The Mindset Mentor - Law of Attraction - How to Attract the Perfect People Into Your Life

Episode Date: January 21, 2022

A few months ago I was being interviewed on a podcast and the host asked me "how does someone attract the perfect partner into their life?" and my response was not what they were expecting. In this episode, I am going to teach you in-depth what I shared with that podcast host. Follow me on IG for more inspiration here: https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ If you live in the US/Canada and you want to receive motivational texts from me, text me now at 1-512-580-9305 or click here https://my.community.com/robdial Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you live in the United States or Canada and you want to receive motivational text messages from me directly to your cell phone, text me right now, 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, we're going to talk about how to use the law of attraction to

attract the people into your life that you want, whether that's friends, whether that's a lover that you want to attract into your life. We're going to talk about how to use it to attract those people, but also you're going to talk about how to use it to attract those people, but also you're going to have a deeper understanding of the law of attraction to also attract the success that you want in your life as well. And the reason why this is important is because we are a doing society. We're not a being society. And this is going to make sense as I dive into it.

But you are a human being. You're not a human doing. In our society, we talk about what we need to do to go and create the life that we want. We talk about what we need to do to build the business that we need. We talk about what we need to do to create the family that we want. We think about do, do, do, do, do, do, do. That's everything external versus who we need to be. And throughout today, you're going to find out that the being that you become is more important than things that you actually do. And the thing that makes it really important is when we think

about doing, what it is is the external trying to influence the internal. And so let me explain what I mean by this. A lot of people have a feeling of unworthy. I don't deserve it. I'm not good enough. I don't deserve love, success, happiness. I'm not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough. And we think that by going out and achieving success, by going out and getting money, by getting some material wealth, that we are going to the external, the success on the external world is going to finally change our internal world and we'll finally feel worth it. We'll finally feel good enough. But it is impossible

for your external world to change your internal world. The only way to change your internal world is to work on your internal. And here's what's really interesting. The more that you work on your internal, that will actually start to change and influence your external. And that's what we're going to talk about. And this stems from a conversation that I had a few months ago. I had a conversation with Sylvester Stallone's daughters. They have a podcast and they interviewed me on the podcast. And they asked me the question, they said, how do you attract the perfect partner? And I answered the question. And then last week, I put up an Instagram video, like a 45-second Instagram video talking about how to attract the perfect person, what I'm going to explain to you today. And it went pretty crazy viral, got a few hundred thousand

views in literally like a day. And I was like, oh, damn, people must actually want to hear this. So I'll create a video, a podcast episode on it. So with that being said, oh, also, if you don't already follow me on Instagram, you should follow me on Instagram, RobDialJr, R-B-D-I-A-L-J-R, so that you can see that type of stuff when I create it. But what I said to them was this, when they said, how to attract the perfect partner? I said, okay, this is what you want to do.

I want you to take out a pen and paper and I want you to write down everything that you want this person to be. You know, everything you want them to be, you know, think of what kind of person are they? What time do they wake up? What does their morning routine look like? How do they take care of themselves mentally, physically, spiritually, the mind, the body? How do they take care of the people around them? What's the relationship with their

parents look like? What's the relationship with their parents look like? What's the relationship with their friends look like? Who do they surround themselves with? How happy are they? What does their body look like? What are their hobbies? Are they into personal growth? Are they athletic? And plan this person out as if literally when you write this person down, this person is going to pop up into your life and they're going to be right there. And you're going to go, oh, this is the person I've been dreaming of my entire life. But you can't do it until you put everything down.

So think about it. Characteristic traits, every single thing that you can think about about this person. Plan out this person as much detail as possible. And then here's what I said, and here's the secret. And this is the part where they kind of freaked out about it. I said, then what you want to do is look at that list of everything you created and everything you put down

and become that person. Become that person. And the reason why is because when you become that person, you will attract somebody that is on the same level as you. And so it's crazy to think like, oh, I want someone who's got an incredible body and they take care of themselves. And then we look at yourself and you're like, not in shape. You don't eat the food that you're supposed to. You don't really take care of yourself. Maybe you drink too

much. Those people are not on the same wavelength. You're going to attract people that are on the same wavelength as you. And so when you look at this person that you just planned out completely, would you say that you're currently on the same wavelength of them or are they on a higher wavelength and you need to bring yourself up to be on the same wavelength as them? Why? Because very rarely does somebody date down. Somebody usually dates someone that's on their level, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, everything. And so if you look at that list, you then have to ask yourself, well, am I this person? And if you're not this person, guess what?

