The Mindset Mentor - Learn To Let It Go

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And also, if you love this podcast, you should definitely follow me on Instagram. I've been doing these things called Coffee Talks, where what I'm doing is I'm actually just waking up, journaling a little bit, taking some of my thoughts in the morning as I'm drinking my coffee and putting it up as an Instagram story to just kind of give you some extra tips and tricks to improve your life. So if you want some extra tips and tricks, and for me to fill your newsfeed on Instagram, follow me there. It's Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Today, we're going to be talking about learning to let go of certain things. And really what it comes down to is letting go of things that do not serve you anymore.

Starting point is 00:00:54 Have you ever taken time and taken a pen and paper and thought about all of the things that you do, like everything, on a daily basis, on a weekly basis, and decided all of those things, do they serve you or do they not serve you? Like, are they good for you or are they holding you back? And part of our awakening process, part of awakening to becoming the better version of ourself, is to realize that we have been asleep. Being asleep doesn't mean just like you're actually just snoring, right? I mean, being asleep means that you are unaware of most of the stuff that you're doing and unaware that most of the stuff that we are doing, or let me say this, lots of things that we are doing is not serving us. It's actually holding us back in many ways.

Starting point is 00:01:41 And so, have you been living a lot of your life as if you're just asleep? Like I want, I want to take you in through a process that I went through when I was at my lowest of lows. It was October, 2010. And it literally seemed like every single thing in my life just crumbled. Everything in my life was terrible. Everything went to shit. And, you know, I went from having a super successful business to being five months behind on my car payment, living off of pasta for two months. I lived in Fort Lauderdale in a one-bedroom apartment, and all I had was a bunch of books all over the floor and a king-size bed that was on the floor as well. And I went through everything in my life. And I sat there, and it was this realization that I had when I was sitting on the floor, and I still remember where I was sitting on the floor inside the apartment, and I thought to myself, no one's

Starting point is 00:02:29 coming to save me. Like, I'm either going to be here or I'm going to be somewhere else. But no one's going to come and save me and change my life. I have to change my life for myself. And what I did was I went through everything in my life, and I either decided I'm going to keep it or I'm going to get rid of it. And it was, sure, personal belongings, but it was also everything else as well. It was thought processes. It was the when I wake up, it was what I eat, it was who I surround myself with. And I literally just tried to clear everything out as if it was just full on,

Starting point is 00:03:03 you know, my life was already kind of in shambles, but it was a full on demolishing at that point in time. I'm going to just completely clear the slate and I'm going to start to rebuild myself and rebuild my life the way that I want to. I'm going to get rid of the things that do not serve me anymore and I'm going to keep the things that do serve me and start to bring in more things that do serve me. And so we're going to go through many things today and my goal is to help you try to awaken to some of the actions that you take that are no longer serving you for your highest good, that are not helping you get to where you want to go. And as we go through a lot of pieces of your life, if it is available for you to grab a pen

Starting point is 00:03:41 and paper, it would really help you out because you can start to actually work through these as I'm going through them. But if not, start to think of them consciously. If you're driving right now, start to think of the questions and start to make some realizations about what you need to keep, what you need to let go of, all of that stuff. And so the real question is, does it serve me? Does it serve me for my highest good? 10 years from now, that dream life that you know that you want, does this thing that we're talking about as we're going through this, does it serve me in creating the life that I know I can have in 10 years? So it could be where you live. It could be the house that you live in, the part of town that you live in, the city that you're in. It could be the state that you're in. When you look at that, when you look at people that are in your family, I don't mean like your children,

Starting point is 00:04:28 don't like leave your children and be like, no, these kids no longer serve me. I mean like when you look at your relationship with your aunts and uncles, brothers, sisters, mother, father, all of that. When you look at everything that you have, do all of these things serve you? Then you start to look into the future and you start to look at the life that you do want. And you start to look at everything in the future that is 100% possible. As we start to go through these things, do they serve you and do they help you in what it is that you're trying to build? So we're going to go through every single aspect of your life and see if it supports the future that you want or if it holds you back. And so one of the things that I'll give you a great example,

Starting point is 00:05:05 that first thing that pops into my head is like alcohol, for instance. I think it's a big thing. I've been talking recently with a few people about it of like, how interesting is it? Like alcohol is such an interesting thing. And I drink wine and stuff, so I don't get trashed like I used to back in the day, but I'll drink wine every once in a while. But I'm always thinking about, okay, is this something that's holding me back? I don't think it's holding me back. Is it serving me? Well, there's certain times where I've given up for quite a long time because I felt like at that moment it wasn't serving me. And it's okay to give something up and then go back to it and give something up and go back to it. That's fine. But I've been talking about how crazy it is where it's like, I live in Austin, Texas.

