink to their level. A charger is someone who you want to call first when you have great news. A drainer is someone that you would never call with good news because you already know

that they would question the good news or they would find bad in it because they can find bad in everything. A charger is someone who you want to be around. A drainer is someone that you tolerate. Here's the thing. Your body already knows which category each person in your life goes in. Because you can feel it in your gut whether you want to be around this person or you want to try to avoid this person. And a neurologist at Northwestern University named Moran Scherf found that when two people are around each other, their brain waves actually link up and they become almost identical. Let me say that again. This is scientifically proven that when you're around somebody else, your brain waves start to link up and you become almost identical. And in turn, we start to pick up their attitudes

and behaviors. So we actually become who we hang out with. It is proven by science now. That's the good part. Or for some of you, it might be a bad part. The good thing is that you choose who you want to be around. You choose who you want to be around. So if you're around people that are draining you and their brainwaves are linking up with your brainwaves and pulling you down, you can get rid of them.

Here's the thing that I will say. You owe nothing to somebody. Some will say, well, what if the drainers in my life are family? Well, it's your life and you need to make a decision that you will either allow them to bring you down or you will distance yourself from them. It doesn't mean that you completely get rid of them, but you spend a lot less time with them. Why would you waste your one life hanging around people who are draining and sucking the energy out of you? Think of it this way. If somebody stole money from you, you would never feel obligated to hang out with them again. Right? You would actually try to stay away from them.

But you can always make more money. Time, on the other hand, you can't make more of. It's a non-renewable resource. You can never get more time back. And at the end of your life, you won't look back and say, man, I'm so glad I spent so much time with those people who sucked and made me feel like crap. You'll never feel that way. And since it's a non-renewable resource, don't waste your time. And since it's a non-renewable resource, don't waste your time. Remove those people from your life. They are not worthy of your time.

You surround yourself with people that make you better. The chargers, the ones who being around them gives you more energy. They inspire you to be better. They expand your mindset. They want the best for you and they celebrate success with you. Because all people are either chargers or drainers. And being around them doesn't serve you, then they don't deserve you. So what I think you should do is if you're listening to this, and this is hitting some notes, get a pen and paper out, not if you're driving your car, but when you stop, get a pen and paper out and write down people that you spend the most time

with your top five people, top 10 people, and then put it, put right next to them. Are they a drainer or are they a charger? Do they make you feel better about yourself? Do they make you feel worse about yourself? And write that down. And then you'll be able to see who you should spend more time with, who you should spend less time with. So hope you liked this episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and loves. Share it with someone that you know is in a bad relationship or they get pulled down by people around them and their family. Share it with one of those people if you feel like this might help them. But I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission

to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at MWFmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because it's our mission to help as many people as we can. And to keep in touch, you can follow us on Instagram and Facebook. Both handles are at MWFmotivation with no spaces. Now you know what time it is. So go out and make your dreams a reality. you