You got some work to do. And that's okay. That's a beautiful, that's freaking awesome if you ask me about it. You've got some work to do, but now you know who you need to become. This person, they have an incredible fitness routine. They take care of themselves. They eat the right food.

Okay, maybe what I should do, I should change my fitness routine. Start take care of themselves. They eat the right food. Okay, maybe what I should do, I should change my fitness routine. Start looking at the food that I eat. This person, they read, you know, two books a month. Okay, how many books do you read a month? Zero? One? I don't know.

But if you got to think about it, if you're going to attract somebody that's on the same level as you. And so if you plan somebody out and you look at that, you go, yeah, this person seems too good for me right now. Well, they might be too good for you right now, but it doesn't mean that you can't grow into a person that is on the same level as that person.

And really what you want to do is you want to become that person and you will attract that person. This also works with people that you want to surround yourself with. So a lot of times people reach out to me and they know, because I say it all the time on the podcast, the people that you spend the most time with, the top five people that you spend the most time with, your net work will determine your net worth. It'll determine everything else as well. It'll determine how much

success you have, how much money you have, how much happiness you have, type of relationships that you have with your significant other. The thing is, you have to realize is this will also work for people that you're trying to attract, mentors you're trying to attract into your life. work for people that you're trying to attract, mentors you're trying to attract into your life. People know that they want to have a better circle. And so a lot of people don't think the circle that they have is a circle that will support the growth that they want. They want more from life. They want to grow. They want something better for themselves. And then they look around the circle that they have, and they might love those people, but they look around and they go, yeah, they're just not going the same direction that I am.

We're not on the same wavelength. Okay, well, it doesn't mean you have to get those people out of your life, but it does mean, can you be the person to raise your frequency, raise your wavelength, and maybe inspire those around you to do the same? Might happen, might not.

We'll see. You just have to do it. But then also when you start to, quote unquote, raise your frequency, get onto a higher wavelength, you will start to attract people that are doing the same. So if you're not a very goal-oriented person as up until recently, and your friends aren't goal-orientated at all, if you start getting hardcore into your goals and working on yourself and working on yourself and trying to improve and trying to make more money or happiness or success or better relationship, whatever it is, and then you

start to meet other people, you will start to attract and connect with other people who are thinking the same way that you are. And so if you're the same way that you would make a list for your lover, your perfect lover, why don't you go ahead? I don't ever use that word, which is what's so funny. I've never called anyone that I've ever been with my lover. So if you look at it and you say, okay, I've got the list for my lover. Now I've got the list for, I'm going to make a list for the people that I want to surround myself with. Because if you look at your five closest friends, you're probably very similar, right? You're probably around the same weight. You probably have around the same amount of income. You probably

have pretty much the same habits. You probably drink the same amount, whether that's a lot, whether that's a little bit, whether that's none. You probably have the same eating habits. You're very, very similar. You attract what you are. Hey, Shopify gives entrepreneurs the resources once reserved for only big businesses. So startups and established businesses alike can sell everywhere, synchronize online and in-person sales, and effortlessly stay informed. Scaling your business is a journey of endless possibility, and Shopify powers over 1.7 million businesses from first sale to full scale. Reach customers online and across social networks with an ever-growing suite of channel integrations and apps, including Facebook, Instagram, TikTok,