Starting point is 00:05:42 And on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, they shut down a certain part of Austin. They call it, you know, it's on 6th Street. They call it Dirty 6. And they shut it down. And I was thinking, how weird would it be to come down as an alien and to study humans and be like, hmm. So they all take this poison. They flavor the poison because that's what this is. It is a poison. It is a toxin inside of your body. They flavor the poison so it tastes better and it changes the way that they act. It sometimes makes them more outgoing. It makes them more sad sometimes. It makes them happier sometimes. And they all come together in these certain parts of town so they can drink the flavored poison and they do it on the exact same nights every single week. And when they get together in social environments, they take this flavored poison. And sometimes they make new flavored poisons for each other.

Starting point is 00:06:31 They test these things out. I just think it's such an interesting thing to think about. But when you really look at it as the fact that it is actually a flavored, it is a toxin. You know, when you take it, it stays inside of your bloodstream for up to 80 hours. And then you start to look at it. And I think it's good for everyone to look at and say, I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying a drink, wine. It's your priority to do whatever it is that you want. But you've actually got to start looking and saying, does it serve me, right? Does it serve me? Am I using it for good or am I using it for numbing in some sort of way? And am I using it

Starting point is 00:07:04 the way that I should be? Does alcohol serve me? You know, same thing for like, if you smoke cigarettes, do cigarettes serve you? Smoking weed, does smoking weed serve you? I don't care what you do. I have absolutely no judgment around anybody and what they do with their own life and their own body. Completely up to them. But when you're looking at the life you're trying to create, does it serve you and does it help you or hurt you in going in the directions you're trying to go? You know, if you're trying to build a business, it might be beneficial just to give up alcohol for six months, give up weed for six months, and then just see if that helps you in some sort of way, right? So look at those types of things. Another thing that's really important that I

Starting point is 00:07:37 want you to think about as we go through today as well is people, right? When you're looking at people that are in your life, are they serving you and helping you and motivating you and pushing you towards your goals? Or are they holding you back? When you look at where you want to be in 10 years and the amount of money you want to have in 10 years and the family you want in 10 years and the car that you want in 10 years and the houses you want in 10 years and everything that you want in 10 years, the people that are around you right now, are those people going to help you in getting to creating the life that you want? Or are they holding you back in some sort of way? Are these people serving you? And at the same time, are you serving these people? Maybe it's time to take a break. You don't have to kick them out of your life, but what if you take six months off? Hey,

Starting point is 00:08:17 I just, you know, I'm doing X, Y, Z. I'm just going to be focusing on myself for a little while. Okay. Think about the people in your life. I got another idea. What about your significant other? Are they on the same path as you? Are they supporting you in every way? Do you support them? A lot of people, because of what I do, I hear, even though I am a speaker and a podcaster and all this stuff, and I focus on just mindset, people like to message me as if I'm a therapist and they always ask me questions. And one of the questions that I get asked, probably top three, is, hey, Rob, I'm new in this journey of personal development, personal empowerment. I've been doing it for a year, two years, three years. And I've noticed that my boyfriend or my girlfriend or my husband or my

Starting point is 00:08:59 wife, my significant other, makes fun of me for it. They don't enjoy it. How do I get them to start getting on the path of personal development? And the answer is you can't. You can't force anybody to do anything. But when you look at your significant other, sometimes you get into a relationship with somebody before you get onto a new path. And you've got to really ask yourself, is this person on the same path as me? Or are they on a completely different path? I don't know the answer for you, but it's a really good question to ask yourself, is this person on the same path as me? Or are they on a completely different path? I don't know the answer for you, but it's a really good question to ask yourself. Are you serving them in their personal development and the life path that they're on? Are they serving you in every single way that they can and back and forth? So like, is your relationship,

Starting point is 00:09:39 your romantic relationship serving you? And are you serving them, right? Another thing that's really important to think about, the food that you eat. Is the food that you're eating serving you in helping you get to where you want to go? Is it giving you energy or is it taking energy from you? And the things that you eat, the way that you eat, the times that you eat, your fitness routine, all of those things, are they serving you, the food and the fitness routine, are they serving you into going into the direction to create the life that you want? I don't know. That's for you to kind of sit, figure out and decide. So food is another thing to think about. And throughout all this process, you guys can pause me. I'm going to be here

Starting point is 00:10:19 forever if you pause me. Literally, I will be here forever. You can just pause me and then when you're ready, you can unpause me if you need to journal through these, if you need to work through these, all of that stuff. Okay. What about your mornings? What does your mornings look like? Do your morning serve you? Your morning routine, does it serve you? Are you waking up and being intentional about your morning? Are you journaling? Are you doing what it is that you need to do? Like my morning routine is pretty standard. I did it today, woke up, went to the bathroom, came outside, drank a ton of water, did a 20-minute meditation. Then I made some coffee, went outside, and while I was drinking my coffee, journaled for a little while, right? That's just what I found I like. That's the mode

Starting point is 00:10:58 that I'm in right now. Can I say it's going to be exactly the same in two months or two years? No, it could change. Does your morning routine serve you in creating a life that you want? Just something to think about. What about your evening routine? What about what you do throughout the day? What about how you make money? Does how you make money serve you? Is it, you know, are you doing it just to make money and to pay the bills, but it's hurting your mental health? Does it serve you in that way? Maybe, maybe not. That's for you to decide. How you make money. Is it serving you? Is it helping you? Is it line up? Is it alignment with the person you want to be in 10 years? That's something for you to figure out. What about the environment that you live in? Your actual inside of your domicile,

Starting point is 00:11:40 inside of your house, the environment that you've created? Is it supportive of the life that you're trying to create? You know, like one of the things I always tell people is people always go, Rob, I just watch too much TV. I watch too much Netflix, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, just take your TV off the wall and put it inside the closet for 30 days and see what happens. And they're like, oh my God, I never thought of that before. Or no, I can't do that. Like, that's just an easy way to change your environment where it's like, I'm spending too much time watching TV. All right, well, make it impossible to watch TV. Now what can you do that. Like, that's just an easy way to change your environment where it's like, I'm spending too much time watching TV. All right, well, make it impossible to watch TV. Now what can you do? Right? So your environment that you've built, you've built the environment

Starting point is 00:12:12 inside of your house. How can you build the environment to support you? So maybe you're sitting there saying, I watch too much Netflix and I'm tired of watching so much damn Netflix. I want to read more and get better at business and start to grow my business. So you think to yourself, okay, I could get rid of the TV so I don't have any more Netflix. And then on the counter, the coffee table where my TV used to be right in front of it, I can just put a business book that I want to read. And then so every night, instead of watching two hours of Netflix, I'm reading two hours of business books and acquiring knowledge and becoming better.

Starting point is 00:12:47 How can you design your environment to start to serve you in the path that you're trying to go down? What about the, let's say the mindset that you have? Does the mindset that you have help you or hurt you in the life that you're trying to build. Maybe you've realized, man, I'm just way too negative. I talk too much trash to myself. My self-talk is through the, it's in the shitter right now, right? So are you positive enough? Are you too negative? Are you too positive? Are you not negative enough? Whatever it might be. When you're looking at your mindset and the way that you think and the way that you act and the way that you perceive the world, does it serve you?

Starting point is 00:13:26 I don't know. That's for you to decide. So start to go through your mindset. What does your mindset look like? What about the music you listen to? Like even the music that you listen to can help you or hurt you, right? There's a lot of music when you actually start to listen to the lyrics, you're like, oh, I'm just basically saying this out loud to myself. And saying something out loud to yourself is a affirmation. Are you affirming the things that you want to be affirming? So you start to

Starting point is 00:13:50 actually think about it and you're like, man, I can go through every single aspect of my life and start to remove the things that do not serve me anymore and start to strengthen or bring in new things that will serve me and to create the life that I want. If it doesn't serve you, it doesn't deserve to be in your life. And people underestimate how much weight they carry in their mind, how they're being held back by all of these little teeny tiny things and how these little teeny tiny things don't serve them in any sort of way. But it requires your awareness first. You've got to become aware and wake up to the fact, that's why I said in the very beginning, sometimes part of the awakening process is waking up. Awakening to the point of like, yeah, that doesn't serve me anymore. Netflix doesn't serve me anymore.

Starting point is 00:14:35 That relationship doesn't serve me anymore. That process, that thought process in my mindset doesn't serve me anymore. But it requires your awareness first. And after it requires your awareness, then you can start to design your life. And you design your life either consciously or unconsciously. Either you can make it happen or you can just let it happen to you. And so what is important is grabbing a pen and paper, working through every single aspect of your life that you can think of, and then just ask yourself this very simple question. With the life that I'm trying to build, does this serve me? With the life that I'm trying to build, does this serve me? Is it getting me closer to or further from my goals? And if you do that in every single aspect of your life, you will rebuild a brand new life. And if you go on that path and fast forward a year, two years, five years, you're in a completely different place than when you

Starting point is 00:15:21 would have been if you not sit down and actually start to plan it out. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it. Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. I love when I see, you know, every episode we put out, we get hundreds of people that share these podcast episodes. So I greatly, greatly appreciate you guys spreading the word and helping us try to change the world as much as we possibly can. And with that, I'm going to leave the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - Learn To Let It Go

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