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get what you want. You get what you are. So if I want more from my life, then I need to become more to then get more from my life. That's the difference between being versus doing. Doing is important. You've got to do things, but more importantly, you've got to be the person, the human being, not the human doing. You'll never get more than you deserve. That's just how life works. You'll never get more than you deserve. You'll never get more than you are. You'll never get more than you deserve. You'll never get more than you are. So what's the most important thing then? It's who we are becoming, who we are being currently in this moment and who we are becoming. And so if you think about this, why would we focus so much on the do and why don't we focus much more

on the be? And here's what's important. I want you to hear this. Because when you focus on what you need to be, you will automatically do what that being does. So let me say this again. When you focus on who you need to be, growing into who you need to be, you will automatically do what that being does. And so it's important to figure out who you need to be. You must plan out the person that you need to become because you will attract into your life everything that is on that same wavelength. Easiest way to think about it is this. If I get into my truck and I have the FM radio station, I switch to FM and I go to 98.7 FM. I will not pick up any of the AM frequencies. Why? Because it's not on that frequency. But if I switch over to AM, then I will start to hear all of the AM frequencies. It's the exact same thing in your

life. If you're not attracting the people that you want in your life, it's probably because you're not the person that you need to be to attract those people into your life. The same way that I can't hear an AM radio station when I'm tuned into FM, well, I can't attract the people that I want in my life unless I am that person that is equivalent to them. We have to be on the same wavelength. We have to be on the same frequency. And so what you do is you write down all of who you need to be to attract the top five people

that you spend the most time with, to attract the perfect lover. And you figure out who you need to be to attract those. And then you become that. And your mission is to become that person. Now, are you going to have to do things? Of course, you're going to have to do things. You're not just going to sit there and meditate all day long and just automatically become this person. But the doing becomes so much easier when you're focusing on the being. I would say if somebody looks at themselves and their identity is I am an athlete,

it is much easier for them to get themselves to the gym than it is for somebody who thinks I am overweight, right? And it's simply because of the identity that they have for themselves, the wavelength that they are currently tuned into, the frequency that they are currently turned into. So if somebody says, oh, I'm overweight, I'm overweight, I'm overweight, and they've been saying this

their entire life, it's going to be hard to get themselves to the gym because they're not on the workout frequency. But if someone says, I'm an athlete, I'm an athlete, I'm an athlete, it is much easier for them to get themselves to the gym simply because their identity lines up with the actions that they want to take.

The identity lines up with the actions that they want to take. Their being becomes their doing. Their being becomes their doing. And that's the most important thing is who are you becoming throughout your life? Who are you working on becoming every single day? And so what you do is you figure out who you need to be. You make that massive list and then you act as if. You act as if you already are that person. It's cool because if you wanted to wake up tomorrow and start acting like James Bond, you could wake up tomorrow and start acting like James Bond if you wanted to. You could

dress like him. You could talk like him. You could walk around the house like him. You could get into conversations like him. You could act like you were James Bond if you wanted to. Maybe you don't want to. But you can also wake up tomorrow and look at this list that you've created for yourself of the person that you need to become and go, huh, well, this is interesting. All I really need to do in the same way that I could become James Bond and act as if, I can also act as if I already am this person who's got everything that I want in life. And what happens is if you become that person, you keep doing what they're doing and being what they're being and doing what they're doing and being what they're being, you'll find out in three or four years, you are that person.

You have now taken on the identity of that person. When you take on the identity, the same way that you take on the identity of an athlete, you're going to take the actions that need to be taken to be that athlete. If you identify yourself as that perfect version of you, you will realize in a few years after you've taken the action over and over and over again,

it becomes habitual. It becomes a habit. It becomes routine. It becomes what you're already doing. So what's most important is for you to figure out who you want to be. Figure out that perfect version of you. How do they act?

How do they act? How do they think? How do they speak to themselves inside their head? How do they speak to people that they love, the people that are around them? How would they be in a fight with one of their friends? How would they be in a fight with one of their spouse, with their children? When do they wake up? Start waking up when they wake up. What actions would they take every single day? Start taking those actions. Talk to yourself

the way that they would talk to themselves. Surround yourself with the type of people they would surround themselves with. And what you start to realize is that when you work on yourself and you realize that your own personal, spiritual, emotional development is the only thing that will change the external world, you start realizing, oh, you know what? I need to stop worrying about the external world because the external world is not going to make my internal state feel any better. What's most important is that I work on myself. I figure out who I need to become. I make a list of that. I figure out who I want to attract. And then I work on becoming that person every single day. And if you do this and you really, really do this, and I promise you, you test it out, try it out for a year and come back

and tell me if I'm wrong. If you just step into the identity of this person and the being of that person, the being, the doing gets done when you are focused on who you need to be because you will automatically do what that person is doing when you're focused on the being. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories

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